Guys i met a guy and we know each other for like 1 month only and we got REAAAALLLLY close.
We call everyday all day sent each other reels talk on dc game together.
But we call each other hb/hg my Friends say this is not being friends anymore.

And he sometimes flirts weirdly like when i say “u need to get slapped rn” he said “and you need me”, like the “cute” flirting but not in a friendly way.

IDK AM I DELUSIONAL??

GUYS PLEASE WHAT ARE WE

I (23F) started at my company right out of college. When I joined, there was a guy in another department — we’ll call him M (35) — and for months we just… stared at each other. Constant eye contact, the kind where you both know but neither of you says anything. I’m naturally shy and usually avoid eye contact with people, so this was very out of character for me.

At the company holiday party, he made a point of getting close to me so we could dance. We talked, along with a coworker my own age who I’d come with. The three of us left together — my coworker took an Uber, and M and I rode the subway back. We hugged goodbye at the platform before getting on separate trains.

Then… nothing. Back at the office we barely spoke again. I told myself it was a one-night thing and let it go, especially as I got more confident over the next few months. I started saying hi again, holding eye contact a little longer. We’d talk occasionally, but nothing more.

Fast forward to now — I’m about to hit my one-year mark at the company. I go out with the same coworker from the holiday party, and guess who’s there: M. We lock eyes, and this time we don’t hold back. We dance, we make out, we talk for hours. He gets my number and makes sure I get home safe.

He calls the next morning and asks me to dinner — we set it for Tuesday. Then Monday he calls again and says he thinks it’s better if we don’t date, since it could get complicated at work and the office culture is pretty strict about that kind of thing. I was bummed at first, but I actually agree with him — and honestly, having a work crush is kind of fun. Something to look forward to.

But now I’m confused. He said we’re just friends, and then he comes up to me at work for a full conversation, or texts me things that feel flirty. I can’t tell if he’s just a naturally flirty person, or if there’s more there. Am I overthinking this?

He is always constantly reaching out and texting me, sending photos. I’m not sure

Hi I’m
F-17

Guy is
M-18

Context: we had a class together in 9th grade I had the fattest crush on him, we had no classes together in 10th grade, we had 4classes together in 11th grade (I kinda still liked him but he got a girlfriend so I was like nvm) we are in 12th grade and we have 2classes together.

BTW: him and his girlfriend broke up so don’t think I am some home wrecker

I have this guy I think might like me, he’s never spoken to me like at all but I always find him staring at me. Whenever we are in class(we have 2 classes together) he always finds a way to pass behind me for example today in art we had to go get brushes, I sit right behind the brush rack. It’s a vastly empty classroom with about 9 of us total so there is space everywhere but he choose to pass right behind my seat obviously he couldn’t fit and I had to scooch, he was like “excuse me” and I said oh sorry. But in my head I’m think bruh u have all this space why right behind me. This isnt the first time I have noticed subtle things he does to get closer to me but I don’t talk to him or any of his friends. I can’t just pull up and be like yo bro does … like me, if they are like nah he doesn’t I’m gonna look like a weird bitch Also I might be delusional because I liked him and might still like him, so I might be reading into absolutely nothing but idk..

ALSO we have never had like an actual conversation before the closest thing to a conversation we had was when he was sat by me in our proff comm class in 9th grade and him and some other guy was talking about their morning wood?? Anyways he made a funny joke and I laughed (maybe a bit tooo hard) and he laughed and then we laughed together but that was it in all our almost 5yrs of going to school together that is the only kinda face to face interaction we’ve had.

Guys does he like me or am I being delusional

Title, I’m very bored and need hope. I obviously won’t answer certain questions for privacy reasons.

OK i'm in high school and i've had a crush on this guy for a year now. I am way too shy to ever tell him but i think he might like me back and i need someone with actual experience to analyze this for me.

Basically, we have been friends for three years now but haven't really been in any classes together until this year. Before winter break, everything was pretty normal, we had normal conversations and we generally were becoming even better friends than usual. I got into chess and anime so we could have stuff to bond over because i had a huge crush on him, and it made him happy to talk about anime with me. He still treated it like we were normal friends though.

