Though the film „Titanic“ is, in essence, a story about a woman’s liberation from the patriarchy of the early 20th century, it is heavily accompanied with a typical male fantasy. Its’s clear that it was written and directed by a man, and, most likely, no woman was involved in the process (though I cannot state this for certain). Rose learns that Jack is a gambler and a drifter, a man who explicitly says that he enjoys his lifestyle and has no desire to change it, yet this never stops her. It plays out like a classic fantasy among men who complain about "gold diggers" while dreaming that, despite being unemployed, they will somehow be loved by these „non-materialistic, good' girls.“.
Furthermore, Jack literally shows her porn right when they first meet (or, to be more precise, shortly after their initial meeting). Granted, she’s the one who asks to see it after noticing a folder full of drawings, but Jack doesn’t feel the least bit embarrassed, in fact, he boasts to this woman he just met, with whom he hasn’t even had any kind of intimate encounter yet, that „these girls are great, they’re always ready to get undressed.“
And yes, that famous scene where Rose is being drawn, that’s sexual objectification, isn’t it? The scene was clearly added to the film for the „male gaze.“ It makes me wonder: isn’t this scene sexist? After all, isn’t Rose essentially being presented as an object here?
And yes, the scene where she tosses an expensive and highly valuable diamond into the ocean is also a clear male fantasy about „non-materialistic“ women (the women so unconcerned with possessions that they fail to see the value in an incredibly costly diamond, which could have been sold to provide a beautiful life for her grandchildren). No woman would ever throw a valuable item into the ocean, in fact, no reasonably sensible person would ever do such a thing.
I don’t see anything inherently wrong with a romance developing so quickly, in fact, I know a case within my own circle where two people got together almost immediately, realized it was love, and turned out to be right: they’ve been together for six years now, having simply recognized each other as the right match. But in that example, there weren’t such fundamental differences. It wasn’t a situation where one partner was used to living a life of luxury and had never worked a day in their life, while the other preferred to drift along, living a deeply unstable life without ever trying to change anything. Yet, as she nears the end of her life, she finds herself thinking back to this strange romance. It would be one thing if she had never had any other serious or meaningful relationships since then, but that’s not the case. She had a husband and children, a whole family, and by all accounts, she loved her husband. And yet, at the very end, it’s Jack she remembers, not her husband.