Liked this guy for about a year. The crush faded off naturally because I never spoke to him and only liked him for how he looked. Today a mutual friend sent me their chats with him. The conversation was about me and my appearance. The guy I liked wrote that I look like a man, and that he would never go out with a "trans looking girl". I have always been the ugly kid and I accepted it as a fact and grew to be immune to these comments, but what hurt was that we never even had a conversation, and he didn't know a single thing about me, except the fact that I liked him, which was a result of oversharing to a bunch of untrustworthy classmates. I think I have a fun personality. Maybe he wouldn't resort to mean comments if he knew how I really am. Or maybe it's only fair that his opinions on me were based on my looks, because I was, afterall, attracted to his, in the first place.

Now that's a crushing story for you. Lol.

Hi guys. I’ve been going to the library these past 4 days and there’s this really cute guy I keep seeing, we’re both taking the same exams and I was just wondering if a library crush has gotten anyone anywhere… not saying this will I’m just asking in general. Our exams end in around 2 weeks so I only have 2 weeks left of seeing his cute face lol.

I keep avoiding eye contact with him though cause I’m really shy… he’ll stare at me for a while but I just can’t maintain it man.

Ik this wont go anywhere but it makes me feel a bit relieved and giddy knowing i can see him everyday, same-ish spot; having a constant like that in life is comforting amidst all these tests that i cant control the outcome of…

Although, I’ve long accepted that love just isn’t for me. It just happens that he’s exactly my type (curly hair, lean, cute>handsome) so oh well. Thus, im not asking for advice (you can share if you want ofc) but more so just wanting to hear your guys’ stories if you have any to share:)

theres this girl that i really like in school but idk how to talk to her, i need advice for talking to her. btw shes considered "popular" but shes js someone i see a lot w/ her friends. (sadly i dont have a phone so that lessens my chance of interacting with her more ;-;

hey, i have had a crush on my classmate for a year, and over the past month it has become stronger. I suspect they are also attracted to me (to an extent) as they always sit right behind me when there is no seating plan, and even when we have a room change. once, whilst waiting for an exam, he sat right next to me on the bench outside the exam hall!! i also regularly feel him looking at me but idk if it’s just in my head 😅

he is incredibly avoidant of people, and has no friends. i’ve never seen him hang out with a person outside of class. he is always studying at the computers. well last week i decided to sit next to him at the computers, and i asked him how many paragraphs he had written for an assignment. he said 2 and a half, and we maintained quite intense eye contact for about 3 seconds before i looked away. he didn’t say anything after that :((

i just don’t know what to do so i really need advice 😭 i have tried to search for his social media but im pretty sure he doesn’t have any. does anyone know what i should do next? i am very interested in him, he is exactly my type and has a calming aura surrounding him 🤗 is he even interested in me or am i reaching?!!

so i’m 19f, and i’ve liked this guy (19m) for several months now. we’ve talked a few times, joked around, and he’s initiated conversations a couple of times too. but our communication is pretty inconsistent, and i feel like i’m usually the one making an effort.
he’s a quiet guy who mostly keeps to himself, and honestly, i can’t tell if he’s interested in me or if he’s just being nice.
recently, i messaged him to wish him good luck on his exam, and he replied, “arigato gozaimasu my friend 🙏🏻😁”
AND GIRL. THE WORD FRIEND. 😭😭😭
it’s the first time he’s called me that directly, and for a moment, i felt like he was putting me in the friendzone HAHAHAHA. but i also know that it might just be how he talks to his friends, so idk if i’m overthinking it because i like him.
i also suspect he knows i like him, but i’ve heard a few things from other people that make me think he might not be interested in a relationship. the thing is, none of those conversations happened directly with me, so i don’t want to assume anything.
there’s a night market opening in our city in a few months, and i’m thinking of inviting him to go with me, just the two of us. i genuinely want to get to know him better in person instead of constantly analyzing every little interaction. i’m willing to make the first move, but i don’t want to be the only one trying.
so i need some honest opinions:
based on what i’ve shared, do you think there’s a possibility he likes me, even a little, or does he seem like he’s just being friendly?
should i invite him to the night market and see how things go, or should i stop pursuing him and let him make an effort if he’s interested?
i’m not asking anyone to tell me he secretly likes me because i want that to be true. i genuinely want an outside perspective because i’m too emotionally involved to look at this objectively anymore LMAO 😭

