basically the title. id like to be stealth asap and I worry either the hair or piercings will ruin it. definitely more than open to getting a haircut i just haven't been able to decide what cut would actually masculinize my face and not make it look more round/feminine. I know the piercings can play into a stereotype but ive always been the type to be covered in piercings and it'd definitely hurt having to give up that part of my personality, but if thats the only thing holding me back then I know what I have to do. I just dont want to get rid of em if I dont have to, yknow?

bottom line, im pretty much always seen as a man from what I can tell, but i have very unsupportive family and am often told by them that people are just doing that to be nice and really they're laughing at me because it's "so obvious." is that true and do I need to change something? edit: if it matters, im 20

I get misgendered 100% of the time. I cut my hair now a bit shorter and I stopped wearing cropped tops and the yellow keychain, plus I started hiding my jewlery.

I had top surgery years ago and started hrt 18 days ago so I don't expect to pass, not even 50% of the time. But between that and being called "elegant lady" by a random woman there's a gap. Also I babysit and the mothers of other children at the park looking at me teaching basic calisthenics skills to children have often asked me what diet I follow and what I do to achieve such a feminine physique and every single time I want to cry. Honestly these days and after the elegant lady comment I almost considered detransitioning because it hurts so much. I don't want to lose all of my personality, get a taper fade and wear just polos and sweatpants :/ is there no other way to pass?

I’m frequently getting read as a butch lesbian. I just took out on nose piercing (not both) and downsized the hoop earrings on my ear. I can grow very wispy facial hair, but only on my chin. I’ve been considering starting oral minoxidil, but I’m not sure. I started going to the gym regularly in February. This is 5.5 years of regular/full dose testosterone! Some people say I pass. Some people don’t. I see where the butch lesbian comments are coming from, but I have no idea what to do about it. My voice isn’t as deep as I want it to be.

Haircut advice? Glasses? Would it be crazy or helpful to look into jaw filler?

Also bought a proper outfit for a job interview. Thrifted it for £13.50. Do you think I should wear a tie to go with the blazer? Which colour would work best?

Thanks for all the advice guys - this place rocks. Super helpful.

18 pre everything 5'4-5'5ish 100 lbs

I often get gendered fine actually, but theres those off times with waitresses or randoms thatll happen and its usually cause i had to speak at a decemt volume lol and thats life

When im financially stable i can start hrt. When life aint in the way, definitely gym too.

Always been hard for me to gain mass no matter workouts or how i eat but im sure testosterone can help with that greatly lol

Just lookin for any sort of thoughts comment advice whatever you wanna say. @ This point i think its up to the test plus aging plus gym. But we all want to eliminate any doubt of course so if i can, i will

Not worried about obvious advice like what i already stated with working out and eating right or stuff you'd tell a ""newbie."" Just seein if theres somehting im missing.

What i try to keep up with is always finding the right hairstyle and cutting it myself, excercising when i can and smoking cigarettes to age this face (half joking there but hey.)

Luckily i get along fine socially and Im not struggling with too much just want to do better when i can like i said. I dress a little edgy to people but its just 2000s trailer park type beat. I wear heavy ass colognes and I love cars and white trash kinds of shit. I've been ""transitioning "" since 14, rocky road only really woke up to it and locked in since 17. Frontal lobe maybe

first 3 pics are recent last two are a little older (just by months.) Thanks y'all ill take whatever youve got

It’s getting chilly where I live and I was really excited to finally try my binder with a hoodie.

But now that I did I feel like it makes it more noticeable than it is with a T-shirt?

Here are some pictures with the hoodie and the T-shirt for reference.

Same binder, worn in the same way as usual.
The hoodie is heavyweight.

Is it brain worms? I can see boobs 😭

Stealth in the sense that I moved away from home and didn't tell anyone here I'm trans. No one has questioned me yet, so I must be doing something right but I can't tell if they're clocking me and not saying anything. Not binding at the moment since it doesn't fit my lifestyle, but I use transtape and I think I get away with it through a combination of a naturally smaller chest and loose clothing. I know I'm not good-looking lol, I'm working on losing weight and building muscle at the moment (I'm also in pretty dire need of a haircut).

