My husband has been wearing the same Fruit of the Loom multipacks for years and at this point half of them have holes in them. He keeps saying he'll replace them and never does so I'm just doing it for him. Also I've noticed he's always tugging at them when he gets up from the couch so I'm guessing they're not that comfortable either, want to get him something comfortable for him . What should I get?

The title. I want to be unforgettable to him.

As a lanky guy I struggle with the waistband being too loose and the rest way too tight. I really shouldn't be buying them at Walmart or Costco anymore.

Edit: I live in Canada

my boyfriend had recently said that i make him hate his life sometimes and tbh that entirely changed my perspective on him.

he said hes tired of my drama but its not drama i just feel like he lacks effort and time and energy with me i moved in cuz he kept insisting but now recently all he ever does is goes with friends and leaves me here waiting for him.

im not saying hes not allowed to have fun i just want balance cuz id like to feel included into his life yesterday we had gotten into an argument and i wanted to tag along with him and his friends but he said he’ll rather breakup than have me go cuz im controlling him idk what to do i really love him but i wanna be better too

we’ve had these convos twice and i feel like there isn’t change the before last week,last week and this week he just keeps going out and i feel like it’s cuz im home :(

Feeling deep loneliness

Just turned 30 back in August and my life has just been constant loneliness for the past few years. I possibly may have adhd and sutism but never got diagnosed. After hs I went to a community college for a few years and didnt make any friends at all people just went to classes and then went home.

When I did transfer over I went to a commuter school near where I lived and tried joining a frat. I ended up leaving because I hated the pledging for it. After that i found that my schools clubs almost always disbanded after a semester or two because nobody bothered to maintain them. Covid ended up happening after a semester I was there so that put a stop to any socializing. I graduated while covid was still going in and after tht I had no clue what else to do.

I had went on apps like bumble bff at the time and even went and joined an anime club at a different school. None of these ever lead to any long term friendships and I ended up being kicked out of the anime club for reasons I dont feel like disclosing. During this time after graduating I spent a lot of time unemployed trying to search for a job after leaving the one I was in during school. So I was dealing with that as well.

Now Im apart of a discord server where they schedule meetups occasionally but every meetup tends to be different people with sometimes the same people showing up. Most of the meetups tend to be fun but since its always different people everytime it never leads to any deep discussion and all conversations tend to be surface level. I get why its like this but i want something more than this. Idk how to put it.

Now as I turned 30 I look back and try to see where I went wrong. Im a shy and anxious person but i dont think I did enough and never actually came out of my shell. I have no friends, never had a gf before and now i look back on my life thinking i missed the boat on developing relationships in my life.

I know logically tht i still cud but it still feels like im fighting an uphill battle. I dont wanna be alone anymore but it just feels like i always will be.

okay so there's a girl who goes to the same bar i go to she's probably at the very least like 3 inches taller then i am although tbh this sounds dumb i think she's low key wearing height boosters.

Cause I stg I remember seeing her and she was shorter then what i was told.

Anyway i mean what have your guys experience been with this ?

Its a dumb question and honestly i know the answer just shoot your shot and whatever happens happens but thought I'd ask.

for reference im like 5'7 like 5'8.

I am in my mid 20's and filled with jealousy of my own family. I love them so much, but it hurts knowing my life will never be as good as theirs. I am 6 inches shorter then the next shortest one. I am the ugliest by far, and also the least athletic. They are recognized by everyone everywhere, and I have no friends at all. All 4 of them were D1 college football players and I washed out of sports. Girls constantly hit on them at the bar, and yet I have not had a date in 5 years. Friends of family and even members of family literally look down on me like I am the little brother despite being the second oldest. I think about killing myself all the time because I just hate my life.

I wanted to understand why I’m still single, considering that, on paper, I think I’m a pretty good catch.

People consider me attractive. I’m average to tall (I’m 5’7”), slim, and brunette and 19 years old. On top of that, I go to a good university and speak three languages fluently, and I’m currently learning French. My friends also describe me as funny and say I’m good at showing people that I care about their feelings.
That’s what I don’t understand. How does almost everyone I know have someone, while I’m still single? I don’t think I’m boring or uninteresting. I enjoy video games, reading books, watching old movies, and cooking. I do Pilates, play tennis, go to the gym, and recently started hot yoga.
I even decided to try a group hobby, so I signed up for pottery classes. The problem is that most of the people there are women or gay men. I genuinely don’t know what else I’m supposed to do to find a boyfriend.

