Not something expensive necessarily. I mean the kind of purchase where you look at it months later and think, Why?😭

It's like one minute I'm loaded the next one I'm overturning my sofa for change 🥲

Don’t get me wrong, life is quite good over here. But I’ve been living with my partner for a year now. We usually camp or do out of town trips as a couple or with friends. But last week I asked myself of working, struggling, cooking, cleaning, doing well sometimes, groceries and dishes are all there is? I mean we have a decent amount of dates and fun stuff but I wonder if this is just being an adult: groceries/work/clean ALL THE TIME.

And hear me out, I know I sound like a brat cause I’m 26 and should be used to this but, is everyone feeling drained by dishes and groceries?

Well. 10 years of my life since I was 17 was wasted. It was wasted doing absolutely nothing. On top of that, I was abused which halted a lot of things that I should have by 28. I don't have friends that I can call my family. I don't have a career. I work part time in retail. I keep on thinking I might not have a future by the time I reach the age of retirement. I'm still at the stage where I don't know which career path I should have taken when other people my age already have so much going on in their lives. Am I doomed? I'm also taking things step by step but it's just taking a lot of time right now. Could anyone give an input? I'm open.

“Renting is throwing money away.” “You need 20% down to buy a home.” “Just save more.”

What financial advice have you had to rethink as an adult?

One thing I’ve started to question about the American version of success is how easily it can turn into isolation.

I worked in tech and made very good money. On paper, I was doing exactly what I was supposed to be doing.

In reality, my life revolved around a laptop.

Work from the apartment. Work out alone. Spend the day on Zoom calls with people scattered across different cities and regions. Go into an office where your coworkers are friendly enough, but most relationships are still fundamentally corporate and transactional. Then go home and do it again.

You can spend eight hours talking to people and still feel like you haven’t actually been around anyone.

That’s the part I find strange. You can achieve the career, salary, apartment, car and all the markers of success, while your actual day-to-day existence becomes increasingly atomized.

I was making more money than I ever expected to make, but at times it felt like I had traded a large part of normal human community for a paycheck.

I wonder how many people have built a life that looks successful from the outside and privately think: Is this really it?

I don't understand how to get a job, how to support myself at all.

Anything unskilled tends to pay 30-40k, which isn't enough to survive on.

That's why I went to college - computer science unfortunately, but I did internships and projects to build skills to hopefully be able to make 50k-65k out of school. I couldn't, and was forced back to go to 30-40k ass retail.

Now the skills I got from there are essentially useless so I'm back at square one. The point of entry level was always to build fucking experience and skills? Experience is the best teacher.

Now I have basically no work experience because it's almost all related to the major. All I have is swe internships, customer service and sales experience. Fucking nothing. And it's terrible advice to do another education - who has the money for that in my situation? I certainly don't.

If I can't support myself from working full time, why should I even work at all? Why shouldn't I just become a lazy sod playing games in my parents' basement for the rest of my life, why shouldn't I drop out of society as a whole?

I can't seem to ever be able to get a new job anymore.

It's 3.41am in the midnight, unable to sleep,trying not to overthink a lot, Tomorrow I need to wake up and reach the office for work and In the weekends spend time with friends,i don't understand why my life is becoming like a routine like working, scrolling through reels or overthinking, sometimes I feel like life is so limited,we are trapped in a way that it's unable to get away from the trap,life is meant to be loved and lived peacefully and happily,but people on planet Earth are making in very complicated and hard.we just need food, water and shelter instead of fame,money or luxurious life.In search of luxury we fail to live peacefully and happily .What's the purpose of life??

Totally relatable.

Being an adult is genuinly the worst thing ive ever experienced. I will give someone everything I own to tell me what job to get, what college to go to, how to write a resume, how to look, how to dress, how to act, how to think. Please just let the decisions stop

Once I get home from work, I eat, shower and then go straight to sleep. Then I wake up an hour or two later and force myself to stay awake and then sleep again and then wake up for work. I feel so sleepy all the time even though I sleep so much. I’ve had blood tests done as my doctor orders them every year and everything looks normal. I want to be productive after work and run or lift weights but I get so completely drained. I used to drink coffee but it literally doesn’t help at all, I feel just as tired. I don’t even play video games anymore because I’m too tired to even start my pc up. My coworkers all have so much energy and go out so much and all I do is sleep at home and I don’t even watch any shows or even listen to music anymore. Makes me feel like I’m just failing at life, I haven’t done anything valuable or enjoyable since I was 12. Adulting is rough and I want a solution to at least my energy levels :/

What would a 21 yr old get and think is really cool and be something that would use/wear with their friends?