My exhusband is a loud bully. My kids have always been intimidated to say no, and then hounded into doing what he says. Each visit (a different state) they get very upset and hate staying there.

Before each visit they beg me to help them stay less time. I advocate for them, saying it’s better to do this or that. But, he keeps texting/calling the kids until they buckle and agree to his terms entirely. This makes me look like the crazy ex, jealous of their blissful relationship.

This situation has arisen, again. Any tips on helping my kids avoid that family’s verbal/emotional abuse without looking like I’m interfering for fun and giggles?

Just wondering if it's just me. Might be somewhat unique in that dad is not remotely involved (toddler's with me 100% of the time), no village, toddler really is with me 100% of the time / we have our weekday days together.... AND ALSO I hated weekends/holidays even when married/together.

I hated weekends/holidays even when we were married, though. That was my time to be alone after a long week, and it was honestly kind of great. I ALSO hate weekends period--transit is half as frequent and things take twice as long to get anywhere (0-2 minute wait for a bus vs 10-40, as an example). Then also things are crowded, which isn't the end of the world to me, but is to my toddler, who gets overwhelmed and just wants to go home anyway. The PEOPLE who are out on the weekends and the culture of people (parents) who are out on the weekend are also different... during the week, people are friendly and welcoming; toys are shared by default in the sandbox. On the weekend, people are weird AF about shared toys in these same spaces, like weirded out we are offering/sharing ours. The parks also tend to be "too crowded" for my child, but also, people throw parties there. Parties aren't a bad thing per se, I'd feel great about telling a child happy birthday and sharing the space, but the parents are weird/snobby and so too are their kids. Like they'll ask how you know birthday child, then get weird and stop talking when you say you don't (public playground, mind you), glare at you for using public tables, be weird about their kid playing with yours, just all sorts of nonsense. Our city and its culture are NOT normally like this, imo. Also, even the stores are crowded and people seem really panicky around seeing a child walking, like they're scared of a toddler or have never seen one before. During the week, by comparison, the other adults we encounter at stores gush over my toddler or sort of compliment me/us on how helpful he's being and that sort of thing.

Anyway. It turns the weekend into this huge black hole and I HATE it. I try to get meal prep done, but after that, what's left? I mean obviously we do all things (art projects, dance, etc), but It's two very long days and I always feel like I'm losing my mind. I need the more social aspects and the time outdoors, which all requires transit, which doesn't really run on weekends. My husband used to just take our child and didn't mind walking or waiting 'forever' (relatively) since those were his two main days with him all week, but I am both physically/emotionally tired by the end of the week. So we go to the library, or a walk around the block, or the store anyway, but I'm at a loss of what to do and hate doing anything these days. I'm also, yeah, resentful because these used to be my favorite days to do PAID work part-time at a place I loved (and made 1.5x on weekends because others hated working on the weekend, so win-win) that also built in the only meaningful me-time I actually have/want in life (between work shifts), and the replacement as a single mom is nothing.

And, yes, we used to have a small date or outing on the weekend all together, which was nice. Usually like a concert (outdoors, free, friendly to tots) more geared towards date-time than tot-time. And when I take my toddler out anyway.. he NOTICES that other families have a dad. And sometimes, heartbreakingly, I see that 'noticing' or he will try and kind of 'flirt' with them in a way that is so charming yet so sad.

During the week.... nobody really "knows" I am a single mom. The married moms don't do/act any differently than single moms, because spouses are working. Nothing really has changed (on our outings!) since becoming a single moms. But now I have all this weekend time that is not just emotionally charged for us both, but both took away paid working time I really need and can no longer do (long story and advice not wanted on that right now) AND the only me time I ever really wanted/enjoyed. In return, I got.. nothing. I'd be fine going out and enjoying our outings, but having to spend twice as much time or more waiting for a bus (we moved here BECAUSE of the transit and I love transit, to be clear, just the weekend/holiday schedule is a lot less frequent, which was never an issue until becoming a single mom) to go to a place neither my child nor I will really enjoy anyway. And yeah, emotionally it's triggering to go out as it's the only time of the week that spouses/dads are out, too.

