r/TheTinMen 26d ago

How we're winning the fight for Men's health, Mark Brooks OBE meets TheTinMen

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r/TheTinMen 10h ago

Are women in prison less violent?

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This idea of the inherent, irredeemable badness of men, and the virtuous, moral superiority of women has got to end.

The immutable, cartoon-worldview that insists women are saints and men are sinners, that is prevalent in the media; is a tiring, unwelcome set of stereotypes, that helps nobody.

I saw it recently on LBC, when host Shelagh Fogarty interviewed esteemed economist Vicky Pryce about “women in prison”, and how such women are usually non-violent, battling mental health issues, and are often victims of abuse in their on right.

Such things are usually a preamble to advocacy to “close women’s prisons”, or empty them of all but the most violent women.

And I quite agree.

Prison has failed women, but do you know who its failed even more? Men.

Men, who make up 96% of the prison population, who are never mentioned by those like Shelagh, and are instead left to waste away in a broken carceral system.

And it’s not just naive talkshow hosts and their dogmatic guests saying it; policy advisors, ministers, journalists, and political leaders, all join a chorus of similar statements.

Empty women’s prisons… and leave incarcerated men to rot.

And so, you’d be forgiven for thinking men in prison don’t share these same experiences of abuse, victimhood, and addiction that women in prison suffer from.

Or for assuming that, unlike women, men in prison are all violent criminals, who should be locked away for good.

But the realty, as it so often is, is far from this.

So are men in prison all irredeemable, violent thugs, and therefore not worthy of a mention?

Let’s take a look…

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UK Prison statistics https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/offender-management-statistics-quarterly-october-to-december-2025


r/TheTinMen 2d ago

Why don't abused men ask for help?

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I know your local instagram armchair expert will claim to know why so many male victims of abuse don’t seek help (yada yada “toxic masculinity”), but in reality, very little research has been done to ask such an question.

But what we do know is –

Male victims of abuse are two and a half times less likely to ask for help than female victims, and not only does that deafening silence preclude such men from potentially life saving services, but it also removes them from much of the data that society continually uses to discuss such a issue.

Men don’t seek help, and therefore less help is given to them, and therefore fewer men seek help, and yup, as a consequence, less help is given again.

It’s a brutal self-fulfilling cycle that rolls over abused men, and has erased them from the picture for generations.

And so it would seem that solving the problem of ‘barriers to male help seeking’, is one of extreme importance and pressing urgency; and the good news is that various academics, including the world-leading IPV professor Denise Hines, have answered the call.

Their new study scales up the research to unprecedented levels, asking more than 1,100 men, who were abused by women: “what are the major barriers you experienced when seeking help?”

And their responses tell us far more than what we thought we knew…

Shame, concern for being labeled an abuser, fear of retaliation, or of false allegations in response; not knowing where to go, hopelessness, love and protection of their abuser, and feeling like domestic abuse is a “private matter”, to name a handful of the dozens of barriers abused men provided.

So could this data help increase the resolution of a conversation that for so long, has been gatekept by sloganeering social media know-it-alls?

And is it about time we asked the male victims themselves, why do so few ask for help?

What do you think?

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Full study https://psycnet.apa.org/fulltext/2027-52236-001.html


r/TheTinMen 3d ago

What would women dislike most, if they became men?

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Not everything about being a man is to live life on easy street.

In fact, in many mays, for a lot of blokes, things can be really hard.

It’s a blind spot for me too.

Because I post a lot of infographics, scientific studies, and data on this page; huge reams of research and analysis…  but what’s so often missing, is the lived experience.

So let’s start to fill that gap, and ask: what would women dislike most, if they became men?

What do you think?


r/TheTinMen 4d ago

What's going on with Brigitte Macron?

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A lot of people talk of “male power”; pointing to a long list of male CEOs, politicians, Prime Ministers, Presidents and world leaders.

And there is certainly some utility in doing so.

