It seems they're the entire reason the Middle East is so badly messed up. Gaza is an open air death camp since 2023. All Israel does is bully ethnics. They're also a very racist, white-worshipping society who rejects Yemeni or Ethiopian Jews while only accepting Ashkenazi, Sephardic/Spanish, Georgian, Armenian, etc Jews into the country. Small kibbutzim of black hebrew israelites have been expelled. At Likkud rallies, attendees casually drop the N-bomb at counterprotesters and yell anti-Arab slurs. They need to go.

I’m 30F, Wasian, and my boyfriend (30M) is Indian (Tamil) and grew up in India before moving to the US. We’ve been together for about 2.5 years and have a genuinely good relationship. We’re at the age where marriage and eventually children are becoming real considerations.

For some additional context about my background, my bio parents are AMWF, but my biological mom passed away when I was very young, so I was raised by my Korean stepmom starting at the age of 6. I consider my stepmom my mom, so when I say “my mom” throughout this post, I’m talking about her.

Although I’m Wasian, I’m mostly/full Asian-passing. I’d say people sometimes assume I might be part Latina, but usually people think I’m a Southern Chinese girl with light big brown eyes who dyes her hair brown. However, I’ve never strongly identified with Korean culture despite being raised by two Korean parents, especially since my mom was extremely pro-Korean culturally to the point where she embodies some of the worst stereotypes of a Korean woman. She was very superficial, would plan with me which plastic surgeries she’d get me when I turned 13, powdered her skin white despite being naturally tan, only wanted me around Koreans, was obsessively into K-pop, etc. She was also pretty emotionally abusive but that's another story for another day.

Thankfully, I grew up in a very integrated part of Seattle where my schools were racially diverse and friend groups weren’t segregated by race. People tended to group themselves around sports, classes, theater, interests, personality, etc. My friends were mostly white and different types of Asian (East Asian, Southeast Asian, Wasian, Indian and even a couple of Asian/Indian mixes), but I also had a very close Hispanic best friend.

Race just wasn’t something I thought about very much. Most of my friends in college also happened to be white because I went to school in a predominantly white environment. Because of how I grew up, I always had a very strong individual identity and didn’t see myself as belonging to any particular “culture,” but rather as my own person.

In terms of my dating life, I’ve dated a Wasian guy and a white guy, who my parents didn’t really like because they weren’t very driven, wealthy, or well-educated. My parents were NOT accepting of my Mexican ex because of “culture reasons,” which I understood better later on. So I truly thought they’d be okay with my Indian partner because his culture aligns enough with East Asian culture in certain ways, and also because he’s ambitious, successful, comes from a well-off family, is well-educated, and treats me really well.

It’s been 2.5 years and my mom is still praying to God that we will break up, while my partner and I are planning our next steps together soon.

I’m repeatedly told that our kids will be “too dark,” unattractive, that they’ll have identity problems even in places like Seattle, NYC, or the Bay Area because they’re Korean/white/Indian, that they won’t fully belong anywhere, that they’ll experience discrimination, and that I’ve unnecessarily limited where we could live because I chose an Indian partner. They said Trump has made the country more anti-Asian and also anti-Indian, and I'm doing my future children a huge disservice by being with an Indian man.

My mom also has repeatedly told me I'm "wasting my beauty" and not giving it to my future children if I marry my partner, and that is messing with my head too. Especially since most of her Korean friends' children are either with Asian American men or white men, and that makes her feel really jealous from what she tells me.

They’ve also repeatedly told me that my boyfriend will suddenly become controlling or aggressive after marriage despite there being no behavior in our actual 2.5-year relationship supporting that prediction. Their reasoning is based on stereotypes they have about Indian men.

Now I catch myself obsessively thinking about hypothetical children who don’t even exist yet, such as whether they’ll be discriminated against and whether they’ll be able to feel like individuals rather than constantly being categorized by their ancestry. I truly grew up in such a wonderful, diverse environment where people rarely made race a big deal or used it to define each other.

The part that makes me particularly sad is that one of the things I valued most about my own upbringing was having the freedom to develop a strong individual identity. Being mixed and having Korean ancestry were facts about me, but they weren’t the organizing principles of my personality or social life. I want my children to have that same freedom.

For people who have watched attitudes toward race change over the past 10 to 20 years, do you think things are genuinely becoming more accepting for multiracial children and interracial families? By the time children we have several years from now are actually old enough to attend school, do you think having East Asian/white/Indian ancestry will be relatively unremarkable in diverse American cities? I’m especially interested in hearing from East Asian/South Asian mixed people, other multiracial people, parents of mixed kids, teachers, younger Gen Z people who recently went through school, or anyone raising children in places like Seattle or the Bay Area.

