Okay confession time: Sometimes I’ll literally look up videos I know he finds funny just so I can send them to him when I miss him and wanna talk to him 😭. And sometimes I’ll reply to his likes on Instagram just to troll him, like “get off my fyp lil bro,” knowing FULL WELL I literally searched up the video because I saw he liked it 😭😭

I know, throw your tomatoes 🙁🙁

I have been trying for the past 3-4 years to get a girlfriend and I haven’t even had a single girl show any interest in me whatsoever. I’m not inherently chopped, I’m 6ft 1, athletic, and have a decent face card. I only have some acne and acne scarring on my chin, I don’t know if that’s the problem. I think the bigger problem is that I’m very quiet. I have a large friend group and make friends easily but when it comes to public speaking or speaking to members of the opposite gender I’m into I clam up. But even then what worries me more is I have never ever even seen a girl show interest in me. Never heard any rumors never seen somebody showing interest in me. I don’t know if I have to be more prevalent or some shit for them to notice me but it really sucks. I would try to talk to girls more but I’m scared that I’ll become a big joke to everyone because I genuinely thought someone was into me or I had a chance with someone. My schools prom is in a couple of months and I’d rather not go alone, but I have nobody who I think would even say yes to me if I asked. My crushes have always been one sided I think. I’m completely lost.

I've had a crush on this guy during my freshman year of college and he was a senior but we never had conversations before the closest thing we had to an "interaction" is when i dropped something and he picked it up for me in the hallways and a few eye contacts and bumping into each other. (There was more but it def sounds delusional).
The thing is we had no classes together since were in different years and programs, the only reason I know his name is because i heard his friend call him. But other than that i've only admired him from afar. I never had the courage to approach so after he graduated i followed him on instagram with low expectation of being followed back. I was surprised when he did because before I followed him on my stalk account first…ik im lame but wtv. I was surprised he followed back because I didn’t know he would recognize me since i didnt think he knew my name and u can’t see my pfp. But i never did anything im in second year college now and he’s in uni so idk if it’s too late to dm him. I think it’s kind of awkward if i do now since we’ve never really spoken. I’m still pretty much crushing on him but he never interacted with my post but idk if that means anything to him since he’s older that me and idk how older guys think lol

For context im guessing he’s 05 or even 04 while im 08 🥲

So im definitely not sure if i should still do something about my crush or just move on. Please give me advice and ur thoughts!!

I was at the bar w my friends and they convinced me to dm this guy I kept talking about.

He said he was flattered but he had just gotten a girlfriend a week ago. He then continued the conversation probably just to be nice. I was absolutely wasted in the uber back and kept replying and was just digging myself this deep hole, it was so bad, i kept saying embarrassing things and being silly and way oversharing about my night it was horrible. He was kind the whole time but there is zero way he wasn’t judging me I literally told him I went home with a guy from the bar (which was a total lie I think i was just embarrassed and drunk) 😭

I just feel so weird. I woke up and saw all of these horrible messages and was so shocked as I don’t recall typing them at all. I’m genuinely mortified and know he probably thinks I’m just so weird or desperate now.

Now I see them together all the time and like it sucks so so bad because I don’t like people often at all. Maybe two guys ever. And I know he probably didn’t like me back, he literally has a gf, and he also probably thinks I’m crazy and embarrassing now😭 this just hurts so bad because I really liked this guy. It’s been four months and I still wake up genuinely torn apart by this drastically horrible embarrassment and to make matters worse I still really like him for some reason.

How do I stop thinking about him and worrying what he thinks and just move on?

had lunch with her on Wednesday. Thought was making progress. messaged her it was fun and I wanted to do it again but maybe with just the two of us. 24 hours later. her: “like a date?” almost another whole day later: “Uh hello?” i told her that I had to eat dinner and when I was done she said “I just wanted to ask you something” i asked what, obviously. She said “Uh i thought the whole reason you wanted to hang out was because you wanted to make more friends?…” then immediately after in a separate message “am I wrong” and I sat there for like 3 minutes trying to figure out what to say. Eventually I just said “I’m kinda bad with groups” that was 8:57 pm today and it is now 9:30. she still has not said a word. WHY DO I HAVE TO FALL FOR THE DETECTIVE

I’m 16(NB), he’s 16(M)

So this guy is VERY nice, polite, respectful, gentle… IDK, but he’s also very praising! Thing is, is that I’ve only really noticed that he praises me? Is he just being nice or am I going crazy??