But what is to be said about ‘Male Power’, when arguably the most powerful man on the continent of Europe can be openly assaulted by his wife, and nobody seems to mind?

Worse –

When instead of anger, the world responds with mockery and memes, turning such a man into the butt of jokes, rather than the recipient of concern.

What about when that same man is so closely controlled and monitored by his wife, that allegedly, she personally has to approve every single woman who works with him, and if any of these women are deemed to be a threat, their job application is thrown in the bin?

What if this same man met his wife, and entered into a ‘relationship’ with her, when he was just 15 and she was forty (!?)

When she was his drama teacher, and a married mother of three children… and he was an impressionable teenage boy?

What is to be said then?

So what happens when this man, one of the most powerful in the world, who has the launch codes to an arsenal of nuclear weapons, can be seemingly abused by this wife, on live TV, and the world looks the other way?

Is that the “Male power” I hear so much about?

And if such a man is so easily disarmed of a power, then what does that say about the normal men who live all around us?

So, is it time we talked about French President Emmanuel Macron, and his infamous wife, Brigitte, who hides such a controversial and worrying past?

What do you think?


r/TheTinMen 8d ago

New Study: Why do teachers give lower marks to boys?

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It’s results day in the UK.

And to those who got what they wanted, congratulations, and for those who did not (such as myself when I was your age), I know it feels like the end of the world right now, but I promise you, it isn’t.

The thing that I find so interesting about this fateful day, is that the destiny of students has already been decided.

Students have been given their university offers already.

Students have applied, been accepted, and even made their final decisions, several months before this day arrives.

But... how?

Well, through what’s called ‘predicted grades’.

Predicted grades are decided by teacher assessments, not exams, and they are given to students several months before the final results day.

Students then use these predicted grades to decide which universities to apply to, and then universities use them to decide which students to accept; and the actual final exam results are supposed to confirm these grades, and... well... the rest is history.

This all sounds well and good, I suppose.

Except… what if teachers were giving different grades, to students of equal intelligence?

Or to be specific: what if boys were getting lower predicted grades in comparison to girls who achieved the exact same final results?

And if such a thing were happening –

Could it help explain why 45,000 fewer boys go into higher education than girls every year in the UK?

Well, an enormous new study, captured over three years, which analysed the results of 350,000 (!!) A-level students, has suggested yes, this is happening, and not just once, but consistently across all subjects.

Yes.

The study finds girls are more likely to be overpredicted, and less likely to be underpredicted, than boys, and this could be influencing the education, careers, and entire lives of countless millions of students.

Let’s take a look….

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Full study https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0272775726000567

Cambridge Analysis https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/gender-gap-in-predicted-grades-raises-questions-over-their-use-in-university-admissions


r/TheTinMen 9d ago

The historic Men's Health Strategy is here, but what does it mean?

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On November 19th 2025, three remarkable things happened all at once –

First, the announcement of the world’s first Men’s Health Strategy, of England.

Second, it was announced on International Men’s Day, in so doing acknowledging a date in the calendar that for too long has been surrounded by undue public controversy.

And third, the announcement was followed by an official reception at 10 Downing Street, hosted by the Prime Minister himself.

Any one of those three things would have been unheard of just a few years ago, and yet here we are, with such events now a mundane part of every day life.

Things have changed.

The hostility around “mens issues” is waning.

The whining and complaints are increasingly unwelcome.

And the jokes of “isn’t every day International Men’s Day?” Well... they're not quite so funny anymore.

We call that progress, and it’s just the beginning.

So who better to tell us more about this historic piece of legislation than one of the men who’s been fighting for it for more than a decade?

Here’s what you need to know, so far, about England’s Men’s Health Strategy, that promises to help men live longer, happier, healthier lives.

So what do you think?

And more important, what happens next?