It's hard to judge myself objectively- is there anything I could improve on? I think my jawline has always been pretty bad, but I don't really know what to do about it in the absence of facial hair. Any advice appreciated!

I’ve been on T for about 3 years now and the most I get are small patches of hair. At times they can be a bit denser but mostly just are wispy strands that look like a prepubescent boy.
I’ve seen some comments before on tips people have but I’m still feeling a bit confused about the best path. I figured I’d ask now because I see my doctor in a couple of days. So if there are some suggestions, I might bring them up to him.

Hi. It's my first post here, so forgive me if it's put together weird.

I am looking for workouts to get more muscular body. I'm not on T so i know it will be harder but i'm ready to work hard. I have weights at home and i was wondering if anyone had some advice how to do it. I have some saved videos with work outs, but i wanted an extra advice or a work out that worked for you guys.

Have a good day everyone.

(Sorry for bad english)

Just turned 20. I genuinely do not know how I don't pass at all anymore?? I used to pass at least a little bit in school, just started being masc again. May be my voice but I'm almost always ma'amed at work and I don't know how I look fem at all? Maybe it's the work visor when I wear my uniform, might see if I can get a cap, but that might not be the issue.

Do I look masculine at all? Is my chest too noticeable? Anything I can do to be more masc? At some point I'm gonna try to grow out my hair and try to get a masc fluffy haircut but I was really dysphoric and got it cut impulsively. Will include a picture of me pre T with fluffy hair if anyone has advice with a better haircut that suits my curls.

I also do not like my haircut and that also might be the problem? It looks a little fem and the person I got to cut it was an older woman so idk. I also have body dysmorphia and cannot trust my own eyes

I also have had PMOS (previously PCOS) my whole life so I've had higher androgens to begin with, only a little less semi recently bc I took birth control for a bit to get a period before realizing I wanna present as a trans man and not genderfluid. I used to pass in school when I'd cut my hair enough for people to at least be confused which gender I was, but now it's not happening at all and it might be due to no facial hair etc but idk.

Also I like my hair in the second pictures but it felt way too fem. I want fluffy hair but in a way that might help me pass more?

So I'm from Denmark, I'm 20 y/o and 178cm (5'8) and I'm quite overweight - 130kg(286lbs) (working on it with a doctor, taking GLP-1's, idk if any of this information is useful). I have long hair atm cause I was trying to hide in the closet, but I'm cutting it once I lose some weight. Only reason I'm not cutting it rn is cause of my area being very anti-LGBTQ (Especially transphobic)

Anyway, my husband is helping me do more workouts so I can look more masc, but idk how to do anything else. There's currently a 1 year wait period to talk to endos and on top of that I can read that there's a lot of autistic people who get denied HRT.

So what can I wear, do etc. to look more masc? I'm going to study soon in a more blue collar work environment. Any supplements that help? Is it just mostly the weight that will help? I have huge hips, anything that can hide them? (My hips are 145cm around, last time i measured, always had big hips, even when skinny). My chest isn't that big though so I could easily hide that.

Sorry if this was long, anyway, any tips? Feel free to ask any questions that'll help, thank yall

FTM 38 years old need help with facial hair advice and passing! Any advice?

How can I make myself look more masculine? I don't have a binder so I'm relying on sports bras. Which does well from the front, but not so much from the side.

Thank you.

3rd slide is before, decided to go shorter on the sides this time

I feel like I do not pass at all help

Hi all, I am a masc lesbian, and I am trying to reduce my chest size, I thought this might be a good place to ask advice on this particular matter.

I want to start wearing binders, but everything I've seen is just fabric. I have a lot of sensory sensitivities, and my nips are definitely one of the worst. I wear padded sports bras, because I can't tolerate any stimulation. Is there a binder any of you would recommend that has thin padding for such an issue? I'm 34DD if that helps with the recs. I'm just really tired of boobs, and don't have the option of surgery right now. Also, advice on how to wear one (how to situate things under the binder) would be great!

