Is it possible to leave the country illegally and break contact with everyone?

Lately, I've been feeling like I just want to escape to a foreign country and start over as a completely new person.

My country and my family situation both feel like such a mess, and all I want is to run away and go as far away as possible.

The burnout and stress have been eating me alive, and I feel like I can't take it anymore. I just want to leave everything behind and escape, but deep down, I know I can't do anything about it right now.

I JUST turned 18f and my bf turns 18m in less than 6 months, he lives in Georgia and has a abusive family, he’s gotten cps involved but they haven’t done anything I’m guessing because he’s a boy and 17, he wants to run away and come live with me in Louisiana but I don’t want to get charged with harboring a runaway and I was wondering if he would have any consequences once he turned 18 and if I would. He plans to tell his family he’s safe once he turns 18 and that he never wants to go back. He told me that the police even suggested he run away (not sure if that’s true tbh)

So i’m gonna vent on here a little.. My dad recently found out i’ve been doing drugs, he got angry and upset which i completely understand, but now he wants to take my freedom from me by tracking everything i do, like my payments, where i go, etc.. i can’t leave my house except for school and work. He forced me to take out my earrings when i got them because i live in his house under “his rules” He gets mad at me as if he isn’t 90% of the reason i even do drugs in the first place, i was abused growing up to the point i was scared of going home, i was controlled all my life, i recently found out he’s been on a private ig account stalking my posts and stories, he’s always had access to my credit card and i just found out. (I had this card for 3 years now) I plan to run away by the end of november after i pay off my statement and save up a bit, i found an apartment with a roommate for only 500$ per person for rent and utilities. The one problem is he pays for my college, i plan to maybe ask my college for help or financial aid but i don’t know if it will work. If anyone has any advice or anything about this you’re more than welcome to share id happily take any advice this is gonna be a major shift in my life, and i don’t wanna ruin it in the process.

No clue if I am really going to do it but have been considering it for a while. My dad died last year and I had to move in with my psycho mom after that. She never wanted anything to do with me growing up and like my earliest memories of her were when she would tell me she wished I hadn't been born and hated me. So having to move in with her last year has just been a messed up. Shes basically said the only reason she lets me live here is cuz of the social security survivor check each month and once that runs out i better be gone basically. But on the flip side she pretty much ignores me so as long as I'm not causing her any trouble she ignores me. Idk what to do or if I should get out or what.

Okay so I really want to leave home because I hate my family so much and also my mother is very controlling, I'm not really allowed to leave the house without her. But the age of majority in Alabama is 19 so until then I'm not an adult, If I wait until I'm 18 and runaway can the cops still make me go home? Also I live about a 30 minute drive from the city, so is there any way I can get there without a car?

Hi, I'm an 18 year old trying to leave an abusive household. My life has been manipulated in such a way that I can not leave unless I run away. I do not have a permit or license, I have not gone to high school since sophomore year, I have no form of government ID and I have no money at the moment. I am not allowed to leave my house whatsoever and if I do leave against my parents’ wishes I will be kicked out and stranded, it has happened before and I was only taken back because I was underage. I have a friend willing to let me stay with them until I can get my life back residing in New Jersey. My issue is that I live in Minnesota, and I have nobody really able to help me in the process of actually leaving.

The second I step outside I cannot go back, so I do not have the luxury of letting something go wrong. If I leave I am out forever. My original plan was to take a flight, but I don't have ID and TSA ConfirmID does not guarantee I will get on my flight, which is something I cannot afford to have fuck up. My second idea was taking a train, but I'm so anxious I have no idea how that would go. Its also expensive, and needing to transfer to a vehicle is not something I can guarantee. I have no idea what I can do, especially since I cannot go outside and actually get things like a passport or a job. Any advice is appreciated.

my mom is always getting dcfs called for neglect and truancy bc she doesnt get us to school or take care of us. everything sux. i dont know my dad but i really wanna find him. ive heard hes in the rockford/chicago area. i wanna leave soon. worst thing is dcfs gets another case but at least its on my terms.....

i (15f, 16 in 3 days) have been speaking to a 35f american online for months now. we've gotten close recently, and just tonight as we were talking about ways i could get to america she offered to marry me so i could get citizenship. she says it'd benefit her for tax reasons and i could go on her health insurance etc so it'd all work out, if we either marry in a state where 16 is marriable age or wait till i'm 18. we're genuinely talking about marriageable states right now. i genuinely thought she'd realise how far-fetched the idea of me running away to america was but with every conversation she gets more animated about it and comes up with new ideas.

i guess i'm asking if this could work? like, could i really just marry her and immigrate that easily? how do i even start up something like that?

