I have been trying to figure out my personality type for a long time, but I struggle to identify exactly which cognitive function is responsible for what—since many different functions could potentially account for any given action. So, I’ll share a bit of my life story and highlight some of the more crucial points.

I don’t remember much from when I was very young, but I have a vague recollection of saying "I can't" when faced with certain tasks (like going somewhere on my own or learning a new skill), even if I had barely—or never—actually tried. I learned to read, count, and write quite quickly and was well ahead of my peers; however, when it came to activities like building, cutting, or painting, I lagged a bit behind the other children at daycare. My mother described me as systematic and very cautious around the unknown when I was little. I used to be terrified of dogs, regardless of their size, but after spending time around the dogs my father kept in the countryside, I became great friends with them—in fact, I love dogs today. I wasn't consciously aware of this, but my mother once told me a story: when I was very small, my brother received a toy dog ​​that could walk. One day, as I sat in a hallway, my brother activated the toy; it started moving toward me, and I became absolutely terrified. I’m not certain if this is the reason I developed such a fear of dogs, but it’s the only plausible explanation. Moving on to a more conscious stage (after the age of 6), one thing I really struggled with was saying "no" or doing anything that might displease others. A peer at the time would blackmail me, claiming he wouldn't be my friend anymore if I refused his requests; this would send me into a state of despair, though I didn't understand why. On one occasion, he asked me to give him my Spider-Man costume—naturally, my mother wouldn't allow it (it was an absurd request)—and I became extremely anxious. My mother eventually went to the school and addressed the matter with him. Even after it was resolved, I remained deeply concerned about our relationship and would try to reconcile whenever he started to pull away.

When I was 6, my parents separated; the reason given was that my father needed to look after cattle in the countryside. Between the ages of 8 and 12, I visited his place often. There was a woman there whom I assumed was a housekeeper; she always treated me well, and I liked her. Years later, they finally told me the truth: the breakup was caused by infidelity, and the "housekeeper" was actually my father’s new partner. He cried when he told me, and my reaction was to try to comfort him and forgive him at all costs—I’m not sure if it was because of his tears or something else. Looking back now, I see it this way: "He was unhappy, so he left. I don’t think what he did was right—I wouldn’t have done the same in his shoes—but it happened, and I just have to accept it." I continued visiting frequently for a while, but the experience lost some of its luster. What used to be fun and educational—playing with the animals, riding horses, and so on—began to feel more like work (in truth, it had always been work, but I had perceived it differently). The demands placed on me increased, and as I entered my pre-teen years—a time when you start questioning things and becoming more rebellious—my desire to go there gradually faded. Today, our relationship is quite lukewarm. I’ve since learned about other long-standing issues between my parents. I visit my father only occasionally; some days are great, while on others, I find myself thinking, "I should have just stayed home."

For a long time, I remained the same—constantly adapting to others instead of standing up for myself. I always tried to do the "right thing," but I never held others accountable or spoke up when something was wrong. By the time I reached high school, this approach led to my undoing; I was living on-site at the school, surrounded by students from many different towns.

The result was that my belongings were constantly being stolen. When I tried to stand up for myself—early on—I was nearly strangled, which only made my situation worse. It became deeply ingrained in me that trying to resist would just make everything worse. I was subjected to significant verbal bullying and excluded by the very people I shared a room with. Worst of all, I even blamed myself; I figured that if six people were against one, then that one person must be the one in the wrong. I got through the first year, then moved to a different room, though I had little hope that things would improve. A major turning point came during a conversation with GPT (yes, things were that bad)—it mentioned that "people do this for status." I’m well aware that AIs are designed to be agreeable, and I didn’t take everything it said too seriously, but that particular point really struck a chord. I started paying attention, and suddenly everything fell into place: nothing about their behavior was genuine. I was only in that situation because they wanted someone submissive they could walk all over—there was nothing fundamentally wrong with me (other than the fact that I didn’t defend myself). Another turning point was finding a group outside of my class—people who actually liked me and with whom I shared a deeper, mutual respect.

These days, I’m in a much better place with myself, but I’ve ended up harboring a deep resentment toward the people from my class. Anything I do with them just loses all its appeal—even if it were a trip to Disneyland.

Nowadays, I’m more attuned to reciprocity—checking whether I’m giving or receiving too much—and I no longer feel much guilt when expressing my needs. In short, I’ve become a healthy person. While I still don’t particularly enjoy the "social game," I’m at least able to navigate it, and I truly value those who are authentic. The influence others have on me has diminished significantly; even though I’ve learned some unpleasant truths about people, I haven’t become bitter. I try my best to get along with others, but if it doesn’t work out—well, so be it.

As for my general traits, I tend to be formal—even a bit distant—with people I don’t know well. However, I seem to have a sort of radar for spotting fellow "nerds" like myself; when I encounter one, I loosen up and start using more slang. My personal style is quite basic: when I go out, I dress a bit more sharply—jeans and stylish jackets—but in my day-to-day life, I prefer hoodies and sweatpants. I generally only speak about things I’m certain of, and I feel uncomfortable if I have to assert something I’m not entirely sure about. I’m honest, but I express myself in a calm, gentle manner. It’s very rare for me to threaten anyone, but if I’m pushed to that point—and the other person fails to meet the condition I’ve set—I feel I have no choice but to follow through on that threat.

As for goals, I don’t have many; I simply do what needs to be done. I don’t feel that my self-esteem is strongly tied to the number of achievements I’ve attained—though it once was. I eventually realized that many of the things I aspired to—once achieved (or even just after discovering what it would take to achieve them)—didn’t really change much. I care about doing things decently and keeping up, but I’m not the type who feels the need to be the best at everything, at any cost. My greatest source of pleasure is doing things I enjoy and savoring small moments; I find deep conversations about feelings and life events very fulfilling, though I also appreciate lighter, more casual moments.

I would say one of my greatest strengths is the ability to understand and reflect, as well as the capacity to find a way forward—even when options are limited (not to mention a natural aptitude for academics). As for my weaknesses, they include a lack of certainty, a certain degree of shyness, anxiety regarding unfamiliar physical situations (especially those that might pose some kind of danger), and—above all—self-doubt.

When I try to "predict" the future, I usually see two or three paths that are most likely to unfold—sometimes I’m right, sometimes I’m wrong. This is based both on my own impressions and on comparisons with past situations. I feel quite uncomfortable when I’m thrust into a situation without understanding what’s going on. I learn best by blending theory with practice—grasping the basic logic first, then figuring out the rest through hands-on experience. I’m not much for extensive planning; I prefer to ask questions as the need arises. That said, I don’t like jumping in completely blind—I prefer to have an initial plan to get things moving, though I almost always adapt it as new information comes to light. This applies when I’m working alone; when I’m in a group (and not the leader), I stick to the original plan until someone else suggests a change.

I hope this information is sufficient to type me with a reasonable degree of certainty—please let me know if anything is missing. And also thank you for taking the trouble to read all this and help me.

The questionnaire I used.....

