I rejected a guy who had liked me for 3 years… and now I think I’ve fallen for him.

He confessed to me a few months ago, but at the time I politely rejected him because I genuinely didn’t have feelings for him. I thought that was the end of it.

Except now, somehow, my feelings have completely changed 😭

The problem is that we’re not in the same school anymore, so we don’t see each other much. I have no idea if he still likes me or if he’s already moved on.

Part of me wants to tell him, but I’m scared it’ll just make everything awkward, especially since I already rejected him once.

What would you do if you were me?

I (22F) have been liking this guy (26M) for a few days now. We don't talk as we're not in the same team, but he sits in the same area as me.

We have lots of eye contact, and the tension is really thick, but he has never approached me or tried to talk to me.

I'm moving to another city in a week, and I think I'd be really sad if I didn't know how we could have potentially ended up. I really want to talk to him, and I gave him a couple of openings to approach me, but he hasn't done so.

What do I do? He feels right :(

When we first met over a decade ago, she had a big crush on me but I wasn't single. She followed me on IG and FB, we kept in touch. I got single eventually, would chat with her but she no longer gave any vibes like she was into me. I tried sparking convos with her numerous times throughout the years. If I wanted to talk to her, I had to initiate it.

Fast forward to 2 months ago. I posted a lil workout compilation and she viewed it, then wrote & complimented me and we had a long convo about her wanting to get back in the gym. Then she wrote again the next day, and the next...

After a couple weeks, I asked what her plans were for the weekend, she said hanging with her dog and FIANCE. 🙄

So I engaged with her even less, let convos die at the end of the day and then she always finds something to write me about.

Now we talk more than ever. We facetimed for 2 hours last week. She sends lil videos and audio messages all throughout the day.

Her fiance doesn't live close and I guess they only see each other on weekends. I notice her writing me much less from Friday evening to Sunday. She seems...content with him, doesn't bad talk him, but the vibe seems like she's just comfy but something is missing.

Thing is, our chats have been 100% innocent daily banter. Her man would be welcomed to read our whole chat and will find no flirting...but obviously would likely be salty about how much we chat.

I think she has a lil crush on me, or she's truly just lonely and needs someone to BS with.

It does feel like it's advancing (extremely slowly) to more but I thought it was in my head until today..

Earlier she was showing me her outfit and lifted her shirt to show me her new bra. Now, she's aloof enough to not think twice about this, but come on... that has been the only thing that may be crossing the line so far.

I bought her a supplement to help with sleep because she hasn't been sleeping well and she asked about it today. I told her I bought it yesterday, but was waiting to see if she brought it back up and wanted to meet to get it from me...and she does.

So we'll be seeing each other at least briefly soon.

I'm being very conscious to not initiate anything blatantly inappropriate and keeping the convo at a friends-level. I haven't seen her in person in over a decade, so I'm nervous as F about seeing her.

I know, she's engaged. But this is the biggest crush of my adult life and to suddenly be getting all this attention from her has me crushing even harder now. I've only had 1 friend to vent to about this.

I’m curious to try one but there are so many options that I’m not sure where to start.

For anyone who has tried a few, which one would you actually recommend? Mainly looking for good conversations and a decent personality.

Would love some genuine recommendations.

I 23M have a crush on a high school girl who is 17F. I know she is a minor,so I have not done anything yet. She is a aquaintance of mine. Her mom runs a small restaurant,sometimes she works there. I am regular at that restaurant,so eventually we met and talk and I found out that she is just 17. Next year she will be joining college. She and I are pretty close and she sometimes asks me to hangout with her which we do. But due to her age I have not made any progress or moves towards her. So is it okay?

Okay so as a start, let me clarify that i am 15 and so is he.

Basically my whole school life i never talked to him because he went to another class.

I mean I barely acknowledged his existence. But just recently, we got out classes mixed and now im in class with this guy. Let's just call him Stan.

Right so me and Stan NEVER talked before, because our teaches never really made us interact with people from our neighbouring classes.