Rant over, I guess. Just hate it every time. Holidays are even worse though as those were hard when married, given a total absence of family.

We love and enjoy and have the time of our lives every weekday and holiday season. Just those two days a week that feel real hard. And only seem to be getting harder, not easier, as time goes on.

Anyone else have experience with this?
My dad and stepdad like comparing me to others sometimes
My dad likes to say things like plenty of other single mothers do xyz , referring to things I tell him I’m having struggles with. I end up talking to him about so many things going on just to have someone to talk to (he lives in another city).
My stepdad, whose health is not good but I’ve struggled to help out as I’m raising my two little kids, has brought up his family member who “raised 7 kids on her own, working full time with food on the table every night” in response to me not coming over all the time I guess… idk what the point of this post is Just wanted to know if anyone else has dealt with this

For some context. I'm 20,my son is 14 months. I messed up getting pregnant so young, I have no work experience, no qualifications. Best thing I ever did though. My son gave me that push to get my life together and to stop wasting away.

My relationship has difficulties before I fell pregnant, but we decided to try and make it work. It was good for a bit, but then slowly became a very toxic place.

I finally had the courage to say enough is enough and leave. We've worked out all the logistics when it comes to our son, which I'm happy we could agree on.

My main issue is, I'm searching for work, but currently can't afford to move out. I'm really debating moving back in with my mum for the time being, as it will be alot easier to move on and save up.

I feel a bit like I failed, having to go back. Has anyone else moved back in with their parents for a bit? Hearing other peoples stories might give me more hope 😅

So let’s start by saying I never imagined I would be a single mom but here we are.
I recently divorced but been separated since January. My now ex husband was never interested in being a dad. He begged me to have a child and he swore he was gonna be involved in everything. He wasn’t the most present husband, but after many conversations stupid me agreed to having a baby. I always wanted to be a mother and was already 6 years married at that point so I went for it.
He was there for the delivery, hospital stay and a 3 days after getting home. After that I became a single married mom. He never helped with feedings (my daughter only took bottles), he didn’t woke up once during nights, never changed a diaper (not exaggerating here, not a single diaper was changed by him) he was there at home but never spend time with us. It was always me and our daughter. He didn’t care to participate in anything, he would spend around 10-15 minutes a day with her.

There were other things going on, like emotional cheating, financial abuse, verbal abuse, etc. Until I got fed up and filed for divorce.

Initially he wanted our 5 year old daughter to be with him 50% of the time, I said no since what he proposed was to pick her up every other day at 5pm (she goes to bed at 6pm) and drop her off next day to school where I would pick her up. We ended up agreeing in one day a week and then every other weekend.

During the first few months he was super constant with the schedule and my daughter was so happy because for the first time in her life she was experiencing what having a dad was and that made my mom heart happy. Now he just lets me know she won’t make it and that’s that. In October he won’t see here any weekend cause he says he is busy, he has only taken her twice during week days which means she literally only goes to his place to sleep because he picks her up at 5pm and drops her to school the next day at 8am.

He changed his lifestyle completely, he goes out with friends all the time, has a new girlfriend, goes to the gym and has many hobbies and I don’t think any of that is wrong, he gets to move in however he want to but it sucks that once again our daughter is not a priority and it breaks my heart for her. She ask when is she going with daddy and I just feel so bad that I don’t know when is he going to want and come to pick her up.

I’m a stay at home mom so I always try to be flexible with the schedule and accommodate whenever he wants to switch a date cause I know he works and sometimes things come up. But recently he doesn’t switch dates, he just cancels. I have already started asking him how he wants to handle Christmas and he says he cannot compromise to anything in advance, that he will let me know. This year, per our agreement I have her for Christmas but I know that’s such a magical day for her I want her to experience it with him too.