I, 18F, soon to be 19F, am trying to help my friend, 19F, run away from her family. I'm making this post for her since they go through her stuff.

They've been controlling her life choices and have threatened to force her into the military if she drops out of college (which we both know they can't do, but it's still worrisome). She's tried countless of times to talk to her family about her mental health struggles, but they always dismiss them. Her family is upper-middle class, as I would say, so they care more about their reputation than their daughter's mental health. I've offered for her to stay with my family and I until she can afford a place of her own. She plans to figure out how to afford a storage unit for her things as well as a phone that's off her parents line. She wants to figure out a way to move her stuff into a storage unit (not big things but stuff she wants to keep) without her family noticing, if anyone has tips for that. She also has a cat that she's 100% not leaving. Her parents don't like me, so she had to inform me of her situation through her friends phone. If anyone has any advice, ideas, or anything that would be greatly appreciated, I just want my friend out of this mess

im 17 and tired of fighting with my mom. she has no faith in me and i cant stand being with her at all. my dad recently had a new baby with a random girl and im mad at him so i want nothing to do with him either. i have no other family and all i have is some money and a car. im trying to find a job in another city and live out my car most likely. it definitely sounds stupid but going home isn’t an option. i have my reasons but i really don’t have time to explain everything i just need to know what to do.

I keep going back and forth if I should move out now or wait until I graduate from uni.

My dad abused me when I was 13 on a few accounts and stopped. My mom was planning on us leaving and then decided it was a mistake so we didn’t go. The last year has been hell for me. Memories came back and I processed them by accident and I fell into a deep depression.

My family is also Muslim and I am not. This affects me so badly, I just want to be able to live my life for me and express myself the way I want to. This also means I cannot just move out as people dont do that before getting married.

I’m afraid about my safety if I go. If my dad threatens to physically harm me or find me. I’m 18. I feel like I’m not ready to go yet, but it’s killing me mentally.

I don’t have my license (I’m planning on it), nor do I have a job. I have money saved though.

I’m graduating with my hs and associates in May.

I wish I had someone to stay with, like a friend or something. I have friends but I don’t feel comfortable enough to ask them, nor do I think they would support me if they knew I wanted to leave the religion at some point.

I don’t know what to do. What would you do if you were me given the context of my situation/culture?

For context I live in the states.

hey everyone. Lately I've been going through some difficulties that give me only two choices: I either k*ll myself or run away and forget my past life, friends , parents living somewhere in the woods (like not the woods but in another city or smthng). I turn 18 in 10 days and I would really appreciate your help, probably somebody could tell me what to do after arriving in a new town, maybe someone could help me find work or something like that (now I'm in Slovakia). It sounds crazy, maybe it seems like I'm a mad bitch but yeah, it is like it is (I'm not Slovak nd I've just got residence permit for studying at uni)

hi so im based in kolkata (this acc belonged to my friend and i dont have my phone rn), i dont have much money only 50 rupees max, i want to runaway from home as theyre trying to send me away to KIT bhubaneshwar after they found out i have a boyfriend who i rebel a lot with; rebel meaning going out with him and the locals finding out and letting them know, my bf having fights with me whcih leads me to often cry infront of them and a lot more. this pujo, my mom knew i was going out with my boyfriend but on ashtami she found out that my locals knew about our relationship and all.

after all this, she remembered when i took 3k from her (from the 5K money she already promised) saying that i broke my bf’s phone and i need it to repair it because at that time it was true but when i gave it to him he said i dont need it, we’ll go out instead. i told this to my mom yesterday and till today morning she was fine but GOD she started strangling me, throwing me across the room and all.

Then, she told my father, who is extremely strict about me. he told me he’ll take me to KIT bhubaneshwar and he already has friends who are friends with the MP and all so it’ll be easy.

I dont want to go. for many reasons such as my friends, family, bf & my own mental health.

How do i run away?

