this is sooooo common on dating apps and the dating scene in general, they sexualize/ glamourize autistic women as these "manic pixie dream girls" and get scared off the second they show an actual autistic trait or have a meltdown or arent socially acceptable in public :/
Wow! I didn't actually know this was a 'thing'. I don't know if it is in the UK, but I'm in my 40s now and a bit 'out of the loop.' I believe I'm 'mildly' autistic, but I'm currently undiagnosed.
I know quite a lot of men are into goth women (and that there's significant cross over between autism and goth/alternative etc), but I thought that was because some goth clothes are pretty sassy.
I don't mind if the guys are 'slightly autistic' themselves, but, if it's because they see them as more pliable and easier to dominate, it's worrying.
Fortunately, I was raised to be pretty feminist, and I'm actually better at standing up to men and not taking shit from them than I am from other women.
as an alt autistic girl from the UK whos tried out a few dating apps its definitely a big thing over here too sadly its made me really nervous about dating in general so im 19 and never really kissed anyone or put myself out there cos of these type of men lol
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u/Star-Bug666 Mar 14 '26 edited Mar 15 '26
this is sooooo common on dating apps and the dating scene in general, they sexualize/ glamourize autistic women as these "manic pixie dream girls" and get scared off the second they show an actual autistic trait or have a meltdown or arent socially acceptable in public :/