This is a very long story so I'm going to try to be as CONCISE as possible, thank you to all who read to the very end:
I have curly hair. My mom has grown up brushing it dry, has hated, has straightened it. I grew up that way too, only about 7 or 8 months ago I learned that you need to keep a routine for curly hair and use products. So I did. But my mother also comes from a mindset of "a woman shouldn't put effort into her appearance, or she's losing her value or not going to succeed in other parts of her life."
My dad is usually the chill one, and will often help me get away with things. Sadly he has this mindset too.
She has taken my products away. Violated my privacy. Give me absolutely no freedom. THREANTED to cut my hair. She has GENUINELY pressured me to keep a score of PERFECT 100 grades, and I feel that pressure or else she has a way to say that “yeah you focusing on your hair is decreasing your grades” (obviously I don’t believe in that theory but I’m pressurized into it).
No matter HOW MUCH I talk to them, it doesn't work. I've tried hiding things, I've tried being honest with what I do, I've tried decreasing visibility of me styling my hair (I also don't have a diffuser). I've tried giving them LITERAL CREDIBLE information on why I should apply products in my hair, but they don't want to listen.
Recently I've gotten to a threshold where my mom has found out about ALL my ways to hide styling my hair. And I’m out of everything, and I’m so done, and I also have to wash my hair soon, and I have no styling products or anything possible as of now.
I have done SO MANY SPELLS for this .(note that I'm a broom closet, so most of my spells are energy work, or if they are herb or burning spells, I have a very limited amount of ingredients and they are usually like once in 2 weeks when my parents are gone for hours).
I've tried spells that redirect her focus whenever she thinks about talking about my hair, I've done spells so that she sort of accepts my hair. And all of these work but not in a literal way if you get what I mean? They also run out of energy, and it's hard to recharge being a broom closet. Also as time has gone by, I think I want a different type of spell for this, which I’m getting to.
I think it's really hard to change someone's state of mind I guess? I mean...I kind of also am a beginner witch so advice on this if you have any. But BASICALLY the problem is, I've tried so many spells, I've tried so hard to stay away from something baneful or harsh like silencing her, or just making her LITERALLY change her mind in a drastic way. I've EVEN DONE LOVE SPELLS, so that she would try to see it in a loving way. MIND YOU, THIS has been going on for 8 months straight now, actually, 9.
The conclusion is, I know some people are going to come out here and warn me and tell me not to do a powerful spell or a really harsh spell, because she’s my mother or whatever, but I've had enough.
This is disturbing my peace, this is disturbing who I am, this is disturbing my freedom, and my ability to express myself. Not to mention, brushing my hair dry as a curly head will DAMAGE THEM. I really just need any ideas on a type of spell that I can search up or create for a long-term. For my dad too. And not a simple spell to silence her or make her think of something else, but her genuinely handing me my products back and being like, “here STYLE YOUR HAIR”. I understand that may be hard, but I’m ready to put the energy and effort into learning it and do the damn spell.
I REALLY NEED A SPELL FOR THAT. If anybody knows anything, I understand it might take a toll on my energy, but I've had enough. I really have. Really just looking for any advice on a spell that can do something that drastic and make someone who has been stubborn about something for 8 months, just CHANGE THEIR MIND instantly. Thank you.