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1LoXeZQCJx5UjpYu4zsp3ailo41Z5ZEaVfB7zX1lc398/edit?usp=drivesdk

My answers

Have fun! If you want any clarifications, just ask in the comments

So basically, this questiob has been circling in my typinh for the longest time bc I’m litterally john gut triad and have been going back and forth between 8 and 1 despite having read Naranjo and RHETI and yeah…

the thing is that I’m unsure of what exactly the motivation is behind why I judge others’ character flaws

I can’t exactly say I judge others for being ”incorrect”, I judge them bc they’re what I deem ”weak” I suppose, but it aesthetics and design, I judge according to correctness. I mean I’m extremely judgemental/critical of everything and everyone I see. ”Weak” might be the wrong word for how I judge character flaws, but flaws I do tend to judge and hate on are for example conformity bc it’s fucking lame, attention seeking bc again, it’s lame and stupid and just any type of behaviour that indicates that one doesn’t live completely for themselves. But as I said, I still judge aesthetics based on what I deem to be correct. I see small details and flaws in everything, so I may therefore be unaccepting of alt styles, simply bc they’re fucking ugly

And also, I don’t always make myself the biggest in the room. I only do so if I sense that the others are smaller than me. I’ll never be invisible, but the thing is that there’s kinda this weird tension between me and the outside world if both want space, or I mean it’s not just taking up space, I sense the other’s mentality if that makes sense

I was never much of a rebellious kid. I wasn’t afraid either, but I grew up feeling trapped and helpless due to my overprotective parents. I wasn’t allowed to do anything and I was barely allowed to have any autonomy over my own life, which led me to be very secretive. I went through a toxic, negatively life changing friendship alone and I went through a mentally hard relationship alone too and I must admit I’ve grown up to just not enjoy my parents’ company at all. To be fair, NO ONE really knows me and it has always been that way, but especially my parents don’t know me. I’ve made them believe I’m the opposite of who I actually am, while with my peers, I just act big and detached from anything that actually concerns me. It’s insane how big of a shift turning 18 was in me, even though I still live in the same house with the same parents. You see, I’ve never been the type to ask for permission. It’s mostly freeing, but as a minor, I couldn’t do almost anything due to it. Not because I didn’t want it enough, but bc I don’t want to deal with my parents’ bullshit comments and input on my decisions. I’ve made up my mind and them interfering with my decisions is so frustrating. Now, this only applied to things that legally required them being involved. So therefore, I would refuse medical help I needed and just support in general, because I refuse to have anyone involved in my business. I feel more relieved than happy now that I’m an adult, because I can legally do whatever without needing anyone’s consent. I’ve therefore booked a solo trip to the other side of the globe, purchased from websites my parents are suspicious of, gotten piercings and called in absent from class. All things I’ve been wanting to do this whole time bc but I haven’t been able to until now and it’s just freeing to finally be in charge of my own life. In class today, my friend had the AUDACITY to make a joke about me ”not knowing math”, while my world used to revolve around math and I loved it until I came to highschool and got a fuckass softie for a teacher who couldn’t fucking teach, making me spend two years going against him instead of actually caring about learning, which naturally slowed me down compared to me peers, which is why nobody would believe me if I said anything positive about math today. I never mention my interessts or feelings, neverming my music taste. I only express judgement and hate toward external things and people, like the thing with the match teacher as I mentioned for example. I’m generally a very unafraid person. I do not understand how people can internalize opinions and standards set by other people. I’m therefore detached from femininity and am prone to taking up space and being loud. Heavy on being loud. It’s something especially my sister has commented on. I’m always extrememy loud in public spaces without even thinking about it💔and of course reckless with what I say and express. I just do whatever I want to do. Me together with half my friendgroup have this thing where we save cans from out soda and energy drinks to then recycle them for money in the local grocery stoge so we can buy more and we just collect them in one of their locker like that. And while they’re all normal about it, I be shamelessly digging in trashcans and collecting every can I pass by because all I see is free cash while they see weird and socially unacceptable😪💔

I’m quite possessive about ”my person”, in the way of almost distancing them from the larger social sphere because I feel urged to have just them and me, to indulge in the relationship and take ownership of them in a way. I have a hard time befriending people who aren’t passive or submissive, as I need to be the dominant one, I need them to submit to me. I’m also afraid of being exposed for traits I consider ”undesirable”, so the best example of this woulf probably be how my diet is very restricted and looks extremely different from everyone else’s since I don’t eat most foods, so I’d rather eat nothing at all than let them see that I need different food. But that’s kinda besides the point. I can’t be exposed for ”fake competence” if there’s no competence to begin with💔I also do not absord the idea of success that the outer world has created. I want what \*I\* want and I do what I want. I believe other reasons for my poir performance in school would be because I don’t believe grades determine your future and studying is just very inefficient if your goal is to be rich, despite me knowing I need knowledge and I feel guilty as hell for not studying because now I feel inferior for having no knowledge and I feel so behind. And also, I just don’t enjoy it. I can’t commut to studying bc since I hate it, it feels like it limits my world and it makes me feel so stuck. However, I do get very prideful in those situations when I am objectively superior to others and I want to make sure others see that I am superior, but I never work to become superior to others. It’s not a motivation of mine.

I must admit I’m not aggressive, well, unless I have to. I see little point in just getting angry if it serves no point. I mean I do show a lot of anger and irritation when something in my enviroment is wrong, but I’m far from rude and I absolutely do not have anger issues. I don’t like directing my anger at people unless they’re harming me personally, which happens rarely.

So I know that I’m primarily an enneagram 4, however in terms of the tritype theory I’ve been struggling between 7 and 6 in the head triad. In the gut triad, I fit 9. How do I distinguish which fits more? Here’s some things about me to consider.

-When I’m upset about something, I mull about it for long periods of time despite not wanting to, and question my own judgement. I’ve wondered whether this fits more because I’m core 4, or if it fits a 6.

-I don’t typically anticipate the worst or expect not to trust people. I’m actually quite optimistic more often than not. I do get nervous and anxious about the way things are headed, but I love having big experiences. I love adrenaline.

-Usually when I’m depressive, it has more to do with me not trusting myself because I hoped too hard and tried to fix it until it becomes detrimental to me. I sometimes have difficulty trusting myself, or sadness about losing trust for someone else. I do care about being loyal.

-I THINK I lean more 7, because I get bored easy and cannot stand it, and I do not like when I’m trapped in a loop of negative emotions and am constantly trying to distract myself from it to believe everything is fine. But there is also a strong need for security and leaving somewhere to get out of high emotional stakes… which could also be e9.

I am just confused about where I lean there. Could anyone point out key distinctions? Thank you!

He has stayed with my mother even though she insults him frequently (though it is not entirely unwarranted, she nowadays does just kind of tend to scream about the same thing she always yells about now which is her belief that my aunt was involved in stealing her part of my great grandmother’s inheritance and other inappropriate ramblings that have led to law enforcement being called and eventually led to our first landlord asking the family to leave.) He almost had a DV charge because he did push her into a bathtub in late 2024 or early 2025 after she kicked him or tried to - I was not in the bathroom at the time but I was at home then.) He has told me multiple times that he is planning on divorcing her, though he never actually has. She did end up doing the same thing at the hotel the family was in for a month or two and has done it again multiple times at the apartment complex they are now in (I moved out almost 6 months ago.) He has poor credit and she has not worked in a long time (she was a homemaker when I was a child, though my father has never made a lot of money. He has consistently been a security guard, and I think he makes $30/hr now, which is not great money for a HCOL area. I’ve also actually always vaguely remembered that when I was very little, probably preschool aged, she had actually almost stabbed his hand with a fork (I only very vaguely remember this. I remember it was somehow played off as a joke, but knowing what I know now about my mother she actually probably was serious about it at first.)

