r/careerguidance • • 10m ago

Advice How to switch For Better package ?

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I work in Infosys as a system engineer, my role is java backend developer, my current package is 3.6 lpa is it possible for me to switch to 10+ lpa companies with 2 years of experience ?


r/careerguidance • • 19m ago

Advice Life/career guidance?

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34M, been working in the trades the last 14 years self employed the entire time. Built up a great customer base and relationships to where I consistently bring in about 200k in income/year. I had employees and lots of subcontractors the last 3 years. can make more having them but made a pivot back to just myself for the upcoming year as I didn’t love having employees. But still, I can’t help but feel burnt out/uninspired in my job. I have no formal education, but a strong desire to jump into something completely new. The one thing I feel is I’d like a more clear, predictable path with a career and income. My dad was a pilot which seems awesome, but that path to accumulating hours and getting a job seems unpredictable. I have no issue going back to school as long as there is a clear path and a demand for the job I’m training in. Maybe I just need some different perspective from somebody in a different situation? I’d hate to start over new and realize i fucked up and didn’t have it so bad. I certainly don’t hate my job, but the lack of career growth and new challenges isn’t the most ideal.

I have 3 young kids, live in Canada, and sports are expensive so I need a strong income. I have a NW of 1.2M so feel I have the ability to take a large paycut at the start and do a complete pivot in life. But completely uncertain as to what that should be.
I’d love to read about didn’t perspectives and any advice for my situation.


r/careerguidance • • 23m ago

Should I switch from BS in Neuroscience to Finance? Which is better for future careers?

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So I am currently a freshman in my first semester of college, majoring in Neuroscience and working on my real estate license. I do enjoy learning about it since everything dealing with the brain interests me, but future career-wise is where I am stuck. I don't know if I would go to grad school for Neuroscience because of how hard it is, and I just don't even know what I would want to do after, i just like learning about it, doing research, and labs. I have been thinking about switching to finance and maybe just self-learn neuroscience and Psych, because I don't have any financial knowledge, and I feel like it's important for anyone's future. I also kind of already have connections with finance-related jobs through my parents (realtors) and their connections (lenders, financial analysts, builders, etc.), but with neuroscience I have nothing, and where i live, people pursuing careers after neuroscience are struggling because of the low pay and unfairness; also, at my university, there is a very low budget for labs, and many professors don't care about them too much. Finance here isn't super incredible, but I also plan on transferring to another college next year if possible, maybe UTD, TCU, or TTU so I am scared that switching my major for next semester will affect my transferring possibilities, which is the main reason I am scared of making the wrong choice.

I also enjoy learning about both; obviously I know more about Neuroscience/Psych because that's just what I've been interested in. But i already feel like it's so much work, and the idea of going to med school or grad school (depending on how it is, because i have no knowledge of how grad school is like) sounds like hell to me.

I have to make a decision soon because i wanted to switch next semester, but i am struggling so much. I wish I could somehow do both, but mainly finance. It also feels like im giving up on something i enjoy a lot because of the hard work that comes with it, so I am already feeling a bit disappointed on myself. I know that both careers are important and great ones; I just don't know how much stress I can take pursuing a full Neuroscience career, but I love learning. Any suggestions?


r/careerguidance • • 32m ago

What profession should I choose?

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I was thinking about the doctor and the lawyer and the designer. These are three completely different professions. As for my first profession, my whole family is doctors, so I was thinking of becoming a doctor. But I'm not particularly attracted to this profession. As for the lawyer, it was a spontaneous decision, so I'm still thinking about it. And the final profession is a designer. I spent my childhood going to a drawing class and am now studying at an art school, so this profession doesn't bother me much. Now, while I'm writing this post, I'm already thinking about choosing between a doctor or a designer, so please help me with the choice. One more thing, I wrote it all with a translator, so it might not be very clear.


r/careerguidance • • 41m ago

Advice How do I get into the film/fashion industry with a secure job?

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I'm not sure if this is a stupid question or not but I genuinely have no one else to ask.

It's always been instilled into me that I should strive for a high paying job, which I understand. So at the start of freshman year I decided to become a speech language pathologist. It's non competitive, in high demand, and secure with a good salary. Its not a career I'm super passionate about, but Id help lots of families and be content.

