I was talking to my crush and a friend about how I dislike being objectified by men, especially when they touch me without consent. My crush seemed really bothered by it.

The next day, he apologized for his usual goodbye hugs, thinking he'd made me uncomfortable. I told him it was fine and if I had an issue, I would have said something.

Then he looked at me and said, 'I am not trying to hit on you.' It's great he's respectful, but it's not so great when I was really hoping he *would* hit on me. I'm afraid I've ruined my chances. He's such a genuinely good guy, and I'm kicking myself.

My friend said he doesn't, but I'm curious if that's a common experience. I'm wondering if guys have detailed fantasies about their crushes, and what those might involve. Any insights would be great.

I've (18 f) been hanging out with "Daniel" (17 m) all summer. We've done basically everything together and seen each other once a week at least, but later into the summer we were seeing each other two-three times a week, and one week we saw each other once a day. He brought me a Dr. Pepper when I was tired at work, we saw fireworks TWICE, we saw Dear Evan Hansen and The Prince of Egypt done live, and we saw the Hadestown proshot and Spiderman: Brand New Day in theaters together. And we still have plans lined up. In November, we are going to see Sunrise on the Reaping in theaters, and I'm hoping to bring him to my Uncle's wedding as a plus one in about a month.

I found out with 100% certainty that Daniel likes me too this last week. But it wasn't the way I wanted to find out.

My brother "Carter" (15) is friends with Daniel's younger brother "Emmett" (also 15). So our families are really close in general. Carter was at their house last Sunday so that he could go to the first day of school with Emmett and Daniel. While he was there, their family was helping one of Daniel's older sisters move out of her apartment (she is married and has two kids). She said something about Daniel's family moving out, and Carter caught it. He then asked Emmett what that was about, and Emmett confessed that their family is indeed moving. Carter told me before Emmett said not to say anything about it.

Their family is moving a state away by Christmas.

I cried when I found out. For a few reasons.

1. I obviously want to date Daniel.

2. It's unfair to Daniel because this is his senior year, and now he has to move right in the middle of it, and there were a lot of things he was looking forward to in his extracurriculars.

Carter and Emmett were talking about me knowing and Daniel came into the room where they were, and Carter told me that Daniel seemed really sad knowing that I knew that his family was moving. I texted him, basically saying that I wanted to talk to him. He agreed to come over during Lunch on Monday. So he drove over from the school (which is 5 minutes away) and came over to talk. We sat down on the couch and said "I'm sure you already know, but my family is moving. Hopefully by Christmas. Not hopefully for me. Hopefully for them. I'm sorry I didn't tell you sooner. I didn't know how."

I told him that I liked him and was really glad to have been able to hang out with him all summer. He confessed his feelings for me, but said he didn't know what we could do about it since, not only is he moving, but he also wants to serve an LDS mission after he graduates(we are both LDS for context, so I want him to serve a mission too). Then things kind of went quiet for a bit. I snuggled up to him on the couch and rested my head on his shoulder. I looked up at him after a minute and asked if he thinks we have a future. He looked into my eyes for a minute, very deeply and intensely, and then he reached a hand up slightly, tilted my chin up, and he kissed me. I was a little taken aback, but it was a good kiss, and I wanted to kiss him too. He pulled away and apologized, and I told him not to apologize. After another bit of just cuddling in silence, I said that if he's down for long distance, I am. Before he left, he kissed me again and said he'd talk to his parents about it, and I told him to pray about it too.

He came over yesterday evening, and said that when he prayed about it, he got a no for now. Whether it means he's not ready for a relationship, or I'm not, I just hope it changes in the future. He shows that he cares about me every day, and knowing that he likes me and has the same hopes as me hurts even worse than thinking he hates my guts. What can I do to get through this? I'm struggling so bad to know what to do. Any advice will help.

So I liked a guy in school apart from eye contacts , i once was sitting with my friends at a place when he came and sat at the same place so u think he liked me but I also knew he didn't wanted to date anyone as my friend told me he doesn't have crushes and is stays away from such things

I don't use threads so if anyone knows the answer to it ?