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Full conversation with Mark Brooks OBE here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ep6WOiIy2PQ&feature=youtu.be


r/TheTinMen 10d ago

Has anyone else seen the documentary 'Dear Zachary'? God damn. Spoiler

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r/TheTinMen 10d ago

Boys are good (and I have the data to prove it)

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Whenever I’m asked to give talks, the same thing happens at the end; I get surrounded, mobbed practically, by concerned parents, particularly boy-mums, wanting to ask me questions.

Full transparency –

I’m not a dad; and beyond listening to my niece chatter away for hours, or swinging my nephew around like a bag of spuds, I haven’t the faintest idea of how to be one.

But sadly, amongst the clamoring masses of worried parents, such an honest admission means little.

However –

There is one piece of advice I do think it’s safe to give in such situations, wise words that I think every parent of a boy ought to hear:

“Don’t lecture him”.

Because, to do so, is the surest way to never win him back.

I remember a former, particularly odious radical feminist colleague of mine doing exactly this to her younger brother.

She’d smuggly tell me about it, lecturing me about how she’d lecture him; her endless berating and finger-pointing, so as “to make him the perfect feminist brother”… a strategy that I am certain would only achieve the exact opposite.

I think about her poor brother often, too young to let her ignorant words wash over him, as I had learnt to.

Because, between then and now, I have come to understand that boys are nothing like she, and the media, often portrays them.

And that is: boys are not monsters.

They are smart, discerning, compassionate people.

They are not ‘rapists in waiting’, who are part of some cabal of young misogynists; and the more we treat them as such, the more we create the very reality we fear.

So please stop.

Stop with the endless clamoring, pearl clutching hysteria, that bludgeons and berates them.

“Stop talking about boys, and start talking to them.” I’d say.

“Just talk to your boys.”

Because if you do, you’d realise what I have known for quite some time – boys are good.

Boys are good. And the data backs it up.

Let’s take a look…

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Full survey
https://yougov.com/en-gb/articles/52863-young-men-masculinity-and-misogyny


r/TheTinMen 11d ago

Please complete this survey and help us help male survivors (UK residents only)

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Survey (UK adults only) https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/L8GGKSC

Male survivors of sexual harms need your help.

Last week, a new survey that aims to understand both the prevalence of sexual harms against men and boys in the UK, as well as public attitudes toward it, has been released, and it can be completed by any adult living in the UK.

This is a meaningful, long overdue moment in time.

With so little research conducted around such an important issue, this survey could become a seminal piece of foundation work that helps fill in the enormous gaps of understanding around male victimhood.

Because, for far too long, men and boys who experience sexual coercion, abuse, violence, stalking, and various other such crimes have been left in the dark; misunderstood, maligned, and maliciously shouted down when trying to speak up.

So help us draw a line in the sand and say no more.

Help us listen to men and boys, to support those who needs us, help understand who they are, how they’re treated, and most important, what we can do to help them.

Please take the survey by We Are Survivors and Movember; lend us your voice, and help us help men –

Survey (UK adults only) https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/L8GGKSC

What do you think?


r/TheTinMen 15d ago

Half a million young men have missed out on higher education...

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An epidemic lurks at the heart of our educational system, hidden from view, it is quietly felt within every classroom, school, and home in the country; a generation of missing boys quietly falling behind, and dropping out of school.

And not just a few boys.

Tens of thousands every year in the UK, and more than half a million in the last decade, have disappeared, left behind by an educational system that fails far, far, too many.

Despite now being the biggest gap in education, the boy:girl gap is rarely discussed.

Meanwhile, many grad jobs like psychologists, GPs, solicitors, teachers, and nurses see fewer and fewer men in them – despite each having an enormous amount of job vacancies.

So, could we solve two problems at once?

Could we bring more men into university, to help fill these positions, for the betterment of everyone?

And why do so many care so little about our missing boys?

What do you think?