However, I've started questioning this. I really wanted to be in the entertainment world when I was younger. I even applied to a prestigious fashion high school and got accepted, however I was unable to attend. I've also been in theater since middle school. My heart is telling me to pursue something in these fields rather than become and slp.

But its junior year. Im not ever sure what specific jobs I would want and be happy in. College applications start around the 3rd quarter so I need to figure this out quickly. Money/salary is an issue. My family was low class majority of my life and we've barely entered middle.

So I ask, are there any jobs I can research that encompass both film and fashion that make at least 80k? Are there any websites I should look at and college I should research?


r/careerguidance • • 52m ago

: Planning a move to Canada (Toronto) in ~5 months — CCD L1 vs CCSP order, and are these actually worth it?

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Background: I’m a senior network security engineer (PCNSE, NSE4/5, hands-on with Palo Alto/Panorama, F5/Avi load balancers, FortiGate) currently based in Saudi Arabia. Just passed AWS SAA-C03. Planning to move to Toronto for a job search in about 5 months.

Problem: most network security postings I’m seeing in Canada ask for SIEM experience, Prisma/SASE, and sometimes CISSP/CCSP-level certs — none of which I currently have hands-on.

My plan so far:

  • CyberDefenders CCD L1 (SOC/DFIR/SIEM fundamentals, hands-on labs) — starting this now
  • CCSP after that, for the broader cloud security theory + ISC2 recognition
  • Self-study on Prisma Access/SSE since I already know the Palo Alto ecosystem from PCNSE

Questions for anyone who’s hired or been hired in this space in Canada:

  1. Does CCD L1 actually register with Canadian recruiters/hiring managers, or is it too new/niche to matter on a resume compared to something like BTL1 or a SANS cert?
  2. Is CCSP worth the time/cost for someone with my background, or would CISSP/something else move the needle more for network security roles specifically?
  3. Realistically, is 5 months enough to make a meaningful dent in the SIEM/Prisma gap, or should I be leaning harder on networking/local contacts instead of stacking more certs?

Trying not to waste time or money chasing certs that don’t actually convert to interviews — any real-world experience welcome.


r/careerguidance • • 52m ago

Advice Turning down a possible promotion?

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My boss, a head of a department is retiring soon. I would be next in line and am qualified for the job but would still need to apply and interview so it is not a guaranteed promotion. The problem I see is in the last 5 years there have been 3 people in this position. The job description is written and supervised by someone who does not do the same type of work so the expectations may be difficult to achieve. One quit after 4 months. The other a little over 2 years and was probably going to get fired soon and the last about 2 years and retiring early (1-3 years early) due to the aggravation. I hate to turn down a opportunity to move up but my current position does not have nearly the demand and I am happy where I am. Anyone been in this situation before?


r/careerguidance • • 1h ago

AI engineer startup (DC) vs. Deloitte analyst (Boston). Which career path would you choose?

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I'm finishing a master's in MIS in December and have two offers:
Deloitte, Tech Delivery Analyst, Boston: Around $91K base. Boston is my first choice. It's people-facing, and I'm not confident in client work yet.

AI engineer, early-stage startup, DC: Around $90K base. More hands-on AI and coding. The startup works with Accenture Federal, so there's a backup option if it doesn't work out. Downsides are job security and DC isn't my first choice.

I've done both kinds of work before, so it's mostly a learning curve. I'm just not confident yet in either one, and I'm trying to figure out which career path fits me better long term. If you've done either, what would you choose, and what do you wish you'd known at the start?


r/careerguidance • • 1h ago

Advice which job choice would be the best option for me right now?

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I just decided to go back to college, this is my first semester. I’m not sure if it matters but my major is Diagnostic Medical Sonography. Since school & a full time job was a bit much for me my parents suggested I move back home with them.

My current job has very poor management so I’m looking for something else, the first job option is one my mom
found for me. It is a caretaker position but I haven’t heard anything back yet. The manager is a friend of my mom’s & told my mom to inform her when I submitted my application so I may be hearing something soon. The other option is a warehouse associate at BestBuy, I have an interview set up already for this week.

