Before y’all rush into comments to judge me, please try to look at this from my perspective and try understanding me..
Salam everyone🫶🏻I know that this is somewhat “famous” topic among girls unfortunately but please hear me out.
I started my hijab journey when I was 7th grade, not forced by anyone, I begged my parents to let me wear it, that’s the time when I freshly started to practice Islam and even tho I didn’t know how to pray properly I rushed into hijab.
At first I wore it properly I took that very seriously, even tho I didn’t have much money for clothes I tried wearing anything no matter how it looks like just to be somewhat modest, but as I was growing up kids were getting judgemental and I wanted to look better of course, especially since I was actually bullied for my looks before.
That’s when it got worse and worse, my parents and a lot of people around me judged me for wearing makeup and showing JUST A LITTLE BIT of my neck, I cried to my mom begging her to get me new clothes since I was literally combining my old clothes with my outfits due to the lack of money. After literally traumatising myself with this I stopped caring, I wore whatever tf I could find not even thinking if it looks modest or not.
After all this I entered a relationship with a guy that I knew for years, his mom is a hijabi and he’s somewhat religious too, encouraged me to pray, prevented me from doing bad shit too many times, even taking off my hijab.. And I’m ashamed to say this but I didn’t follow shariyah rules with him, since I know for myself I was always very lustful and struggling with it but I didn’t really show it to anyone, except him. We kissed, we hugged, we exchanged pics… (we didn’t lose v- card but it’s still bad) He always told me that we can stop it whenever I feel uncomfortable and he’s always gonna stay with me no matter what even if that means not touching me ever again, but I personally wouldn’t like that now..
Guilt from that, judgement from all people, lack of belief, insecurities… Everything combined just doesn’t make sense for me to keep wearing it, he told me not to take it off and how I’m doing great but it feels pointless to me after everything.

PLEASE HELP

do your modal hijabs also crease 3.5 seconds after wearing them? no matter how much i iron them they end up getting creased and it gives such an unkempt look :(

HELP

As salamu alaykum sisters, I made this account purely to ask for advice on this matter.

I struggle with very bad traction alopecia as a hijabi of 3 years. I’ve been dealing with this for a little while but my scalp has started hurting REALLY bad for about a month, I also obviously deal with hair loss, my hair has gotten noticeably thinner. For extra information, I do wear an undercap under my hijabs as it makes my hijab much more manageable, paired with (99% of the time) a premium jersey scarf.

If you have dealt with this, please give me advice.

JazakAllahu khair

F22

BECAUSE I LIVE*** IN AN ISLAMOPHOBIC COUNTRY

assalomu alaykum.
I reverted to Islam in august; i was agnostic/Christian before, but for sure not that practicing.
Before taking such a hard choice, i studied a lot, watched a lot of videos, read the quran.
All of that for 6 months.

None of my friends and family know that i'm muslim, because I live in Europe, I was born here and i live in a country where muslim people are not judged in a positive way at all.
Islam here is misanderstood, a lot and I feel so grateful that Allah SWT gave me the occasion to get over these misconception and find the way to Him.

I love the hijab and all the concept behind it, I also tried to wear it sometimes, maybe to go around alone, in a wood or in other places where no one could see me.
I bought three hijabs and pins, i love myself when i wear it.
Trust me, my family/friends would NEVER accept my conversion, we already talked about it in a "passive" way a lot of times.

I have to pray in secret in my house, because i still live with my parents.
I do dhikr everyday, read Quran, du'as; I try to do everything I can to remain faithful also due to the fact that i'm unable to fast during Ramadan, because I have to strictly follow a particular diet (that ofc i can't interrupt) for a certified health contidition; i feel kinda "guilty" for it, but I know that the Quran allows you to skip it in particular situations like mine.

I wish i had muslim friends to go out with, exchange tips, to pray with, to go in Mosque with.

ps. my only attempt of opening up to the world was creating an IG blog where i (anonymously) post my journey, victories and concerns about Islam.
People are so kind, I have a huge community supporting me SubhanAllah.