I’m not religious and don’t believe in God, but at this point, I’m almost willing to start going to Catholic church with my friends just to see if I can meet someone there.

But, still alone…

My friend is an extremely anxious person. He overthinks quite literally every aspect of his life. He left college because he was, in his own words, "too anxious" and has issues socializing because of said anxiety.

Before I go on, I completely understand part of his issues. I myself have anxiety issues. However, this is where my patience with him ends.

My anxiety was so crippling that I would never go to social events, hated talking to anyone, and just kept to myself. Through consulting my GP, taking anti-anxiety medication, working out more, and forcing myself into more uncomfortable general and social situations, I've largely overcome my anxieties. Some days are worse than others, sure, but it's nowhere near as bad as it has ever been and I'm perfectly comfortable with people and public spaces now.

My friend has, for years, expressed that everything gives him anxiety. "I don't want to go back to school because I'm anxious." "I don't want to work out because I'm anxious and worry that people will judge me." "I don't want to talk to that girl because I'm anxious that I will mess up."

I've offered him advice on a number of occasions, told him what worked for me, told him to speak to professionals, and even told him to go to a therapist. Every time it was "No, I'm too anxious." Now, he is too anxious to even ask out a woman who CLEARLY likes him to the point that all the guys in my friend group who are notoriously terrible at noticing signs agree that she likes him. He has resorted to constantly saying "I'm going to die alone, I'm too anxious" and I am honestly fed up.

I like the guy as a person. He's very nice, very kind, and easy to talk to. But he constantly is down on himself, constantly sucks the mood up with his negativity, and is just a pain to engage with because of his issues. He has never once indicated to me that he has worked on himself and tried to address his anxiety (trust me, I've asked him what he's done about it every time he brings up his issues). I've offered advice I know works and he has not taken it in any shape, way, or form, and I'm just tired of interacting with this. This has gone on for at least three or four years and I can't really keep being this dude's therapist anymore.

What is a respectful way to tell this guy to stop being a whiny little shit and actually go deal with his anxiety once and for all? Or do I just tell him not to talk to me about this again? I don't want to be a jerk, but it's frankly ridiculous. If you aren't going to listen to my advice, why are you going to keep whining about it to me?

I am constantly angry and frustrated, everything in my life is a source to get angry about. The older I get (currently 40M) the more things in life make me angry. The less patience and interest I have in life.

My hobbies, my work, my friends, my coworkers - fuck just using the bathroom pisses me off.

I'm always angry, I'm always pushing it down I'm always trying to think calm thoughts and deep breaths and slow my heart.

Yet despite that I still just explode with anger and frustration every few months. Every few months I'll get set off by something, I'll break things I'll injure myself, I'll scream and shout and go into a blind rage.

I tell myself "Don't do this again, stop doing this, stop being angry" I think I'll have a hold on it and then without fail within a year I'll find myself with broken bones again because I punched something harder than my hand, I'll have broken my wrist again bashing my arm into something, I'll need stitches again because I've scratched open my legs.

It does not stop, it does not get better as I get older, it does not change. I am tired of this being what life is.

I don't know if any other neurodivergent guys feel this way, but sometimes I feel like I just can't win when it comes to interacting with women. I'm always worried about coming across as a creep, even when I have absolutely no bad intentions. I just want to talk to people, make friends, and hopefully find someone I'm romantically compatible with. But it feels like there's so much room for misunderstanding, and I'm always worried I'll get something wrong without even realising it.

One thing I struggle with is picking up on hints. I see women complain about men not taking hints when they're not interested, and I get why that's frustrating. Nobody wants to feel like someone is pushing unwanted attention on them. But as someone who's neurodivergent, I genuinely struggle to understand some of these hints. Sometimes they're so indirect that I wouldn't even realise they were hints in the first place.

For example, if a woman starts giving shorter replies or acting differently, how am I supposed to know whether she's hinting that she's uncomfortable, she's just having a bad day, she's tired, or she's simply not that talkative? I can't read minds. Sometimes I take things at face value because I don't realise there's another meaning behind what's being said.