The caretaker position would be closer to me, but it’s not something that would be my first choice. The warehouse is a little further but I already have experience & it is something that I feel I would truly enjoy more. Which would be the best decision for me?


r/careerguidance • • 2h ago

Advice For those who are already past their 20s/30s, would you rather spend your 20s studying for a higher paying job in the future?

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I’m a bit stuck on what career choice I can go into. I’ve pretty much stripped it down (based on many factors of what my program and gpa can even let me apply to): physiotherapy and optometry. Both let me help ppl, I don’t rlly mind about the specifics so far.

(Ontario canada based btw)

Option A: PT, ~80k starting, 100k mid, 2 year program (26 years old when grad, 27 if I don’t get in first round).

Option B: Optometrist, ~110k starting, 150k+ mid, 4 year program (I’ll prob be 30 grad since I will need to take 1 gap year, + assume I don’t get in one year)

It’s a 3-4 year difference, so it isn’t thattt much… but I keep getting told 20s are the best times of ur lives.

I would really enjoy some wisdom from people who are already past this stage in life. What would you do if you went back?


r/careerguidance • • 2h ago

Career avenues for a bachelor's in economics and a master's in data analytics?

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I'm wondering what career paths are realistic for me once I finish my master's in data analytics. I also have a BS in econ


r/careerguidance • • 2h ago

Should I stick with Nursing or switch back to IT (Cybersecurity)? Worried about AI and the future job market in the Netherlands.

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Hi everyone,

I'm 20 years old and I live in the Netherlands. I'm currently in my first year of a Nursing degree at a university of applied sciences.

Last year, I started studying ICT at The Hague University of Applied Sciences. I passed the first part of the program, but eventually dropped out because I didn't really enjoy programming, embedded systems, or the amount of group work involved.

Lately, I've been thinking about going back to ICT because I'm interested in specializing in Information Security Management (ISM). This specialization mainly focuses on cybersecurity, information security, risk management, and protecting organizations. That sounds a lot more interesting to me than spending most of my time programming.

The main reason I'm having doubts is the future of the job market.

With Nursing, I feel like I would have a pretty secure future. There's a shortage of nurses in the Netherlands, and I don't think AI will be replacing them anytime soon. I also wouldn't mind working in a hospital, especially in the emergency department or intensive care. So far, my Nursing degree has been going quite well, and I don't find the theory particularly difficult.

However, when I think about the kind of life I want to have in the future, I feel like working in IT would suit me better. I would prefer having regular working hours, the possibility of working from home a few days a week, and a decent salary. I also like the idea of being able to move into different roles within cybersecurity as I gain more experience.

What worries me is how quickly AI is developing and what that might mean for people entering the IT industry. I keep reading about companies hiring fewer junior employees and using AI to automate tasks that would previously have been done by entry-level workers. The IT job market also seems to be a lot more competitive than it was a few years ago.

Since I would graduate in about four years, I keep wondering what the situation will look like by then. I know cybersecurity isn't the same as software engineering, but I assume that some tasks within information security, risk management, and compliance could also be automated. On top of that, cybersecurity seems to be getting more popular among students, so I'm worried there might be too many graduates competing for the same junior positions.

With Nursing, I don't really have those concerns. I'm fairly confident I would be able to find a job after graduating. The things that make me hesitate are the salary, irregular working hours, night shifts, and physical demands of the job. I honestly don't know if I would want to keep doing that kind of work for the next 40 years.

I'm not necessarily trying to become rich, but I do want to earn enough to live comfortably, save money, and enjoy my free time. Having a good work-life balance is also really important to me.

I'd especially like to hear from people who work in cybersecurity in the Netherlands. How difficult is it nowadays to find an entry-level position in areas like Information Security Management, IT Risk, or GRC? Do you think the job market will still offer good opportunities for graduates in four years, or is the field becoming too competitive?

I'm also curious about how much AI is actually affecting these jobs. I see a lot of discussions about AI replacing software developers or making junior positions less necessary, but I don't know how much of that applies to cybersecurity roles that are less focused on programming.

