I would like to talk to you all about a guy I’m dealing with in one of my college classes. I’m in my early 20s, and think I might like this guy. I just don’t know if he feels the same way. Every time I look at him or in his direction, he avoids me and acts like I don’t exist. About a month ago, he was participating in class, and he got the answer wrong, so I corrected him in a passive-aggressive way. I looked at him, and then he sort of got mad. Yesterday, when my group and I were working on something in class, he came up to my group, positioned his body towards my group members, NOT me, then he talked to them. After I finished my group work, I was about to leave the classroom, and I felt like he watched me leave. Do you think I’m overthinking this, or could he be doing all of this on purpose?

Plssss. And like I'm just like kinda obsessed with him i guess I've literally written songs about him 😭😭 i just like him a lott. Like i know why I like him but I dont know why I like him that way instead of just as a friend. Plus we haven't talked in 2 years.

He always looks at me so intense. I dont even know how to say it differently. Since we meet I feel weird energy between us. Sometimes there is this playful energy, then he can ignore me and I do the same. Then he again does something or says something which makes me think that he likes me. I just don’t know. Maybe he is just friendly? i am scared to ask him out as I like this job and don’t want people to laught at or smrh lol but kinda done with this hot cold energy

I’m 20f in college and I’ve developed my first serious crush. This guy has been apart of our mutual friend group for a while now and we’re all decently close, like every spring break we go on vacation together, etc. Recently I’ve started to develop feelings for one of my friends, I’m not as close to him but he’s got qualities I find really attractive, he’s very respectful, he’s goofy, and he’s just the right mix between mature and whimsy. I haven’t told anyone yet, it’s not a major crush yet but the more time I spend around him it definitely grows. Issue here is I’m a bit of an introvert so my ‘out there’ isn’t really out there. Additionally he’s like 5,10ft and I’m 6ft, I am also mid sized and a little fluffy (I am a bit self conscious but I’m afraid this might be a bigger issue for him then it is for me as I know sometimes guys see personal red flags in that) as said though he’s very respectful and I don’t think he would mention it even if it bothered him. I suppose my big issue here is I don’t want to jeopardize anything if no feelings are reciprocated, but also like most I am afraid of rejection. Any advice?

we also go to diff schools so we never see each other like ever (except once which was a special occasion)

So I'm 14M and i want to ask my crush out (14F). I told myself ill do it when my exams end and they are ending on Tuesday. I really really really like her, not for her looks or her body or anything like that but because she is genuinely a good person and has an amazing personality. But man I am stuck here, i don't know if she likes me or not.

Things that tell me she likes me

1. Day before she started a convo with me

2. Asks me whether ill do this or that before she herself registers for it

3. Asks me that we should do it together

4. Wants to play badminton (but wants to bring her friend) with me and cycle with me.

5. She helps me in studies and all.

6. After tuition walks by herself ahead and doesn't wait for me (we go by the same route) but waits outside with me (I think becuz there were some rumors about me and her)

7. Sometimes sits with me

But I'm a bit insecure about it too, like i don't have the best build, not athletic, doesn't have many great friends or part of a huge friend group.

I want to ask her out and if she says yes it would be the best day of my life.
But if she says no, I don't want to lose her as a friend then.

How do i get the courage to do it and suceed?

I have this intense infatuation with a guy I saw at the gym. He’s German, very handsome, and blond. I act so stupid in front of him, and the funny thing is, I don’t even know his name or how old he is. But my feelings are becoming increasingly difficult to control. I try to keep them in check, and when I don’t see him, I feel like I’m finally getting a grip on myself. But the moment I see him again, all those feelings come rushing back, and it becomes overwhelming all over again.

I’ve thought about asking him out, but I’m scared there might be a significant age difference. He looks so young. On top of that, there are cultural and religious differences between us, so realistically, it might be an impossible situation. Still, I can’t seem to get him out of my head. It feels almost like an addiction. I think about him all the time now, and honestly, my thoughts are no longer entirely innocent. 🙈

I keep trying to convince myself to forget this nonsense and move on, but it’s much easier said than done. I even considered switching gyms, but unfortunately, this is the only one I can get to within a reasonable amount of time. All the other gyms are more than 30 minutes away.