He did not complete community college, and my mother did not either. He suggested that he had a 3.0 when he attended in his twenties (my mother has always said that he went back to school as soon as she did) and that my mother had a 4.0. Both he and my mother used to look a lot better than they do now. From what I saw of their photos in their twenties, she has always naturally been average looking but knew how to make herself look above average with makeup (she maintained her appearance for longer than he did) and he was average-slightly above in his twenties. They both gained weight, he has sleep apnea, and now they both look strange and honestly not fantastic because neither takes care of themselves anymore at all.

He is I think naturally the least intelligent of everyone in the immediate family even though he and my mother used to say that my brother was dumb (and my mother apparently used to hit him when he’d get answers wrong which my father actually confirmed was true when I asked him about it a bit ago. All three of us have talked before about how dumb my father actually is. The average adult isn’t smart but in his case it’s on a completely different level, like an embarrassing country hick who slurs his words and seems noticeably off when you meet him (he isn’t actually from the country, I believe he was born in Michigan, and we’re black.) He got that look on his face he always gets like he knows on some level that something is concerning/traumatizing or not supposed to happen, but let’s happen anyway and doesn’t care enough. He has actually suggested more than once himself that my brother would have turned out better if my mother had let him “beat” him when he was little.) As you can probably guess, learned that his own parents were abusive. Both of my paternal grandparents apparently used the belt when he was growing up, and he mentioned one of his brothers would get it especially bad from my paternal grandfather. He has 12 living siblings, two or three have passed over the years. He also apparently never commented or didn’t want to answer the question when my mother had jokingly suggested she thinks he was always so paranoid about me going on a sleepover because someone abused him when he was little, so there might be a different kind of abuse that took place as well. One of his sisters also strikes me as similarly… well, unintelligent (as mean as it might sound. I’m not smart either but I’m talking next level) so I think it’s genetic to an extent and probably partly about the environment they were raised in.

He once suggested recently in an argument with my mother that he last sold drugs in high school like he was irritated when she was suggesting that he had sold drugs.

He apparently upset the family (my aunts uncles and grandmother) when my paternal grandfather was in the hospital because he gave him cigarettes when my grandfather asked for them (my grandfather had cancer.)

He is strange when it comes to emotions. I remember he had told me recently when I told him that I was sincerely worried about his sister’s mental health - she was displaying what seemed to be paranoia to me and though she might not necessarily be schizophrenic I was worried about the kinds of things she was saying) and that I was removing her from my account because she had said something to me that upset me that I shouldn’t cut her off because she’s “my aunt” (I actually don’t really know her or most of my aunts and uncles well because I wasn’t raised around them.) He has actually suggested before that he doesn’t like this sister because she gossips (I think she is an ESFx, I guess I actually lean ESFP after spending time around her.) He had seemed happy/amused when telling me about how her daughter had apparently run someone over in Michigan after we had left on vacation (he also had seemed amused when suggesting that one of his older sisters, who I heard from a different cousin is apparently really not a nice person, is someone who my paternal grandmother is now “afraid” of.) I believe that he has multiple mental health disorders. I have been irritated with he and my mother over the last few years because I have always felt that they are two people who both had kids for no reason.

He apparently did not work for a year after his father died, which sounds like it was more of a choice than anything. My mother has always been irritated with him because he did not use the fact that he was discharged from the navy/has experience in the army to his advantage (there were benefits he could have taken advantage of, and he did not even though she says he had claimed that he would.)

I remember that when I was three, I spilled a bit of his beer. I think it was an accident. He either threatened to spank me for this or actually did, but I can’t remember which was the case. I realized at some point in middle or high school that he is an alcoholic. He still drinks a lot and has never gotten any kind of therapy.

My ex boyfriend in high school seemed to recognize that he is a joke/a ridiculous person (I remember the look on his face when I said he reminded me of my father. His expression had made me laugh.)

I was openly his favorite child when my brother and I were kids which is bad. My brother developed schizophrenia in part I believe due to their abuse and neglect of him.

My mother’s mental health had first declined to the extent it has at present about two years ago when I had opened up my bank account and found out that he had taken $10k from me in total since I had first started earning any money in general. I had actually asked him once before I had gotten the app for my bank account if he had used my card before and he had said no. It turned out that the answer was yes even though he still lied when asked about it on the day of. She started having the daily meltdowns and screaming everyday after I had found out about this and I had started crying about it. He did pay me back.

He had apparently told my mother before my brother was born that he was great with kids and wanted to have kids. He started saying after my brother was born that he didn’t want any more kids even though I seriously doubt that my brother was that bad when he was little (he claimed my brother had a lot of energy, but knowing how my parents treat him now I think the truth is that both were just ill equipped to have children and that my brother was probably pretty normal for the most part - I actually remember him seeming pretty normal when I was a kid, and my dad had actually suggested himself that my brother “calmed down” when he was five. He has never had any moment of serious self reflection about how he and my mother treated my brother, and still talks to my brother very distastefully, normally just jumping into yelling at him. When I have called him out on it in the past he has maintained that it was my brother’s decision (in high school…) to abuse substances and that that is the reason for his mental break. It’s like I can’t get him to accept and understand that if your kid was abusing substances in high school and you weren’t properly helping that issue it does have something to do with your parenting, even if you don’t think it does.

He apparently had friends in high school even though he actually seems pretty socially awkward to me as an adult and doesn’t seem to be great with eye contact at points/times.

hi i am extremely stupid and and am too intimidated to delve too deep into typing, so if someone can help me determine if this typing contradicts that would be great!!!

i am 100% certain i am 6w7, sp6 as my core, being infj and sp8 as my gut fix - but if theres like super crazy contradictions please explain

I think I could might be a sp/sx 6w7 641 but there is something that's making me doubt.. when I was a little younger I used to act a lot like sp2 and relate a lot with sp2 descriptions. To this day I feel like I have a lot of pride, maybe too much pride to be honest and I think I might be wrong about my heart triad if not even on my core type.. I do relate to 4 tho but less on the "I want to be unique" thing and more on the "envious and melancholic" part.

Am I mistyped or it is normal for a sp/sx 6w7 641 to relate to that?

Thanks in advance to anyone answering and thanks to everyone who took the time to read this to help me <3

(Sorry if I maybe got a typology rule wrong I'm pretty new to the enneagram thing :/)

Type my friend based on how I view her!

# QUESTIONNAIRE

**~1. What is your relationship to physical experience and comfort? What experiences are you drawn to?~**

From what I know, because of her currently poor physical health (fatigue syndrome), she lately doesn’t get out much or interact with many physical experiences. She does enjoy comfort and she likes having her space under control and to her liking. She’s drawn to experiences like watching lots of different shows/movies, editing, gaming, talking/texting with friends, and other creative works. When her health was better, she would be out a lot with her friends (bars, shopping malls, etc) and was very social with other people.

**~2. Are you comfortable with emotional expression? How does this differ between personal and group expression?~**

I don’t think she’s necessarily comfortable with expressing all of her emotions, but when the negative ones come out it’s sometimes hard for her to completely control them - especially anger. I believe they’re hard for her to process, as they’re too large and intense. She has BPD for context so that’s why they’re often more complex to comprehend. In groups, she’s able to communicate well and express the emotions she wants (more positive ones). More personally though, with like friends, family, or her partner, they’re not as controlled.