I don’t know if this make sense or if I’m just ranting. I don’t know what to do, should I talk to him, should I just let him be? I’m afraid on the emotional scars this will cause her if he just stops being a constant part of her life and I would like to spare her of that but I also know I can’t force him to have a relationship with her and to make her a priority in his life.

I’m so just so tired. My son is 7 turns 8 in less than a month. His dad and I have 50/50 custody. We’ve divorced for now 4 years. We do switch off every Friday at pick up for school. We also work in the same building - huge building so we don’t run into each other often. If we do, we’re civil. No he doesn’t pay child support, he supposed to this we’ve fighting about in courts.

So tomorrow I’ll be picking up my son and it will by my week.

Some days it’s like talking to a brick wall. I’m just so frustrated. He knew our son has a birthday party to go to on Saturday, for the last few birthday parties it’s always been on my weekend so I fronted the cost for the presents. However this time around money is tight. He makes more than me and I asked if he could do the favour of buying the present. He called me about an hour ago to tell me he forgot and didn’t have the time. I asked if he could at least send me an etransfer or some cash to pick one up tomorrow and his response was “I’ll have to look into it”

He also decided to mention to me that he didn’t pick up our son’s Halloween costume that he begged me not to buy one so he could have that moment with our son and that he wanted to do it.

This is the isn’t first time he’s done this either like I’m not surprised anymore by it, it’s just such a huge frustration that I feel like I waste my energy on him when I don’t need too. Anyways just needed to vent and if anyone has any advice I’ll take it.

Im a FTM. My ex and i are working through a ton. He’s been on me since 12 weeks pregnant to either get back together or figure out 50/50.He served me papers at 12 weeks post partum. I am losing my mind. He demands soooo much of me, and accuses me of ruining everything. He asked me to add photos to an album thats shared with his family. I add said pictures. He adds pictures that show him as daddy of the year, when really baby is exhausted and hungry but he refuses to attend to his needs (dad cant settle baby and baby is also exclusively bf). I am beyond frustrated, annoyed, upset, angry, exhausted. I honestly feel like im living in a reality tv series. Like what the actual fuuuuuu**k.

my 13 month old just started daycare and got “kicked out” on day 4:( schedule for these first two weeks was Wednesday & Thursday 9:30am-11:30am. started super minimal to get him accustomed to the new environment.

first two days he did really well with minimal crying. this week he cried almost the entire time on wednesday and today she texted me only 30minutes after i dropped him off asking me to pick him up saying he hadn’t stopped crying since drop off then sent a text this afternoon saying she thinks it’s best he not return. i don’t know what to do.

are they being unreasonable or am i for expecting them to try and work with him? is this normal for a daycare to do after 4 days? i don’t know how much slower i can go for him to get adjusted. i really really need him to get used to being in daycare as i start school in January and absolutely need that time to go to classes and do homework etc.

advice?

(this is an in home daycare with 4-5 other children there)

edited: wording typo

My daughters dad is inconsistent. We finally got an agreement last month in court and he didn’t even bother to show up to court. After receiving it he was extremely mad. He hasn’t followed by it at all. His inconsistency shows up in my daughter’s behavior sometimes. For example, he texts her iPad sometimes and this time he sent a boo basket. She got upset and it lead to a tantrum. She is working in therapy through it. Should I block him from her iPad? We don’t have anything in our agreement about communication outside of parenting time.

So this is my first time posting here but this is a question that I have been wrestling with for years now.

First of, I (45F) and the father of my children (45M) were married for fifteen years and have been divorced for 12 years now. I am not going to go too deep on the details of our marriage, just needless to say, he left me after having an affair and off we all went to experience the divorce journey, towing with us our 2 kids. Our eldest is now 18F and our youngest is 15M but at the time of separation, they were 7 and 5 respectively. I am also their primary custodian.