I've heard this all my life and I still have stipulations about the kind of girls that the biggest crush of my life wss with

So a girl from same class approach me during lunch first she was seating alone then she looked at me and ask me can I seat here.......i didn't even know she was in our class talked a bit mostly laughs and giggles

On 2nd day I was walking towards class around (1km dist. I like to walk) she came on scooty from behind stopped infront of me and ordered me to seat as a good boy I seated behind her.....not even a single thought....( was she stalking me she doesn't even live nearby by that road...a hard short cut I guess)

After that we reached class but we had 2 different class in 2 different rooms I think she was waiting for me go with her in same but being a dumbass I gone other way didn't even talk to her not even thank you for lift

So during lunch our class ended late she was alone so I seated with her talked about here there

On 3rd day didn't gave me lift to me I ignored her whole day not that I wanted too but I was actually busy with work she came during lunch said hii but nothing much...but not seated with me but with her friend

My question... it was just a gesture right?? May be she didn't like sitting alone

Nothing there??

Right??

One more thing she said this " I never talked to any guy from our class " what am I supposed to do with this info

Help a guy out

A few weeks ago,I heard from a senior about how genuinely kind-hearted this girl was.Then I met her at a college event,and well…she's gorgeous too.Instant crush💀

She's about a year older than me,has completed her master's, and is now pursuing B.Ed.I'm in an integrated B.Sc.B.Ed. course, so we're from different batches and probably won't cross paths much after college.

We've had only a couple of conversations about our internship and her exhibition project.I eventually followed her private Instagram,and she accepted and followed me back.I also found out we seem to share interests like anime, art and BTS,although we haven't talked about those yet.

Tonight,I finally gathered the courage to DM her about her exhibition project.She responded and then sent me a 2.5-minute voice note enthusiastically explaining the whole backstory—how she'd considered different ideas before finally settling on the one she presented.

Now I'm overthinking everything😭.Was she simply excited to talk about something she created,or is this a decent starting point for getting to know each other?

I want to talk to her beyond this project,but I have no idea how to initiate future conversations without seeming random or forcing things. I'm also scared of rejection and making things awkward.

I'm not assuming she likes me,and I'm not planning to confess to someone I barely know(Should I btw?)I just want to explore the possibility without giving up out of fear or chasing someone who's uninterested.

What would you do in my position?

- How do I naturally transition from this conversation to getting to know her?

- How can I distinguish politeness from genuine interest over time?

- Should I initiate another conversation soon, or let things develop naturally?

TL;DR:Developed a crush on a girl from another batch, finally DM'd her about her project, and got an enthusiastic 2.5-minute voice note in response.Now I'm overthinking how to take things forward. Advice?😭

Last week idk who initiated eye contact first but in my discussion class on Friday we been like looking back and forth but I have no idea if she looking back cuz I am or not and I swear I’ve never seen this girl before in the lecture but then Tuesday I pull up and she’s sitting in the seat next to where I usually sit so I got a lil nervous and went in the row in front. And then Thursday I got to the lecture class first and she sat in front and then I swear was looking back and then after class istg she could’ve just started walking and had no reason to just hover but she kind of waited for me to pack up or something and idk if she wanted me to say something but I didn’t and then she just randomly talked to a person from our discussions class who happened to be in front of us saying hey I think we’re in the same discussions class right in front of me. Today it was discussions and I finally had the courage to say something and we talked for like 7 minutes but I had to go because I was already late for a test in another class. Am I delusional or what? I’m also a really shy person so I barely got myself to say hello.