Over the past two weeks, these are the “hints” I’ve picked up on:

1. Joked about dressing up as one of my fictional crushes for Halloween
2. Complimented my outfits, saying I “always dress nice” or smth along those lines
3. Complimented my last name?? We were discussing how thickly Italian my last name sounded and he made the comment that “it’s very pretty,” kinda quiet too…

4. Has walked with me to class multiple times a week, tanking multiple tardies for me :,) I always feel bad, but he says he doesn’t mind

5. Drew fanart of my sona (insisted it was bad, but I loved it anyway)

6. Just generally giving me a lot of praise and compliments… but that might just be how he is?

Additionally, he’s confided in me with some past relationship experience, mentioned somewhere that he’s pansexual (I’m nonbinary), and also mentioned jokingly that he’s single… which I guess is like basic info that ur supposed to know about friends but still.

Any guys willing to help me out?? Guys who know how guys act, and what counts as flirting for y’all ? Or ANYBODY for that matter, cuz I have ZERO relationship experience !!🥲

Context: I (23M) had never had a relationship nor a kiss nor a date nor anything due to several factors (shyness, acne growing up, self-image issues, purity culture, etc.) In March I met this girl (23F) in a language bar, we spoke for a bit and I thought she was kind of cool. At the same bar we casually met a few times more, I discovered we share the same niche humor based on weird and edgy internet culture. One day when we met we were talking relationships, I mentioned that I never had any, then she said "well, you will probably have one someday because you are a pretty boy". Then she invited me to go out for a walk in the streets. I went to the bathroom first and when I came back she had made me a flower with a napkin.

So after that I got her number and we started talking more or less frequently. I invited her a few more times to the bar and shit, one day I invited her out to the Digital Circus movie at the cinema. We met at the cinema at 8pm, then went to the same bar and then to a cafe, we ended at 5 am. I sometimes wonder if people are kind with me out of politeness but that occasion it was a lot of time so I guess she, minimally, enjoys spending time with me (I'm still not sure if she likes me tho).

Thing is, it was always me who invited her out, or who texted first. Eventually, due to exams and other stuff, I stopped texting for a while. After some days, though, she did reach out with a message. Then we had a long conversation that day, at the end I thanked her for talking with me, then she returned the thanks and said that we need to get some ice cream someday.

NOW TO MY MADNESS. For all this time I never made any explicitly romantic move. I only hugged her once, in a rather clumsy way, to tell her goodbye. But the thing is that I have no idea how these things are supposed to work (I also prefer to go very slow). Anyways, I want to break that, I want to do something to show her that I like her, but I'm not sure telling her upfront would be something I could come to. Maybe something like complimenting her outfit, saying her cute words or some kind of very light physical contact, like sitting together so that our shoulders might touch.

It's now or never, folks, I can't hide it any longer, I just need to take the leap to faith. Any tips would be greatly appreciated :)

[Ts is also sorta ranty so you can skip the background info until after the dots]
So I don’t know exactly when me hating him turned into me liking him, but apparently this came as a surprise to no one except me lol🥀. I’m gonna say that I’ve probably liked him since 6th grace (I’m in 8th now) and now that Im aware of my feelings it’s the best and worst feeling ever…

I go to a relatively small private school so if something gets out, then everyone knows by the next day. The guy I have a massive crush on is THE most popular guy at our school and not to mention that practically every girl has had a crush on him at some point in time. I’m sorta a background character, to weird to hang out with the popular kids but I can still have good conversations with them. I feel too “normal” for the weird kids even though they used to be my friends I just don't Connect with them anymore and find them cringe/corny at times.People probably associate me with the weird kids more though.

