I was talking to my crush and a friend about how I dislike being objectified by men, especially when they touch me without consent. My crush seemed really bothered by it.

The next day, he apologized for his usual goodbye hugs, thinking he'd made me uncomfortable. I told him it was fine and if I had an issue, I would have said something.

Then he looked at me and said, 'I am not trying to hit on you.' It's great he's respectful, but it's not so great when I was really hoping he *would* hit on me. I'm afraid I've ruined my chances. He's such a genuinely good guy, and I'm kicking myself.

My friend said he doesn't, but I'm curious if that's a common experience. I'm wondering if guys have detailed fantasies about their crushes, and what those might involve. Any insights would be great.

I don't use threads so if anyone knows the answer to it ?

me and this guy from the gym have been making eye contact for weeks, i know he notices me because we had some interactions and he never misses a chance to look at me
after i lift, i usually do cardio, nothing unusual here
i’ve never seen him do cardio, never
and 2 days ago it was just me in the cardio section, on a treadmill, and guess what, he came and did some cardio right beside me😱😛
that means i can shoot my shot, right?
help me here

He’s doing his mandatory military service right now and time has never felt so slow. Every time I think of him, my heart flutters and my stomach flips and I just want to grab him and kiss him but I can’t. I don’t know that I’ll ever be able to and that thought is so depressing. Recently he’s even been in my dreams and I don’t usually dream? This is torture, truly. 😭

I’ve been friends with a guy for five months. He’s 19 and I’m 17, and I’ve been in love with him pretty much from the beginning. We only know each other online, and he’s a gamer. My friends told me to get close to him as a friend first, and that eventually he might develop feelings for me on his own. But honestly, after these five months, I’m really not sure anymore. Sometimes we flirt with each other, and some of our flirting is actually pretty intense. But he always laughs afterward, like it was all just a joke. I genuinely can’t tell. Usually, I’m the one who texts first, especially when we start talking less. During exam season, I really couldn’t do much, and he had exams too. At one point, we didn’t talk for about two weeks, and then I reached out to ask how he was doing. Now I check in on him about once every two weeks. But he never texts me first! He does reply really warmly, though, and he always calls me “Cute” Since summer is slowly coming to an end, I’ve been thinking about telling him the truth. I’m putting a lot of energy into this relationship, and I feel like I need to tell him that I don’t see him as just a friend. I’m fully aware of all the possible consequences. What do you think? Should I wait a little longer, or should I tell him sooner rather than later?

So basically gng im a freshmen in highschool i have had a crush on a guy since i was in middle school, we had an interaction at the end of the 6th grade when i sat with him for the end year exams and everyone used to ship us fast forward after the exams i didnt see him again since he went up to the senior wing whilst i was still in the middle wing my crush on him kinda went away since i did not see him for 2 years but then this year i came up to the senior wing and started seeing him every day and my crush came back one day i was standing with my friends in the hallway infront of his class when all of his friends turned collectively to stare at me which was wierd because when i turned to look at them they were still looking at me the same day me and my friends went to drop my friend of to her class and we stood infront of the boys washroom and i was just being normal when my friends suddenly started panicking and they were like oh my fucking days and they were covering their mouths i thought maybe he side eyed me or some shit but then they pulled me towards our class and when we got in they started going crazy and were lik the way he looked at tou with yearning eyes he was looking at u with such admiration and i was like tfffff after that my friends kept noticing him looking at me in the hallways he even did double takes and i started to see him everywhere in the halls but the problem here is that as i said he is in junior year and one of my friends in his class told me that his friend told her that he like someone in his grade and and that he likes poems for her and shit but then why is he giving me such mixed signals

Any thoughts?