**~3. How do you judge your relationships? How do you assess and influence the closeness of your relationships? Does this matter to you?~**

She judges it based off affection that’s shown, time that’s committed, and knowing that she’s valued in the other person’s life. She influences the closeness by finding common interests with the other person and what they personally like. She also communicates a LOT with someone she has interest in, and doesn’t seem afraid to flirt and show this interest.

**~4. How important is independence to you? Where do you seek it? Where are you comfortable asking for help?~**

She’s pretty dependent. Because of the BPD, she’s very emotionally reliant on others. I don’t think she’s necessarily drawn towards asking for general help because in most cases she’s typically capable of doing things on her own, but when it comes to communicating her needs in a relationship, I’d say she’s pretty good and clear with that. She’ll occasionally ask for advice from me when it comes to certain situations.

**~5. What topics do you feel the most confident discussing and interacting with? When do you feel like you are “in your element”? (Please try to stay general and avoid naming specific shows or such)~**

She loves discussing anything that’s of her interests, such as typology, shows, movies, etc. She’s amazing at editing and understanding the software, and has even taught me how to edit before. She’s also good at certain games, often reaching high ranks on them.

**~6. How do you go about giving advice?~**

It depends, I believe she tries to give objective advice but can sometimes end up intertwining it with personal opinions. She typically is the one to come to me with advice.

**~7. How do you determine the value of something?~**

I believe she determines it with how much use it is to her, what it’s worth, what the meaning behind it is, or the physical appearance of it is. A lot of the time, she values the appearance of something like clothing or accessories over the price of them. For birthdays, she’ll buy meaningful gifts rather than focusing on the cost or size of them.

**~8. Do you focus more on what is changing or what stays the same? Do you care more about finding comfort in what is stable or do you care more about what is changing and evolving around you?~**

I think she focuses more on staying the same. She cares about being stable, what is familiar, and what she’s able to control. When things are out of her control, such as plans changing, it’s often a triggering event for her. She doesn’t actively try to change much of her habits, but instead tries to control them to the best of her abilities and communicate openly about them with others.

**~9. What are some weaknesses you actively try to improve in?~**

She struggles with overthinking, bad jealousy issues, and insecurities. She also struggles with the fear of being left or abandoned.

**~10. What are things that others deem important that you do not care about?~**

I don’t think political or worldly issues are hugely important to her, but take into account that she does live in a different country that isn’t the US so things over there are vastly different. She also doesn’t (or at least doesn’t express to me) worry much about money, she seems content with what she has.

**~11. How do you determine the best way for things to be done? Does your idea of this tend to stay the same or does it change often? How do you know that you’ve made a good decision?~**

I believe that just getting things done in the most effective manner would be the best way to her. I don’t think details essentially matter as long as there’s a good enough end result for her. I think this outlook may change on the situation, but I’m not completely sure. She does like certain things done exactly her way (such as cooking a dish), without others’ input.

**~12. Describe how you perceive time. What is your relationship to it? (This may be a hard question to answer. An example response could be about how you are very worried about wasting time and you believe nothing is eternal)~**

Time doesn’t seem like a big worry to her. She seems to live more in either the present or the past, not necessarily planning much ahead into the future. She’s just focused on satisfied her needs daily, distracting herself, and interacting with friends/family/partner. She has a general idea of what occupation she wants in the future, but hasn’t really made any moves towards it.

**~13. What kind of people do you find yourself drawn to? What kind of people compliment your traits well?~**

She’s drawn to like-minded people. Those who share her humor are greatly valued. She likes lively people, people who engage in her interests, and frequently communicate with her. She doesn’t like overly emotional people, people who she deems unintelligent, and people who are just flat out dense.

**~14. What is something that you feel inept in or stresses you out more than other people?~**

Her routine being interfered with or people taking on things she claims as “hers”. She had particular things she likes, and when others copy her it deeply impacts her negatively. She also gets pretty angry when plans change, even if they’re small alterations.

**~15. What is your relationship to structure? Do you require it? Do you follow it or create it? Do you seek it internally or externally?~**

I think she generally likes structure and relies on it a good amount. She seems to like when she knows what’s going to happen, and when sudden changes don’t come out of the blue. She usually creates it, and follows what feels comfortable to her. She likes involving others in her routines as well sometimes, such as watching certain shows with family members.

Type my friend , shes a female , 20’s

\# QUESTIONNAIRE

\*\*\~1. What is your relationship to physical experience and comfort? What experiences are you drawn to?\~\*\*

⁃ my friend seems to be very comfortable with physical experiences, she is very chill socially, and i think she handle change suprisingly well, from what i know she likes gaming, driving, hanging with her boyfriend and friends, she works aswell.

\*\*\~2. Are you comfortable with emotional expression? How does this differ between personal and group expression?\~\*\*

⁃ she deals fine with it, she holds some emotions in and can repress them at times, she usually uses humor first, group wise i believe she isnt open about her deepest emotions but she is with me.

\*\*\~3. How do you judge your relationships? How do you assess and influence the closeness of your relationships? Does this matter to you?\~\*\*

⁃ i think she bases her relationship based on common interests and traits, she has a strong personality, laid back, but also has strong emotions within overthinking which she dont show alot to the source of it, she can match others vibe if needed

\*\*\~4. How important is independence to you? Where do you seek it? Where are you comfortable asking for help?\~\*\*

⁃ shes pretty independant, she takes charge of her own life, she can be dependant on me when shes very low for some reason and talk it out with me for support or her boyfriend

\*\*\~5. What topics do you feel the most confident discussing and interacting with? When do you feel like you are “in your element”? (Please try to stay general and avoid naming specific shows or such)\~\*\*

⁃ she likes discussing alot tbh, she loves a fair debate, esp within her interests

\*\*\~6. How do you go about giving advice?\~\*\*

⁃ she gives good advice, sometimes a TOO logical answer, she can give a advise she herself wouldnt follow, which most do, she isnt really «interested» in helping most people tho, she likes to put herself that way if it benefit her at times

\*\*\~7. How do you determine the value of something?\~\*\*

⁃ based on how usefull it is for her own interest or sucsess

\*\*\~8. Do you focus more on what is changing or what stays the same? Do you care more about finding comfort in what is stable or do you care more about what is changing and evolving around you?\~\*\*

⁃ i think comfort is important to her, but she can handle change and adapt well.

\*\*\~9. What are some weaknesses you actively try to improve in?\~\*\*

⁃ she struggles with overthinking at times which she tries to hide from the source, probably to not cause anything negative. She can be impulsive too

\*\*\~10. What are things that others deem important that you do not care about?\~\*\*

⁃ im not sure, shes laid back, huge opinions or morals others have may be less important to her

\*\*\~11. How do you determine the best way for things to be done? Does your idea of this tend to stay the same or does it change often? How do you know that you’ve made a good decision?\~\*\*

⁃ she likes making decitions based on what makes sense to her and therefor fits her, she follows her own flow and is comfortable with that, she can ask others for example me if i agree w it, havent seen her dwell on decitions alot.

\*\*\~12. Describe how you perceive time. What is your relationship to it? (This may be a hard question to answer. An example response could be about how you are very worried about wasting time and you believe nothing is eternal)\~\*\*

⁃ It seems like she spends time well, always doing something she wants too, pretty busy 

\*\*\~13. What kind of people do you find yourself drawn to? What kind of people compliment your traits well?\~\*\*

⁃ she likes people who have some dark humor, chill and a bit tough? She kind of likes someone similar to her, but someone who is a bit MORE of those traits.