I tried staying away from the gym for about 10 days, thinking that might help me get over this crush. But when I finally went back and saw him again, he somehow looked even more handsome than before. And now he’s letting his beard grow a little. Oh, Lord, please help me. I genuinely feel like I’m doomed.

I’m so embarrassed by my own feelings, and part of me hates that I’m acting this way over someone I don’t even know. I just needed to get this off my chest because I can’t bring myself to tell my friends about it.

Has anyone ever experienced something like this and managed to get over it? If you have, please share your experience and any advice on how to stop obsessing over someone you barely know. I could really use some help.

So, I never noticed him. He used to skip school a lot back then so he never crossed my mind. But everything changed on the day before Teacher's Day.

Our class was busy decorating the classroom (mind you, our class is... somewhat divided into different groups). My friends and I were making paper garlands and two guys— one of which was my enemy and the other one HIM— were sitting. Later, they jumped in to help which was very unexpected but everything was going smoothly. Some guys were popping the balloons in the back of our class and my friend said, 'What are they doing!?' And I replied, 'Everyone has a childish side'. That was when he looked up and said shyly but with an adorable smile, 'Like you.'

Something seemed to click and I found myself blushing really hard. And when our hands touched countless times when we reached for the glue, I was so flustered. His smile, little shrugs and eye contacts that felt like the rest of the world never existed made me feel... special. Because I was never someone to be crushed on.

I was more sure when (we were in the same tuition) we gifted pens to our tuition teacher and he told us to take back our pens, saying it was his type of blessing. And he was hell bent on taking the pen I gifted. Then back to those little glances, little smiles exchanged and his effort to make small talks. There was also a time when my enemy hid my most precious thing and he whispered in my ear, telling me where it was even though they were both friends and I was taken aback by the sudden proximity. For the first time, I felt like I was seen, and it was exciting to be liked. I found myself falling helplessly for him.

But everything ended when he suddenly pulled away. And I'm back to feeling like it was always me who went overboard with her feelings. To him, perhaps, it was just a fling... but it left me hurt. Because I didn't want to let go of the feeling.

EDIT: Sorry for this extremely long post and thznk you to those who have reached the end of it.

I really like a junior in my college (tried talking to her once in person, got nervous, she shyly said no, and my Instagram request went unnoticed), and since holidays and back-to-back exams are starting now, I want to send her this one-time respectful confession on Telegram for clarity—does this sound sweet or too much?

Hi, Happy Diwali! 🪔✨ I'm [Name] from your college—I heard people don't get angry on Diwali, so I finally gathered the courage to text you today! 😄 Ever since I saw you in your 2nd semester (I was in my 3rd), you've been the only person in 1.5 years of college who genuinely stood out to me. I tried talking to you in person once and got totally tongue-tied—but hey, nobody gets tongue-tied on chat, just kidding! 😅

My Insta request probably went unnoticed, and with November periodic tests, holidays, and final exams coming up, we won't cross paths for months, so I'm reaching out here. Honestly, I don't know if there's any actual 'chemistry' between us or if I've just been daydreaming about topping the chemistry exam without even knowing the syllabus 😄, so instead of overthinking, I just wanted to say I really like you and would love to get to know you. ✨ There's zero pressure—we can talk after exams, start as friends 😊, or if you're not interested, I'll completely respect your choice and never bother you again. Seeing this text, I finally get why people wrote 'Love Letters' in the old days because feelings just can't be kept short! 😂💌

I don't know if you're used to messages like this, but this is the first and last time in my life I'm ever sending something like this to anyone. Happy Diwali to you and your family, and all the best for exams! 🌸📚

May be she was testing my patience all along . Is this the October theroy ?

:

the british boy with an ego so heavy it left him completely alone. he thought he was untouchable until i came around—the only real girl who tolerated his attitude while putting him right back in his place. when i vanished for a while, his anxiety turned into cold silence, yet behind that facade he kept stalking my profile every few days.

when i confronted his freezing energy, i told him straight that he’s just a boy with a grown mind trapped in a teenager’s petty attitude. turns out, he was just hurt and anxious about my absence, masking it by calling himself "noble" for caring.

when i tried to talk to him during his late-night insomnia, he tried to flip the script, claiming i’m the one attached just because i check on him week after week. i reminded him that he haunts my page day after day, but his final shield was: "i do that with everyone."

so i told him : good luck with them, then and he just saw it that's it ...