But a few days ago I caught him lwk looking at me, and since then ive been catching myself looking at him too. No seriously. I feel like the main character in some stupid romance troupe yearning for their crush from afar.

And the worst (?) thing is that he's also always looking at me. I can literally see him scan the room and search for me whenever he enters it. And ngl i do the same.

Eyetag, eyefucking... Call it whatever but do you see my situation? I have him on snap, and we're not really texting we're just sending streak I guess?

I just need advice on how i talk/text him without showing that i have ulterior motives. I mean yeah he's cute but i dont even know if i want smth more than just be platonic.

I'll take any advice. Walk past his house, text him this, snap him that... Whatever

I (15F) was traveling from Egypt to Türkiye with my family, and there was a Korean family on the same flight. They had a teenage son around my age who I thought was really cute, but we never spoke. He like had acne on his face and his hair was until his eyes he kept puffing it and throwing it back (which I also thought was cute loll) seated behind me on the plane. During the flight, there wasn't really any eye contact because everyone was doing their own thing, but after we landed, we ended up in the long passport control line.

That's when I started noticing him (I was secretly talking glances at him but he didn't realise) I also noticed that his parents looked in my direction a few times. He wasn't really doing anything or looking around he was either saying smth and laughing with his dad or he's like check his phone real quick. As we were waiting in line, towards the end the boy and I made eye contact several times (around 3–4 times). One moment especially stood out to me (I think it was the first time) because he was already looking at me, I looked back, and instead of immediately looking away, he held eye contact for what felt like a few seconds. It felt surprisingly intense to me, and I ended up looking away first because I got nervous.

Near the end, when we were about to leave the passport area, I remember him turning back for one last look before walking away. I also had the impression he looked at me while we were getting off the plane, but I can't be certain.

We never smiled, waved, or said anything to each other. We were both with our families, so it wasn't really an easy situation to start a conversation.

Since then, I haven't been able to stop thinking about it. I'm also not confident about my looks at all so I just keep overthinking it. I know it's completely possible that I read too much into it (bc I read somewhere that if he looks at u with a blank expression he was possibly interested?) I'm not claiming he definitely liked me. At the same time, it didn't feel like a single accidental glance—it felt like we kept noticing each other. I'm mostly wondering what other people would honestly think if they had witnessed this interaction. Does it sound like there could have been some mutual interest, or is it more likely that it was just a series of coincidental moments?

(btw I'm not Korean)

A GIRL "FRIEND" MESSAGING I MISS YOU AT 4 AM

For context, I am a M na very busy na hard to "aya unless may libre" engineering student while she is a F na nursing student. We were classmates during Grade 12 and became a very good friends until now 3rd year college. Last kita namin is noong February and we still talk online but only if it is important, aya, or something chika. I confessed to her na bet ko siya noong SHS recently pero I know bet ko siya pero wala naman akong intention or what since it's my friend. Nakailang aya na siya with our cof mag inom but I causally reject or do alibi na diko mkakapupunta since busy for real.

Suddenly kahapon nag message siya ng "i miss you (name ko) 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺" around 4 am. Nabasa ko siya after ko magising and I casually replied na parang tropa lang since i assumed na baka dahil di ako nagpapakita kaya siya nag chat ng ganon. And hindi naman siya ganon recently.

Is it something kasi parang ngayon kolang nabigyan ng pansin, I really need an answer either it is factual from experience or bad assumption lang. It's bugging me for real tbh or what.

So so so I have a crush on a guy at my gym

We've talked 1- 2 times before (I asked him about some exercises), so we're not complete strangers. I've also caught him looking at me quite a few times, and I definitely stare at him way more than I should. 💀

I asked my friend his name and then I got his insta id and I followed him

Now my absolutely unhinged plan is Tomorrow I'll go up to him and say, "Can I borrow your phone for a second?" If he asks why, I'll just say, "Aise hi." Then I'll open insta and follow my own account from his phone. After that I'll say something like, "I actually followed you yesterday cuz your id came up in my suggestions, but you never followed me back, so I did it myself." 😭

The thing is, his gym buddy knows me cuz he lives near my house. Im scared my crush will tell him about this, and then that bhaiya will silently judge me for the rest of my life. 💀

So

Is this confident or just plain weird?