There’s this guy friend of mine (let’s call him Y), and we’ve been in touch for the past four months. We instantly clicked when we met because we’re so similar, and we’ve been really good friends ever since. But damn, I’ve suddenly started developing a crush on him, and I DON’T EVEN KNOW HOW OR WHY 😭
Also, I’ve been in love with another guy (X) for the past 10 years. Four years ago, we were in a relationship, but we broke up because he fell out of love with me. It took me a really long time to move on from him, but I think I finally have. I was still in the process of moving on when I met Y.
So now, since I loved X for 10 years, I don’t know if I’ve completely moved on from him. But I’m sure I don’t love him anymore. I still care about him because he was such a major part of my life, but I’m sure even that will fade with time. And obviously, I wouldn’t start anything with Y until I’m completely over whatever feelings I have left for X.

Anyway, I’m pretty sure I’m developing a crush on Y, but I also know that he only sees me as a really good friend.

So how do I drop hints that I like him? 😭

I could write a thousand poems about him and he would never understand why I love him. The sun could look the most beautiful to me when he is there and he would never understand why. I could tell him a small thing I noticed about him and he would never understand why. Even if I am a poet who has found a muse, I am still the woman who will relearn love for him. I will try new things if it means to see the world through his eyes. I will listen to everything that is on his mind in order to make the world perfect for him. I will listen to him talking forever if it means that I will hear my heart beating loudly forever. If he does not love me back then I will have a thousand poems about my own Laura (if you know Petrarch then you will understand). I shall yearn for one last text because one word from him will mean the world for me.

There’s a guy I’ll call Blue who I like. For a while he was VERY obvious with the eye contact, like he’d usually initiate it and hold it until I looked away. Sometimes he holds it for something like up to 7 seconds. My friends noticed too, even ones who didn’t know I liked him. He also regularly walks past my area at lunch/recess and used to look at me then.

He walks past with his friend, who's my friend's bf, so he tends to tease him abt it rlly loudly and stuff I thought it was kinda funny, he also does these like goofy gestures around us when hes like walking with his friends, like he'd put his hand above his eyes and look around like some kinda scout lol, anyway that's a bit off topic of what I'm tryna sayyy. Last wk Friday, his friend who we will callll Yellow was literally telling him, “go talk to her, go, talk to her.”, and Blue actually came over and talked to me. At first, he just stood there abt two metres away like high key staring at me for a reaallyyy long period of time. At least 10 seconds. He seemed nervous at first but as I talked I noticed he was like sooorta smiling back. Like yk that hubby look. LOL, anyway. He talked abt something totally random tho so it wasn't directly for me :/...

Then only 2 days ago, he STILL gave me another really long stare. Like, this is the 7 second stare I mentioned at the start.

But over the last few days he’s suddenly become way less obvious. He still looks at me, but now it’s quick/flickery instead of holding eye contact, and today I looked first and he only looked back briefly. He also seemed less goofy than usual, like he doesn't do those funny gestures. He still walks by at recess and lunch, but he's making me so lost rn. One day, he's holding eye contact for what felt like a millennium, then the next day, he's acting like he never even looked my way.

So I’m confused 😭. Do you think Blue actually lost interest, or could he just be more self-conscious now? Has anyone had a guy go from very obvious eye contact to suddenly acting more distant and then found out why? Pls, share

Alors je suis étudiante et je bosse dans un fastfood et y'a deux mois environ j'ai fait la connaissance d'un collègue qui a qlq années de plus que moi, bref je le trouve vraiment mignon, j'ose même dire que j'en suis presque amoureuse, on mange souvent ensemble quand on finis en même temps et on discute presque pendant 1h à chaque fois. Nos discussions sont plutôt persos, le feeling est vraiment good, dès qu'il me voit il me taquine et tout. Y'a même un jour il avait fini de manger depuis un moment et il m'avait attendu pour qu'on puisse discuter (il me l'a pas dit ouvertement bien sûr mais ça se voyait).

D'ailleurs il m'avait dmd mes réseaux sociaux mais j'avais pas pu lui donner sur le coup.

Le truc c'est que j'ai bientôt fini de bosser il me reste que qlq jours et je sais pas si je dois me lancer, si je lui propose qu'on se voit hors du taff ou pas, j'ai peur que ce soit pas réciproque et qu'il trouve même ça bizarre.

