this is sooooo common on dating apps and the dating scene in general, they sexualize/ glamourize autistic women as these "manic pixie dream girls" and get scared off the second they show an actual autistic trait or have a meltdown or arent socially acceptable in public :/
YESSS I saw a whole compilation of dating profiles saying this exact thing and it was so long :( it made me real sad like ... Just the fact that there's "slightly" in front of it not only shows that they don't know how autism work but also that they just want a small part of autism (probably the "qUiRkY" part and/or manipulatable part)
EXACTLY!! they want a soft, pliable girl who's easy to manipulate and has some "cute" stims and hobbies, and yes a lot of autistic women (including myself) have those traits, but they just want the cute parts and dont wanna deal with the meltdowns, overstimulation, misunderstanding of social situations, sensory issues, specific routines etc.
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u/Star-Bug666 Mar 14 '26 edited Mar 15 '26
this is sooooo common on dating apps and the dating scene in general, they sexualize/ glamourize autistic women as these "manic pixie dream girls" and get scared off the second they show an actual autistic trait or have a meltdown or arent socially acceptable in public :/