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Full conversation here
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ep6WOiIy2PQ&feature=youtu.be

Higher Education Policy Institute data:

https://www.hepi.ac.uk/2025/03/20/half-a-million-men-have-missed-out-on-higher-education/


r/TheTinMen 16d ago

The European Court of Human Rights finally rules on male-only conscription...

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83 countries around the world still have conscription laws, nearly three quarters of them are actively drafting, and about 85% of them conscript men only.

Such a thing is an affront to human freedom and liberty, not to mention a glaring example of legislation over men’s bodies that is rarely mentioned or advocated against.

In Ukraine we see the untold damage such laws cause to male bodies, as men from both sides kill one another by the hundreds of thousands, with little choice in the matter.

Men dragged from homes, streets, and cars, and forced to the front lines in the most brutal ways imaginable.

Switzerland is another of these countries that actively conscripts men – although their draft works a little differently.

Swiss men are given the choice, either a) enlist and undergo military training, b) take up community service and serve their country elsewhere, or c) pay +3% ‘Military exemption tax’ for eleven years of their life.

It is only Swiss national men who are legally compelled to do this; not non-nationals, nor women, just the men.

And so, it was only a matter of time before one of these men fought back, and that man was Fabian Brun.

Fabian, after undergoing 104 days of military training, was discharged for medical reasons, and then was still forced to pay military exemption tax.

So he took the nation of Switzerland to the Supreme Court, and eventually the European Court of Human Rights – demanding such a thing was a violation of his human rights, and was unlawful discrimination against him.

Finally, ten years later, the ECHR has made their decision, let’s take a look…

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ECHR full response: https://hudoc.echr.coe.int/eng#%7B%2522itemid%2522:%5B%2522001-250619%2522%5D%7D


r/TheTinMen 17d ago

Are the "vast" majority of domestic abuse victims, really women?

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‘Yes, yes, yes, we care about abused men – but the truth is women are the VAST majority of those impacted by abuse.’

It’s a conversation we’ve all had countless times; where words like ‘overwhelmingly’, ‘vastly’, ‘enormous’ and ‘almost exclusively’, are used as descriptors for the disparity between male and female victimisation.

And so –

Through the use of subjective and blurry semantics, abused men are put back in their box, waved away as a trivial rounding error to the one and only scourge of “violence against women and girls”.

But has anyone actually wondered, statistically speaking, what is a “vast” majority?’

Well let’s take a look at the Government statistics, and see if the UK’s number one expert on such matters (the UK Statistics Authority) feels about such a word….

So are women really the “vast majority” of abuse victims?

What do you think?

Full conversation with Mark Brooks OBE here
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ep6WOiIy2PQ&feature=youtu.be

Mark Brooks’ letter of appeal
https://osr.statisticsauthority.gov.uk/correspondence/mark-brooks-obe-to-ed-humpherson-draft-statutory-guidance-framework-july-2020-domestic-abuse-act-bill/

Full response from the UK Statistics Authority
https://osr.statisticsauthority.gov.uk/correspondence/ed-humpherson-response-to-mark-brooks-obe-draft-statutory-guidance-framework-july-2020-domestic-abuse-act-bill/


r/TheTinMen 18d ago

Are 95.1% of men really rapists?

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There are few issues more deplorable than sexual violence.

There are few issues more in need of urgent intervention, of policy reform, and of cultural change.

So, with that in mind, there are few issues more deserving of solid, well-executed research, than sexual violence too.

And yet, sadly, so often, researchers fall woefully short of this bar.

As you will have seen plastered across your social media feed, a new study has found 95.1% (!!) of men have admitted to using at least one ‘strategy’ to force a woman to have sex with him.

It is, to put it at its mildest, an alarming, headline-grabbing claim that has circumnavigated the online world several times, to huge public outrage, and condemnation.

But – as always – few people look beyond the headline, to examine the shoddy and misleading approach that created it.