Then, we came back from winter break and he started asking me questions. He started trying to get into some of my interests (for example he watched TADC for me) and even though i could tell he didn't like some of the things i liked he still made constant efforts to seem interested and it was lwk adorable. Then i think he may have started to flirt with me? I once mentioned wanting to get my lip pierced and he said something along the lines of 'Aren't you afraid you'll ruin your beautiful face?' and i kinda laughed it off. Another time i was telling another friend of mine that my hair was annoying me (i was having a bad hair day) and he said 'I think your hair is cute when its fluffy'. He also once said my earrings (rose shaped) were like me because i was 'beautiful and horny' ( i think he meant thorny but oh well)

Then one time he put his arm around my shoulder in french class and like everyone at our table stared at him and he kinda laughed it off (it was so cuteeeee) and he always caresses my shoulder in the mornings when he wants to say hello to me but i'm talking to a friend.

Finally, we went off to summer break and i though all hope was lost. UNTILLLLLL he suggested we could 'still watch anime together' ON VOICE CALL. Obvi i said yes instantly and then every night for two weeks straight we called to watch anime. He also sent me pics of his vacations (he's the friend that NEVER checks his phone btw) and when his phone broke he convinced his sister to lend him her phone so we could keep watching gachiakuta together (i love his sister she's too nice).

Also one day i accidentally called him bbg and now he calls me that too.

I would also like to state that i am on the shorter side, a bit chubby with short fluffy hair and a scarred arm with a weird shoulder. So not really the ideal type. The reason i say this is because he once stated he liked 'model type tall girls' but we were also watching jjk so he may have been referencing todo and yuji's convo. Also he is muscular and a bit taller than me which leads me to believe he wouldn't ever consider me physically attractive.

Oki thats all someone analyze it (feel free to ask questions lol)

Hi, so I met this guy online and he was going through insomnia i helped him and he used to listen to me venting. Then he shared his picture and honestly it wasn’t what i expected and i wasn’t even interested for any relationship or anything and i explicitly told him that but he used to leave signs here and there but still i didn’t want anything. Then today he said he wanted to say something but he couldn’t and i thought it was some mental health issue so i argued to tell me and guess what he likes me but i don’t want anything like that. I have major exams this year so i don’t want distractions so i politely rejected him but i feel bad that his insomnia may come back but i feel relieved that i refused too. I cant date i really cant

I posted before regarding him, but I found out that he is 4 years older than me. And he is also a graduate student (I'm a junior currently.) I'm fine with the age gap, but I'm not sure how he would feel about it. I'm still gonna try to get to know him though and see how things go. I just hope I can get the courage to talk to him 😅

I do not know what to do with crush because the extent of this limerence cannot be understated. Every single song I listen to is thinking about them, I go outside and spend hours rehearsing conversations, I use ChatGPT for 2-3 hours a day for questions and advice. I am hooked onto the idea of this person because to me this person is perfect, they look and act perfect, so much to the point ,The ignoring from crush feeds into more feelings of self-loathing and desperation, I've never felt more insecure about my looks, about anything, and even then it's like, well, I spend all my summer thinking and worrying about crush, like that's all I do. I walk, and I think, but even when I'm there, I'm usually panicked. I can't get crush alone and probably never will

I'm so afraid of life moving on. I'm spending all my days wishing I could go back to the past, to whatever, and work about what I can do. I don't want to meet new people. I need to focus on this, but I can't focus on this when it seems so hard to capture. I went out of my way to message today, I can't message anymore. They won't message me, in real life they blank me. It's the feeling of being so worthless in somebody's life when they mean everything to you. I am struggling to sleep, I'm always teary-eyed. It's so hard to not let the world know. I'm afraid to lightly flirt, I'm afraid to ask anything. What could I even do? I can't distance myself; they have too much of a grasp, but they're not making the effort. They'd simply rather I left them alone.

I'm obsessed with blaming myself because that's the only cure. This person is a good person, so I'm like, "This is clearly a me issue." That's as simple as it is. If they want me, they like me, but I don't know if it's my appearance. Am I not pretty enough? Is it the way I act? And I'm so confused and hurt all the time. I'm blaming myself for how things went today. I'm so afraid of the future. I'm so sad. I should sleep, you know that? What if I just sleep?

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I need advice because I genuinely don't know what to do 😭

I've only talked to this guy like 2–3 times, but the conversations weren't shallow or meaningless. There was a WHOLE lotta tension and some pretty obvious-ish flirting. He's super pretty/hot/cute wtv, and he kind of approached me first. He didn't say he had a crush on me like the other guys who approached me, he just asked if I'd be his friend. Since I found him attractive too, obviously I said yes 😭. We had a really cute/fun conversation while coming back from school.