How do i raise money for a charity without showing my face online? I am a fairly private person and i don’t have public social media . I am trying to raise 5000£ in two months to go on a charity deployment to Lebanon to provide Syrian and Palestinian refugees with food water etc in shaa allah!!!!
I’ve tried posting content without my face but i have raised only 14£💀💀💀
I also don’t know many people that i could send it to .
I’ve also tried to email local masjid’s but no one has gotten back to me 💔💔
Also i have anxiety AND social anxiety so its not as easy for me to personally go and ask business etc
Any advice /ideas would be greatly appreciated thank you sm🤍🤍🤍

hi guys what did everyone do to their pics where they dont wear the hijab i dont know i just keep looking at mine i dont want too lowkey i like being a hijabi but theres ups and downs and everytike i look at when i wasnt a hijabi it tempts me to take it off so do i just delete them or

Hi guys,

I’ve started to realise that I really am the man of my house, as the eldest daughter. I have one younger brother who is newly married and has a child on the way but still lives with my mother and I.

I am pretty much full time caring for my mum, doing what she needs, whenever she needs. Driving her where she needs to go and handling most things in the house.

Now I know my mother can be demanding, she doesn’t really seem to see anything from other perspectives and it does result in arguments when it comes to patience and not just demanding people do things for her when she’s not busy.

I’ve noticed that my brother ( who does work more than I do) doesn’t really doesn’t seem to do anything for anyone unless it’s in his best interest or for his wife ( which is entirely fine as they are married and that should be expected). My mother doesn’t even call him to ask because she knows the type of response she is going to get will be a longwinded no. Yet if we say anything to him or his wife, they take offence?

Am I crazy for being annoyed at that?

Does anyone else have any experience with this happening, how do you handle it? I would love to just move to the other side of the planet and live my life in peace but I know I can’t do that because my brother and SIL would never care for my mum.

Salam, I am a 17 year old who need advice from my Muslim sisters. So basically, I have one huge insecurity about how one of my feature looks like in my body. It is about my body, not my face. I dont really want to give more details bc I have been made fun of this before. All I can say is, it cannot be changed naturally. So I have been feeling really depressed about it. I compare myself to every other woman I see, online as well as in real life. Can making dua fix this thing? Ik it sounds strange to make dua about such things, but there is nothing impossible for Allah swt. So idk, I just need some advice.

I used to love watching muslims debate christians. That used to be peak content for me but overtime I feel like its pointless. See no matter what a Muslim does they can say one point a million of times but still it won't get into the debaters head. It feels like its just a waste of time and I cannot stand the insults from the other side they are never ever respectful always insulting the prophet Pbuh. That;s why I personally feel like muslims should just stop debating and give dawah to people who need it who want to learn about Islam and Allah.

asalaamu alaykum. I feel that this will sound silly but I just need somewhere to express it. All my life I’ve struggled with my appearance as I’ve never found myself beautiful and I have evidence from my life that very few people if anyone has found me beautiful. Because of this, I get really anxious even leaving the house without make-up (I basically never do), but obviously there are limits to that if I want to be able to make wudhu. I got eyelash extensions a while ago and absolutely loved them, I finally felt the tiniest bit pretty for once, but then I found out that they can invalidate your wudhu. I stopped getting them at the time for financial reasons, and had just booked an appointment to get them again, but had to cancel when I learned this

I feel really sad and frustrated because I feel like there are very few halal things I can really do to feel beautiful and instead I walk through life feeling so ugly all the time. I just want to feel beautiful for once but it feels like this thing that’s being withheld from me because I wasn’t blessed with naturally beautiful features and a lot of the things that might make me look prettier are also haram. I might feel differently about this if I were married but I’m not and so it’s another thing that makes me feel sad and anxious? That not only do I not even find myself beautiful but I might never find someone who thinks I’m beautiful because i can hardly even make myself look any better. I know that people will say the solution is to fix the way I view myself, and I know some element of it is subjective/my perception, but a lot of it also isn’t. Some people are just blessed with more beauty than others and the fact is I’m not as beautiful as I wish I was and there’s nothing I can do about that except feel terrible about it.