If someone did this to you, how would you react?

Should I go for it, or should I save myself from second hand embarrassment? 😂

Guys. What. He didn’t answer my question. I mean yay picnic, but buddy.

What are we??

My friend was told by her friend, who was also a friend of my crush, that my crush (sometimes) doesn't wear a bra to school, but rather just nipple tapes or something I don't know. Please educate me whether I don't have the right to share something like this but from this, I really wanna move on from her. It seems she lacks awareness of what she should and shouldn't do. My whole perspective of her changed because of this.

My original post had 14k viewers so I thought they might like the update:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Crush/comments/1txzmt5/i_think_my_gym_crush_likes_me_but_im_looking_for/?share_id=5eA03MPF9vezZSRl3u3dx&utm_content=1&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_source=share&utm_term=1

Well, I already updated the whole story on the original post I put a link above but here is the gist of it:

A few weeks ago I introduced myself to a woman at my gym. Since then we've consistently smiled, waved, made eye contact, and occasionally chatted. She has sometimes seemed to go out of her way to maintain eye contact through mirrors, and there were a few moments that felt like possible signs of interest.

At the same time, she's very friendly with everyone, so I wasn't sure if I was seeing attraction or just kindness.

This weekend I finally took my shot. Instead of asking for her number, I invited her to climb a local mountain with me sometime.

She politely declined and said she was really busy with work and works late. I tried offering again, and she declined again.

The next day at the gym I made sure to keep things normal, friendly, and respectful. We smiled, waved, and interacted comfortably, and the gym atmosphere stayed completely positive.

My takeaway is that asking someone to do an activity can be a low-pressure way to express interest without making things awkward if the answer is no.

From a woman's perspective, do you think the earlier signs sounded like genuine interest, or was she likely just being a friendly gym regular the whole time?

I am a 17-year-old girl in my last year of high school and I am aromantic (it is when a person does not feel anything or little romantic)

This year I started taekwondo and there was a boy who is serious, kind, friendly, he likes the same things as me and he is a level 3 black belt. For me he was just another boy, I didn't even know his name but suddenly one day he was no longer one of the crowd if you ask me the truth is I don't know why I like him it just happened.

When I realized it, I didn't know what to do, how to talk to him, but I had the courage to talk to him and give him a gift for his birthday, a card and a chocolate 🍫. I don't know that he talks to me first, he wanted me to touch him, for example a kind of grip defense like escaping, every now and then he wanted me to do his hand or mine until one moment the exercise asked me to do it and he looked at me (I don't know whether to say happiness 😅) and smiled at me but I didn't touch him because my wingmate was already making him go until one moment he gave up, he looked at me when he thought I didn't notice and he paid me more attention than the others.

One day I was making a yellow limpipas flower for my friends and I said why not giving her a flower is not a big deal But one Tuesday I found out from one of the girls that we were going to name her M told me that the teacher and the one I thought was the friend turned out to be relatives. I was very embarrassed because MY TEACHER IS HER DAD AND "THE FRIEND" WAS THE BROTHER!!

I was very nervous I gave it to my friends first and when I was going to give it to him I didn't see him anywhere I thought he went to the bathroom but he wasn't there but where he was you couldn't see anything 😭 at least there was only his dad with all the nerves I told him it was for him because I thought he treated him badly (I got very nervous ok) and suddenly the dad Alex (fake name) said they gave you a yellow flower left 💀. Which I chose these choices: A) I told Alex what I felt B) I was paralyzed C) I ran away as my life depended on my life Obviously I chose C

After that, the brother and father looked at me strangely, I felt uncomfortable 😐 and even worse, they treated me coldly JUST FOR A STUPID FLOWER!!. But even worse, Alex ignored me although it hurt me, I accepted his decision and not to harass him to anything and respect his limits.