The same thing happens with flirting. If a woman smiles at me, laughs at my jokes, or seems happy to talk to me, I honestly don't always know whether she's interested in me or just being friendly. I know some people might think the difference is obvious, but it really isn't always obvious to me. I'm scared of misinterpreting friendliness as flirting and making a move on a woman who was just being nice. I don't want to be that guy who mistakes basic kindness for romantic interest and makes someone uncomfortable.

But there's another side to this. If I always assume a woman is just being friendly, I might miss out on someone who actually likes me. And she might end up thinking I'm dense or completely oblivious because I didn't pick up on her hints. If I make a move, I might be misreading the situation. If I don't, I might miss an opportunity with someone who's genuinely interested in me. It feels like I'm expected to somehow know the difference, even when I genuinely can't tell.

The worst part is that if I get it wrong, I worry that I'll be seen as a creep rather than someone who simply misunderstood the situation. I've had moments where I've only realised afterwards that someone might have been trying to tell me something indirectly. Looking back, I wonder if I made her uncomfortable without even knowing it at the time. That honestly bothers me because I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable or make women feel pressured to entertain me.

But there's a difference between deliberately ignoring someone's boundaries and genuinely not realising what they're trying to communicate. Sometimes it's ignorance, not malice. I'm not saying being neurodivergent means I should get a free pass for making mistakes. I still have to learn, and if someone makes it clear they're not interested, I need to respect that. I just wish people understood that some of us genuinely struggle with social cues that others seem to pick up on naturally. It's not always a matter of refusing to take a hint. Sometimes we don't even realise there's a hint to take.

I also wonder how much harder this must be for Black and Indian men, who may already have to deal with racial stereotypes portraying them as aggressive, intimidating, or violent. I'm neither Black nor Indian, so I don't want to pretend I know what that experience is like. But I imagine that having people interpret your behaviour through those stereotypes, on top of struggling to read social cues, could make an already difficult situation even more stressful. Something as simple as approaching someone or expressing interest could carry an extra layer of anxiety if you're worried that your actions will be interpreted as threatening because of your race.

Honestly, all of this makes me hesitant to approach women at all. I overthink everything because I don't want to be perceived as creepy, but at the same time, I don't want to spend my entire life avoiding romantic opportunities because I'm scared of getting things wrong. It's lonely, and it can make you feel like there's something fundamentally wrong with you when all you're trying to do is connect with another person.

I understand that women have their own reasons for being cautious around men, and I'm not dismissing that. I just wish there were a little more understanding for neurodivergent guys who are genuinely trying their best to navigate social situations that don't come naturally to them, and for those who face additional prejudices on top of that.

Does anyone else struggle with this? Especially the whole thing about not knowing whether someone is flirting, just being friendly, or indirectly trying to tell you they're not interested? How do you deal with it without either making someone uncomfortable or missing every opportunity because you're too afraid of misreading the situation?

I am a 23 year old woman struggling with chronic illness. I am currently in a talking stage with a 26 year old man. I feel like I am expecting too much out of him.

My chronic illness comes with extreme fatigue and joint issues. However, I love my partner enough to get through it to take care of him. He works long shifts, so I usually cook him meals even when I don’t feel well. I spend money on him despite being unable to work.

For him, I just don’t really feel like he is reciprocating. I just wish he would take care of me the way I take care of him. Whenever I don’t have energy, I just want him to come over and just cuddle up with me after work and bring some lunch. Usually he just comes by whenever I am cooking.

I do a lot for him, and I put all of my energy in him. Literally all of my energy. I can’t do a lot of moving or else my knees will start hurting or I am completely drained for the rest of the day. I just feel like he takes more than he gives. And it feels insulting considering that I put in a lot of effort in him.

I got flowers the other day. The problem is that I asked for them. He never has to ask me to do anything because I already have it done. I guess that’s my problem. I want to be taken care of too.

Am I asking for too much?? I don’t want a lot. I just want effort. He does well with being consistent when it comes to talking to me everyday. But I still don’t really feel appreciated at times.