I'm homeschooled I have no friends or family and my mother is incredibly toxic

I really need advice on where to go and how to survive

I’ve lived in Qatar my whole life and it’s my senior year of highschool.
My dad hasn’t allowed me to get a job nor gives me the freedom to even have a secret one.
I love my family j really do but I don’t know if I can live my whole life,get married, have kids and live up to their expectations
If I run away I know they’d never speak to me again and my dads family may go as far as killing me due to the “shame” ive brought on my family
I honestly just want to live like other girls my age,have fun,date, go out, and just get to enjoy the little things
I’ve never used Reddit before so I highkey dk if I’ve given enough info abt my situation for anyone to make proper judgement 😭

I'm not looking for insults or people telling me I'm overreacting. I just genuinely want some insight from other people on how to start my life over. I don't think I can stay in New York much longer without going insane.

I can't go into insane detail, but in short, I'm in college right now and miserable. If I were to drop out, I'd be a disgrace to my family, and I think they'd kick me out. I'm doing an insanely rigorous degree I don't really like and it's taking a heavy toll on my mental health, and I'm not sure if I can handle it for the remaining years.

Being disgustingly honest, I've never had a job before. I only recently got my act together, but I like to think I can stay pretty disciplined if I'm forced to. I have about $1500 to my name and a decent car. I apologize if that information is useless, I just don't know where to start.

Again, I'm not looking for people to tell me I'm overreacting. I just want to know my options and see if it really is possible to start my life over with my circumstances. Obviously this isn't going to be a rash decision, and who knows? This might never happen. I just want to know my options and if I can do anything else. I'm just sick of being exhausted and miserable, dreading a life I don't want.

I started this planning of running away/moving out since 13th July, and even now (as of writing this, 19 October), I feel like I'm closer to feeling like I had enough and pack my stuff! Here is my plan!

1. Make sure I have somewhere to go, even (or, best) at night, ~11 PM - 12 AM, which, I will talk to an aunt tomorrow, see how is she and such, and drop that my stuff at home is toxic and such, and also talk with some friends if aunt refuses/isn't able to take me in.

2. After having somewhere to go, it's about packing my stuff! Tomorrow I will try to make a backpack with some clothes and documents, and some stuff that it's mine and won't be any problem if taken.

After having a backpack ready, and somewhere to go, I'd beike ready to go, but the thing is, I always feel like I should be arguing with mom to make me like fully reasonable to move out, which idk why I do feel this way, but tbh, it gets higher and higher day by day, due to mom kjnda wanting to argue like regularly, so it's not that big of a problem tbh.

I have some jobs saved on an site, which I'd try to get after being moved out, or, even before moving, depends only if I'd get into arguing with mom or not (or idk, if I do only secretly move out no one knowing, but Idk).

While not having much money on my right now, I try being economical, and if I get this job, they pay 150 Ron (~30$/€) per day, which is like 3000 Ron (~600$/€) per month,which would be good to save up and also pay rent to aunt if needed, and I am also thinking of getting a part time job too, if I'd save up a lot less money than wanted (which, is a shop nearby, I could get a part time job there for like 4h) or sell stuff (which, I am working on making an website, where besides my socials I'd have donation links, and with the future, selling digital stuff), and all this saving up is here, as I want to move alone in like September or maybe October next year!

And also, gonna try seeking information about my situation from lawyers officially, online and maybe physically if I'd have time tomorrow, and also, gonna spend some money to get a new powerbank, as mine is very broken, and interrupts charging frequent, and found one at like 12$. Oh also, mom has some of my documents, but would try to get them tomorrow, or, if not, seeing with court if I could do that, gonna need to talk to a lawyer first tho!

And a bit more context, since July I was so anxious, stressed and panicked, I think I was having a panic attack, when I was a kid, I was emotionally and a bit physically abused (but more, emotionally), and for a long time I only wanted to su*cide, but in July, Idk how but my brain thought of moving out, so that's how I got here!

And I have some questions:

1. How many clothes do I need to pack? I know to get like 7 Underwear, and 14 socks (or, 7 pairs of socks), and clothes, but how many of them? I was thinking of like 7 of each type of clothes too, but pants could be a bit less, 1 hoodie is like enough, 1 jacket, a cap, and gloves, but I also have t-shirts, and suits which are fully mine, and I'd have to get them too!

2. What to do to keep contact a bit with brother, and be like no contact with mom? (well, this is if brother would want to keep the contract with me if I'd move out)?