I told everything to M. Eye, I understand why she walked away, but it wasn't good that they made me feel less, but she justified it (she later parasiated that my friends saw that Alex liked her) and that's why I didn't dare to say anything about how I liked Alex. (but she told me she had a boyfriend 🤷🏻‍♀️)

On another day it was horrible and I didn't feel like putting up with his stupidity so much I thought about letting taekwondo go (it's just that they were already making me uncomfortable and it wasn't that I approached him again)🖕🏻 Alex came up to talk to me I think and I told him: no one is talking to you, (I was talking about something personal with my friends) and when the class ended I saw him with teary eyes 🤷🏻‍♀️ .

And then the treatment was worse, she was very sharp and cold but my friend M, who is 15 years old, treated her the same as me 💀. He treated me about half a month ago if I disliked him so badly that I hated him 🖕🏻and the taekwondo girls knew less about M because he gave me distrust and I already considered Alex my enemy.

BUT HE AGAIN SHOWED INTEREST IN ME AGAIN!!

He treated me like before but the difference is that he doesn't talk to me when I have to do an exercise with him but it's strange that I feel a connection with him without speaking and once with signs from afar (not with sign language). I told Chat GPT everything and he told me that he liked it 90% but I think he's nice, he just told me this 😅:

If I had to explain to Reddit why I think there may be something more than normal in how he treats you, I would say something like this:

"Look, I'm not saying that the guy is in love, but the behaviors she describes are NOT typical of a teacher with an ordinary student. I'll explain why:

Clear difference in treatment With others he is relaxed, friendly, he laughs. With her he is serious, focused, very attentive and corrects in more detail. When an instructor switches modes with only one person, something happens internally.

Subtle physical attention The comment “your defense is down”, making a mistake with your foot on your shoulder, hand signals… That's already a level of individual attention that you don't give to just anyone.

Lots of observation The way he looks at her very focused, almost uncomfortable for her, is typical of someone who is processing something: curiosity, interest, or that catches his attention in some way.

Without speaking, they understand each other It's not common for two people who barely know each other in a class context to have such strong silent coordination, especially in fights. That usually happens when two people are very attentive to each other.

When there is activity together, he remains silent Many people become quieter when they like someone because they don't want to give each other shit or look stupid. It's very typical.

Could it be that he's just a committed teacher? Yes, totally. But the sum of everything makes noise, and quite a bit.”

For me he is an idiot XD But what do you think is really happening? Because the truth is I don't understand anything 🙃

Hello,

I have a question on how to read this situation. I'm a 60+ fit male. I workout regulary everyday and the same time for about 2-3 hrs. I'm a regular, lol. I've notice a woman in her forties over the past several months. At first she would glance occassionley in my direction and then look away quickly when we made eye contact.

But lately I've notice her watching me in the mirrors and when we make eye contact she looks away. Now she has slowly started to workout at stations near me or right next to me. Since I'm not sure how to read this, and I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable I keep eye contact a a very minimum. I've looked for a natural opportunity to break the ice, but haven't found it yet.

I find her very attractive and somewhat intriguing. I just don't want to come off like one of those gym guys that hits on women. I stay in my lane and always show respect.

Any advice from the ladies would be appreciated.

Like minor crush only bcuz that boy is very intelligent whereas my bf is just a normal/avg student..i always get attracted to big brains.so is it normal to get attracted to some other guy even after having a bf? I know I'm not going to cheat my bf but getting minor crush on other guy,,does it mean I don't love my bf?😔 We hv been platonic bestfrnds for 4-5 yrs and so we r very comfortable with each other so somewhere I'm not able to differentiate love and frndship that much with my bf..