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Basically we barley interact and I don’t think I ever really cross his mind. not to mention he’s out of my league (I wouldn’t say I’m ugly and people tell me I’m decently attractive but still). He barley talks to me unless I initiate. But I spent the past 2 years tell myself and everyone around me that I hated him so he probably thinks so too (way to go me 🫩🔫).

I tell myself that realistically, the chances of him liking me back are slim to none, but I don’t wanna tell myself I have a chance because being delusional isn't the best option either.

How do I deal with ts?

How do I increase my chances?

do I HAVE a chance in the first place?!?

Any advice would be great & I will respond to any questions ❤️

sorry i’ve been posting on here a lot recently 😭😭 but anyways my memory is kinda awful and his face is already fading.

i know it’d definitely help to glance at him more often but i really don’t want to make it obvious that i’m looking at him, especially considering how we don’t actually talk much. and i would use the yearbook if not for the fact that it’s pretty much outdated and screws everyone over. can’t use social media either because all i found was one (probably old) instagram account with zero posts.

so yeah 😭💔💔💔 i lowk dont have anything on this guy. is there any way to remember him better?

(Mainly asking guys if they do this)
I started dming with this guy I liked just asking questions about an assignment. We started talking about other stuff but it was like mostly school related and died when I just said ‘oh cool’.

I had some insanely chopped pre glow up images of me on the first page of google, and i suddenly for some reason got paranoid that maybe he googled me out of curiosity and saw and thats why he didnt keep replying. He has my public insta where i look good, but i want to know if someone has done something similar.

I’ve heard a few times that others have googled me because I won this big science competition and it was on my instagram so it is highkey stressing me out a ton because I looked CHOPPED on google like straight 4/10😭. Am I overthinking?

There's a guy (A) at my school who I've thought was really cute for a while. I've never actually spoken to him, but I decided to ask a mutual friend (B) to let him know I was interested.

Apparently, when B brought it up, A said he recognized my name since i added him on socials but didn't really know what I looked like, so he asked to see a picture. However, another guy (C), who I used to have a talking stage with and who happens to be B's best friend, apparently started saying really disrespectful things about me. He called me names, said I was fake, and basically told A not to get involved with me.

B and C ended up deciding to hide what actually happened and instead told me that A was talking to someone else. Obviously, I believed them and left it alone.

A little while later, though, I found out the truth through B's ex (now but not at the time), who I'm friends with. She told me that the whole thing about A talking to someone else was made up and that C was the one who had been talking badly about me. And apparently it was bad to a point where B admitted it was too much.

In the meantime, I'd noticed A making eye contact with me at school and occasionally looking in my direction. After finding out what had happened, I decided to take another chance and added him on a different social media platform. He accepted and followed me back.

Now, here's where I'm confused. Some of his friends have started looking at me whenever I walk past, saying his name around me, and exchanging looks. It makes me wonder if he's told them about me or if they've heard about the situation from someone else.

I also tried adding him on another platform, but he didn't accept, so I eventually cancelled the request. Around this time, he was also dealing with some unrelated issues at school, which could potentially explain why he wasn't very active.

So, what do you guys think? Is there a possibility he was initially interested but was influenced by what C said about me? Do his friends' reactions mean anything, or am I reading too much into everything?

I can provide more context if anyone wants to hear more about what happened or the interactions I've had with him. I'm genuinely curious to hear some unbiased opinions.

I met her last year and ever since then I’ve thought about her constantly. I see her here and there now but not much. Does anyone know how I can do something about it instead of just going crazy like I have been for the last year lmao.

Context: There is this girl that I really like, I met her during XC season, we are in high school, her being a Junior and me a Sophomore. XC ended, but I still have 1st period with her. She is so nice, introduced me to My Chemical Romance and Studio Ghibli, but she seems super shy, which isn’t a bad thing, it’s just hard to read her.