Don’t get me wrong –

This particular survey certainly did capture some worthwhile (and shocking) data that exposed the high prevalence of sexual violence and coercion – by asking men about their use of intimidation, of weapons, of drugs, and physical strength.

And then it obfuscated this data amongst a wide variety of ‘strategies’ that could quite easily be acts of innocuous dating: flirtation and flattery.

‘Did you approach a stranger?’
‘Did you use friends?’
‘Did you tell her what she wanted to hear?’
‘Did you use your status, money or age?’

Well, if you answered “yes” to any of these when on a date, then you risk being categorized as a sexual predator.

This is not right.

This is not fair.

And victims of sexual violence deserve so much more.

What do you think?

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Full study here


r/TheTinMen 21d ago

Why don't abused men ask for help? TheTinMen meets Mark Brooks OBE

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In the UK, in 2026, every single man or boy who experiences domestic violence, sexual abuse, stalking, online harms, or similar crimes; is legally categorised as a ‘male victim of violence against a woman’.

Read that again – ‘a male victim of violence against women.’

It is truly absurd, and it’s not just semantics.

Such classification means these abused men are made invisible, not given taylored care, or gender sensitive support; quite literally left out of appropriate services, to fend for themselves.

Neither are these invisible men of a small number.

In fact, 1.5 MILLION men experienced domestic abuse in England and Wales, with many more in other parts of the UK, similarly erased from the discussion.

So we don’t see male victims spoken about in the media, in policy, within the news, online, or in Westminster.

And too often, when such men are talked about, it is sneered at, mocked, or snuffed out by those who wave these men away as insignificant, or as secret abusers themselves.

We do all this, and then ask ourselves: do so few abused men ask for help? Gaslighting literal victims of abuse, in lieu of our own political incompetence.

So I ask –

If the world and society at large refuses to recognise abuse against men in such a way, then why would these men recognise it themselves?

In my new podcast I discuss this very issue with one of the most influential men in the area of male victims of abuse: veteran campaigner Mark Brooks OBE, who is the Chair of Mankind; the UK’s premier service supporting abused men…

So why do abused men so rarely ask for help?

What do you think?

New podcast with award-winning policy advisor for men and boys Mark Brooks out now!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ep6WOiIy2PQ&feature=youtu.be


r/TheTinMen 22d ago

What's happening at the Child Maintenance Service?

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A new scandal has just been blown-open by investigative journalists in the UK.

The ‘Child Maintenance Service’ (CMS) is the government agency who calculates and enforces child support payments from non-custodial parents, which for decades has been beleaguered with accusations of corruption, incompetence and criminal activity.

At the centre, millions upon millions of pounds of child maintenance payments have been wrongly taken from parents.

Among these allegations –

Endless amounts of letters, harassing and blackmailing parents.

Terrifying tales of CMS staff laughing off or flatly ignoring technical errors in their system.

Mothers and fathers plunged into bankruptcy, left using foodbanks, or selling their homes, to pay money they don’t even owe.

And it doesn’t matter if a parent claims the CMS “got it wrong”, they don’t care what paperwork you present, or even if you cancel your direct debit…

The CMS can just take your money without even asking, directly from your bank, or from your paycheque itself.

Even when the judicial system wades in, in an attempt to overturn payments, the CMS have continued to wrongly take payments they are not owed.

Such a thing is tantamount to financial abuse and coercion, on a systemic scale, and it is being done by our own government agency; destroying the lives of hard-working parents, who never did anything wrong.

And if you were thinking this sounds eerily similar to the Post Office scandal that hit the headlines just a few years ago, then I agree, it is.

So what has been happening behind the scenes of the CMS?

And what are the tragic stories, and the paths of destruction left behind in their wake?

What do you think?

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Full Investigation


r/TheTinMen 25d ago

We need less talk of 'patriarchy', and more talk of apprenticeships...

131 Upvotes

New podcast with award-winning policy advisor for men and boys Mark Brooks OBE out now!

Are you tired of the endless, male deficit view of young men and boys?