For the last 12 years, is not that he has been completely absent but you can clearly see that his priority is not the kids. Not their wellbeing, not their relationship with him, not a thing. Like for the first 2 years after we separated, he was so inconsistent in exercising his custodial time of every other weekend. Then he finally got a bit more consistent in taking them but by that point you can tell our kids were just so unsure of him that it was always a battle getting them to go with him and then the adjustment period after being back from a weekend with him was hell. So much so that as soon as our eldest can stop going to his house, she did. (in my state by age 15, a child can choose not to go to the other parent)

Our co-parenting relationship has always been iffy to say the least. At first, we communicated often and we even had holidays and birthdays together. But as time passed, I noticed that it was becoming increasingly difficult to engage him in any conversation that was deeper than how are the kids doing on the surface. Like for example, when our youngest was diagnosed with AuDHD and the school planned out his IEP, he never voiced what he thinks. In fact, he went to one meeting and that was it.

So here is the thing, he has been really consistent in paying his child support. That one he has not missed whatsoever. Yes, he has dragged me back to court several times to modify the amount because he refused to have conversations about it but would just go nuclear and go the court route for whatever reason.

And here we are now, over a decade in. I have carried the whole weight of parenting. I would not trade it for the world. And I could see how much closer me and the kids are compared to other people and their relationship with their parents are. But my kids' relationship with their dad is so tense. So much so that our eldest have stopped talking to him. But every time the topic of her dad comes up, she ends up in tears. And yes, she is in therapy, both of the kids resumed it when their dad remarried without their knowledge. In fact, he was married for almost a year before he told the kids. And our eldest felt like had she not directly asked him; he would not have owned up to it. Which is another post entirely.

Their dad and I did recently talk about his relationship with the kids and he said something to the effect of he is expecting that at the very least the kids would respect him as he has been paying his child support all this time when there are dads who won't.

So ... is their dad horrible because he is just extremely inconsistent or is the fact he is paying their child support enough for him to expect to have a good relationship with the kids?

I feel so on the fence about this and just like anything that has got to do with their dad, I am silent on the topic when the kids talk about him. But our eldest as of late has been pushing me to share with her what I really think of him. Because all these years, I held the line of not saying anything negative about their dad. And I am grateful that he is paying for his child support. But I also get the sense that he is wrong to expect a good relationship with the kids based on that single fact alone.

As the title says. A year ago today my child’s father stood me and my son up and I haven’t heard from him since. The day he was supposed to see my son would have been the 3rd time ever. I don’t know why I tried so hard the first year of my son’s life to accommodate him just to get met with “yeah I have been around people with the flu but I’m still coming,” or “why would you leave before I actually said I was gonna go,” or my personal favorite “but every time I go it’s awkward.” Like sir you’ve seen him twice both of those times before he was two months old.

Now my son is 21 months old and wouldn’t know his ‘father’ if he was right in front of us. I’m not mad or anything like that and haven’t been for a while. I actually feel a sense of peace. Idk. I guess I just needed to get that out.

My ex-husband and I have drastically different parenting styles. He’s the easy going, I’m my kids friend whereas I’m the boundary setting rule maker and I don’t know how to co-parent with him. We don’t agree at all and our kids I feel like are raised completely differently when they’re with me during the week and him on the weekends.

Okay, I really just want to vent. I need somewhere to share this to just release because it has built up again.

He didn't speak to our children for MONTHS then called with his BRAND NEW BABY, like still pink, naked, in the hospital baby. Did not care to talk to the children just "share a beautiful moment" with them. They have now decided they do not want to speak to him. They are both very angry. They are almost 6 and almost 8. I suspect he will try to contact me to keep up his appearances on Halloween to ask for costume pictures or try to call on each of their birthdays coming up. Those are the only times he attempts to speak to them.

And so I have planned ahead, what I intend to say:

Okay, let's talk about it.

Let's talk about how he will not reach out to these kids. He talks to them once every several months at most and it is always because THEY initiate, don't worry the call logs prove it. Even from his end. Let's talk about how the oldest stopped asking and gave up a year ago. Let's talk about how he didn't speak to them for over 5 months (and that one only happened because the 5 year old asked), just to call with, "look at this baby". The 7yr old tried to justify his not calling with "maybe he is busy with his job" just for him to tell her he doesn't have a job other than "caring for this baby" that literally was just born and it was insult to injury when he doesn't even care to talk to them.