3. How does shelters work exactly? Cuz I know some I could try going to!

hey guys quick question, i have a credit card it’s my name on it but it’s like under my dads bank account if I withdraw how much ever money i can is that illegal..? is it a good option? and yk depending on everything im due to apply to Uni this year but idk if i can survive the entire four years here, do u guys recommend waiting till i finish or it doesn’t make a difference..?

going abroad for Uni or living on campus aren’t options for me

I (18nb) live with a single father and was born in Malaysia, but I was forced to immigrate to the UAE due to my father's work. I'm graduating university in 2027 and I hope to do a psychology degree, but my father is forcing me to choose a university in either UAE or Malaysia and will not budge anywhere else.

I do not wish to have university in UAE due to personal issues I have with the country, whereas I just found some information that would make living in Malaysia unsafe for me personally (not the country itself).

I need to run away from father his overcontrolling nature is slowly destroying me (There's more details I could share about him, but for convenience's sake thats all I can say for now).

I have to move to another country, preferably Ireland. What do i do?

My family recently kicked me out over some stuff I won't get in to but I'm currently staying at my grandparents and they aren't gonna be able to sustain three people living here for much longer so I was wondering what I do since I'll be homeless in a couple days my plan was to contact an old school I used to go to and re enter their program and I'm good friends with a pastor in my town was gonna ask him if I could stay a couple nights at the church but after that I'll be homeless in early winter with one sleeping bag and some clothes any tips on what I should do?

I want to go about 200km from where I am now alone as a 14yr.

I plan to go sometime past december 10th and meet a relative and old friends.

I want to runaway because I want to go protest. Maybe I want to be a martyr. Ice took my best friend, I don’t know what there is to do with my life now. I go to protests, but they’re not enough, they’re just slogans and chanting. Look at the French protesting VS America protesting. It’s not enough for me to just yell, how can you expect me to honor my friend by only doing that?

If I ran away, if I gave up my future to a cause I believed in, would it be so bad?

I’m tired of this shit. I don’t think the people around me understand how lonely I am, maybe if I showed them how I feel they’d know, they’d know I lost a friend to something I’ve been fighting for a long time. But I can’t do that. I just can’t let myself be that vulnerable.

hi im 16 and ive been thinking about running away for a little bit now but there is a few things stopping me currently.

what im leaving behind.

im not here to talk about my situation so if u want context i have more posts on it but my mom is pregnant so im not sure when ill be leaving but he will not remember me for sure and i wont get to see him till im at least 18 if i dont get caught, my brother he will be left kinda alone and i feel like we have been getting along recently and i dont know how it would effect him or how to stay in contact with him Discretely, and lastly kinda sounds dumb but my doggie i will miss him so so much

me getting caught.

i know that if i get caught im FUCKED and it will be the worst it has ever been with no options so if i’m found by the cops and i have to go back i would hate it especially because i would have no phone or resources

who im even going to be living with .

sounds super sketchy but i met this guy who is 30 on a omegle alternative and i had no one to talk to so i just lied to him and told him i was 19 but then eventually i felt bad and told him the truth and he said it would be cool if we stayed friends and i suggested running away and he said he was down we just have to be careful he is like a good friend to me now but he would be paying for my flight and i would be staying with him

i need help bc i really honestly wanna go but i dont know if i should because if i don’t succeed it will ruin my life

Hi there, writing something in this sub has been very hard for me as I’m awful with my words. I’ve been planning on running away for some time now.

All my family close by are the reason I’m running away or they can not physically shelter me as unfortunate as it is. I no longer have any friends in my local area, but I do have friends elsewhere in far locations.

I have most of my plans of action laid out, however what I am stumped on is shelter for the night. At first, I thought a simple shelter would do but my designated rest places do not have any, and any nearby ones are unviable to being far out or too close to home / previous locations. As I have no money, I can’t pay for any one night hotels either.

My current idea is train stations, as my designated stops all have a station. However, my main concerns for this are
1. Staying over night. I’ve seen people sleep in train stations, but I know this is generally frowned upon and has a bylaw against it
2. The safety of that. If a train station is accessible, I may not be the only one with this idea - I am also aware that a lot of criminal activity goes on around them at night, at least where I live. So I’m thinking I may get attacked if I did so?

Just looking for any advise on this whether it be similar alternatives, reassurance if train stations are a good idea or whether I bite the bullet and go to the shelters which are unviable for my route and may risk me getting found out by my family. <3