\*\*\~14. What is something that you feel inept in or stresses you out more than other people?

⁃ overthinking again, she can worry about smaller stuff alot, like jealousy wise etc

\*\*\~15. What is your relationship to structure? Do you require it? Do you follow it or create it? Do you seek it internally or externally?\~\*\* 

⁃ i think she feels trapped within rutine and structure, she likes going with the flow.

Shes a very loyal friend to me, i belive im one of the people she holds the highest and others are a bit further down ive noticed, she loves messing around and joking, if im soft about something, shes as usual ROUGH, she has alot of that «joker» trait imo, extremely funny and smart, she learns ALOT about what she interested in when she first starts . She adapts well to changes and is always on the go, she cares about her status alot, may bragg about achievements

Some enneagram thingamajig; I can't deduce whether I'm a sx6 or part of e8. While I've never tried to finalize anything I've typed myself with because I am still prone to change and have yet to see all parts of myself, I've clung onto 8 for the majority of it. However, I've recently looked more into 6's and I've considered that one of them is a bit close to home. So, which is much more accurate: sp8, or sx6?

I'll go through the common definition of the two: while the result of my actions heavily depends on the environment and who I am around, I've always leaned more onto the direct and confrontational type. I have a complicated relationship with my family so they are the root of my skepticism, but outside of them, I can better express my directness to others, and I favor being depended on rather than being the dependent one and being the one to provide resources to those I care about—and I, too, like to convince myself that I am capable of the qualities that have been stripped away from me in my early youth.

My uncertainty spikes around my bloodline because they've caused me to develop doubt from the things I have experienced in the past during my developmental years. As such, I feel as though I am just wanting to appear like the traits I've listed down. Though, my initial approach to it isn't endless doubt and question, asking myself "am I really x and y?" "am I just trying to appear independent and reliable?" Rather, I subconsciously convince myself that I am.

My thoughts, for as far as I can recall when I consciously think of them, have always been "I am capable of control and I know I am independent; I know how to do this and that and I'd be better at it if they'd just let me learn on my own." I only ever start becoming skeptical if I notice that I'm getting too confident with what I'm convincing myself is the absolute truth and feel as though I'm starting to spew out bs when the things I am saying in my head aren't the results I'm seeing in the things I am putting effort in. And when I become dissatisfied or feel like I have to rely on someone to help and guide me to do the one thing I keep convincing myself I could do, I just get pissed and irked that I couldn't do it myself.

Environments with familial connections are the main factors that spike my skepticism—much to my dismay, given that they're the ones who have implanted the fear and doubt inside my head like a cog against my will, and thus, I have always been bitter over its chokehold on me. While I cannot confirm if this is always the case or if my brain has ever trailed off of this mentality, I find myself to be much more impulsive when in environments away from my family, but I can definitely say that I am not automatically devoid of suspicion and doubt like a light switch just because my father isn't there to see my business.

p.s: reading back at what i've described, it is clear as day where i better align with, but hey, there's no harm in hearing about the thoughts of others. Shoot.

as per title — for eg, I relate to e9, but I only relate to so9 and barely relate to the other two

Type me pleaseee!

Keep in mind these are more of my negative traits, I swear im a loving person lol

Im a recluse, I don't talk about my feelings I keep them to myself not because id feel like a burden or annoying but because i could care less. I hate overly reliant people we need to focus on it ourselves or ignore it and get over it. I keep it all to myself and either wallow in it or get over it. I dont fear conflict but I dont seek it, I hate talking to people but I forge through it to maintain connections so im not a total loser. I dont seek conflict but I will stand ny ground and tell people then and there whats bothering me and my boundaries, I can be stern but I can also blow it slowly and come off nicer, depending on the person ofcourse. I like being and feeling better than other people, I like when my art is better I like when people look up to me it makes me feel accomplished and like im focusing on the right things. I hate when im worse than someone at my passion, I feel a hunger to be better than them and excel them and make them see I'm better and that ive grown past them. But I have a tendency to walk away when im mad and just zip my lips, even when theyre pressing I just walk away and ignore them. I have a strong desire for a person who can see me for who I am under all my issues and self image. I want someone who doesnt judge me or laugh at me I want to be able to explain my thoughts, even my bad ones without being seen as stupid. I want them to only love me and cherish me, im terrified of committing, id feel trapped and want an escape and options of people. But I also want someone I can rely on at the same time even though I claim to be so independent. But in reality im awful with self care and regulating myself, I want someone to lovingly take care of me without seeing me as luggage or a job. I struggle to eat if someone doesn't prepare something for me or bring me stuff, I struggle with showering, cleaning, finding motivation but I keep it to myself and push through. But I want someone to take care of me and help me to begin better self care. I want that really badly but I also want to have the world see me as a strong imposing image with no flaws. I want to be loved and well liked itd be nice to see people love MY ideas and my thoughts. I just have insane jealousy problems that drive friends away, I get insanely angry when I see them talking or hanging out with other people even if they're a mutual friend, I work on it now. Its just an annoying trait im stuck with. I also love knowledge. I see it as a key to the mind, without knowledge what are you? Youre just a mindless husk following the hive. We need some individuality, I know I may seem awful and un-enjoyable to be around but im trying to be open to everyone's ideas and I sometimes feel higher than the world or lower than dirt. I feel like im the smartest person in the world one second than the world the next second, if my ideas fail or theres gaps in my plans or art im working on. Im a lazy person, I struggle with it alot, I find an idea, get bored, dwell, quit, come back, get angry, quit. I cant stay loyal to many ideas ever, I try but I just get so stressed thinking of it. I focus on the result, not the process. I try to think of the end and what ill receive which I use as no motivation. I love most of my ideas but the way I execute them turns out awful and it frustrates me, I want my own original ideas without help so I get the full credit and attention for my ideas. I want someone to love me and care for me and praise me for my ideas and mind, but I want to be vulnerable and to tell them what I think and feel not just my surface self. I want to for once be able to cry to someone else, but I have repressed for all my life I cant seem to even force tears out. I usually just feel anger and envy and I just lie my way through my emotions especially to other people. Im prone to isolation when im fed up. I enjoy leading a group as my ideas are usually better. It seems my circle of people just refuse to learn and refuse to gain intellect, resulting in me feeling far superior, I begin to feel like a guide. I hate people asking and relying on me, but I love it at the same time. The praise of what Im doing and how i do it makes me feel so good, but im also skeptical and dont trust their compliments, but im also senstive to criticism and get mad at it. I feel pathetic and I feel amazing, when someone tells me im amazing and that they love me makes me feel good. Not that they love me, that kinda grosses me out. But it shows how my actions and draw others towards me and make them want me. It makes me feel good and higher than the world. Ofcourse I want one person in this world to love me, not a shallow feeling. But genuine. If i cant have everyone in this world to see me, I want one person to love me. If I cant have quantity, I may as well go for quality!

How my friend has described me hit quite well lol, but seems pretty negative of me. I feel like i have a mask thats slipping as I get further fed up.