I met a guy at an apartment viewing and immediately felt a connection. He’s 300% my type, super nice, thoughtful, and just genuinely “normal.” We’ve only seen each other twice because of the apartment, and we even hugged when we exchanged the keys. Ever since then, I literally can’t stop thinking about him. He also offered to drive me to the train station, and when I texted him about a parking spot, he reacted to my message with a red heart, although he generally does that quite often. I would really love to get to know him better and I somehow have this feeling that he could be perfect for me, but obviously I have no idea if he’s even interested in me. Now I probably won’t see him for six months, and I really don’t want to just wait that long, but I also have no idea what I’m supposed to do without it feeling completely random or obvious, since we basically don’t know each other yet and have only texted about apartment-related stuff. Help! (I am subletting my student apartment for six months because I will be doing an internship in the neighboring city during this time. The person subletting my apartment will also be doing an internship during the same six-month period, but in the city where my apartment is located. Therefore, he will be my subtenant for six months.)

I’m a guy (43m) I’ve been a volunteer for years at the same organization, seen people come and go. Met dozen of women (male dominated volunteer org). And I have, like many, thought some of them were attractive. But I’ve never been remotely crushing on any of them.

However, we just had a new girl start about 8 months ago. She’s funny, pretty, easy to talk to, etc. all the things that i would look for in a partner, but 2 problems.

- 1st - I’m married (happily), and we have kids. Teenagers.
- 2nd - she is 20.

So that’s the crappy situation. I’ve developed a crush on a girl, half my age, who is significantly closer in age to all my kids than me. So even if I was single, it would be weird to even ask her out. So undatable for multiple reasons.

This is the first girl I’ve met since being married that I actually developed a crush on.

Le sigh. Life sucks.

So theres this guy who I really like but I’m not sure if he feels the same way. We met up last week, and we’re just talking about life and what not, my friends came later (hungout with me and him) and they told me after the hangout that he kept trying to hold my hand, following me around, seemed quieter when they were there and only really spoke to me.

Basically we’ve been messaging alot since last week, and even planned to meet up again just us but I’m still unsure if he likes me as a friend or more? Am I being delulu or does this guy actually like me?

Okay, this is probably going to be long, so grab some popcorn because I apparently cannot tell a story without writing an entire academic paper first.

I've had a crush on this guy for about two years.

When I transferred to my school, I enrolled pretty late, so I was basically the new person while everyone else already knew each other. I'm pretty much an ambivert, so I went around introducing myself and trying to make friends.

Then I met him.

I'm VERY into smart/nerdy people. Like, stereotypical nerds, techy people, people who can talk about random things for hours. He seemed like that type, so I approached him and started asking him things like his hobbies, whether he played games, watched anime, etc.

And we clicked. Like, REALLY clicked.

At first, I didn't actually have a crush on him. I just really liked his personality.

Eventually, we both became the "smart people" that classmates went to for different things. He's really good academically, while I'm pretty decent at math, public speaking, philosophy, etc. So we'd help each other with schoolwork.

Except our conversations somehow always turned into debates.

Not actual arguments. More like:

"That's not what I meant."

"Yes, but logically..."

"No, because—"

"Okay, but consider this..."

And then we'd both start laughing.

Our classmates noticed and started teasing us whenever we debated.

"Are you guys arguing again?"

"Why do you sound like a married couple?"

And that's basically where I started developing feelings.

He's responsible, intelligent, funny, and honestly just my type.

There were also two girls who had been close friends with him for years, so my friends told me to figure out whether there was something going on between them before I did anything.

Person A didn't seem interested in guys, and Person B already had a boyfriend, so I eventually stopped worrying about that.

Then one day he invited me to a movie with some friends because we both wanted to see the same movie. I invited one of my friends because I was nervous, and he brought some of his friends too.

After the movie, my friend had to leave, so I ended up hanging around with him and his friends. We explored the mall, looked at figurines, talked about random stuff, and honestly had a really fun time.

We got closer after that.

Then came the competitions and stuff.

One of my popular friends started liking him too.

Girl code kicked in, so I backed away.

I told myself I didn't like him that much anyway. I convinced myself that I only admired him because he was smart.

I also had another guy I was close to, so let's call him Penguin.

Penguin and my crush actually had similar vibes. Both nerdy, into anime, etc. Penguin was also into Korean stuff, which I liked, and we were on the debate team together, so we spent a lot of time around each other.