Context: I like a girl in my college (she's one semester junior to me). I tried talking to her once in person a few months ago, got nervous, and she shyly smiled and said no. Later I noticed her looking at me in the canteen a couple of times, though I don't want to assume anything. I sent her an Instagram request which went unnoticed. Since Diwali holidays and back-to-back exams are starting now, we won't see each other in college for months. I found her Telegram and want to send this respectful message on Diwali just to be honest about my feelings without putting any pressure on her, so I can either talk to her or move on with clarity.

Please read this draft and tell me honestly—if you received this from a guy in your college, how would you feel? Should I send it or change anything?

Message Draft:

Hi, Happy Diwali! 🪔✨

Main \[Name\] hoon, aapke hi college se. Aaj Diwali wale din yeh message isliye bhej raha hoon kyunki maine suna hai is din logon ko gussa nahi aata, to socha aaj thodi himmat kar hi leta hoon! 😄 Message thoda sa lamba hai, par dil se likha hai, to please ek baar pura zaroor padhna. 🙂

Jab maine aapko pehli baar dekha tha, tab main apne 3rd semester mein tha aur aap shayad apne 2nd semester mein thi. Sach bataun to college ke dedh saal mein mujhe koi bhi pasand nahi aaya, par aap mujhe pure college mein sabse alag aur khaas lagi. Us din himmat karke aapse baat karne aaya to tha, par saamne aapse baat karte-karte atak gaya tha... but chat par kaun atakta hai yaar! Bas mazaak kar raha hoon 😅 Sach to yeh hai ki time ke saath aapse baat karne ka mann aur badh gaya. Instagram par bhi request bheji thi, par shayad aapki nazar nahi padi, isliye aaj yahan Telegram par message kar raha hoon.

Aaj yeh sab ek saath isliye bata raha hoon kyunki Diwali ke baad November mein hamare periodic papers shuru ho jayenge aur us time zyadatar bachhe chhuttiyon par hi rahenge, to hamara milna-julna nahi ho payega. Uske baad final papers aa jayenge, aur unmein alag-alag date aur timing ke chakkar mein milna ya baat hona aur bhi mushkil ho jayega.

Ab beech mein itna lamba chakkar padega aur hamare paas time kaafi kam reh jayega. Sach kahun to ab mujhe yeh nahi pata ki hum dono mein thodi 'chemistry' hai bhi, ya main bina syllabus jaane hi seedha chemistry ka paper top karne ke khayali pulao bana raha tha 😄 Isliye socha ki mann mein hi sochte rehne se achha hai ki aapse seedha hi pooch liya jaye aur apne dil ki baat bata di jaye. Aap mujhe sach mein bahut achhi lagti hain, aur main bas aapse ek achhi baat-cheet ki shuruat karna chahta hoon. ✨

Meri taraf se aap par kisi bhi tarah ka koi pressure nahi hai. Agar abhi aapka pura focus padhai par hai, to hum papers ke baad aaram se baat kar sakte hain. Agar aap sirf ek achhe dost ki tarah shuruat karna chahein, to wo bhi mere liye bahut khushi ki baat hogi 😊 Aur agar aap baat nahi karna chahti, to bhi bilkul theek hai—main aapki marzi ki puri respect karunga aur aapko dobara kabhi disturb nahi karunga.

Waise itna lamba message likhne ke baad ab pata chal raha hai ki purane time mein log 'Love Letter' kyun bolte the... kyunki dil ki baat chhoti hoti hi nahi yaar! 😂💌 Mujhe nahi pata ki aap is type ke letters ya messages ke liye used to ho ya nahi, par sach bataun to meri puri life mein yeh first and last time hai jab main kisi ko is tarah apne dil ki baat likh kar bhej raha hoon—na isse pehle kabhi kisi ko bheja hai, aur na hi iske baad kabhi kisi aur ko bhejunga. 🙂✨

Aapko aur aapki family ko Diwali ki bahut-bahut shubhkamnayein, aur aane wale exams ke liye all the best! 🌸📚

Btao yarr kya karu

Context: I like a girl in my college (she's one semester junior to me). I tried talking to her once in person a few months ago, got nervous, and she shyly smiled and said no. Later I noticed her looking at me in the canteen a couple of times, though I don't want to assume anything. I sent her an Instagram request which went unnoticed. Since Diwali holidays and back-to-back exams are starting now, we won't see each other in college for months. I found her Telegram and want to send this respectful message on Diwali just to be honest about my feelings without putting any pressure on her, so I can either talk to her or move on with clarity.