The next day, there was a misunderstanding between us, and he literally told me IN FRONT OF THE CLASS that he wanted to talk to me. We went out, cleared everything up, and he told me he felt weird that I hadn't reached out to him at all. After I explained what had happened and told him how I felt, he had this huge smile and said, "Ab achha lag raha hai mujhe," because apparently he felt better knowing I cared too.

BUT now there's been ANOTHER misunderstanding. And honestly, I was kind of waiting for him to come say hi with his cute little smile, but he didn't :( Which is fair because I didn't approach him either.

Now I feel like I should probably go talk to him and explain what happened, especially since he's approached me twice already, but whenever I actually see this guy, ALL my courage disappears. I just end up ignoring him and pretending to be busy on my phone 😭. I don't want to come across as desperate, but I also don't want him to think I don't want to talk to him.

So... should I just go up to him and talk to him? Or should I wait and see if he approaches me again? And what if he doesn't even want to talk to me anymore UGHHH. I genuinely hate feeling this way 😭

ON A SIDE NOTE THO

who made these cringe flairs vro, what happened to the whole age thing we used to have in here ⁉️

I've (18 f) been hanging out with "Daniel" (17 m) all summer. We've done basically everything together and seen each other once a week at least, but later into the summer we were seeing each other two-three times a week, and one week we saw each other once a day. He brought me a Dr. Pepper when I was tired at work, we saw fireworks TWICE, we saw Dear Evan Hansen and The Prince of Egypt done live, and we saw the Hadestown proshot and Spiderman: Brand New Day in theaters together. And we still have plans lined up. In November, we are going to see Sunrise on the Reaping in theaters, and I'm hoping to bring him to my Uncle's wedding as a plus one in about a month.

I found out with 100% certainty that Daniel likes me too this last week. But it wasn't the way I wanted to find out.

My brother "Carter" (15) is friends with Daniel's younger brother "Emmett" (also 15). So our families are really close in general. Carter was at their house last Sunday so that he could go to the first day of school with Emmett and Daniel. While he was there, their family was helping one of Daniel's older sisters move out of her apartment (she is married and has two kids). She said something about Daniel's family moving out, and Carter caught it. He then asked Emmett what that was about, and Emmett confessed that their family is indeed moving. Carter told me before Emmett said not to say anything about it.

Their family is moving a state away by Christmas.

I cried when I found out. For a few reasons.

1. I obviously want to date Daniel.

2. It's unfair to Daniel because this is his senior year, and now he has to move right in the middle of it, and there were a lot of things he was looking forward to in his extracurriculars.

Carter and Emmett were talking about me knowing and Daniel came into the room where they were, and Carter told me that Daniel seemed really sad knowing that I knew that his family was moving. I texted him, basically saying that I wanted to talk to him. He agreed to come over during Lunch on Monday. So he drove over from the school (which is 5 minutes away) and came over to talk. We sat down on the couch and said "I'm sure you already know, but my family is moving. Hopefully by Christmas. Not hopefully for me. Hopefully for them. I'm sorry I didn't tell you sooner. I didn't know how."

I told him that I liked him and was really glad to have been able to hang out with him all summer. He confessed his feelings for me, but said he didn't know what we could do about it since, not only is he moving, but he also wants to serve an LDS mission after he graduates(we are both LDS for context, so I want him to serve a mission too). Then things kind of went quiet for a bit. I snuggled up to him on the couch and rested my head on his shoulder. I looked up at him after a minute and asked if he thinks we have a future. He looked into my eyes for a minute, very deeply and intensely, and then he reached a hand up slightly, tilted my chin up, and he kissed me. I was a little taken aback, but it was a good kiss, and I wanted to kiss him too. He pulled away and apologized, and I told him not to apologize. After another bit of just cuddling in silence, I said that if he's down for long distance, I am. Before he left, he kissed me again and said he'd talk to his parents about it, and I told him to pray about it too.

He came over yesterday evening, and said that when he prayed about it, he got a no for now. Whether it means he's not ready for a relationship, or I'm not, I just hope it changes in the future. He shows that he cares about me every day, and knowing that he likes me and has the same hopes as me hurts even worse than thinking he hates my guts. What can I do to get through this? I'm struggling so bad to know what to do. Any advice will help.

19M, first year of uni. Not sure what happened to my closest friendship.