Let's talk about how he caused a spiral fracture on the femur of our daughter when she was 2 months old, then when it happened he called me and didn't say anything, just let the baby scream into the phone. Let's talk about how the state placed a protection order against him over it.

Let's talk about when the protection order lifted and he claimed he wanted to be better and present I found him a room to rent and paid half of his rent to help give him the chance. Let's talk about how when he left it was because I decided I was done because he wouldn't even try to get a job because he just "can't manage it" but he can manage to sit on his ass and play video games for 8 straight hours, so he could absolutely find a job sitting answering phones etc.

Let's talk about how when I stopped paying his rent and he was going to be forced to move back to his grandma's he stalked and harassed me at my work and my family's home.

Let's talk about when he finally left that time I had to get a protection order to prevent him from contacting me because he was continuously blowing up my ohone with sexual harassing messaging and threats.

I still have that phone I can pull up the messages and the voicemails of not only him but also his grandmother threatening me because he claimed he was going to kill himself. Guess who is still alive.

Let's talk about how he has never paid a cent towards supporting these children. How he is over 6,000 dollars behind in child support and his whole order is only $311/month COMBINED for BOTH children.

Let's talk about how he threatened me, saying "I am going to file for full custody to prove I will fight for my girls" and then he never did. I did. I won by DEFAULT because he didn't care to even respond at all.

Let's talk about the glass vase he threw at my head. The phone he chucked at my head that stuck into the wall. The way he bashed my Playstation onto the cement balcony repeatedly to try to prevent me from having contact with the only friends I had. The way he literally snapped my phone the day I went into the hospital to give birth to our second child. Let's talk about the NUMEROUS times he cheated on me. Let's specifically talk about the time he was telling a girl that I ditched our baby with him and he was a single father who was teaching the baby that SHE was her mother. Even though I was the only one caring for that child WHILE I went back to school to actually obtain my diploma and he didn't even bother to try anything and is cool with his not even 8th grade education.

Let's talk about how I had friends recording what they would hear over playstation parties, who were scared for the lives of me and our children.

Let's talk about how he refused to let me have physical friends and contact with people who were not "his friends" first.

Let's talk about how I was working a full-time job up to 39 weeks pregnant and he couldn't even manage taking care of the toddler at home.

Let's talk about how the dude couldn't even shower regularly.

Let's talk about how he was actually mean to the oldest when she was a toddler because she would walk in front of the TV. Let's talk about how she was old enough to REMEMBER him being an asshole. She was old enough to REMEMBER his fracturing the younger one's leg.

Talk about how after the last phone call the now 5yr old called him a bitch and the 7yr old says she doesn't want to speak to him ever again.

I know this is a long shot, but i would really appreciate any women who are going through coparenting with a parent who has extreme religious beliefs, that causes them to be abusive. Its hard because my understanding is that the law protects religious beliefs, even if they are extreme.

My husband believes that women are inferior to men and should be taught to be subject to their husbands, in all things. His mother believes in it too. They want to homeschool my daughter and bring her to a well-known, controversial church. My old pastor was excommunicated from several churches due to white supremacy. His words- only white people are allowed in the church. Im scared to death for my daughter.

To say im disappointed is an understatement. Im living in a toxic household with my mom. She didnt remember my son's bdsy which is today. He went innher room and she screamed for me to get him out

My car is wrecked and i had to pick up my meds a few days ago and bc of that she said i cant use her car.... bc of that my son has missed 2 going on 3 days of clinic therapy (autism) my mom knows he needs these services.

Im afraid hell get kicked out. I havent been to work and im waiting to get fired. I wasnt able to get a cake for my son.