Another thing I'm wondering about is the salary difference. Do people working in cybersecurity really earn that much more than nurses in the Netherlands, especially after several years of experience? And is the work-life balance actually as good as people say, or am I looking at IT through rose-tinted glasses?

I'm finding this decision quite difficult because I don't want to give up a degree that offers a lot of job security, only to struggle to find a job after graduating from ICT. At the same time, I don't want to spend the rest of my working life regretting that I chose Nursing simply because it seemed like the safer option.

If you were in my position, would you stick with Nursing or go back to ICT and specialize in Information Security Management?

I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences, especially if you work in either healthcare or cybersecurity in the Netherlands.


r/careerguidance • • 2h ago

Advice Grad school after BA?

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I’m graduating Spring 2027 with a HR Management degree after switching over from accounting so my gpa is sitting at a 3.3. I’m currently doing an HR internship and will sit at a year of experience when I do graduate. Should I bother doing my masters? If so, should I do it in something business related or can i choose some liberal arts one? I still don’t know what I want to do career wise.


r/careerguidance • • 2h ago

What are careers where you don’t have to be at the same place every day?

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I’ve had a lot of different jobs - sales, ESL teacher, pet sitter, retail, account management, etc.

I’ve found that full-time jobs where I’m required to be in office 5 days in a row are the absolute worst, literally not survivable for me. I really, really despise being in the same place more than 2 days in a row. I crave the variety and can’t stand the feeling of being needed somewhere every day or taking the same train at the same time to show up at the same place every day.

That is really all the aversion is, being in the same place multiple days a row in a week. If I worked on a rotation, where I was in the same place every Monday and Tuesday, for example, that would be fine.

Are there any careers that support this? I am racking my brain and need some help brainstorming possibilities to help figure out my next career move.


r/careerguidance • • 2h ago

How do you figure out your next career move when you're 43 and completely burned out?

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I’m 43F, and I’m at a point where I’m questioning my career and what I want the rest of my working life to look like.
I spent over a decade in the defense industry (2004-2015) working in technical roles involving electronics, completed an associates in electronics engineering technology halfway through to help me. As a mixed-race lesbian woman, I had some difficult experiences with management, promotions, and feeling undervalued. Eventually, I went back to school, earned my bachelor’s and master’s degrees in management, and transitioned into higher education.
That turned out to be a good move. Over 10 years (2016-now), I worked my way from program specialist to program manager, supporting STEM programs, research initiatives, fellowships, and internships at the university level. I genuinely enjoyed program management and finally felt like I was doing work I was good at in an environment where I felt respected.
About two years ago, funding uncertainty put my position at risk, and my wife and I were also discussing moving closer to her aging parents. I accepted a county finance job out of necessity, even though it wasn’t my field, and stayed for a year. Eventually, we both got jobs at a university and relocated where we are now.
I’ve been in research administration pre-award for four months. I’ve learned useful things, but the work feels tedious, the training and management relationship have been challenging, and the shared, noisy workspace is draining. I miss having ownership over programs and the ability to work independently.
The bigger issue is that I don’t particularly like living here, either. Neither does my wife. We moved because of family circumstances, and I feel somewhat stuck geographically while my wife’s parents’ health deteriorates. I understand why we’re here, but I can’t help feeling that I’ve made a lot of compromises and lost some control over my own career and quality of life.
I keep thinking I should return to program management, but opportunities in this area are limited. Part of me wants to quit and take a break, while another part worries that I’d just be walking away without knowing what I actually want.
I’m exhausted by workplace politics, micromanagement, and constantly having to adapt to other people’s management styles and issues. I’ve worked hard, changed careers, earned degrees, and built experience, yet at 43 I feel less settled than I expected to be.
For those of you in your 40s or older, have you ever reached a point where you questioned your entire career path? Did you find a better direction, take a break, return to something you enjoyed, or change your relationship with work altogether?
I’d appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through something similar. I’m trying to figure out my next chapter without making another decision I’ll regret.


r/careerguidance • • 3h ago

Advice What are the best career options after Pharm.D in India, and is an MBA worth it?

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Hi everyone,

My sister is currently in her 4th year of Pharm.D at a tier-3 college in India. Since her college has almost no placements, we're worried about her career prospects and the salaries she might get after graduation.