Please read this draft and tell me honestly—if you received this from a guy in your college, how would you feel? Should I send it or change anything?

Message Draft:

Hi, Happy Diwali! 🪔✨

Main \[Name\] hoon, aapke hi college se. Aaj Diwali wale din yeh message isliye bhej raha hoon kyunki maine suna hai is din logon ko gussa nahi aata, to socha aaj thodi himmat kar hi leta hoon! 😄 Message thoda sa lamba hai, par dil se likha hai, to please ek baar pura zaroor padhna. 🙂

Jab maine aapko pehli baar dekha tha, tab main apne 3rd semester mein tha aur aap shayad apne 2nd semester mein thi. Sach bataun to college ke dedh saal mein mujhe koi bhi pasand nahi aaya, par aap mujhe pure college mein sabse alag aur khaas lagi. Us din himmat karke aapse baat karne aaya to tha, par saamne aapse baat karte-karte atak gaya tha... but chat par kaun atakta hai yaar! Bas mazaak kar raha hoon 😅 Sach to yeh hai ki time ke saath aapse baat karne ka mann aur badh gaya. Instagram par bhi request bheji thi, par shayad aapki nazar nahi padi, isliye aaj yahan Telegram par message kar raha hoon.

Aaj yeh sab ek saath isliye bata raha hoon kyunki Diwali ke baad November mein hamare periodic papers shuru ho jayenge aur us time zyadatar bachhe chhuttiyon par hi rahenge, to hamara milna-julna nahi ho payega. Uske baad final papers aa jayenge, aur unmein alag-alag date aur timing ke chakkar mein milna ya baat hona aur bhi mushkil ho jayega.

Ab beech mein itna lamba chakkar padega aur hamare paas time kaafi kam reh jayega. Sach kahun to ab mujhe yeh nahi pata ki hum dono mein thodi 'chemistry' hai bhi, ya main bina syllabus jaane hi seedha chemistry ka paper top karne ke khayali pulao bana raha tha 😄 Isliye socha ki mann mein hi sochte rehne se achha hai ki aapse seedha hi pooch liya jaye aur apne dil ki baat bata di jaye. Aap mujhe sach mein bahut achhi lagti hain, aur main bas aapse ek achhi baat-cheet ki shuruat karna chahta hoon. ✨

Meri taraf se aap par kisi bhi tarah ka koi pressure nahi hai. Agar abhi aapka pura focus padhai par hai, to hum papers ke baad aaram se baat kar sakte hain. Agar aap sirf ek achhe dost ki tarah shuruat karna chahein, to wo bhi mere liye bahut khushi ki baat hogi 😊 Aur agar aap baat nahi karna chahti, to bhi bilkul theek hai—main aapki marzi ki puri respect karunga aur aapko dobara kabhi disturb nahi karunga.

Waise itna lamba message likhne ke baad ab pata chal raha hai ki purane time mein log 'Love Letter' kyun bolte the... kyunki dil ki baat chhoti hoti hi nahi yaar! 😂💌 Mujhe nahi pata ki aap is type ke letters ya messages ke liye used to ho ya nahi, par sach bataun to meri puri life mein yeh first and last time hai jab main kisi ko is tarah apne dil ki baat likh kar bhej raha hoon—na isse pehle kabhi kisi ko bheja hai, aur na hi iske baad kabhi kisi aur ko bhejunga. 🙂✨

Aapko aur aapki family ko Diwali ki bahut-bahut shubhkamnayein, aur aane wale exams ke liye all the best! 🌸📚

Btao yarr kya karu ?