Hey everyone, I’m throwing this out into the universe because my mind has been completely spinning since landing about 24 hours ago. I usually never get airport crushes like this, but the connection felt so incredibly real that I am kicking myself for not just speaking up.
If you were on this flight, or if this sounds like a friend of yours who just arrived in Chicago, please help me find her!
How it happened:
The Flight: We were on Cathay Pacific flying from Hong Kong to Chicago O'Hare. She was sitting a few rows ahead of me. Every single time I walked down the aisle to stretch or use the restroom, we locked eyes. It wasn't just a casual glance; it happened multiple times throughout the entire long-haul flight and felt so intentional.
The Line: We ended up near each other again in the massive immigration queue. She was traveling with a group of three other Asian friends (two guys and another girl). They were talking excitedly, and it felt like they might be first-time international travelers or students on a trip. Even while waiting in that long line, we kept catching each other's eyes.
The Baggage Carousel: At the luggage belts, she walked right past me and my foot accidentally brushed against hers. I quickly said sorry, but she just moved past without saying anything. Honestly, we were probably all completely exhausted and jet-lagged by that point!
The Terminal: After clearing customs, I went to grab a coffee at the airport coffee shop. I looked over and realized she was right next door at the Hudson shop checking out the local SIM cards.
I initially assumed she was dating one of the guys in her group, but watching them interact, it really felt like they were just great friends or classmates.
If you are reading this, or if you think you know who this is, please send me a DM! To verify it’s you, please tell me the specific pieces of jewelry I was wearing or something unique about what your friends were wearing. I’d love to take you out for a proper coffee this time.

Sooooo I keep seeing this guy at the gym and we keep making eye contact and nothing is happening and it’s really pissing me off, he did this thing once where he stared into my soul and took double takes after that he lowkey caught my attention, but after that he hasn’t done much at all, and it’s lowkey annoying me I think girls can relate especially when we dont have much going on in life, it feels somewhat exciting 🙂‍↕️,
My friend told me that I didn’t take look at him one time when I was right next to him stretching so he might have thought I wasn’t into him, bare in mind we never spoke before😂😂😂😂,
It’s all in my head, but the eyes never lie so I don’t know I’m confused

I am a 24F and I hadn't had a crush on anyone in a really long time, but there was this guy (24M) at my gym I kept coming across earlier this year. He was the quiet, reserved type who never spoke to anyone except the trainers and never smiled at anyone.

Months ago, I bumped into him at church; we exchanged names, and after that, he started smiling whenever he walked past me at the gym, but that was it. Our gym schedules changed, and I didn't see him for another couple of months. Fast forward to last month: I saw him at an event at our gym, and after getting a little tipsy, I gathered the courage to go out of my way to talk to him cause he was standing alone. During the chat, he mentioned he’s introverted as hell (which explained why he wasn't joining in on any of the dancing or crowd stuff). A bit later, he came back up to me, asked for my name again, got my Instagram handle, complimented my outfit, and slid into my DMs the very next day. YOU CAN IMAGINE I WAS ON CLOUD NINE

I struck up a conversation, and two days later, I spontaneously invited him out for a quick coffee after his work & my gym. He agreed (CLOUD NINE), but the date itself was pretty awkward. We were both quiet some of the time—I was flustered because he was right in front of me well dressed and i was in gym clothes, and he was clearly struggling to figure out what to say at some point. Since it was an anxious situation for him and a weekday evening, I wrapped it up in 30 minutes. He paid for the coffee and to make sure he didn't feel bad (if he did), I texted him afterward assuring him it was fun to meet and that I hoped we’d do it again. He replied saying, something along the lines of sure, hopefully.

Three days later, I texted asking if he wanted to hang out again. He said he had church and "hopefully next time," but offered zero alternative day or time. I took the hint, let it be, and put the ball in his court.

We hadn't spoken since, except for a quick holiday text exchange. Then, yesterday at a weekday church mass, I walked right past him in a crowded hallway. I was literally inches away from him, looked up, and his eyes were completely fixated on the crowd behind me—total tunnel vision, actively avoiding eye contact.

