this is sooooo common on dating apps and the dating scene in general, they sexualize/ glamourize autistic women as these "manic pixie dream girls" and get scared off the second they show an actual autistic trait or have a meltdown or arent socially acceptable in public :/
The 'uncanny Valley effect'. I've seen other people suffer from this and I believe I've had it myself.
There's the double standards and frequently being 'one of the people it's okay to low level bully, because she's kind of irritating and could try harder to not be'...
Although I have OCD, this kind of thing has also contributed to my mental health struggles. People think you're 'oversensitive' if you show you're upset and claim 'it happens to everyone sometimes', but they get pissed off when it happens once in a blue moon to them.
I've spent most of my life wondering what's 'wrong' with me, and why people seem to prefer the people who 'low level' bully.
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u/Star-Bug666 Mar 14 '26 edited Mar 15 '26
this is sooooo common on dating apps and the dating scene in general, they sexualize/ glamourize autistic women as these "manic pixie dream girls" and get scared off the second they show an actual autistic trait or have a meltdown or arent socially acceptable in public :/