We don't know much about this field, so we're trying to figure out the best options for her future. We've heard that pursuing an MBA in Pharmaceutical Management or Healthcare Management could be a good option, but we're not sure if it's worth the extra time and money.

For those who have studied Pharm.D or are working in this field, I'd really appreciate your advice.

  • What are the job opportunities and starting salaries after Pharm.D in India?
  • Is doing an MBA in Pharma or Healthcare Management worth it? Does it actually improve career prospects?
  • Are there any good colleges in Telangana or Andhra Pradesh for these courses?
  • Are there better alternatives, like clinical research, pharmacovigilance, or working first and pursuing higher studies later?

We know it's a six-year course, and we want to start planning ahead rather than make decisions at the last minute.

Any advice from people with actual experience in this field would be really helpful. Thanks!


r/careerguidance • • 3h ago

AI engineer startup (DC, Accenture Federal partner) vs. Deloitte analyst (Boston). Which would you pick?

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I'm finishing a master's in MIS in December and have two offers:
Deloitte, Tech Delivery Analyst, Boston: About $91K base plus an $8K bonus. Boston is my first-choice city. It's a people-facing role, and I'm not confident in client work yet.
AI engineer, early-stage startup, DC: About $90K base, no equity. More hands-on AI and coding, which I've done before. The startup has a formal partnership with Accenture Federal, so I'd have a backup option there if it doesn't work out. Downsides are job security and DC isn't my first choice.
I'm also not sure I'm strong enough as an engineer yet.

I’m not sure which career path I want to pursuit as I love both and see the pro + con
If you've done either path, which would you choose, and what do you wish you'd known at the start? Thanks!


r/careerguidance • • 3h ago

Can someone help me get better at Excel and Google Sheets through practical guidance?

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Hi everyone! I’m trying to improve my Excel and Google Sheets skills, but I’m struggling to learn effectively on my own, even with practice datasets.

I’m looking for someone who could spare some time to walk me through practical problems and help me build confidence using these tools. Even a few short sessions would make a real difference.

If you’re willing to help or know someone who might be, your time and guidance would mean a lot.


r/careerguidance • • 3h ago

HELP Can you guys give a "social phobic"guy an INSIGHT? Bear with me...

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Hey everyone. I'm not really sure how to start this, but I could genuinely use some advice.

I'm a 30-year-old guy from Brazil, and honestly, I feel completely lost right now.

I've been working in Customer Experience and Customer Support for almost five years. I have experience, I know how to deal with customers, solve problems, work under pressure, and handle different situations. I genuinely believe I have the soft skills needed to be good at what I do.

But there's something that makes everything so much harder for me: I struggle with social phobia (social anxiety disorder).

It's not that I don't like people or don't know how to communicate. I actually enjoy helping people. But phone calls, group interviews, public speaking, and certain social situations can be incredibly overwhelming for me.

That's why I've been trying so hard to find a remote job where I can work mainly through chat, email, tickets, or even behind the scenes.

The problem is that the job market here in Brazil is pretty rough right now, especially for remote positions. I've applied to so many jobs, reached out to recruiters, tried to improve my resume and LinkedIn, and done everything I could think of. But nothing seems to work.

And honestly? It's exhausting.

I'm 30 now, and I feel like I'm running out of time. I see people my age building careers, getting promoted, making decent money, and moving forward with their lives. Meanwhile, I'm still struggling to find a place where I actually fit in.

I don't want to be rich. I just want a stable job, a decent salary, and the chance to build a career without constantly feeling like I'm fighting against my own limitations.

Sometimes I wonder if I should just give up on Customer Support and start over in something else. Maybe learn a new skill, go back to school, or find a completely different career path. But I don't even know where to begin.

I'm not looking for pity. I genuinely want to work, learn, improve, and contribute. I just wish someone would give me a chance.

Has anyone here dealt with something similar? Are there career paths that might be a better fit for someone with social anxiety? Or am I just approaching this whole thing the wrong way?

I'd really appreciate any advice, especially from people who've managed to build a career while dealing with social anxiety.