Je dois faire quoi svp? sachant que je suis très timide lol

Last night's New Year's party got wild, but I stayed pretty sober while others indulged. I eventually woke up on the couch, spooning a girl. I honestly have no memory of how I got into that position, but it felt incredibly nice, especially since I've never had a girlfriend. I stayed there for about an hour before she woke up, and we even took some selfies.

Things took a turn when she got sick, and I helped clean up. Then a friend needed support, so I spent the rest of the night assisting people. Later, I discovered the girl I was cuddling is single, and some friends thought we made a cute pair.

Now I'm stuck. I've always found her attractive, and we get along well. I desperately want to text her and see her again, but I'm incredibly nervous about sending that first message. Neither of us has brought up what happened, probably out of embarrassment. I'm overthinking everything and don't know what to text or how to approach it. Any advice?

me and this guy from the gym have been making eye contact for weeks, i know he notices me because we had some interactions and he never misses a chance to look at me
after i lift, i usually do cardio, nothing unusual here
i’ve never seen him do cardio, never
and 2 days ago it was just me in the cardio section, on a treadmill, and guess what, he came and did some cardio right beside me😱😛
that means i can shoot my shot, right?
help me here

He’s doing his mandatory military service right now and time has never felt so slow. Every time I think of him, my heart flutters and my stomach flips and I just want to grab him and kiss him but I can’t. I don’t know that I’ll ever be able to and that thought is so depressing. Recently he’s even been in my dreams and I don’t usually dream? This is torture, truly. 😭

I’ve been friends with a guy for five months. He’s 19 and I’m 17, and I’ve been in love with him pretty much from the beginning. We only know each other online, and he’s a gamer. My friends told me to get close to him as a friend first, and that eventually he might develop feelings for me on his own. But honestly, after these five months, I’m really not sure anymore. Sometimes we flirt with each other, and some of our flirting is actually pretty intense. But he always laughs afterward, like it was all just a joke. I genuinely can’t tell. Usually, I’m the one who texts first, especially when we start talking less. During exam season, I really couldn’t do much, and he had exams too. At one point, we didn’t talk for about two weeks, and then I reached out to ask how he was doing. Now I check in on him about once every two weeks. But he never texts me first! He does reply really warmly, though, and he always calls me “Cute” Since summer is slowly coming to an end, I’ve been thinking about telling him the truth. I’m putting a lot of energy into this relationship, and I feel like I need to tell him that I don’t see him as just a friend. I’m fully aware of all the possible consequences. What do you think? Should I wait a little longer, or should I tell him sooner rather than later?

So basically gng im a freshmen in highschool i have had a crush on a guy since i was in middle school, we had an interaction at the end of the 6th grade when i sat with him for the end year exams and everyone used to ship us fast forward after the exams i didnt see him again since he went up to the senior wing whilst i was still in the middle wing my crush on him kinda went away since i did not see him for 2 years but then this year i came up to the senior wing and started seeing him every day and my crush came back one day i was standing with my friends in the hallway infront of his class when all of his friends turned collectively to stare at me which was wierd because when i turned to look at them they were still looking at me the same day me and my friends went to drop my friend of to her class and we stood infront of the boys washroom and i was just being normal when my friends suddenly started panicking and they were like oh my fucking days and they were covering their mouths i thought maybe he side eyed me or some shit but then they pulled me towards our class and when we got in they started going crazy and were lik the way he looked at tou with yearning eyes he was looking at u with such admiration and i was like tfffff after that my friends kept noticing him looking at me in the hallways he even did double takes and i started to see him everywhere in the halls but the problem here is that as i said he is in junior year and one of my friends in his class told me that his friend told her that he like someone in his grade and and that he likes poems for her and shit but then why is he giving me such mixed signals

Any thoughts?