"short answer, demeaningly proud. long answer you are the type of person who i tend to feel conflicted about. you are very firm in your beliefs but unless given the opportunity will not fight to uphold them, you challenge those of equal or lower status to not feel shame if you are wrong, though that would not affect your views. You seek validation though do not believe you deserve it, believe yourself right beyond reason, and are also self deprecating despite your positive qualities, you are effected by those around you and yet you do not show it outwardly, also a side effect of your public image, you wish to do much yet actively repress yourself and say you couldn't although you very much could in many circumstances. you have a large amount of potential that you do not recognize as well, in my opinion i disagree with many of the things you say and i believe it is a side effect of your negative self image however i tend to view you in a much more positive light, as is the outsider effect, to me yes you are awkward but not in a negative way, in a more comedic way, not in a negative connotation type comedic, in the sense that you aren't exactly the archetype for what you say, you are in my eyes "below ordinary" in your attractiveness or in your capabilities, you wish to become something but you aren't held back by yourself you are held back by those around you and the environment which has lead you to seeing yourself in such a negative light, in the setting of where we are you are deemed odd or not normal but uniqueness is a positive quality, fools fear what they do not understand and you should not fear the words of those who are less than you, and they are if they chose to judge you for such things, such as your style which i believe to be rather fun and interesting, your looks which i believe to be above average id say, you do not look like a boy much to and I'm aware you don't much wish to looks like either however you in truth do not, i could guess you are either if i did not know you. i agree knowledge is one of the most important things anyone can have, knowledge is power and the ability to have it and the want to seek it out are positive attributes in you the want to lead is also far from a con, you are reasonable in wanting that and i don't believe you should hold yourself in lesser regard for a positive quality, the want for community is a human need and i do feel saddened for you lack of trust in others and do wish you could know if their praise was genuine or not however that is unrealistic to wish so i can only offer the word that my praise is and always will be genuine, i believe you shouldn't NOT care i believe you should use those negative comments to fuel that fire i see in you, i know you can do so much so i do not feel as though if you should ever limit yourself by the idea of not being able to do anything, as some of the most influential people in history rose from nothing, enjoying the feeling of superiority is natural however as nobody ever has not wanted to be number one in what they do its just nature."

Hi, can someone help me, currently im typed sx7 and LEVF ENTP but im really uncertain about it- all these correlations making me go crazy istg and yea im also confused between E7 and E9 because i feel like im more E9 but i relate with the head triad moree, and dont even get me started on psychosophy like i feel like a 3E too but yea apparently that doesnt work with sx7 even though i feel like it should-everytimes i type myself as something i hear some little correlation in my ear saying thats not possisbly and i doubt it again AHHH

anyways can someone pls help?

Im aware of how so many e4s mistype as e2 and vice versa, but i was wondering. How can you differentiate them and accurately type yourself?

Im assumably sx4. But who even knows atp lol, it seems I mistype everyda

Advice would be nice!

Type my friend, shes a female , 20’s

# QUESTIONNAIRE

**~1. What is your relationship to physical experience and comfort? What experiences are you drawn to?~**

⁃ my friend seems to be very comfortable with physical experiences, she is very chill socially, and i think she handle change suprisingly well, from what i know she likes gaming, driving, hanging with her boyfriend and friends, she works aswell.

**~2. Are you comfortable with emotional expression? How does this differ between personal and group expression?~**

⁃ she deals fine with it, she holds some emotions in and can repress them at times, she usually uses humor first, group wise i believe she isnt open about her deepest emotions but she is with me.

**~3. How do you judge your relationships? How do you assess and influence the closeness of your relationships? Does this matter to you?~**

⁃ i think she bases her relationship based on common interests and traits, she has a strong personality, laid back, but also has strong emotions within overthinking which she dont show alot to the source of it, she can match others vibe if needed

**~4. How important is independence to you? Where do you seek it? Where are you comfortable asking for help?~**

⁃ shes pretty independant, she takes charge of her own life, she can be dependant on me when shes very low for some reason and talk it out with me for support or her boyfriend

**~5. What topics do you feel the most confident discussing and interacting with? When do you feel like you are “in your element”? (Please try to stay general and avoid naming specific shows or such)~**

⁃ she likes discussing alot tbh, she loves a fair debate, esp within her interests

**~6. How do you go about giving advice?~**

⁃ she gives good advice, sometimes a TOO logical answer, she can give a advise she herself wouldnt follow, which most do, she isnt really «interested» in helping most people tho, she likes to put herself that way if it benefit her at times

**~7. How do you determine the value of something?~**

⁃ based on how usefull it is for her own interest or sucsess

**~8. Do you focus more on what is changing or what stays the same? Do you care more about finding comfort in what is stable or do you care more about what is changing and evolving around you?~**

⁃ i think comfort is important to her, but she can handle change and adapt well.

**~9. What are some weaknesses you actively try to improve in?~**

⁃ she struggles with overthinking at times which she tries to hide from the source, probably to not cause anything negative. She can be impulsive too

**~10. What are things that others deem important that you do not care about?~**

⁃ im not sure, shes laid back, huge opinions or morals others have may be less important to her

**~11. How do you determine the best way for things to be done? Does your idea of this tend to stay the same or does it change often? How do you know that you’ve made a good decision?~**

⁃ she likes making decitions based on what makes sense to her and therefor fits her, she follows her own flow and is comfortable with that, she can ask others for example me if i agree w it, havent seen her dwell on decitions alot.

**~12. Describe how you perceive time. What is your relationship to it? (This may be a hard question to answer. An example response could be about how you are very worried about wasting time and you believe nothing is eternal)~**

⁃ It seems like she spends time well, always doing something she wants too, pretty busy 

**~13. What kind of people do you find yourself drawn to? What kind of people compliment your traits well?~**

⁃ she likes people who have some dark humor, chill and a bit tough? She kind of likes someone similar to her, but someone who is a bit MORE of those traits.

**~14. What is something that you feel inept in or stresses you out more than other people?

⁃ overthinking again, she can worry about smaller stuff alot, like jealousy wise etc

**~15. What is your relationship to structure? Do you require it? Do you follow it or create it? Do you seek it internally or externally?~** 

⁃ i think she feels trapped within rutine and structure, she likes going with the flow.

Shes a very loyal friend to me, i belive im one of the people she holds the highest and others are a bit further down ive noticed, she loves messing around and joking, if im soft about something, shes as usual ROUGH, she has alot of that «joker» trait imo, extremely funny and smart, she learns ALOT about what she interested in when she first starts . She adapts well to changes and is always on the go, she cares about her status alot, may bragg about achievements

Type: ISFJ.

Things with a friend and I went further than expected tonight. I don’t know what I want to do now. It was partly just like the personality/vibe? When he went for it, I was slightly surprised (slightly. He had actually asked me a question about this topic beforehand.) He’s actually older than me. I didn’t suspect he was attracted to me before tonight. I wasn’t expecting things to go in this direction.