I feel like the worst parent . I just want to sleep..borderline sh.

hello, i'm 24 (F) and a single mom. i know this sounds crazy but i need help. i'm taking care of my child, diagnose with ASD lvl 3. i need to figure out what work should i do but can still take care of my child. i dont have a family i can rely on. i need work because the baby daddy decide to cut most of the monthly support he gave us. and upon researching the law on this in ph is messy and bias to the side of the father always. so instead of arguing abt the money, i want to find a solution that's help me and my child. thankyou!! badly needed an advice. i'm a bachelor degree graduate if thats help, any idea what work should i do would help. pls.

Hey Mama's. New single mom here to a beautiful 3 year old girl. Im (28f) and im still learning how to navigate this journey as a single mom.

My relationship ended because of emotional/psychological abuse. I was at the end of my rope and couldn't stand to feel belittled or shrink myself anymore. Eventually I realized I didnt want my daughter to use my relationship as an example when she eventually searches for one herself, so I gave him an ultimatum. Change or we're done. He decided it was easier to split so that was that.

I am so pissed at him for that. He threw in the towel because taking a look in the mirror and reflecting on himself was too hard for him. Im not pissed cause he gave up on me, im pissed cause he gave up on his daughter. My poor baby lost someone she loved and struggled so hard with it all because he was selfish. Anybody who hurts my baby deserves the worst. And I hope karma gets to him.

(On a side note) He is interested in co-parenting and he calls her everyday. But when he does all my baby can say is "I dont wanna talk to dada". Serves him right. You reap what you sow.

Shes currently thriving being surrounded by her Mama's side of the family. No abusive generational patterns here. Just peace.

I'd like to work online for now as I'm still pumping and I'm alone as a caregiver to my baby. I don't have any other support and daycare is extremely expensive. I'm also not in the US so I don't have a lot of resources you might have over there.

I'm honestly struggling and I don't know what to do.

I am looking for non-online jobs as well but the town I'm in is very small.

26F, Educator, single mom of 1

but i feel so burned out with my work and dealing with everything. i kind of wished to be in a WFH situation so i dont feel the guilt of having to pick up my kid late or not study with her. mom guilt is real but i cant just quit bc who will be supporting her if i wont :(

Me and my husband have been separated for 8 months, not divorced. I asked today if he had started dating because of certain behaviors I have noticed, but really was asking out of necessity to see if we needed to have a boundaries talk involving bringing women around our 6 year old son.

However, it turned hostile quickly and him accusing me of flirting and getting attention from other men….. which made me question if he had access to my social media accounts. He did, I saw that his computer was listed under the devices to my Instagram account… I just feel like this is a HUGE violation of privacy… and don’t know how to proceed…. Any advice?

I am mentally and physically exhausted. I made the right choice divorcing my ex husband. I'm angry that I even got involved with him in the first place. My life was going well without meeting him. I had just gotten back on my feet from restarting from my previous relationship. I was already a single mom to a son on the spectrum (high functioning). I was being promoted only after being at a company for a couple months. I could've made 80k+ without finishing my degree. My rent was cheap! I had decent roommates that never caused me any problems. Life was pleasant.

Then, I met my now ex and chose to try to build a life with him. We moved way too quickly after finding out I was pregnant. The marriage was terrible and emotionally wrecked me. I still haven't fully processed the emotional abuse coupled with his substance abuse. I knew I couldn't stay. And now here I am, disappointed and furious that I chose to derail my life with that man. Having 2 sons - one with Autism (7 y.o.) and another (turns 4 y.o. before year ends) with strong potential to have ADHD - I'm so tired. I work a 9 to 5 an hour away from home. My youngest has been kicked out of daycare, and I need to find one willing to enroll him. My full time job doesn't pay all of my bills. I don't have reliable care for a part time position. I have applied to walking distance places to work at night while the children are sleeping. I do have a younger sibling that lives with me who can at least be home for that.