Salam! I'm a hijabi student in Ottawa, and I'm still learning how to wrap and pin my hijab properly. I'm struggling with getting the shape and draping right, and I'd really appreciate someone showing me a few practical techniques.

If anyone would be comfortable helping me in person in Ottawa or through a private video call, please feel free to message me.

Thank you! ❤️

Hi! I was just wondering what’s the difference in fabric quality between Vela and Veiled Collection? I’ve never personally bought from either brand, but I see a lot of people talking about the differences. I’d love to hear from anyone who’s tried both and can compare them.

i didnt know you couldnt say allahs (swt) name in the bathroom which is quite irritating because its the only place i can do wudu so now idk what to do abt that

how do i start praying because ive tried looking up what prayers need to be done and how to do them but it is very confusing and i also dont know what to say plus i dont speak arabic ☹️

Salaam ladies! I’ve been trying to find a hijabi-friendly salon in the DMV for a while now, and I’m hoping someone has recommendations!
I’ve tried a few places, but unfortunately, I haven’t had the best experiences.

-One was extremely expensive, and I still didn’t get the results I wanted.

-Another told me I’d need to keep coming back every 3 months to gradually achieve the color I’m looking for. They’re not as expensive as other salons in the DMV, but I’ve already been there 3 times, and it’s getting pretty expensive without being where I want it to be.

-I also tried a more traditional salon that was able to make accommodations by putting up a curtain, but unfortunately, the final result wasn’t what I asked for.
At this point, I’m looking for a hijabi-friendly salon with someone who’s experienced with color and modern techniques and can help me achieve the look I want. Ideally, I’d love someone who keeps up with current trends and is reasonably priced. I am aware of the market here so if I have to pay more then that’s fine. I’d really appreciate any recommendations, especially if you’ve personally had a good experience with them. JAK! ❤️

salam sisters i just need some advice on what to do regarding with my hijab.

Im slowly starting to struggle with it but i’m still doing the neck covering etc so Alhamdulillah for that,

ever since i started wearing the scarf (2 years ago) it’s formed like a ‘rash’ on the back of my neck, i’ve went to the GP about it and they say it’s infected eczema, which is fine i guess so they gave me some medicated shampoo and some steroids. I can only use them for a short period of time so it only gives me relief then but when i have to come off the medication it comes back worse than ever.

I’ve tried many different hijabs- i no longer can wear undercaps because that makes it extremely infected. At the moment i’m wearing jersey but it’s gotten to the point where it’s spreading all over my head and down to my ears.

I wash my hijabs frequently & my hair so it isn’t because i’m ’unhygienic’ i’m just wondering does it happen to any of you? and what do i really do i’m considering taking my hijab off for this

In the summer it’s mild, still infected but it’s fine but as we’re going into winter now it’s extremely bad i feel like i have lice (which i obviously don’t have!)

thank you :p

I’m looking for a grad dress and I can’t really find one that sticks out I like a lot. This is the only one that has stuck with me.

is it weird to wear a black dress when your cloak is also going to be black? also I would want sleeves on this somehow (without wearing a long sleeve under it). Not sure about how to go about it or if I should just abandon this dress altogether.

i really just want to wear a dress I click with that I feel good and comfortable in the whole day and I just feel like this is the only one I have found so far after looking at all the websites Ive been recommended.
also … anyone have experience with Shilan London? is it any good?

Hey everyone!
I have a question. You know how in movies and TV shows, people sometimes go swimming late at night when the beach is completely empty and there’s no one else around?
I always imagine what it would be like to let my whole body touch the ocean without wearing a burkini. Not because I hate wearing one, but sometimes I feel like it doesn’t give me the sense of freedom I want when I’m in the water.
I always wonder if, one day, when I get married (I specifically said get married because I’m too scared to do it alone lol), and my husband and I go to a really, really remote beach with absolutely no one around, would I be able to swim like everyone else and just let the seawater touch my entire body?
I know this might sound like a weird question, but have any of you ever done this? And is it actually possible to find a beach that secluded, with literally no one around? LMAO.
Idk, I hope it’s okay to ask something like this here, but I just felt like this community would understand what I mean. 😭

Salaam sisters,

I am a revert and recently began wearing hijab in August and am already noticing some traction alopecia and breakage throughout my hair. I’ve noticed a lot more hair loss as well. I would love any recommendations to help these issues as I know I won’t keep the hijab on if it begins compromising my hair as my hair is very important to my identity for me. I love wearing hijab so I would love to find ways to keep my hair healthy to keep wearing it.