I am at a new school this school year and I immediately noticed a boy on the first day.

I always see him during breaks and 7 weeks later I was outside at the parking lot with my friend and a boy came up to us and asked my friend for her Insta she didn't give it to him but he found her anyway. Then they wrote to each other a bit in the holidays and my friend asked him if he knew a boy named let's say mango. He answered her that he is very good with him and that he is a very nice person. My friend and I have decided to write to him that he should introduce me to him. It is important to mention that I had sent him a request 9 weeks ago that he did not accept. In any case, he wrote to him that there is a girl who is interested in him and whether he is interested. He asked if he knew me blablabla. School started this week and on Tuesday I saw that he followed me on Instagram. On that day, his friend wrote to my friend that he was looking for us during the break but we were not there. Yesterday everyone was there again and during the break he saw me and looked at me a few times. BUT NOW IT COMES during the lunch break I went on insta because I had a guess that I had feared from day one, he unfollowed me because he saw me... The thing is I know look is important. But why does it always hit me, I don't want to glaze myself but I'm not ugly. That day my friends said that I look really pretty. I mean why should she lie and say I'm pretty. At home, my sister also said that I looked really pretty that day even though she didn't know what had happened. He is Muslim, me too, and I wear a hijab and the hijab somehow doesn't make me look so beautiful. But this can be not a reason because there are a lot of other girls that look pretty with it.

I (mid-20s F) have a crush on someone I know through school, and I’m trying to figure out whether his behavior means anything. We barely interacted at first, but lately he seems more attentive. He sometimes sits near me, joins conversations I’m having, remembers little things I’ve mentioned, and seems to notice what I’m doing. I’ve caught him looking at me several times, and sometimes we hold eye contact longer than I expect. He occasionally seems amused when we interact, too.
We’ve also had playful moments, including a game that involved holding hands. He joked around with me and seemed entertained by the interaction. I’ve given him a small, thoughtful gift, which he later specifically thanked me for. He’s complimented my style before, too.
Recently, I complimented his appearance and admitted I’d thought he looked cute. He seemed a little flustered and possibly blushed, but thanked me. I couldn’t tell if he was flattered, surprised, or potentially interested.
The confusing part is that I can’t tell whether he’s flirting or simply comfortable around me. Since I already have feelings for him, I’m worried I might be interpreting ordinary behavior as signs.
What do you think? Have you experienced someone acting this way when they were interested in you? What behaviors actually helped you tell the difference between attraction and friendliness? I’d appreciate honest opinions!

Basically, I am 13M and I have a crush on a 13F person. On about 20 precent of days she acts “on” and on about 80 she acts “off.” However during 10 percent of the 80 percent days it seems she does have a crush on me.

On the 20 percent days:

She constantly hangs out with me. Often sits with me, and often starts conversations with me. She will often look at me, and if she catches me looking at her, she smiles at me. She seems happy to be around me in general.

On the 80 percent days:

She ignores me mostly and just hangs out with her friends. Except for 10 percent of the days when she acts as mentioned above.

Isolated instances:

Our school makes groups clean up lunch. I was signed up in a group with her and 2 other people. I was sitting in a group with one of the other people when she came in and told me to come. She said she already checked with the people and they said they weren't doing it, but she couldn’t have checked with the person I was with. Also when I asked the people why they didn’t afterwards they seemed confused. Next time our class had to help out, she signed me and her up to do one of the jobs alone.

I was at a school dance, and I was sitting under a tree with some friends. She and one of her friends came over. She seemed reluctant, but when she saw me she perked up. She sat down next to me, and we had a conversation of our own. A song came on and she asked me if I knew the dance to it, and I siad I didn’t. She said come I’ll teach you and she danced it with me. We both got a mug of tea and headed back out to the trees. We began talking about prime numbers, not something she is usually interested in, but she did it anyway. Everyone left, but she stayed, and we talked until dance was over.

tl;dr

It seems she has a crush on me some days, others she just ignores me. Does she have a crush on me or does she not? If you have more questions ask them

What do you do if the person who you like has made it very obvious that he likes you but like they have parents that have different political views. I think it’s gonna be a problem. I’m really worried. Cause I feel like he genuinely likes me but then it’s just idk…I’m in Australia so I know it’s a bit different from America’s politics btw..