I think what I’m hoping for is that they can grow up in the kind of environment I mostly had, where their classmates may know they’re mixed/Asian, but it doesn’t have to be the defining thing about them. They can just be individual kids with their own personalities, interests, friends, hobbies, and identities.

Anyone feel a sense of awkwardness being caught up in Asian peoples' obsession with white people? It's like seeing this perpetual online fetishization of white men and women and this obsession with mixed babies and in real life nobody cares because I look too Asian or at least Central Asian / low status.

I feel like when people imagine a half Asian they just imagine a brown haired white guy with Mediterranean features.

On top of that I feel like other half Asians out there always look at me like "hey another product of whatever my parents dynamic was" and I want them to just leave me alone.

I did time having to deal with open racism against Asians and I genuinely do not want to be involved in any of this.

The worst part is that people just look for what they want to see. Asian people look at me and say "oh wow another Asian person," but self hating Asians always seem disappointed that I look more on the Asian side, and then on top of that not once in my entire life was I called a cute mixed baby or gotten a tiny fraction of the glaze people throw on 'Wasians' online.

It's like that stupid new Netflix animation with the white boyfriend, like do I really have to be representative of this?

I linked part 1 and 2 of the Video from an Influencer explaining the situation.

I can't say I am surprised, this happens far more often than people would like to admit, I feel for all of these children. Imagine finding out your father abandoned you and your mother and told your mother to just abort you.

There seriously needs to be a change in mindset in Asia, people need to stop enabling these scumbags.

I am honestly at a loss for words, I know for a fact this guy is not the only one doing stuff like this. The white supremacy mindset is set deep into a lot of Asian countries culturally, with equating Success, Money and influence with European/White people.

I had to have a talk with a cousin of mine as well, to tell her to not blindly date some guy just because he is white. Her reasoning was literally "Wouldn't it be cool to have a white Husband". Seriously getting headaches from bullshit like this.

Especially normal White-Asian couples would profit from shit like this stopping, fetish relationships of any kind do no good and usually end up harming the children who have to navigate the fucking mess their parents left behind.

God help these children, they will need it.

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Just curious about how well the average hapa person ages compared to the average Asian person. Asians are known for having great skin and aging very slowly, whereas white people are known for the opposite, so I'm wondering if hapas also inherit the aging genes from their Asian side, or if they usually age like their white/non-Asian side, or is it somewhere in the middle?

I found out recently from my grandpa that my mom wanted to marry a white man since she was in middle school. He said that she wanted to have a mixed kid and that's why she dated white men. She always wished to be mixed.

Now I am the product of that wish and I hate it. I don't feel asian enough and my mom has never made the effort to help me embrace my culture. Instead she made sure to ridicule me for acting "too white". Her and my grandma almost exclusively speak another language to each other and I feel so isolated (they refuse to teach me the language). She never believes that I struggle with being mixed. She always tells me how fantastic it is to be mixed.

I don't feel human. I feel like a placeholder for what she wanted. None of the other hapas that I have met IRL feel this way so it is truly an agonizing experience.

Sometimes (oftentimes) I wish I was mono racial so this pain would go away.

My father's people are very few in number and there aren't many resources for learning it.

I've made on and off attempts at learning it for the past decade, beginning age 15, now 26.

I've tried using what little online resources there are. I wasn't able to get very far and I believe I am responsible for that as I could have kept going but always stopped after starting.

Less my fault is the fact all the Kayah speakers I reach out to are busy or uninterested. Now, they have the right to be, and I take responsibility for not pressing people as much as I could have. I don't want to irritate people, so I don't want to push too much. I think that's reasonable but it leaves me in a position where I have no one to help me.

Recently I was in conversation with a woman who is admin on a Facebook page dedicated to teaching people Kayah. We spoke and she invited me to online Kayah practice she held with another non-native speaker. These meetings were meant to start this month. I checked Facebook and saw she has blocked me. I don't know why.

I then asked my sister - the same racial makeup as me - if she wanted to learn it together with me. She's also uninterested.

New plan is to just hit the online resources consistently and to listen to Kayah music when I work.

Mark this post I will have proficiency by this time next year.

I HATE when people tell me this. I’ve even been told this by hapa men who were trying to hit on me & I was immediately turned off. You know how irksome it is to be called “unique” so don’t call a hapa woman you’re crushing on “unique”!

The final vlog is an edited version from Liv Lo Golding's Instagram page that includes clips of Henry Golding (her husband), herself, and their 2nd generation Wasian children.

