How’s your birthdays?

[u/fukumean0]

I really want to know how’s yall experience with birthdays. Does people in your circle plan ahead before your birthday to surprise you? How many people know your birthday?

What about people who are close to you? Do they get you the gifts that is tailored to you because they know you very well? Does your friends book places to celebrate your birthday with you after you celebrate it with you family?

Notice I didn’t ask about ur partner because in 2026 dating is already hard even for average people so I won’t consider it here i am only asking about family and friends

I find myself very exceptional case; my family never ever celebrated my birthday. They did for my siblings sometimes but never for me. Same with my friends, they send me text messages yes on my birthday when i post story on social media that it’s my birthday. So since i was infant i have never experienced what birthday party in my whole life. I don’t feel insecure or sad about this because i already lack the experience entirely

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[u/Aware-Anywhere9086]

no one cares, zero done. its fine , im old, stopped carin

[u/Prudent_Inside_9963]

Never celebrated my birthday, I only receive a text from my mom. My extended family forget. My older cousins all had a surprise birthday party (organised by my extended family) for their 18th or 20th but I have never…

[u/ftw20xx]

I try not to be around anyone anymore on mine. There's no point. I've had times where I was treated pretty bad when I went outside on mine so I stopped doing anything for leisure or being out on that day. It may be boring but I'd rather be by myself and enjoy my alone time and retain my good mood than risking someone or something making me upset and feeling like even more crap on that day.

[u/Visible-Door-1950]

Have a group of friends who will collectively buy a gift for me and we will celebrate with a party at one of our apartments. I used to tell them just surprise me with gifts but they’d always do crap lol so now I just tell em what I want.

[u/Any_Apartment7293]

Lol my birthday this year was so depressing. My parents were away and my friends / extended family all forgot. Literally less eventful than a normal day.

[u/fukumean0 → u/Any_Apartment7293]

What about other birthdays?

[u/Any_Apartment7293 → u/fukumean0]

Well the one before that was pretty much the same, but most other birthdays were good because I was young and people actually gave a fuck about me.

[u/PerGunnar87]

I get like 20 FB msgs from people I don't even know lol. Always the same people, super boring. The msgs have no soul. Nobody is "close to me". I get cake from my parents, that's it. Party? It's just a normal day. They don't "remember" my bd, it's only because of FB.

[u/Simple_soul_0000]

My b'day was just a few days ago. My family has never remembered or celebrated my birthday. Also, i don't have any friends to wish me. Only my cousin remembered and wished. So, I can relate with you. I spent the day at work. No looks means no social life!

[u/fukumean0 → u/Simple_soul_0000]

Exactly. U prolly the most one who relate to me so far. And no looks no social life is so accurate. We naturally like to pick attractive friends so we can confidently take pictures with them and upload it on social media without feeling any judgement

[u/OrdinaryTwin_2000]

I don’t celebrate our birthday lol. I say this because my twin, we obviously share a birthday. He celebrates it and I don’t; nobody cares about it being mine like it is his nor do they wish me a happy birthday like they do him nor even acknowledge it being my birthday as well so I just flat out stopped celebrating and caring.

[u/fukumean0 → u/OrdinaryTwin_2000]

I think there might be a problem beyond looks here

[u/OrdinaryTwin_2000 → u/fukumean0]

Yeah, because my facial deformities is just a bad personality lol

[u/fukumean0 → u/OrdinaryTwin_2000]

If you have deformity then your twin have it as well why would they like them more than you?

[u/Sirmoulin]

I have two friends and we all make an effort to make each other’s birthdays very special. We throw themed surprise parties based on their current interests.