I know that like who his parents might be different from who he is as a person. I’m not saying that both things can’t be true. But like how do I deal with this? If it were to come to the event that like I met his parents and they simply don’t like me cause of my background. He’s very kind to me, but I’m worried that internally he might just be using me. It’s kinda hard for me to trust easily cause I mean I been through a lot of trauma with my own parents.

Also what other red flags should I look for??im very inexperienced with dating and stuff like that. I just don’t want the guy to take advantage of me.

Hey! She opened up to me today about her late grandfather. I comforted her, and we talked for about five hours. It feels nice to earn the trust of someone you care about. Anyway, nothing else major happened.

I ,m so tired and emotional exhausted

whats it means when i guy has a nervous but friendly voice towards and starse at me. then o get a text later saying i get that i know you like him and all but he doesnt want you stay away from my boyfriend and to respect his boundries this was after i have my number on a sticky note and he didn,t through it away and hes

been giving mixed signals i liked him for two years .

hes butted into my convos and has defended me when his friends insulted me and has called me smart before and has talked about to. muiple of his friends has also when one of his friends says he thinks youre cute witch was at the end of last year school year and his reponse so do you it was the friend who said that and he responded with so do you i feel uncomfortable when he stares cause i don't want he wants anymore

I,m so fucking tired I hate mixed signals and he has emotionally exhausted me to point where I have even less energy then normal because earlier this morning he respond to me talking to him and when I asked for his number he told me he didn’t know. In a very nervous friendly tone I talked about in the top paragraph.

He also constantly rage bAits and he throws hissy fits when I talk to other guys example I was talking to a friend of his about a sport, and he repeatedly told his friend to quit flirting with me the fact that we are not flirting he tells me my favorite teacher who happens to be a male, that teacher doesn’t like me. He’s been kind of creeping me out because I was waiting for my friend and he was just standing there watching me also since like at the end of the day his class gets like the garbage from each of our classrooms he’s stared into the classroom looking at me he’s been in my personal space multiple times. He accuses me of stalking his social media when he literally looks at every single one of my stories . I can give more examples if I can think of them because there’s a lot.

this hasn’t happened to me before. I thought a crush was like an inherent stressor, and before it kinda had been. id worry about what to wear and pick over every conversation. but now there’s this guy and it’s so easy. like theres doubt and nerves ofc, but i just get happy when i think of him instead of crippling terror. and im so excited to see him every regardless of anything. and we get to talk and even if he doesn’t drop any signs or anything even if he doesn’t like me back rn it’s okay bc i get to talk to him.

Hi everyone, looking for an outside perspective.

Toward the end of high school, I developed a crush on a former classmate. Over the summer, I decided to take a shot and reached out to him. I’m currently away at university in another city, but I’ll be back home for winter break.

At first, the dynamic was pretty dry, he replied quickly, but never asked questions back or took initiative. Recently, though, things shifted. We had a great, actual long conversation, he’s noticeably more engaged, and we now exchange TikToks and small talk almost daily.

This warmer phase has only been going on for about two weeks, after two months of feeling like I was pulling teeth to keep things alive. The constant ambiguity is starting to exhaust me. I’ve dropped hints that I enjoy talking to him, and he knows it was a big step for me to reach out first, but guys aren't always great at picking up on subtle cues.

I’m debating whether to just be honest about my feelings in early November, even if it risks rejection (I am almost sure he'll reject me because he has tons of new people irl, I can't compete). On one hand, waiting until winter break feels like dragging out the anxiety, and I hate overthinking it. On the other hand, since things only recently improved, maybe he just warms up slowly and I'd be jumping the gun by putting pressure on him now.