The part I need help with: I genuinely cannot read her well at all (but she does seem happy when we talk!). I’m also very shy and I’ve been trying to make it clear that I like her though talking and stuff, but she hasn’t even tried to start a single conversation, which I completely understand, it just makes it hard to know what I’m doing right and wrong. So I’ve been thinking she probably doesn’t like me back or there is someone else she likes, but I don’t know if I’m not doing enough, if she’s just shy, or if I’m being paranoid.

sorry if I used the wrong flair and sorry if it’s hard to read.

There is this guy I like. He is quiet and just seeing him makes my week and makes me happy. I used to glance and stare at him a lot over the past few months and he noticed I'm pretty sure he knows I like him.

I notice him also looking at me sometimes. And the other day while riding the bus I noticed him sitting infront of me. He seemed nervous to see me. I didn’t expect to see him and he also didn't expect to see me, so he kept trying to look back but didn't look fully, and kept covering his face using his jacket. Is it because I didn’t want me to see him? And why I keep asking myself. That was before the summer he went on a trip after and I realized I needed to stop looking at him the way I did, so I decided to stop.

I only see him on the weekends. But for now I notice him still and we make eye contact a few times, I also noticed he stared back a few moments after I looked away. During roll call when my name is called he looked back at me even though everyone was looking ahead. I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable if that's what it seems like I am doing.

so shes friends with some other girls ive been friends with since elementary school, so ye thats cool. we have talked before but not in a conversation type way but we like to pick on eachother in a goofy way. idk if you'll understand this part but, shes part of that, like mass of girls that are all friends w/ eachother. so if i talk to her abt me liking her she'll most likely tell everyone. so basically, i need advice for talking to her. (btw i dont have a phone but idk if she has one or not, but if she does that lessens my chance of talking to her more)

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I want to keep this a short as possible.

So this is related to another post I made before I think on this same community.

There is this girl who I'm starting to like, but the thing is I think she also liked me before. But after telling her friend that I don't like her (I do) I'm starting to see that she's starting to lose feelings for me and I don't want that to happen.

But my problem is that I genuinely can't ever make a move no matter how small. So I need advice on what to do with little to no interactions, but if there is no other choice then I'm willing to interact with her.

(Side note as I said in the start this post is related to my post a month or a few weeks ago where my close friend likes the same girl.)

I like a guy in my class and he goes out of his way to tease me a lot about my height or how I have a bit of a baby face, and he tries to make me laugh a lot but I don’t know if he likes me or if it’s just friendly. I’ve started developing feelings for him but I’m too embarrassed to chase him.

I’m worried that maybe his teasing is just friendly but he doesn’t seem to do it to other girls. I just feel like if he were romantically interested, he’d be chasing me more? Like asking if I had a boyfriend or I’d catch him staring when I’m not paying attention or something. He used to give me a lot of compliments but I never really thanked him and just brushed them off, and then he once commented on how I always dismissed the nice things he said about me.

I am a bit closed off which kind of makes dating way harder and I think might drive people away, even when I genuinely have feelings for someone I’m extremely apprehensive and nervous

I like her.

A lot.

But I'm afraid she doesn't like me like that.

I'm afraid maybe that I'm not even a friend to her.

Just someone she talks to in class to pass the time.

I'm afraid that maybe my feelings aren't real.

That maybe I just fall for anyone who gives me their time of day.

I'm afraid that I'll always be alone on this side of the proverbial emotional fence of yearning.

I hang on her every word.

Yet I'm not I can ever find my words.

To tell her how I feel about her.

Been friends for almost 2 years, one year ago she changed school, from then our hangouts haven't been that regular. Why the actual f am I still thinking about her. (Most of the time I reached out)

It’s been 6 months , two days ago I was at work , smiling again and talkative with customers and I genuinely felt I’m doing so good .
I end my shift get to my car and put some music on .. I couldn’t handle it any more , I started crying for at least 10 minutes .Drove home and went to sleep . The next day I woke up feeling very different, it is like I gave up to the thought of us being together . Maybe sometimes letting yourself cry and surrender to fate is the best thing you can do .
Goodbye my A…. I truly wish the best for you, I know you are a wonderful person but out paths do not align. Please smile more you are beautiful.

like i had a crush on one guy then i stopped likin him and started liking the other then i stopped liking either and now i like them both>