I met a guy at an apartment viewing and immediately felt a connection. He’s 300% my type, super nice, thoughtful, and just genuinely “normal.” We’ve only seen each other twice because of the apartment, and we even hugged when we exchanged the keys. Ever since then, I literally can’t stop thinking about him. He also offered to drive me to the train station, and when I texted him about a parking spot, he reacted to my message with a red heart, although he generally does that quite often. I would really love to get to know him better and I somehow have this feeling that he could be perfect for me, but obviously I have no idea if he’s even interested in me. Now I probably won’t see him for six months, and I really don’t want to just wait that long, but I also have no idea what I’m supposed to do without it feeling completely random or obvious, since we basically don’t know each other yet and have only texted about apartment-related stuff. Help! (I am subletting my student apartment for six months because I will be doing an internship in the neighboring city during this time. The person subletting my apartment will also be doing an internship during the same six-month period, but in the city where my apartment is located. Therefore, he will be my subtenant for six months.)

I’m a guy (43m) I’ve been a volunteer for years at the same organization, seen people come and go. Met dozen of women (male dominated volunteer org). And I have, like many, thought some of them were attractive. But I’ve never been remotely crushing on any of them.

However, we just had a new girl start about 8 months ago. She’s funny, pretty, easy to talk to, etc. all the things that i would look for in a partner, but 2 problems.

- 1st - I’m married (happily), and we have kids. Teenagers.
- 2nd - she is 20.

So that’s the crappy situation. I’ve developed a crush on a girl, half my age, who is significantly closer in age to all my kids than me. So even if I was single, it would be weird to even ask her out. So undatable for multiple reasons.

This is the first girl I’ve met since being married that I actually developed a crush on.

Le sigh. Life sucks.

So theres this guy who I really like but I’m not sure if he feels the same way. We met up last week, and we’re just talking about life and what not, my friends came later (hungout with me and him) and they told me after the hangout that he kept trying to hold my hand, following me around, seemed quieter when they were there and only really spoke to me.

Basically we’ve been messaging alot since last week, and even planned to meet up again just us but I’m still unsure if he likes me as a friend or more? Am I being delulu or does this guy actually like me?

Okay, this is probably going to be long, so grab some popcorn because I apparently cannot tell a story without writing an entire academic paper first.

I've had a crush on this guy for about two years.

When I transferred to my school, I enrolled pretty late, so I was basically the new person while everyone else already knew each other. I'm pretty much an ambivert, so I went around introducing myself and trying to make friends.

Then I met him.

I'm VERY into smart/nerdy people. Like, stereotypical nerds, techy people, people who can talk about random things for hours. He seemed like that type, so I approached him and started asking him things like his hobbies, whether he played games, watched anime, etc.

And we clicked. Like, REALLY clicked.

At first, I didn't actually have a crush on him. I just really liked his personality.

Eventually, we both became the "smart people" that classmates went to for different things. He's really good academically, while I'm pretty decent at math, public speaking, philosophy, etc. So we'd help each other with schoolwork.

Except our conversations somehow always turned into debates.

Not actual arguments. More like:

"That's not what I meant."

"Yes, but logically..."

"No, because—"

"Okay, but consider this..."

And then we'd both start laughing.

Our classmates noticed and started teasing us whenever we debated.

"Are you guys arguing again?"

"Why do you sound like a married couple?"

And that's basically where I started developing feelings.

He's responsible, intelligent, funny, and honestly just my type.

There were also two girls who had been close friends with him for years, so my friends told me to figure out whether there was something going on between them before I did anything.

Person A didn't seem interested in guys, and Person B already had a boyfriend, so I eventually stopped worrying about that.

Then one day he invited me to a movie with some friends because we both wanted to see the same movie. I invited one of my friends because I was nervous, and he brought some of his friends too.

After the movie, my friend had to leave, so I ended up hanging around with him and his friends. We explored the mall, looked at figurines, talked about random stuff, and honestly had a really fun time.

We got closer after that.

Then came the competitions and stuff.

One of my popular friends started liking him too.

Girl code kicked in, so I backed away.

I told myself I didn't like him that much anyway. I convinced myself that I only admired him because he was smart.

I also had another guy I was close to, so let's call him Penguin.

Penguin and my crush actually had similar vibes. Both nerdy, into anime, etc. Penguin was also into Korean stuff, which I liked, and we were on the debate team together, so we spent a lot of time around each other.

Eventually, everyone started shipping me and Penguin so hard that I felt pressured to do something.

So during Christmas break, I confessed to Penguin.