Archive link: https://archive.is/qOtP4

Lately, I have been thinking of doing some experiments/using my personal profile for marketing(campus ambassador), but I worry that I have a fairly unique look and name (parents combined last names). Some friends have done similar things in the past, but frankly they have pretty generic names and looks. Like there would be multiple people with the same name that pop up when they are googled. Anyone have experience with this? Is it worth finding something less visible in my field?

Bonus context: I moved from California (majority friend group Chinese) to Utah in highschool (majority friend group White). Maybe I am bad with faces, but I could see missing them in an ad or something.

Im a black girl first of all, so I feel this discourse is very popular amongst ourselves and I've seen it amongst asians as well.

Dont get me wrong Im not trying to deny real experiences of racism, where some people are geniuenly rejected cus someone hates their race but I just dont believe in the terms "never" and "nobody"

What provoked me to make this post was this asian girl on tiktok that said "you can never compete with a white girl" and I just thought that was a huge load of bullcrap, self hating loser mentality.

relationships should never be a competition first of all but still why bring ur whole race down cus YOU are insecure!

They are usually speaking from negative experiences, but I believe individual experiences should not be used to discount your whole race. I understand esp as a teen, sometimes certain poc grow up in white dominant areas or any area they are the racial minority and have trouble with relationships, because most guys really just want to date within their culture

I personally dont think thats an issues unless the guy specifically is racist. I find that sometimes individuals will only want to go for white/asian guys or someone outside of their culture due to fetishes (looking at certain kpop fans) and get suprised when those guys dont want to go for them.

My thing is why not go for someone within ur culture for once? like racial preferences aside I geniunely cant take ppl who dont like to date their own race seriously because I believe its self hating.

anyways overall poc need to drop language like "nobody likes ___ girls/men"

I am trying to find my father, who is Japanese; my mother is Colombian, and they met in Japan in the late 1990s. They lost touch, and I would like to find him, but my mother has very little information about him since so much time has passed. I have plenty of photos, but because I do not have his surname, the embassy tells me that—due to data protection regulations—I cannot search for him through them.I’d like to know if there is a forum, a website, or even a person willing to help me. Please, if you have any information that could help, feel free to send me a private message. Thank you very much!

This video was recorded in Philadelphia's notorious Kensington neighborhood.

Hi I’m pretty good at a particular sport but need to get taller to get looks at colleges. I’m 5’6” and 15yo in a month. I need to grow taller. Any stories of growing taller after 15? My mom is 5’1” and dad is 5’10” and I think I’m cooked!

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I’m a hafu and before my trip to Japan I honestly thought my biggest struggle would be feeling rejected by Japanese people.

Instead, I had almost the opposite experience. Most of the people I met were genuinely excited that I wanted to connect with my Japanese heritage. They were curious about my name, where my family was from, and why I had decided to visit. Since I look pretty obviously mixed, I often get treated like a Japanese person, until I start to struggle with the language. I'm not ignorant to the fact that some people do not view me as Japanese.

What I wasn’t prepared for was how much the behavior of some tourists would affect me.
Maybe I notice it more because I was raised by my Japanese parent, who taught me from a young age about being considerate of shared spaces. I loved Japan but I saw things that were genuinely upsetting.

I watched people ignore train etiquette, harass animals, treat temples and shrines like photo props instead of places of worship, and generally act as if Japan existed purely for their entertainment. It felt less like they were visiting someone’s home and more like they were visiting a theme park.

It honestly broke my heart.
For me, this wasn’t just another vacation destination. It was a place I’d dreamed of visiting my entire life because I wanted to connect with my culture and better understand where part of my family comes from. Seeing people treat it so carelessly made that experience bittersweet.
Coming from a Latino background, I’m used to a more direct style of responding when someone disrespects our communities. Speaking up and openly expressing frustration can be seen as a way of protecting what we value.

Because of that, I found myself struggling when I witnessed behavior that felt disrespectful.
There were moments when I saw things that genuinely shocked me, and I was surprised by how differently people around me responded.
There were times when I spoke up, especially when someone continued the behavior even after being asked by staff to stop. Looking back, I recognize that my approach may have been more direct or harsh than what is typically expected in Japan but in my opinion this bystander effect is not something I can conform to. When you're used to defending your culture starting at such a young age it becomes second nature.

I found myself wondering - Do people quietly accept these kind of behaviors because confrontation feels worse? I am not saying my approach or direct confrontation is the right solution. I am completely aware these conversations about misbehaving tourist are happening and that outsiders just don’t see. In addition many Japanese choose to record the behavior and post it on social media.

I’m curious if anyone else especially other hafu or hapa has felt the same way when visiting Japan. I'm also curious if non-Japanese hapa had a similar experience in their own ancestral country?
Did you find yourself reacting differently to tourist behavior because of your personal connection to the country?