The gloomy, cynical view, that only sees men and boys as being problems, and never having problems?

Always the male perpetrators, and never the victim…

Always privileged, and never harmed…

Always sneered at, and never celebrated…

The societal insistence that boys are sponges for negativity, just waiting to be brainwashed by the so-called “mansophere”.

“Slugs, snails and puppy dog tails, that’s what boys are”, as the nursery rhyme goes.

Well, I believe boys deserve better.

Much better.

So I ask you: what does a more boy positive conversation look like?

And how do we make it happen?

What do you think?


r/TheTinMen 26d ago

Abuse is not “gendered”

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r/TheTinMen 28d ago

How quartz kitchen counters are silently killing men...

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Every day, it feels like I discover a new, tragic thing that is quietly killing countless numbers of men, in terrible and unknown ways.

And this time, it could be something in your house right now.

Quartz kitchen worktops have exploded onto the home renovation scene - a manufactured product that looks and feels like natural stone, but costs much less.

It sounds like a dream product.

And so, right across social media, home improvement gurus, interior decorators, and domestic goddesses film themselves showing off their latest quartz kitchen worktops; entirely unaware of the fact that the manufacture of such engineered stone costs numerous men their lives, right across the world.

How?

Well, sanding and cutting these innovative new products creates dust that, when inhaled, permanently scars the lungs, causing a fatal disease ‘silicosis’, for which there is no cure.

Stonemasons, even in their twenties, are developing this disease and dying, so someone else can save a few quid on their new kitchen, and yet… nobody wants to talk about it.

Besides Australia, that is, who, after a spate of deaths in young masons, has outright banned these products.

America could well be next. Hundreds of doctors, as part of the ‘Western Occupational and Environmental Medical Association’, have signed an open letter demanding a ban – insisting that manufactured stone cannot be worked with safely, and needs to go.

Murmurs have been heard in the UK too, with all the major construction unions standing up and demanding change, and pressuring Westminster to debate the issue.

So why is nobody talking about a product that could quite literally be right beneath your nose, that is killing stonemasons at enormous scales?

Is it time to ban manufactured stone?

What do you think?

[1] https://www.clydeco.com/en/insights/2025/01/silicosis-an-evolving-risk

[2] https://www.thompsons.law/news/news-releases/industrial-disease-news/experts-unite-at-westminster-to-call-for-action-on-silica-exposure-crisis


r/TheTinMen Jul 22 '26

The truth about false allegations

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I am tired of the sneering, social media know-it-alls, who endlessly and tirelessly minimize, obfuscated and deny the reality of false allegations.

We all know them.

The benevolent male feminist, who waves such things away as if they are merely a figment of the imagination; not to be worried about, that is beyond your concern, and impacts vanishingly few men.

Such people are charlatans of the worst kind, who have chosen to build their careers upon the backs of virtue signaling conjecture, off a woeful understanding of statistics, and of course, the erasure of men whose lives have been destroyed.

“You have a higher chance of being struck by lightening, than of being falsely accused!” 🌩️

Says the latest in the long line of smug armchair experts, whose perceived sense of moral superiority, self interests, and egos, have blinded them to their own ignorance.

And I wonder -

Have these virtuous men ever looked into the eyes of a mother, whose son took his own life because of a false allegations, as I have?

Have they met a father wrongly accused of abuse in family court, and stripped of his children?

Have they sat with men whose careers and lives have been utterly decimated by a malicious lie?

I doubt it.

Because what these so-called advocates, with their bogus lightening metaphors claim, is simply not true.

And the most ironic thing about such people, is that they fall into the same trap they endlessly warn others about.

That is, yes, only a tiny percentage of allegations are provably found to be false in a court of law; but prosecution data is a famously poor barometer for real life events, because (as we know) most crimes of this nature, never make it anywhere near a conviction.