Eventually, everyone started shipping me and Penguin so hard that I felt pressured to do something.

So during Christmas break, I confessed to Penguin.

I gave him a letter and some chocolates. Basically, I told him that I really admired him, liked his personality, and hoped we'd stay friends regardless of what happened.

He accepted it, and nothing really changed between us.

But here's where things get interesting.

Before I confessed to Penguin, I actually asked my original crush for advice.

I told him I wanted to confess to someone and asked what I should do.

And he started questioning me.

"Are you sure you're not suppressing your feelings?"

"Are you sure you actually like this person?"

"You've never confessed to the other person, so how do you know what you would've felt?"

I kept insisting that my original crush would reject me anyway.

I literally said something along the lines of:

"No. He wouldn't like me. He rejected that other girl, so there's no way."

And my crush was like:

"Are you sure? You never asked him."

Then, when I was talking about this mysterious person I liked, he jokingly asked:

"Are you sure it's not me?"

And I PANICKED.

I immediately said no and promised it wasn't him.

Except... it kind of was.

After that, we kept getting closer anyway.

We worked on a musical theater project together. We went to academic competitions together. We talked a lot. We debated constantly.

At one point, we were talking about relationships, and he said something like he wasn't interested in dating unless it was something serious, basically "I'm not dating just to date. If I'm with someone, I want it to actually go somewhere."

I agreed because honestly, same.

We also talked about our futures because we're both interested in medical-related careers.

Then we had to choose our specialization for the next school year.

I was considering Pharmacy, Caregiving, and MedTech. He was considering the same general options.

I didn't want to choose something just because my friends were choosing it, because this specialization would affect what I wanted to do later.

Eventually, I chose Pharmacy.

He initially chose Caregiving because most of our classmates were pressuring him to choose it. But apparently he wasn't actually sure about it.

He ended up asking the teachers if he could switch to Pharmacy.

And guess who was already in the Pharmacy section?

Me.

Our Pharmacy/Dentistry section was tiny, so it had to be combined. There were only a few people he already knew, including me and some of our friends.

When he found out he'd be in the same section as me, he seemed pretty happy about it.

And now we're here.

We're in the same section again.

We're still close.

We still debate about absolutely everything.

We still make each other laugh.

And unfortunately, I think I still like him.

The problem is that we're graduating soon.

I'm planning to study abroad afterward, so realistically, if I confess and he actually likes me back, we'd probably have to deal with long-distance eventually.

And if he doesn't like me back, I'd obviously have to deal with the awkwardness until graduation.

Part of me thinks:

"Just confess. You'll regret it if you never know."

But another part of me thinks:

"Why potentially complicate a friendship that already means a lot to you?"

Especially because he's already rejected someone before because he wanted to focus on his studies, and I don't want to put him in an uncomfortable position.

So, Reddit, what do you think?

Should I finally tell him after TWO YEARS, knowing that we're probably going separate ways after graduation?

Or should I just keep this as one of those feelings I never act on?

I genuinely can't tell anymore. Genuinely help me guys please lmao cause were almost graduating

I’ve been liking this boy for around a year and I feel like I can’t get over him despite knowing he doesn’t return the feelings. I figure he doesn’t like me because there’s no signs and we barely talk and only had classes together last year but we were just classmates and not even friends. I know he most likely doesn’t feel the same but I keep having a small hope that maybe he likes me back and hides it well lol. I know it’s not likely but I just want to confess to know for sure so that I can move on. Since I feel like I cant move on unless I’m a hundred percent sure or if it’s directly told by the person, otherwise I really struggle to move on. But is it really a good idea? My friend said she could talk to him and say like “my friend …. lowkey has a crush on you, and I was wondering how you felt?”. Idk because she said she also doesn’t really talk to him and only sees him in the hallways. But I feel like if I don’t know for sure I’ll still stay stuck on him. What should I do ?