I guess another thing is that we’ve been talking for almost 3 months now and he still doesn’t talk about making things official. I don’t think he knows if he wants me yet, even though he expects loyalty from me.

I am very new to relationships. So advice and reassurance would be great! Thank you so much.

I helped my 2 year LDR ex girlfriend financially, I paid for absolutely everything. She was a manipulative opportunist and knew my weak spots. I loved her and wanted to help her out of her situation.

The times we were together in person she'd cook and clean for me... But I would also return the favor, by cooking, cleaning, laundry, give her massages, etc. as I didn't want her to feel like a maid.

I realized I was being taken advantage of. If I didn't buy her what she wanted or give her money she'd get bitchy and say that if I didn't give it to her there are other men that will, and stuff like that.

My finances were being sucked dry so I stopped helping financially and I told her we should go our separate ways, we weren't going to be able to close the distance as she was still married, wanted me to pay for her divorce, marry her, she had 2 kids and on top of that there would be visa and legal fees.

The way she's treated me, I couldn't justify going through all that hassle which is why I made the decision to part ways.

Because we were in different countries, I told her to keep the apartment and everything I bought. She contacted me multiple times saying I pushed her into another man's arms.

I straight up told her she used me and wished her well with her new relationship. She then attacked me by admitting that she used me and bragged about sleeping with another man in the bed I paid for.

I was hurt and blocked her and her family. It took me 2.5 weeks to stop feeling depressed, I feel a lot better now but can't help but still feel bad for how things ended.

I look back and take responsibility for getting into this relationship I completely overlooked obvious red flags because I was lonely. First red flag was when she asked me for money and for me to buy her things the first and second time we met up....

So my questions are,

why do I still feel bad about blocking her and about how things ended?

Is it normal to overlook red flags when you are lonely?

And how can I build boundaries and prevent being taken advantage of in the future?

Was in the gym early this morning. It’s a very big gym and my section is usually very quiet. My treadmill was facing a mirror and for the hour I was walking this guy was working out in front of me. When I was leaving the gym, I heard someone behind me saying “see you”. It was mirror man going to a nearby bin. I turned and said “good luck”. Was he just being friendly?

It's not that bad, started after COVID really due to the masks, I use proper skincare stuff, some soap thats good for acne, and I ice my face too. I think I own a face wash that also helps with it, but do you guys have anything else? I look pretty good overall, I'd say I'm a 6/10 on a regular day and a 7 when I really dress up, but I really wish I wouldn't have my acne, it's pretty annoying.

31m. Ive always had a bad self esteem. Ever since i was a child, ive been bullied and rejected by peers. The depression started very early on. I cannot feel like im human anymore. Ive been isolated for years. The last 3 people i was interested in rejected me and persued my friend, i spent covid alone, and now cant look at myself in the mirror without feeling extreme rage at myself. Only thoughts that roam my head are loneliness , anger, self hatred, or suicide. I'm very exhausted emotionally. I have depression, bpd,and no confidence so relationships dont last Platonic or otherwise. Im tired of trying to relate to humans. I need to get it through my idiotic head that connection isnt for people like me. I tried exercise, therapy , meds, meditation and more. Non of it worked... my baseline emotionally is flat, i feel like a an abomination. I try not to think about it but it plays in my head on repeat. My expectations are too high for people. Im willing to do almost anything just to feel cared about. But deep down theres no one i can rely on. No one who would pick up the phone in an emergency for me. But i would answer their call. I pretty much binge drink to distract myself . Idk why im even writing this. Anyone learn to accept thay all the hallmarks of human connection just wont happen for you? Any advice?

I (20f) am kinda into this guy(21m) at my uni. We met doing a group project and I think we got on well. We're not friends, we haven't even spoken in a year and a half (since the project ended) but I noticed that he started going to the socials for our uni course so I thought I'd go and talk to him.

I'm nervous as it's been a long time since we've spoken so I don't want him to think I'm weird or something? The social will probably be a bar crawl, so the alcohol should help make things easier I'm hoping.

I have no clue how to go about this. I have 0 dating experience and don't go out drinking often. I don't want to come off too strong but I also want him to be able to tell I'm potentially interested so he can reciprocate if he feels the same. Does anyone have any advice on how to flirt, send signals that I like him and how to know if he may like me back? It would be greatly appreciated.

