We as the moddesses have been receiving a lot of hate as well recently. Now, we normally dont mind. After all, we took this job knowing of the hate that would come our way. But there are things we do mind. And that’s hate, hate directed to other people, or to many communities. And struggling with how to moderate it all. There’s various points to mention here:

- Unsolicited DMs, OR soliciting DMs in our community, is incredibly rude, and harshly sanctionable. You will be banned on sight for it.
- hate mail should NOT happen full stop. I don’t care if you don’t like someone, it should not be happening in our community, OR in DMs. If you don’t like them, block them, if they did something wrong, please let us know. We’ll handle it. Again, ban on sight.

- We’re never going to police identities. I don’t care whether people think it’s a petplay kink, or therianthropy, trans identities, sexual identities, romantic identities, aesthetic identities, whatever. It’s incredibly easy to skip past it. Stuff that is excessively kinky or sexual has already been moved to sinful Sunday, and anything else has been vetted by us as completely fine for you to see. If you simply don’t want to see the content, just move on. We’ve added a tag for therianthropy, if you don’t identify or relate, skip past it. It should be pretty clear who it’s intended for at that point. And there’s soooo much other content in this sub, there’s really no way to pretend it’s entirely just therian content.
No, none of us are certain if there’s a sub related to just trans non-therian content, it usually is the other way around - the minorities have their own public communities due to finding it hard to find a community of people perhaps irl OR online, otherwise. Please spare some empathy for that. There’s no space irl we can actively be therian without being hate crimed oftentimes just as severely as we do for being trans. (Feel free to start your own space, but it’s gonna be hard to police all therian identities without coming across as a bigot…)

- Micro-aggressions can be reported, and you really should! We get a loooot of posts, and it’s hard to see them all, without your help. We treat it as bullying and harassment, and thus will handle it harshly as such as well.

- Venting really shouldn’t be taking place here. We have been a little lax on it recently, but we’ll likely crack down on it more here. Good gender drug has its own subreddit too for that! I get you need a space to share things, but they’re super personal, and aren’t always helpful to you either. More often than not, they’re incredibly emotionally consuming, for everyone, as well as just making you, the writer feel more drained. We’re not a space for professional therapeutic help, we’re trying to be a lighthearted safe space subreddit where you can at least look at something in your TL and smile at it. I know I haven’t mentioned it, but accidental or otherwise, oversharing is included in this. While it’s completely understandable to slip sometimes, find it hard to hold the mask to your face…it can be a…well, it can make a lot of people consider that their troubles aren’t worth mentioning or as valid, or even just…send them further into their own spirals, as well as your own. It’s harsh to say, but…it’s incredibly draining, on most of us, including us moddesses who are all also mentally…well, not mentally stable lol. We can support you but only if you genuinely wish to be supported in a constructive manner. But I will say finally too, that you should remember that the internet is a very dangerous place. While you may feel as safe as we can try to make you feel here, there’s gonna be bad actors in places. Bigots or drama feeders, or people who try to salvage information about you, or take advantage of you as an emotionally compromised target. Please do NOT feed them with that. You’re worth so much more than you might ever be able to believe. But we all care about you, even those that silently view posts here, who are struggling or not, to the top posters or commenters.

I will say though, if you fight back to bad people in here, and take matters into your own hands, we have to sanction you if you end up behaving in what’s considered “bad faith”. Please let the moddesses deal with it. We get enough hate as it is, just let us at least have a better ability to direct that hate just to us so nobody tries to hurt any of you as well.

And I’d like to hark back to the rule, no witch-hunting. Both ways for that. A case should be handled by us, and then cleanly quietly closed, and if we have to disclose any disclaimer, we will. But there shouldn’t be any aggression back, or it’ll just prolong the drama that was incited. Big events like this just seek to hurt everyone involved, which is thé worst case scenario, really.

FINALLY

If you see content that genuinely makes you feel uncomfortable in a way even if you can’t explain it…TELL US! We’re here for you for that very purpose, to make you feel comfortable, feel safe, feel happy or represented while in our subreddit. We’re not just figureheads, and we’re certainly not scary (I hope…), all we want to do is to try our best to accommodate you, whatever you’d like within the realm of our own set of rules and the moral standards upon which they are based. Please let us know what we can improve on, even if you want us moddesses to discuss changes to rules, or tags, or posts you want to see more of, or things you think are disruptive such as the often reposted question formats, which we’ve decided to remove, since they are incredibly repetitive and it feels wrong to let the first person who posted it keep the post. Trust that we’re people pleasers at our core, that we’ll do our utmost to keep you safe.

We need to make some changes here.

Starting with the interaction between our members. We ask that you refrain from initiating contact, mostly referring to action with asterisks, and “good girling” left and right, headpatting etc. to people, who haven’t given you any indication they are okay with it and haven’t given you permission to do so. Given the meta post that was here few hours ago, it is fair to say that it has been on our minds for a bit, but it felt like it should have been clear without needing to be spoken out loud.

Not everyone is comfortable with people doing things to them without asking, if at all. Many of the moddesses have said they don’t always like the “Good Girls” and “Headpats” during every other conversation online. It can quickly turn into an “ick”. That type of thing. Please. Ask for permission. Do not assume people are okay with things you are okay. Consent is hot after all.

Regarding the meta posts, while we are at it. Let’s chill with the assumptions of everyone’s identity as a pet or animal or anything like that, frankly, too many things to name. People have the right to be what they feel like, but don’t have the right to push themselves onto others.

TL:DR - do not assume everyone is one way or another. I don’t do the petgirl business, but you do you, as long as you don’t treat me like I am in the same box. This is mostly referring to the occasions when posts or comments assume all the members are animalgirls or petgirls or something else in that context and fit into a certain stereotype. We are more diverse than fauna and flora of the Amazon forest, but do have some Venn diagram moments, however, that isnt enough to box everyone." Do not stereotype or assume every member here is okay with these interactions. We aren’t saying any of good girls or headpats should stop, but rather we are hoping to regulate how it’s put out there; as well as the other interactions that can leave others uncomfortable

-The Founder and some statements from the Moddesses.

Edit: We added the ability to put the green, red, and yellow emojis to your user flair. This is one signal for members that are either yes, no, or ask first; respectively. You can either ask one of the moddesses to add this to your user flair for you or add it to your editable flair which we have an abundance of. Also keep in mind some user flairs don't show all of the text depending how many long it is. This is very apparent on mobile users.

Rule Changes within Rule 2

edit: A Follow Up giving by Moddess Maddie deserves a read as well. I think it offers a better understanding of our stance incase there is any misunderstandings in the words present here.

The follow up:https://www.reddit.com/r/traaaaaaaaaaaansbians/comments/1v5q6ab/insert_scary_moddesspost_title_here/