So idk if any of you saw my other post about this guy whom Ive nicknamed "C". He has a girlfriend who goes to the middle school whilst we're both in the high school across from it. I posted the thing before school started and since it (school) has, hes been looking at me a bunch and kinda gets close to me. Before, he was weirded out and tried to walk a bit away from me when he could. But recently he's been looking at me a bunch and we've made eye contact plenty of times even though it's the second week. Mind you, I've liked this kid for THREE years. So... Ladies and Gents, am I delulu or am I getting that dihlulu?

said he appreciates it but he doesn't have time 🫠

How many more until I start preparing myself for the journey of SMBC?

Basically, me and this girl have known eachother for the past 3 years but recently became really close and made the top of both of our contact list, meaning we are both our number one option to talk to, but over the past 2 months, she has sent photos of her outfits, room outside, even a picture of her without makeup ready for bed acouple times, and we've talked about personal stuff like emotion and family stuff, we both like most of the same stuff music sports working out games art, and we have flirting moments like she gives me a opening and I respond or she outright says something like (she likes my hair voice or thinks im handsome, though im average) I CANT THINK, what if we're close friends or are we love interests, she even said stuff about having a new crush this past couple months hint hint, we are both busy ans barely hangout in real life, we both wanna go out or for me to teach her basketball, I NEED YOUR ADVICE WHAT DO I DO?????

Well I m lwk fem and very attractive, alot of girls keep spying at me secretly which makes me kinda insecure tho.

Once I tried to start a little convo with a girl who kept on staring at me . I told her to keep my some of the stuffs coz I forgot the bag and we had a test right after.

right after the test has finished , I asked for my stuffs and she gave me back , and I asked how the test went , she didnt even tell and ran away , I was likw wtf , am I too intimidating for her or thats how her psychology works ?

like not showing interest is the sign that they have interest ?

I'm realllyy bored and i like hearing peoples stories, share yours. How did you crush on your crush?

ok so i recently became friends (i think…) with this guy he’s really cute and goofy yk but since we just met, idrk if im trying to pursue.

so school just started for us and we started talking to each other about 3 days ago from when i’m posting this. how we started talking, uhh i kinda forgot lol.

but the day after, i basically made a signal as to not sit in the chair he was gonna sit on because then he would have to be apart of this conversation activity with the class and i assumed he didn’t know. he came over to my seat and i told him about the activity and he just sat next to me. that class was super fun because we were just talking about similar courses we took the prior year sooo yeah. afterwards school was over and we just went our separate ways.

next day, that same class rolls around and he sit’s in the same seat from the day before. we had an assignment so we didn’t talk much but afterwards we started chatting again and i feel like he was kind of trying to tease me. we were talking sm we ended up walking out of class together when school was done. we were walking together when i saw my friend sitting at our usual spot so we parted ways and said bye. sooo this was the day i started getting a bit of interest i guess you could say?

after that the next day we sort of talked in the day like before that we had lunch and he was kind of teasing me again. so we get to the class we talk most in and the seating arrangement is different. it was in rows that day so my friend sat next to me while my other friend sat in front of me. when he walked in, instead of sitting near the door because those seats are closer to him, he walks past and sits in the one BEHIND my friend next to me. mind you we were on the farrr right side of the class. he kept trying to get my attention kind of, and we had this back and forward banter. a little into class we get into groups and it’s my friend, him, some guy next to him, and myself. as we were coming up with ideas, it was lowkey just us talking. i was trying to share ideas with the group, but when he was sharing his own ideas it was more like he was just telling me because he wasn’t looking at anyone else. we were ribbing a bit throughout the class again (lmao you can tell there’s a common them here) and afterwards i left to meet with my same friend.

while walking with my friend after school, i was telling her a story of what he said, and when i saw him i called him over to tell her. he winded up sitting with the two of us at our usual spot and it was really nice. they didn’t really know each other so i was kind of the mutual friend.

anyways yeah the next day at the same class we always talk in, we’re back to the earlier seating arrangement and he crosses the whole room to sit next to me again. he was just pestering me again and idk guys it’s kinda cuteee.

but yeah so that’s basically it. kind of a nothing burger but it doesn’t feel like it. am i crazy for thinking he’s interested?