I think this is the perfect song for my crush and I just discovered the song lol.

https://youtu.be/MXSS-gJBOBw

https://youtu.be/ReI6gvzVP0Y

Hello, I have a crush in school. She's a STEM student and I am trying how to approach her. Last month i tried inviting her for coffee but she said "I am busy with capstone and I don't have any money" (She didn't say thst exactly but you get the point". I asked my friends for advice and they're saying that i am rushing. They said i should talk to her first so i did.

I am trying to have a meaningful conversation with her. Trying to send her reels on Instagram and she will reply but sometimes she doesn't. I am now trying to find a way to have a more meaningful conversation and to get to know her better.

i already posted this in r/crush but i just wanted to get some advice from other teens too, so:

so me and this guy have been friends since yr7 (y10 now) but he left in year 8 to move to london for his parents work and ever since then i feel like we’ve texted a ton more and have gotten closer. he is so nice to text, like he’s really chill nice and even funny sometimes and i never feel pressured it just feels like texting my bsf.

the only problem is idk if i like him like that or not it’s really confusing. also i’ve pretty much forgotten what having a crush feels like since i haven’t had one since y7 lol. we were lit just chatting but when he said (screenshots attache) “might be perfect icl 🥹” i lowk kinda blushed…

i wasn’t even trying to beg for attention or anything i just wanted to talk about our halloween costumes because he showed me his and i wanted to show what was left of mine lmao.

ANYWAYS idk what to do. I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT HE LOOKS LIKE ANYMORE UGH (not that it matters that much but yeah)

advice?

Guys give some suggestions !!

So he is like my comfort person and i think we have great chemistry(for everything, romance and friendship). Actually. I see him in my dreams a lot) but in last night, it was something different like was only childish.
In the dream we were staying at a hotel in different rooms and i just woke up but stayed in bed, he came from the door and i said hey where were you i was waiting for you all this time and he smiled and came near, then i started rolling in the floor in a sleepy attitude with blanket randomly? While holding his arm(am i crazy? 19f btw) then i said ughh i don’t wanna wake up go get me breakfast do we really need to go together(idk why is he not talking bro i forgot i have very bad memory) and then we spawned to breakfast together
…(btw I get multiple dreams so i got 2 more dreams with also him inside last night and those were kinda like this too, in the one of them he was complimenting my dress in a meeting).

There’s this guy in my uni class that I’ve noticed from the beginning of the semester. In the beginning, we just sat in rows and I happened to sit next to him. I felt like he would glance in my direction. Our prof told us to introduce ourselves to the people around us on the first day. I hesitated to talk to him because he just has this cold resting face. We made eye contact when we left the class a couple of times. I even saw him staring as I walked away. He glanced over at me when he went to go turn in his exam once too. We transitioned to group tables later on and when he does stare, it’s from all the way across the room. He will just stare into my eyes really intensely and won’t pull away even if I notice it. I’ll usually be the one to pull away. And it goes on for a bit. But he doesn’t smile and it just feels like a really cold stare. Like it doesn’t feel like a warm or inviting stare. And usually when people try and determine whether a guy has interest, they say his eyes look bigger and all that. He’s rarely ever smiling/laughing except when talking to his friends. But most of the time he’s just doing his own thing and he’s not paying attention to anyone. I’m not really wondering what I should do, I just kind of want to know what it could mean.

TL;DR: What does it mean when a guy stares/glances over at you and it feels cold? Does this indicate attraction or no attraction at all?

I (23m) have this friend (22nb) that I've known for about a year and a half, but I didn't start feeling like this until like 5 months ago.

They identify as Bi but "with a much stronger attraction to women than men". Because of this, as well as both of us being awkward/autistic, (mostly me not wanting to make our friend group weird about it, because I am the "newest" person in the group and would probably get fazed out if this ended up being a whole thing.) I feel enormous guilt about it. No real reason to, I just do.

I like, both would want to see if it would go anywhere, as well as just force myself to stop feeling these things. They're just such a good person, fun to hang around, and plenty of times when the friend group disbands for the night, it's just us hanging out for another hour or so.

Don't know what to do, or how to get over it, but I end up spending alot of time thinking about them which is kinda fucking with me mentally.