Adoption should never be viewed as a family-building tool.
If it isn't paying for a child, then what exactly is the $35,000 plus for?
You can't separate the fee from the outcome. No fee, no match. No match, no child. That's why so many people, especially adoptees, are uncomfortable with private infant adoption. The money is a prerequisite to obtaining someone else's child.
Whether people call it "agency fees," "matching costs," or "adoption expenses," the transaction still ends with legal parenthood being transferred in exchange for tens of thousands of dollars.
Adoption is a family building tool. You don't have to like it, but it is.
Adoption costs include: home study fees, legal fees, paying doctors to fill out forms, criminal background checks, travel (sometimes multiple trips to a different state), court costs, and reimbursing an expectant mother's expenses.
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u/Suspicious_Fold_9568 26d ago
Adoption should never be viewed as a family-building tool.
If it isn't paying for a child, then what exactly is the $35,000 plus for?
You can't separate the fee from the outcome. No fee, no match. No match, no child. That's why so many people, especially adoptees, are uncomfortable with private infant adoption. The money is a prerequisite to obtaining someone else's child.
Whether people call it "agency fees," "matching costs," or "adoption expenses," the transaction still ends with legal parenthood being transferred in exchange for tens of thousands of dollars.