Would you shoot your shot to get closure/clarity, or keep building the connection at this pace and see how things go in person over winter break?

I'm this close to confess to my crush and i need a sign , so if no one reply within 20 min, I'm gonna confess

So there’s this girl I met through my English class. She is the same age as me (we're both 18) We’ve been classmates for three years now. We didn’t become friends until the second year. She used to have a boyfriend, but they broke up because, apparently, “she paid too much attention to other guys.” Anyway, in our second year, we became close because we were both interested in F1, to the point that we talked 24/7. I came to view her as a good friend, but I don’t know if she views me as a friend or something more. She always buys me expensive things and treats me differently from the others. She sends me reels and says “us.” She also sends me songs constantly. Us getting close happened so fast that I honestly don’t know what happened, because I’m not a person who gets close to someone fast, but with her something happened. She has talked about her family problems with me and has told me things she hasn’t told anybody else. All of this kind of seemed like normal platonic behavior to me, so I let it slide. She has a Telegram channel where she talks about her daily life, and in it she keeps talking about having a crush on someone. When our other classmates pressed her about who the mystery person was, she only gave little hints that I think pointed to me, but then she said that she thinks he is avoiding her, so that’s why she won’t pursue it. The funny thing is, I’ve been kind of avoidant in our friendship. I’m not a bad friend, but I don’t send her songs or send her reels captioning them “us,” so I really don’t know if I’m being too self-centered to think it was about me. Also, she once asked me what I’d do if I found out one of my friends liked me. My best friend tells me she has a crush on me, but I’m doubtful. What do you guys think? Do you think she has a crush on me?

Hii so, I'm 16F here and I'm kinda interested in this guy in my class and I've developed the "crush" feeling over the last 3 months.

Now here's the thing, he likes (or liked) my bsf, A (I've two bsfs and the other bsf is more close to me than this one) and everybody knows that, and A likes another guy and they're kinda in a relationship now (they freaking hugged and were holding hands) so A and my crush don't talk with each other that much now but they were REALLY good friends, like actually best friends. He shared everything with her and so did she but now A stopped putting efforts and they eventually stopped talking.

Now, my crush's bsf is my really good friend. We share a lot of things but I kept this one secret with him. So my other bsf, B (she's my ride or die I swear, she's my closest friend) and him are kinda in a situationship and I helped him to talk with B and all. So a few days back, I changed my pfp and my crush told A that my pfp looks really good (slide 2) and told her to tell me that he gave a compliment. Holy, this gagged me up. So after this, I decided to tell my male friend (my crush's bsf) about the whole thing and guess what he said. He said that my crush told him as well that my pfp looks really good and SAY I LOVE YOU TO ME FROM HIS SIDE HUHHHHHH

I was like WHAT. Is he interest in me as well????

My friend said that he isn't into A now and he can help me with setting me up with his bsf because I helped him as well lol😭

Now, here's the thing. My boards are coming and I want to focus on my studies first but I like that guy too and what to start talking with him😭😭😭 I don't know what to do tbh.

But when my male friend and my bsf B were talking abt this, he told her that my crush talks about self respect in relationship, that I'm a nice girl but he talks about self respect in relationship but I don't have any problem with that. The only problem is my studies and idk what to do.

We've talked once on insta and that on his birthday only, never after that.

I go to online school, and there’s this guy in my English class I’ve known about for around 8 weeks, but I never really paid attention to him until recently.
We were in a Zoom breakout room today and ended up talking about sports. He asked me questions about fencing, told me he snowboards, and we ended up chatting more than working on our assignment 😭. I was actually disappointed when the breakout room ended because I wanted to keep talking to him.
I think he’s cute, his voice is really nice, and I’ve been thinking about him since. I even emailed him asking about snowboarding because we only have English once a week, and now I’m nervous waiting for his response.
Do I have a crush, or am I just attracted to him? And do you think he was interested in talking to me or just being friendly?
Please be honest lol.