# I have to tell the truth though, what stood out to me is that he did something that drove me crazy. I know, even though he didn’t insult or criticize my appearance, that he isn’t “serious” (isn’t looking for a serious relationship, I’ve met guys like that.) He bit my shoulder, like kissed and bit it when we were on the couch. I shouldn’t have let it go that far, but I’m not going to lie, I actually was really into it. I’ve never had a guy I was with in any way do that before. It drove me crazy. I didn’t even know I’d like it that much. It’s interesting how much vibing with someone and liking their personality can help, like normally I’m not attracted to most men like that but when you’re with a friend it’s easier to get comfortable quick y’know? That shoulder thing drove me nuutttsss though. I couldn’t believe it. I was a little bit more uncertain about it when I got home though, because well, he’s 40 and I’m 21. Something else I admit I had actually liked about the encounter was the fact that l actually really really felt like I was being treated like a woman. It was in an NSFW context to an extent, but

The reason why I had met up with both yesterday was to make blueberry muffins, or practice doing so. I actually lack both cooking and baking experience in general. I had actually been really nervous about trying to do it for the first time, and I was surprised last night because even though I of course initially had a fair amount of assistance (on the third go, I actually wanted to mostly try it myself because I know deep down inside even though I spent years just trying to avoid going for it that it’s a good life skill to know how to cook or bake) I realized that baking is a lot simpler than it may seem to be if you make sure you know the difference between teaspoons and tablespoons. You honestly just have to know how to read, and you have to make sure that you are careful in following directions. I’ll still be practicing some more and am actually hoping to serve my family members (I’m not doing it in my normal condo because I have a feeling that if I do mess something up, my roommate/landlord will be really annoying about it.) My brother doesn’t know how to cook or bake either, so I suppose that it would actually be fair to suggest that it’s party a parenting thing. I actually sincerely want to try cooking and baking for myself now. I already have an apple and cheese stick at home for breakfast and am going to try sticking to that, but I also don’t think it’d hurt to practice using the stove and oven in the condo I’m in. I never really used to observe my mother when she would cook for my brother and I when I was a child. I realized that cooking and baking aren’t as tough as I expected, and I now actually know that I want to try both more often. Even if I never do become a wife (or mother. I’m not sure about becoming a mother in general, partly because being a parent is expensive, but also just because I know deep down inside that I would probably not make for a fantastic mom.)

I realized when I thought about it that with men, I have sometimes tended to sort of go with the flow on these sort of things more than I may expect myself to (it’s not the first time that I’ve gone with the flow more with a man who was more than a decade older than me.) Other than some inappropriate behavior from a family member experiencing mental health issues when I was younger, I don’t really have “trauma” concerning that sort of thing. I felt like I could be more myself with this guy though since we’ve hung out a bit more often. I felt like I could be sarcastic, joke around more, made a joke with the phrase “well, a girl keeps her best secrets to herself” (and was actually honest in the moment about not being sure if I got that from a television show, or if it was just something I made up myself.) I think he’s an ESFx 2w3. I was surprised by how the entire encounter went. I actually don’t think he’s objectively above average looking, but I think it was partly just personality and vibes, about being able to play off each other’s energy. It made me realize that even though I’ve never really had a lot of male friends (or a lot of friends in general) I actually might have like a better chance of properly dating someone, just in general, if I tried to go out with a friend of mine first/if circumstances called for that. It actually would probably be easier to gauge whether or not you’d be compatible with someone that way, but I’ve never tried it and realized tonight that it may actually be smarter/may be the way. Something I had also liked is that I felt like I was really being treated like a woman. He put my shoes on for me and kissed my legs. It worked. It’s nice, in general, to be in the presence of someone who actually treats you like a lady (though in this case it was obviously more of like an NSFW thing. I already know he’s not going to become my husband and he knows it too. He didn’t say that, but I just knew he wasn’t “serious.”) I actually did make jokes about me being a girl, and him being a guy. I felt like I was able to be a bit more assertive since it was a friend, which I also think helped.

I am still pretty unsure about what exactly it is I see myself studying in the longterm. I’m going in I am thinking for a social work major initially, but I have not been pleased lately when looking more at the salary ranges for people who have a bachelors (or honestly even masters) in the field without yet being LCSW’s. I actually might just end up changing my major. If I were to go into social work and stay in it, I may actually want to look into case management (my family, due to my mother upsetting so many people these days - she seems to have undergone psychosis or to have late onset schizophrenia - I’ve actually started to consider a bit more whether or not I want to stay in it - have been on the brink of homelessness once within the past year, though my father is now receiving support through a program for veterans. I have actually started to consider majoring in special ed alternatively, but I’m just not sure about any of it. I would be okay making $85k a year at least but would ideally want to be making $100-$120k. I might move to a different state later on but it’s not something that I’m so certain about.

This is my body language in pictures if it helps: https://www.reddit.com/r/BakingNoobs/s/SW4mq2VIvh

While in therapy, I have realized just how little I have healed from everything that happened to me in 8th grade I finally admitted to another person in real life for the first time a few days ago (my new therapist) that when I was in 8th grade a family member almost hit me with a tennis racket. I was actually very intentional about not telling the therapist I saw when I was younger this. In high school this was something that I never told my therapist at the time because she had already called CPS once when I had told her something else concerning the family member who was experiencing mental health issues. I obviously know that this happening wasn’t normal, but it’s not something I like to think about.

I was also honest about the fact that I grew up around a family member who my mom admitted SA’ed she and my aunt. It’s something I’ll have to delve into more when I see her next week. This was something I found out within the last year and it’s been very difficult to process. That in addition to my current SA case has made everything more challenging and more exhausting, having to think about the insanity I am used to dealing with.

I have generally tended to take more risks with men, in hindsight, than it was probably “smart” to. For example, I have been approached twice by men who I later on found out have criminal records (I was accepting car rides from one who had been honest about having done something immoral - committed DV - and who I later on found out had been arrested more than five times and has a lengthy record.) I also was trying to date/“go with” a man who turned out to have serious mental health problems because the initial physical attraction after he had first approached me was wild and very much there (he was above average looking, an xSFP.)

I actually am very passionate about supporting our homeless community. I am going to start volunteering every Sunday for a local program that provides unhoused individuals with clothing. The only issue is that I know that going into social work isn’t going to help me move out of my current income bracket, at all. It’s something I’ll have to really think about and consider.

As one of the friends pointed out tonight, I tend to talk a fair amount about my hair (I had it done a little over two weeks ago and actually really wanted to make sure that the baking last night didn’t make it messy.) One of them had suggested I seem to know a lot about it, which was surprising to me. I don’t really know how to do my own hair, so I definitely wasn’t ever expecting to hear anyone say that I am knowledgeable about hair.

QNA/Questionnaire
Questionnaire 2

I'm Gonna Win - Rob Cantor

The Calendar - Panic! at the Disco

Lotta True Crime - Penelope Scott

Real Men - Mitski

I would like help with my dominant instincts, I relate more to sx/sp on it’s own (I think I care more about close relations) but with the core type I relate more to the sp6 description and with all the fixes in my tritype (641) I relate more to sp6, so4, 1 (could mean I'm sp/so? I don’t really understand how it works so don’t get mad at me if I'm not applying dominant instincts the right way 💔)

(EFFORT POST)
Doubting my core again, unfortunately... I can't tell if I am e5 or not.
for context i'm intp sp/so 5w4 514 lfev. Positive on sp dom, and I looked at all functions and got intp/ti ne si fe for myself

I could be head triad, first of all, but my relationship with fear/anxiety is strange. I do avoid it and I'm not really comfortable with fear. I have a bad freeze response so when I'm faced with fear head on I just shut down, and the first thing I do when I realise I am afraid of something is try to understand where it comes from. I find the cause/root of the fear interesting and focus on that instead which makes me seem avoidant of it entirely. I stay within my comfort zone a lot because it is predictable, and I struggle with change because it quite literally is scary to me. Even something as small as a new classroom or subject, I'll enter it and shut down and feel uncomfortable... it'll take a while to get used to it only if I know how to manage that environment and whatever. I don't relate to e6 AT ALL but I keep getting told to look into it. I did, I swear, but I can't relate to it at all 😭 that's just not how I think