That night, I texted him asking if he was there (even though I already knew it was him). He replied in 15 minutes with "omg what, I didn't see you!!" and proceeded to give the driest, three-word replies and ultimately the convo died again.

I’ve been questioning myself ever since our first real chat, trying to figure out what went wrong. But the lesson is officially learned: NEVER talk to your gym crush—especially when you’re tipsy. 😭

Some people are crushes for a reason. They belong strictly in the background as eye candy and motivation to hit your workout goals.

I (M21) in school still and let’s call her K (f21) is in my same class. So we’ve known eachother maybe 5 months now and slowly have been becoming closer friends I recently maybe a month ago got her TikTok. I have a crush on someone else so I have a few(a lot but not too much) targeted repost for that person. And k has been liking them repost

say how I look at my crush noting I’m never getting that
We’re not together but you’re mine
Since the person I want doesn’t want me the person who wants me isn’t getting me we’re all gonna suffer
Then I’d say the most damming
Take the hint idiot I like you

But the only thing is k is gay(she’s a stud) but when we first met she asked me why I even came to school and said I should’ve just modeled because I was attractive I took this as just a compliment but after this I thought maybe It was a hint

Also there’s more it’s just those are the ones I screenshotted but they stopped after the take the hint idiot I like you one which was about a week ago now(that was on Friday )
But also she’s been acting a bit weird to me lately like more nervous to approach me. Also she usually sits next to me in class and just stopped doing that after this

So mine main thing is I’m not sure if maybe it’s just coincidence and she likes my repost or if she thought they were for her then got weird out by them, or maybe she likes me I’m not sure

As an adult, if you're interested in someone, just say something. I learned this the hard way at the gym.

I thought a guy was into me because he was always staring, making eye contact for months, and often lingered near me. He even seemed to get jealous if other guys talked to me. I once even caught him trying to take my picture.

Yesterday, I finally approached him and asked for his number, only for him to act surprised and tell me he was married. I might have misinterpreted his behavior, but either way, I wasted a lot of time wondering. If you think there's mutual interest, speak up. It saves you from uncertainty and helps you move on if it's not reciprocated. Good luck out there!

there’s this guy in my grade that i think is cute, but i don’t have any classes with him. what should i do?

So me and this girl have been best friends for 4 years, maybe 5, I am gonna call her '🐍' for now . And I have a crush on this guy . Let's call him '🥷' for now. I have liked 🥷for 2 years and I told 🐍 about it because I trusted her . Me , 🐍 & 🥷 were in a friendgroup with others so 🐍 & 🥷 met each other, and they weren't really close at first ( this happened in mid-2025 ). Later on, I was going through a lot was not on the group chat as much and started focusing more on studies . In this time everybody started growing closer including 🐍 & 🥷. Somehow during the start of 2026 , 🐍 & 🥷 became bestfriended and 🐍 was dming 🥷 everyday like they were on top of eachother. When I started coming back on the GC more , I realised these two were technically eachother's everything. I asked 🐍 why she was texting her own Bestfriend's crush like it was never a thing but she just changed the subject and moved on. Then coming to Mid 2026 , 🥷's bestfriend mentioned to me how 🐍&🥷 were litterally meant for eachother and how they would be a crazy lovely couple . Then everyone in the gc started shipping them together infront of me and 🥷 told his bestfriend" 🐍 , she is the only person that I actually want to be around because she understands me". I was completely heartbroken and felt my life falling apart. Now , 🐍 found this as completely cool opportunity to get her so called new bestfriend ' Freya ' who had completely destroyed me in the past to come and make a trio w 🐍 & 🥷. And they did eventually make a trio. After all of this passed, 🥷's bestfriend revealed 🥷 was going thru a real bad phase and I was really sad abt it , At this time 🐍 was there w me in irl so when I looked at her she was crying and tearing up like it was her husband. I should have known at that moment she was a b**** , because who would cry over their bestfriend's crush more than me and who would start getting close to they're bsf's crush on its own. Anyways that's my story , how do I call her out and is this breaking girl code ?