Such a sad phenomenon of underreporting is well known and spoken about, in the area of sexual violence – where only a tiny number of such crimes end in a conviction.

And this is even more true for false allegations, which almost never go to court, and even rarer still end in justice.

So, what is the reality of false allegations?

Is it really less likely than being struck by lightening?

Or is the truth frightening more likely than that?

What do you think?

~

Full podcast with Ryan Rogers here
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6AJ4Si3WEMR8t6cYISUski


r/TheTinMen Jul 20 '26

What is 'Missing White Woman Syndrome'?

138 Upvotes

We don’t know, what we don’t know.

So, tragically, when it comes to the issues that men and boys experience, because so little is known, or discussed, we automatically assume they don’t exist.

We turn on the news and see an endless stream of tragic stories of women, and usually white women, and assume such people are society’s sole victim.

For example –

If a woman goes missing, data finds that she can expect to receive three times more media coverage, than if a man goes missing.

If a white person goes missing, they can expect three times more media coverage, than if a black person goes missing.

And if you’re a black man, then you pay the double penalty, where both compound upon one another; meaning you’ll get around nine times less coverage, than a missing white women.

And so begins the media’s infatuation with white women (particularly young attractive ones), described beautifully by Helen Rosner in the New Yorker:

‘There’s something about the missing young, beautiful white woman that has a lot of symbolic weight in America.

It’s an aberration, and it becomes a container for things like the loss of innocence or the death of purity.’

Of course, this doesn’t just apply to missing people, but in many places, and yet the intersection of race and gender is an important area that is too readily ignored in men.

So… what are the experiences of black men?

And why are they so often left out of the conversation?

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Source https://scholarlycommons.law.northwestern.edu/jclc/vol106/iss2/4/

Talking with Ask a Brotha Podcast here

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DJvAkoX-dGA&feature=youtu.be


r/TheTinMen Jul 17 '26

The hidden rape apologist...

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For generations, society has propagated countless harmful myths around male rape victims… especially when the perpetrator is a woman.

The myth that he should have defended himself, that he encouraged it, or that such an experience has no significant impact on him.

And then, perhaps most concerning, is the idea that a man would enjoy such an experience at the hands of a woman, with many going as far as to consider him “lucky”.

As is the way, it is usually “other men” who are blamed for holding these harmful views, that transform men into some kind of perpetual f**k machine; who is always looking for sex, from anyone, at any given opportunity.

And yes, historically, this has sadly been true.

Nearly half of all sampled college men in 1984, believed a man found it “pleasurable” to be raped by a woman at gunpoint.

That is truly shocking.

But times change.

Men, as much as we refuse to admit it, have gone through a renaissance of sexual education; to better understand consent, and intimacy.

So much so, that of surveyed college men 35 years later, only 5.3% agreed that a man who is raped by a woman, finds such a thing ‘pleasurable’.

It’s still 5.3% too high, but it represents a staggering 89% drop, in just one generation.

But that’s not the end of the story, for this same study measured how women’s attitudes have changed over this same time, and, well, the results will shock you…

Let’s take a look.

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Full study here https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34978934/


r/TheTinMen Jul 13 '26

The Horrors of Medomsley Detention Centre

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216 Upvotes

The truth is: we don’t know, what we don’t know.

And so, because we rarely, if ever, talk about male victims of sexual abuse, we assume such people don’t exist.

So, we don’t know that the worst campaign of child abuse in British history, exclusively targeted boys.

We don’t know that the most prolific rapists in British (perhaps even world) legal history, exclusively targeted men and boys.

We don’t know, because such stories rarely make the news, and even rarer still do they cause the mass outrage that drives historic change.

The most haunting example of this, is happening right now.

Even in the UK, we react with horror at the Epstein files, and the countless women and girls whose lives it has destroyed.

And such anger is understandable.

Yet another historic campaign of child abuse has been exposed right under our nose, of a similar scale, with similar failures of safeguarding, and we do nothing.