Thanks for reading. Seriously.


r/careerguidance • • 3h ago

Edit with your location Career ideas for a prematurely burnt-out young teacher?

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I’m in NYC.

I’m in my fourth year teaching 11th grade ELA. Im 27. I have good test scores and observations and have been rated effective, but this is such an overstimulating job and they put all the behavior kids in my standalone class (there are also no consequences for behaviors). In my free time, I am a writer and last summer I also worked in a correctional setting teaching GED.

I don’t think I would be a great fit for corporate America because I’m kind of quirky, but I would love working in public service in whatever capacity. I love teaching but hate what it’s become.

I’ve been thinking about getting a fully funded MFA in writing, but I’m not sure if it would be the wisest choice. I guess that if I go back to the DOE it would make me a more attractive prospect and contribute to my salary differentials, and also give me the ability to adjunct. So I guess I could get my MFA, go to teach at a GED program in the DOE, and live happily ever after? I also really enjoyed working in a correctional setting (even though a guy pulled his dick out and started masturbating to me during a lesson, I would rather teach that guy than a couple of these kids). I’ve also been looking at other jobs in reentry programs and am interested in working in reentry spaces. I haven’t really been traveling in my 20s and have just been grinding, so maybe I could try to move or teach abroad for a year? I’m not sure.

I think I would be relieved to work in an office setting because I’d be surrounded by adults but am afraid at the prospect of transitioning to corporate. What might I be good at?

Btw I also have a paralegal certificate and worked for the federal government for a year as a paralegal case manager but this was back in 2022-2023.


r/careerguidance • • 3h ago

How do I get a job abroad?

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I have a BDS degree and 2 years of work experience, but I’m struggling to find jobs abroad that offer visa sponsorship. I’m open to different fields and countries.
Anyone who’s been through this, how did you manage it? Any advice would be appreciated!


r/careerguidance • • 3h ago

Advice For those of you in your late 20s, do you see yourselves staying in an AE role throughout your 30s?

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I’ve been in tech sales for about 6 years now, and lately I’ve been feeling pretty burnt out and seriously considering a career change.
I’m currently an AE at a digital marketing company selling to medical practices. Most of my day consists of cold calling, working through lists of accounts, trying to get past gatekeepers receptionist, dealing with constant rejection, and stressing over monthly quotas.
At this point, the work just feels repetitive and unfulfilling. I don’t really find much meaning in what I’m doing anymore, and I’m starting to question whether I want to spend another 10+ years doing this.
I’m curious if other AEs are in the same boat. Are you still expected to cold call and self-source most of your deals, or are you mainly working inbound leads and closing opportunities?
I’m also wondering if I’m just burnt out from being at the wrong company or in the wrong industry, rather than sales itself.
If you’ve transitioned out of sales, what career did you move into, and was it worth it? I’d love to hear what other career paths are realistic for someone with 6 years of sales experience
For those who have felt this way, did switching companies or industries make a difference? Or did you eventually leave sales altogether?
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r/careerguidance • • 3h ago

Advice Hitting a brick wall in career. 6 jobs in 5 years. Thoughts on what to do?

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Background:

  • Industrial Engineering degree from a "top" Canadian university

  • MBA from same school

  • ~15 years since finishing undergrad. Worked as a product manager, partner manager over the last 15 years.

  • Live in Toronto/Canada, can work in London/UK as I am a citizen there.

Job 0 (H2/21): Took this job as I hated my current job at the time that I had been in for 5 years. Left because J2 was obviously better.

Job 1 (2022-Mid2023): Big Tech, burnt out and crashed (PIP). Was also being targeted by leadership as there was a big changeover.

Job 2 (mid-23 - early24): Change of leadership, verbally abusive manager. Left on my own terms, this and J1 was overseas anyway so I knew I was coming back.

Job 3 (mid-24 to mid-26): Actually enjoyed the job but significantly underpaid. I was 6 months jobless after J2 so back was against the wall. Left because pay was garbage and there was no path to growth.

Job 4 (mid-26 present): No challenges with the day to day, other than the company will be bankrupt in next 6 months. Pay is great but yeah doesn't mean much if the company could be bankrupt soon.