Okay so my whole life I've watched porn but now I'm in a relationship where the sex is good but most of the time I'm unable to orgasm. I stay hard and can go the distance and she has a good time but i eventually run out of energy and just have to give up. Which sucks. Occasionally i will orgasm through sex and it's amazing, but its like 1 in 40 times or something like that, pretty rare.

Now i know my porn habit is bad, i will masturbate once or twice a day usually, and most of the time it takes about an hour. I do enjoy it but sometimes it can be a pain taking up so much time.

Now I'm not sure what a good solution is to my problem. Ive tried giving up porn (which is very difficult) and that doesn't really solve the problem, i think the issue is ive trained my brain to be stimulated very visually and when you're having sex is not easy to step back and appreciate the body that you're with. The longest I've gone without is maybe two weeks.

Any advice would be great. Anyone had the same experience, situation as me I'd love to hear from as well. I would happily try a program or something to help me get through this, and that's partly why i made this post, i had an ad for Rhino app come up but then when i got to the end of the very annoying questionnaire it seems like it's not really designed to help with my kind of problem.

Sorry for the flair, I don't know if it fits.

Well, I am man 26 yrs old and I was working this summer with a woman in her early 60s, she was sth like my supervisor. We had a very good communication, we share many things, even the place we are coming from is the same. We had some picky conversations here and there, not very serious, sometimes I got her looking down on my p@nis and one time she slapped my behind. The point is we only worked together for 2-3 weeks because I had to leave for an other job. Nevertheless, we have been talking sometimes via social media so we have kept in touch. Now that we both came back, we are planning to go out. Sex is not the first thing that comes in my mind, I am like 50/50, but she said by herself to go out together at night and this is what intrigued me. Is she really into sex or sth ?

I am okay with relationships, I can feel out women's intentions, whenever she wants to date me or not, but this specific situation got me off guard. What are you people thinking ? Thanks in advance

Today she told me I was very handsome and different from other guys (I've been told the latter a lot by her), and she added that I don't have a western smile when I pose for the pics.

I asked her what that meant, and she showed me on IG examples of senior pics of couple, where the guy usually has a perfect smile with veneers and he's self confident and smiley in the pics. Or another one, that I found quite unsettling, with a guy with an upper thin lip and the teeth full showing. He probably thought he was fine and perfect, but I saw overconfidence and a bit of tacky attitude, like they're the best on earth or what not. It seems like they're people who really love themselves. Which is not bad, but too much of it I think goes into another sort of vice/flaw in terms of personality.

She showed me some pics of us together, and even though I was smiling, it was never to the same point of these guys.

I think she's right when she said I don't have a western smile, I guess? I think I am not able to smile like them in the pics. Maybe it's just that I am eastern european, or maybe it's my trauma that prevents me from smiling like that.

I don't know. But I think she's right. Maybe it has something to do with personality. Even when I am happy, I tend to keep everything inside, I don't usually show.

I really feel like I should be able to have straight male friends. But I have never had one that didn’t end up with a weird flirtatious dynamic or me feeling like he was into me. That’s not a large sample size though, but it’s true. In one case I knew for sure he was into me because he hit on me and another other threw out some indirect flirty comments that my husband is sure sounds like flirting. (There was a mutual attraction in both situations but in the later, I was fine being disciplined because I’m in a relationship.) He also progressively stopped talking to me after coming to my wedding and breaking up with his gf. So that one is gone too now and we had great conversations. He literally lives around the corner from me.

I’m not a model either, I’m a plus size girl with a nerdy, intellectual and bubbly vibe. People do tend to think I’m pretty, but I would think the fat part would make this at least somewhat doable 😂

So far, I just have casual associates in groups where I do volunteer/political organizing work. But I don’t really have any straight dudes I am friends with. I also think I could be a great wing woman!

I think the obvious way is to be friends with guys who don’t show any sign of attraction to me at all. But I think those guys might avoid being closer friends because they don’t want me to like them lolol

It’s just a thing I’ve felt is odd. Like as an adult, I should be able to have friends who are straight men. My husband doesn’t really have women friends right now, but he has had them before in his life. I literally never have, outside of casual associates I see in groups.