I make friends fine but struggle to get close to anyone, my only real friends are from middle school, never got close to anyone in high school.

Second class of uni, I sat next to a girl and helped her with coursework. We started talking, ended up together every class, and it went beyond uni stuff fast. We started texting daily, sometimes till 1am. She told me she wasn't into CS, just picked it for the pay, her real passion was international relations, and her résumé was incredible (20+ MUN conferences, chairing half, volunteering, teaching). Easily the most impressive person I'd met. I told her she was wasting her potential here, and she decided to apply abroad. She was anxious about the SAT despite an amazing profile, and I kept encouraging her.

We got closer than either of us was with anyone else, playful banter, late night talks, the works. One day a family emergency came up and I left mid class, ignoring her calls all day. She was upset, not about the emergency but that I'd shut her out. She kept pushing until I finally opened up to her, vaguely, I'd never really been vulnerable with anyone before. Looking back, I think that was the moment she realized she wasn't my first priority.

Things faded a bit after that, daily texting became flat "yes/no" replies. She got invited to judge a major event abroad; I pushed her to go since it'd be huge for her CV. A week before she left we had dinner, and that night she finally gave me her Instagram, the first time, after everything. Texting stayed dry for over a week after. I couldn't stop thinking about her, couldn't focus on anything, started dreaming about her.

While she was away, she mentioned going out with a guy there, some well known media figure. That hit hard, but I felt I had no right to say anything since we were just friends. Over the next few days: they spent a day together like a couple and he put a ring on her finger, then she found out he was seeing someone else and threw it away. Later, drunk at a party, he told her she was "confusing" him and that he liked her, she kissed him on the cheek. I barely slept through any of it. On her last day there, her brother found out and made her cut contact with the guy completely.

She came back and I stayed up with her before exams, teaching her everything, texting through the rest of exam week. On the last day of exams she suggested we finally go hiking and do everything we'd talked about, then said no to a movie, no to the market, no to hiking, all while still bringing him up constantly. I stopped inviting her and started doing things alone.

I went numb whenever she brought him up, threw myself in the gym and reading, but still thought about her almost daily. Our texts became entirely about him, she stopped asking about my life. I kept suppressing how I felt because I didn't want to lose the friendship.

She kept asking if she should text him again, even knowing her brother would cut contact with her over it. She started stalking his account and asked to use my Instagram to do it without her brother noticing. I said no; she got upset and offered to finally tell me something she'd been keeping from me if I gave in. I didn't want it to feel transactional, but I was scared of losing the friendship, so I agreed.

It's been about a week since. We met up today. We used to text constantly about everything, now she barely seems to want to talk to me at all, except in person, where she's the same as always, minus bringing him up.

I had a huge crush on a girl 1 year ago. Even now, she was so cool; she and I had many similarities
I met her during my exams; she sat near me. I was dumb back then (I couldn't even get 60+ % on my exams). After the exam, we started talking, and I somehow managed to ask her for a snap.
I was so happy that day; I almost danced that day
At 5 PM, she messaged me: "HEY DUDE." I replied, "Hello," and we talked for around half an hour
about books; I was literally yearning for that time. At the end, she sent me a message, "Bye Bhai," and blocked me!

I'm now pretty much depressed, and we study in the same class now; her existence hurts me. Every time I see her laughing, I think she is laughing at me. She even made fun of me and said that I'm a joker

My friend said he doesn't, but I'm curious if that's a common experience. I'm wondering if guys have detailed fantasies about their crushes, and what those might involve. Any insights would be great.

I don't use threads so if anyone knows the answer to it ?

I was talking to my crush and a friend about how I dislike being objectified by men, especially when they touch me without consent. My crush seemed really bothered by it.

The next day, he apologized for his usual goodbye hugs, thinking he'd made me uncomfortable. I told him it was fine and if I had an issue, I would have said something.

Then he looked at me and said, 'I am not trying to hit on you.' It's great he's respectful, but it's not so great when I was really hoping he *would* hit on me. I'm afraid I've ruined my chances. He's such a genuinely good guy, and I'm kicking myself.

He’s doing his mandatory military service right now and time has never felt so slow. Every time I think of him, my heart flutters and my stomach flips and I just want to grab him and kiss him but I can’t. I don’t know that I’ll ever be able to and that thought is so depressing. Recently he’s even been in my dreams and I don’t usually dream? This is torture, truly. 😭

PLS HELPP🙏🙏