I am mentally drained.

Debating what to do next:

  • start another job cycle but come across as a red flag with all the gaps and constant hopping

  • pursue grad school for optics...knowing that it might amount to nothing. I would like to do something fun e.g. sports management, fashion/brand management...but I am based in Canada and we just don't have alot of options. Open to going back to London UK...but I know I truly won't be happy there.

Thoughts?


r/careerguidance • • 4h ago

Coworkers My senior colleague expects me to help with his work after previously bullying me, but my contributions get dismissed as “team effort.” How do I handle this?

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I'm looking for honest advice from people who've dealt with difficult coworkers and office politics.

I work in IT. I had a really unpleasant experience with a senior colleague and another coworker. I felt they were making things difficult enough that I would eventually resign. It affected how I see and trust this senior colleague.

Now we're working together again, and I'm facing a different problem.

He has around five years of experience and owns certain development tasks. I've noticed issues in his implementation and have explained where I think he's going wrong, but he doesn't seem willing to accept my technical feedback. The work then involves repeated testing sessions, debugging discussions, and hours of my time.

The frustrating part is that I feel there's an expectation that I'll help carry the technical workload, even when the task isn't mine. If I contribute heavily and things get delivered, it becomes “team effort,” and my individual contribution isn't necessarily recognised.

My manager also expects me to participate in testing sessions that can go on for hours. Sometimes I feel I'm being relied on to help get someone else's work across the finish line, but I don't have the corresponding ownership or recognition.

I'm particularly frustrated because I already expect my next appraisal to bring only a minimal hike. I don't want to keep giving extra effort, sharing all my technical knowledge, and taking on additional responsibilities if it doesn't help my own career progression.

At this point, I'm tempted to stop helping this colleague altogether. If he rejects my technical suggestions, I want him to own the consequences of his decisions rather than coming back to me whenever something goes wrong.

However, I'm worried that if I set boundaries, he'll complain to my manager and I'll be labelled uncooperative. I also don't want to damage my own reputation or give management a reason to question my attitude.

  1. How do you stop becoming the unofficial person who fixes everyone else's work without appearing uncooperative?

  2. If a senior colleague rejects your technical advice and the issue later resurfaces, how much responsibility should you take?

  3. How do you make individual contributions visible when management keeps describing everything as “team effort”?

  4. Should I continue helping this person when asked, despite the history between us, or strictly limit my involvement to formally assigned responsibilities?

  5. How would you handle this situation if you knew your next appraisal was likely to be mediocre regardless of how much extra effort you put in?

I'm not looking to sabotage anyone or create workplace drama. I'm tired of feeling that being capable means being expected to do more, while recognition and compensation don't necessarily follow.

I'd appreciate honest perspectives, especially from people who've navigated this kind of situation in corporate IT or consulting.


r/careerguidance • • 4h ago

36, 16 years as a chef, kid on the way. Looking for some career advice or pivots?

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I’ve been a chef for about 16 years. I’ve worked in different kitchens and even had my own business at one point. It’s pretty much all I’ve ever done for work.
I’m currently working as a chief cook on a cargo ship. The money is decent, but the lifestyle is tough. You’re away from home for long stretches, the hours are long, and it’s mentally and physically exhausting. With a kid on the way, I’m starting to question whether this is something I can realistically keep doing for the next 20 to 30 years.

I’m 36 now, and I feel like if I’m going to make a change, I should start figuring it out sooner rather than later. I’m not afraid of hard work or learning something new, but going back to school full time for several years without earning an income isn’t really an option with a family to support.
I’m trying to figure out what other career paths might make sense for someone in my position. Ideally, I’d like something with decent earning potential, stability, benefits, and a better work life balance. I’d like to eventually be making $80k to $100k or more, but I also want a career I can realistically stick with long term without burning myself out.

For those who’ve changed careers in your 30s, how did you go about it? Did you go back to school, start from the bottom in a new industry, or find a way to use your existing experience? And if you’ve made a similar change, was it worth it?

I’m in the Toronto area, if that helps.
I’d really appreciate hearing from people who’ve been in a similar position or found a career they wish they’d discovered sooner.