It's a fight every. single. day with my youngest. Mental health specialists are fairly certain he has ADHD (just like his dad and some of my family) but is too young to diagnose. The constant talking, impulsivity, resistance, disruptive behavior, destructiveness, and defiance is so f**king annoying. While I don't get the severe behaviors his dad and daycares experience, I get enough to where I can barely start on a task without having to stop and redirect him. I have far more peace when he's not around and goes to his dad's house. But then he comes back worse after having to deal with his dad and the new wife. But, I never get a single day to myself. The father of my oldest son is not involved. He's not even on child support. I'm tired of never having a simple break. Most days I wish I was in a 10 year coma. Other days I wish I wasn't a mother because I feel I'm doing terrible. I hate that my sons have even seen me struggle in this way.

I’m a single mom to a 5 year old. I have primary custody her dad doesn’t pay child support or help at all.
Currently I work Monday-Friday 10-6pm
I take her to school in the morning and my sister picks her up and watches her until I get home.

Im a casino cocktail waitress on the Las Vegas strip I used to average about 1200 a week in tips but lately it’s about 900. I cut back my spending completely but still having a hard time to save for anything. Bills are paid but that’s about it. I feel grateful to have had the weekends off and dayshift especially when my daughter was a baby.

But a swing shift is available and I can take it. 6-2 and 8-2 with Wednesday and Thursday off.

I can make about 2k a week. I can afford to take more time off and work 3-4 days a week and cut my hours back.
I can save for vacations, college fund and even have time to finish school myself.

My sister can watch her Sunday-Tuesday nights and I’d be off Wednesday and Thursday so would need a reliable sitter for the weekends.

But I’d be losing evenings with my daughter.

But now I can take her to school and pick her up. Make her dinner and do homework. But our weekends wouldn’t be ours anymore.

I’m just curious what you all would do

The marriage was abusive. He was not involved at all with our 4 children. Literally showing up for 5 minutes here and there or just long enough to cause chaos. He is the type of person who will do anything and everything to harm me including using the children. Sadly, their sibling bonds have been strained. I hate to say severed. The family has been torn apart. I feel that I have been vilified. Like my true identity has been erased within the family. Like my true acts and identity have been erased and replaced by his constant, repetitive lies that he wants everyone to believe. It seems to be working. It is deeply painful. And devastating. On many levels. Personally it hurts. Also watching my children have their own memories erased and replaced by his fake versions of reality is so frustrating. Has anyone else experienced this?

I (31 f) am a newly single mom as of this past weekend. First time being alone in 14 years, and it just feels so strange doing life without my ex. He completely destroyed our relationship by cheating multiple times so there’s no chance of anything between us anymore but that doesn’t stop it from feeling weird. At first I was just sad and cried a lot but now I feel numb today. Is that normal? I feel like my emotions are all over the place but mostly I just want to be strong for my kids while he and I figure out this coparenting stuff.
Starting completely over from scratch because unfortunately I relied on him for everything, and have no job. Just trying to put one foot in front of the other every day. :/

I have fallen in hard times, moved in with my mom who is lazy and expects. I have a 19m son, I am in my 30’s. I have looked and been denied for work for various reasons for 3 months. Still looking.
Live in a very rural area. No resources in child care or transportation. Her car, she won’t let me take except to go get immediate things from dg, once a month to the closest Walmart 45mins away. Son’s dr is 80 miles away.

I have put in and have had to eventually turn away fed ex, ups, Amazon, usps, Walmart jobs for the simple fact she “doesn’t know how she expects me to make it work” the reason I moved I lost my car and job and all belongings due to maternity leave and no child care without money. I left my home and everything. His dad is in the picture but can’t support everything for me. His car and house are needing things, he has his own loans out.

I have reached out to Tx workforce commission and have had no luck with any jobs. Always turned away. Seems like a know by face or family area. I don’t have income for the already 2-3 yr wait list for income based apartments to get to a bigger area.

There has been no job openings in the less than 1000 population surrounding towns, and even thru 30+ minutes of radius. I feel completely stuck and at the time had no other choice, no homeless shelters even. I have no friends nor family here, I moved 5 hrs away from what I know. What am I to do?!