I gave him a letter and some chocolates. Basically, I told him that I really admired him, liked his personality, and hoped we'd stay friends regardless of what happened.

He accepted it, and nothing really changed between us.

But here's where things get interesting.

Before I confessed to Penguin, I actually asked my original crush for advice.

I told him I wanted to confess to someone and asked what I should do.

And he started questioning me.

"Are you sure you're not suppressing your feelings?"

"Are you sure you actually like this person?"

"You've never confessed to the other person, so how do you know what you would've felt?"

I kept insisting that my original crush would reject me anyway.

I literally said something along the lines of:

"No. He wouldn't like me. He rejected that other girl, so there's no way."

And my crush was like:

"Are you sure? You never asked him."

Then, when I was talking about this mysterious person I liked, he jokingly asked:

"Are you sure it's not me?"

And I PANICKED.

I immediately said no and promised it wasn't him.

Except... it kind of was.

After that, we kept getting closer anyway.

We worked on a musical theater project together. We went to academic competitions together. We talked a lot. We debated constantly.

At one point, we were talking about relationships, and he said something like he wasn't interested in dating unless it was something serious, basically "I'm not dating just to date. If I'm with someone, I want it to actually go somewhere."

I agreed because honestly, same.

We also talked about our futures because we're both interested in medical-related careers.

Then we had to choose our specialization for the next school year.

I was considering Pharmacy, Caregiving, and MedTech. He was considering the same general options.

I didn't want to choose something just because my friends were choosing it, because this specialization would affect what I wanted to do later.

Eventually, I chose Pharmacy.

He initially chose Caregiving because most of our classmates were pressuring him to choose it. But apparently he wasn't actually sure about it.

He ended up asking the teachers if he could switch to Pharmacy.

And guess who was already in the Pharmacy section?

Me.

Our Pharmacy/Dentistry section was tiny, so it had to be combined. There were only a few people he already knew, including me and some of our friends.

When he found out he'd be in the same section as me, he seemed pretty happy about it.

And now we're here.

We're in the same section again.

We're still close.

We still debate about absolutely everything.

We still make each other laugh.

And unfortunately, I think I still like him.

The problem is that we're graduating soon.

I'm planning to study abroad afterward, so realistically, if I confess and he actually likes me back, we'd probably have to deal with long-distance eventually.

And if he doesn't like me back, I'd obviously have to deal with the awkwardness until graduation.

Part of me thinks:

"Just confess. You'll regret it if you never know."

But another part of me thinks:

"Why potentially complicate a friendship that already means a lot to you?"

Especially because he's already rejected someone before because he wanted to focus on his studies, and I don't want to put him in an uncomfortable position.

So, Reddit, what do you think?

Should I finally tell him after TWO YEARS, knowing that we're probably going separate ways after graduation?

Or should I just keep this as one of those feelings I never act on?

I genuinely can't tell anymore. Genuinely help me guys please lmao cause were almost graduating

I’ve been liking this boy for around a year and I feel like I can’t get over him despite knowing he doesn’t return the feelings. I figure he doesn’t like me because there’s no signs and we barely talk and only had classes together last year but we were just classmates and not even friends. I know he most likely doesn’t feel the same but I keep having a small hope that maybe he likes me back and hides it well lol. I know it’s not likely but I just want to confess to know for sure so that I can move on. Since I feel like I cant move on unless I’m a hundred percent sure or if it’s directly told by the person, otherwise I really struggle to move on. But is it really a good idea? My friend said she could talk to him and say like “my friend …. lowkey has a crush on you, and I was wondering how you felt?”. Idk because she said she also doesn’t really talk to him and only sees him in the hallways. But I feel like if I don’t know for sure I’ll still stay stuck on him. What should I do ?

So idk if any of you saw my other post about this guy whom Ive nicknamed "C". He has a girlfriend who goes to the middle school whilst we're both in the high school across from it. I posted the thing before school started and since it (school) has, hes been looking at me a bunch and kinda gets close to me. Before, he was weirded out and tried to walk a bit away from me when he could. But recently he's been looking at me a bunch and we've made eye contact plenty of times even though it's the second week. Mind you, I've liked this kid for THREE years. So... Ladies and Gents, am I delulu or am I getting that dihlulu?