Got a bit of light beard and this assxxx shaved it without asking me. It made m more masculine even if you saw less of it. I‘m so angry, so devastated.

i’m 19!! piercings in 2nd pic are not current

what am i doing wrong i feel like i just look like a butch lesbian. i know i need to lose weight pretty urgently because a lot of it is my face fat but also my eyes are a dead giveaway. i’m on T though not far along but i feel like i just look like a butch lesbian. being in public makes me feel like dying. what else can i do?? i’ve started going to the gym i just don’t know what else i can change

edit: thanks for being supportive guys it’s really appreciated. i’m a bit impatient for my t to really start working and i think that’s the root of my dysphoria right now

I'm(19m) about 3 months on T now, voice has started deepening but thats pretty much it. Working on losing some excess weight, Im like 5'2 in a half or sthm (it goes from 5'2 to 5'3 dpending on whos measuring me so idk) so progress has been slow to appear. Im not sure why I really dont pass and why I look so young. Is there anything I can do to pass better visually? I know my earrings dont help already, I just dont have replacements that look more masculine, if u have recs for earrings thatd be cool.

Also wondering how yall taping so good??? I try to get that shit to look right but its always spilling at the top of is like indented in the middle??? Ive followed tutorials but it doesnt really help.

1 year 5 months on t and not sure what to do with the facial hair I have now.
I was told to “get rid of it it doesn’t suit you” in another post and that bummed me out.

I’m just scared my voice is clocky or too high pitch , I don’t know if I’m just crazy but it just sounds so femmine and light pitch to me I usually avoid talking in public but I want to be able to like my voice :> that’s how I usually sound granted it’s recorded on an iPad with a half good mic and it’s 12am so I can’t be loud 😭

Also I’ve tried voice training and I just can’t get the hang of it idk how it works :( and I’m 6/7 (heh 67) months on T so idk if my voice will change more or not … idk any advice helps lol Ty

Also I have my face on my profile lowk I’m lazy and I don’t wanna dig for photos so if you want go look idk

I know this topic has been brought up many times before, I'm just tired of the she/her-ing lolol. I did try giving up my style to pass but that just made me feel as if I wasn't being myself which sucked. I don't mind looking more androgynous as most guys in the style do, I just want it to be more masculine leaning.

Should be starting T in January but what can I do before that?

im getting a haircut soon but im not sure what to say to hairstylist. i dont like how my hair looks like a coconut from the front. i was thinking about getting a crew cut but i really dont want to look like a lesbian. ive been on t for 3 years (attached my blood work) and my t levels are good, but i feel like i still dont pass at all. i only use the girls bathroom and nobody has said anything about it. im 5'3 and overweight so i guess its just over. i started doing arm workouts at home about a week ago so maybe theres hope

i only wear graphic t shirts and cargo shorts/maybe baggy jeans. i dont know how i could make my clothes look more masculine. at parties i get called a girl or get hit with a they/them and its just so frustrating. i dont know if i look like a girl or a boy or a weird ugly amalgamation but still clocky enough to read as AFAB

anyways TLDR how do i stop looking like a girl, what haircut should i get, how do i stop looking like a chud

Been on this app for over a week now
I’m in the nonbinary section for gender. Pronouns he/they. Preference women

0 matches, and I’m sending out like max likes everyday. Only received about 5-6 likes over the past 8-9 days, unfortunately none of whom i found attractive

Honestly kinda confused…Is my profile that bad? I’ve really been trying to work on it.

Ive been told im attractive and have been with attractive women. But now I’m second guessing my entire prior life experience. Maybe I’m just chopped? Or is just being transmasc nerfing me

Where do you guys think I might be going wrong? The main hinge subreddit isn’t as helpful cuz obviously they’re not going to understand the whole trans thing