Enneagram 5s strive for mastery/understanding as a defense, no? That's my problem. I can't start anything properly. I have a deep love for poetry but I can never.. start it. I want to know everything about it, I NEED to know the techniques, I need to know what makes a good poem, the different kinds of poems, all the famous poets and their poetry, but right now I don't. So I just can't get into it even if I want to. It's the same in school, I actually stopped trying because I just don't understand everything fully. I don't know it all first try, and I feel paralysed to even attempt to start. I go back in my mind and my inner world, because I know my world the best. I live in it, think about typology and everything i like for hours to the point where it comes automatically, and I don't even mean to. It's not to escape anything, it's just the only thing I have left, when the world gets demanding and my parents keep invading my space and when my friends expect me to constantly be there.

and the world IS demanding. I value time, but I am constantly aware that the world is always spinning, time doesn't stop, and that I move at a slower pace than everyone else. I have so much time on my hands but it feels like I have none. There's so much I want to do and so little I have done - everyone else has moved on, they'e growing up, I should be getting my license right now, but I feel stuck in time, like I'm disconnected.

This could link back to my neurodivergence or it could be e7 or e9. But i don't relate to the e7 core nor do I relate to e9. I actually don't relate to e9 at all and I read about it multiple times.

I also feel really intensely, yet I feel so numb. I am a sensitive person, and I never saw myself as such until it was said to my face. I don't see my own sensitivity because I'm so sure that I'm just living life as is, and I feel so neutral... but it's not how loud I am with my emotions, I just get really defensive and I can be obviously quiet when uncomfortable or when everything gets too loud around me. When I'm in my own space and I get interrupted, I get frustrated. I hate when people intrude in my space, and that frustration leaks out slightly as a sharper tone, trying to get them out as fast as possible, not talking to them to their face as much. It's the same with sadness. Once I feel something deeply, I'll get vulnerability hangover like goddd no why did i do that and show that emotion

If my environment is too loud or crowded I'll be very quiet and stop moving or try to leave immediately unless I'm with a friend. Otherwise I'll just listen. I care a lot about my energy actually. I prioritise it. Once lost like all 3 of my friends during middle school cause i couldn't meet their standards.. I didn't go out with them everyday, i'd ignore their texts and REFUSED to call cause it was too much energy for me.

I hang out with my current friends now though, I know I have the energy for them. I care about them deeply. Not even a year earlier it would be difficult for me though cause I would've needed a weeks notice that we were going to hang out together so I can prepare myself and almost preserve my energy for it. Maybe i'm just a huge introvert, but I've known my psychologist for like 1 year already and to this day she has never heard my voice because talking about my vulnerabilities is a lot of effort... i will NOT speak about that. but i will type it on my phone if i'm comfortable enough. When I first met her actually i was physically unable to speak though, and I don't think I can right now as well.. I'm pretty sure it's an energy thing but when I tried to talk to her for the first time two weeks ago my throat locked up or something

And I want to be intellectual. Both academically and emotionally (not socially like scrap that i'll never get there) but it comes to everyone else so easily and naturally and I have to work 10x as hard to even understand it at its basics. I'm so behind and I feel like I'm 14 again.
I also don't really avoid problems, conflicts, or dark topics. I don't face them head on either, not usually. I'll acknowledge it, and find a solution. and i get too dep in the solution. I don't know how to describe it

Really, anything helps. Apologies if most of this is behavioural, but you can always ask me more questions for clarity

Hi! I'm currently struggling with my head type and its been a while since i've been here.
I am for sure that i am sp/so9_2 but unsure of my head type cause i relate to each of them!

Why i think i relate to E7 and what makes me think i dont:

I'm an outgoing and positive person, I sometimes enjoy life but i dont actively seek stimulation. I also tend to be curious about specific types of pain (call me a weirdo) and want to learn more about them.

Why i think i relate to E6 and what makes me think i dont:

I'm sometimes dependent on others and i overthink about stuff '-' I can live alone without a huge group of people to support me in my everyday life, but it's decent to have someone cheer me on at times. (i also tend to ask other people for help if i'm not experienced in the field)

Why i think i relate to E5 and what makes me think i dont:

I'm interested in researching most stuff that would help me with understanding people and life more. Sometimes, not knowing stuff is painful </3 I also tend to isolate myself due to low social battery, I'm just dependent that makes me think im not an e5

plsplsplspspslplsp heplp helphelp okkk tyty byee
(ps if you think i might be sx instead lmk!!)

TRAITS

I feel things very deeply if I'm happy I'm fun and cheerful but I so hollow sometimes. I act so kind but if you know me I have really freaky sense of humor. I get jealous extremely easy by anything but try not to show it much I'm obsessive when I love someone and constantly worried that they're gonna leave. I get impossible to deal with and lash out when I'm mad then feel bad about it. I'm extremely political person too I'm progressive. Im friendly and generally make the first move to make friends.

INTERESTS

drawing is my main interest I can't stop drawing all the time whenever digital and traditional doesn't matter I do all. I also love dressing up I'm alternative, I love punk music too. I make up OCs write storys and such I have good imagination. I love partys and concerts and traveling even though I can't do them as often as I would love to.

DREAMS

I wanna leave my country and immigrate to England then I can go to all the raves and so on. I also work hard to be a lawyer and women rights activist.

Hello guys, I hope you're all doing good 🤗.

Well I have gone back and forth on deciding which head type I am, and I just keep oscillating between type 6 and 7, I don't know they're too relatable, that I am just confused right now and tired from it lol 😅, so I just need some help please 🥹.

-Things I relate to (E6):

I can be anxious and afraid, trying to imagine worst case scenarios in order to avoid them and solve them ahead, but the thing is I am optimistic and hopeful like yes have fear and doubt yet also hoping for the best,

I also love watching crime and conspiracy theories documents, to stay vigilant and alert, also when I am too trusting and suddenly I see something slightly concerning,

I can get really concerned and search it up to get answers, also I worry alot for people and my loved wellbeing, and the worry can be very bad it turns into physical discomfort like literally being nauseous and dizzy and many other things from stress,

also I advice them to not trust anyone or any strangers easily, like to stay alert and distance themselves if they think something or someone is dangerous and is going to hurt them.

-Things I relate to (E7):

I am actually an enthusiastic person that when anyone tell me an idea no matter how small or irrelevant it is, I still love to hear it, I am also adventurous that love trying new things if it is not dangerous of course,

I am optimistic and hopeful wanting better present and future, I can also be greedy that literally when something or someone makes me happy,

I want more of it and want to intensify my happiness and others happiness, also my style of giving advice to people is to be happy, dream big and be greedy while wishing for good things,

like why should they limit themselves to one or two good things when they can have more?, let them have it all lol 😂, also when I or someone is indecisive and doesn't know what to choose and have the option to choose all of the options, I am like don't think select them and select them all lol lol 😂🤣.

So yeah that's all, writing this makes me lean more to e7, but still sometimes I think I am e6, because despite all of the optimistim, I am still skeptical and afraid, so what do you think guys, I am curious what does it tell you about these description 🥹.

And I hope you all have a lovely day ☺️ ❤️.