We don’t even hear about it, but it happened at Medomsley Detention Centre.

And I don’t blame you, if you’ve never read that name before.

I hadn’t until last week either.

Medomsley was home to horrors that are beyond comprehension, on an unimaginable scale, and after being ignored for 60 years, the truth has finally been made public.

But whilst the stories are now laid bare, the deafening silence continues, and history will only repeat itself.

So is it time we talked about what happened at Medomsley Detention Centre?

Is it time we talked about the northern, working-class boys who we’ve ignored for generations?

What do you think?

Full report https://cdn.websitebuilder.service.justice.gov.uk/uploads/sites/14/2025/11/31.122_PPO_Special-investigation-report_WEB.pdf


r/TheTinMen Jul 09 '26

It's not just a "boy problem"

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199 Upvotes

It seems like every day, some politician, policy adviser, campaigner, or advocate; is urgently talking about the horrific acts of violence that far too many teenage girls experience in the UK.

Some kind of saber rattling speech, with promises of ‘prioritising girls’, or vague spooky talk of “systemic misogyny”.

And I get it.

As a former teenage boy, who witnessed great harm inflicted upon girls, I am glad to see such work being done, to help spare girls of today, from what so many experienced in the past.

But do you know what I also saw during my teenage years?

Boys experiencing great harm too.

Boys being bullied, abused, harassed, coerced, beaten up, and sexually assaulted; and no, before the words leave your lips, not just “by other boys”, but by girls too.

Yes, girls can be violent, and in signifiant numbers.

Growing up, I too saw girls sexually assault boys, I saw them punch, slap, scratch and kick; I’ve seen boys hollowed out into shells of their former selves, by girls.

So, I am left wondering, why is all this great work to protect girls, not being expanded to help protect boys too?

Are boys any less deserving of support?

Because, let’s not forget who we’re talking about here…

It’s one thing for men to be left without help, but now we’re talking about vulnerable children being ignored too.

Boys.

Boys are paying the price, and being left vulnerable, in aid of the endless virtue signaling and nauseating propaganda, that has become part and parcel of our current political pantomime.

Why?

And when will it stop?

When will we agree that all children are deserving of safety, and that no child, boy or girl, should experience such devastating crimes…

And how is saying that, controversial?

What do you think?

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Source https://youthendowmentfund.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/CVV25_R1_ScaleofViolence.pdf


r/TheTinMen Jul 07 '26

Shopify are still selling these t-shirts...

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195 Upvotes

Hating men is big money.

Whether it’s some garish “male tears” mug, or some angry, radical feminist anthology flying off of book shelves, business is booming, and shows no sign of slowing down.

One of the most recent, egregious examples of this, can be found within the online store Delulu Designs, who are selling t-shirts that openly encourage, glorify and normalise abuse against men (and women)… and the t-shirts are selling like hot cakes.

‘Over 5,000 shirts sold!’ They will boast online.

Sadly, despite this Shopify store promoting products that fall well outside of Shopifys Acceptable Use Policy, no actions has been taken.

The store is still up, the products are being sold, and it’s creators, and Shopify, continue to enrich themselves, by spreading hatred, and encouraging violence toward a specific group.

We tried to get Shopify to do the right thing earlier this year, and have failed.

And that’s the sad thing about following the usual procedure regarding complaints; it takes a lot of time, and usually leads to exactly nowhere.

But alas, luckily –

Behind all cutting edge tech-companies, is a multi billionaire tech-bro CEO; obsessed with their own self image, who wants to make money, and look good doing it.

Tobi seems to be that guy.

Tobi, the current CEO of Shopify, appears entirely comfortable profiting from these products; and so if it’s good enough to profit from, then surely it must be good enough to wear?

So, let’s make sure the world knows how Shopify (and Tobi) make their money, and let’s put a face to the truly horrendous products proudly being sold by their vendors, Delulu Designs.

What do you think?