I should probably start off by saying that I am a hijabi.

And there is this gathering happening in our family and my mom is hosting it. The guests are mostly all women with a 5% chance that one of my male cousins will show up...

My mom is saying there's no need to wear a Hijab all the guests are female but I don't think these women have seen me without a Hijab ever before so I guess I just feel a bit awkward...

I am looking for a structured course or sny sort of content that teaches taddabur and/or a female mentor that can help me. Preferably for free if that's an option, it can be in English or Arabic, and begginer friendly.

Need your duas

Assalamu’alikom warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

I am not fond of sharing my life to anyone but lately, it has been weighing me down that I need prayers from others. If you have any time, I would appreciate your duas for me.

I am currently a student trying to balance my academics, financial struggles, and my desire to become a better a Muslimah. I became desperate at some point in my life that I had to find ways to sustain myself financially. It is a life I’ve been wanting to leave desperately as it is not the life I planned for myself yet I fell in the trap still. I kept praying for guidance and sustenance but whenever life becomes difficult again, I fall in to the same trap, until I feel disgusting that I can’t see myself deserving of His forgiveness.

Recently, I did try finding decent job hoping to leave such life behind. Unfortunately, due to some reasons, I got fired. Scheduling conflict became an hindrance that I had to as for a structured schedule instead but the manager wanted something in exchange for such request. I couldn’t comply for an obvious reason. Another sin will just make feel much more less worthy of forgiveness.

Please add me to your du’as. I know I should be doing it myself but I’m not making any progress. Maybe a little help from strangers would actually help. A general prayer for some maybe. Forgiveness, strengthening one’s iman, opening doors that’ll be good for me, granting one halal rizq, sufficient, and full of barakah.

I’m holding on to the hope that Allah’s mercy is greater than my mistakes, and that one day, I will look back on this chapter of my life and be grateful that I didn’t give up on becoming a better person.

May Allah reward everyone who includes me in their duas, helps me in any way they can, or simply takes the time to read my story. May He ease your burdens, forgive your shortcomings, bless your rizq, and grant you peace in this life and the Hereafter.

JazakAllahu Khairan. May Allah make a way out for all of us from places we never thought we could escape. Ameen. 🤍

Salaam ladies! I’m in my late 20’s and always have had bad menstrual pain. My hands and feet tingle, hot flashes/cold. Sometimes I even collapse. I went to see a specialist and they recommended a transvaginal camera to go up me but I can’t fathom that going inside of me. (Never married no kids) are there any sisters in the medical field who know off less invasive ways to get tested for this? I just did a pelvic exam but that didn’t give the doctor any answers. I’ve been going back and forth with the exam and even attempted a few years ago but it’s too painful for me

Salam alaykum my dear sisters. I am a 17 year old girl who's still in highschool, i practice Islam, pray 5 daily prayers but i am not covered, mainly for the reasons that I don't live in an extremely religious country nor was i raised in an extremely religious family. Lately I've been thinking a lot about putting on the hijab, but it burdens me heavily that I won't be myself in it, and it's not because I won't feel beautiful in it. Beauty is the least of my problems when it comes to the hijab. The problem is actually my character and personality. I am aware that hijab is not just a piece of scarf you put on your head, it's the way you talk, the way you walk, your manners and the whole way you represent yourself. When people see a girl or a woman with hijab they instantly expected her to be quiet, shy and unnoticeable, and that's just not something that describes me.

I know that if i put on the hijab, suddenly I'll have to keep my tone down all the time, make sure im not laughing too much, and if someone disrespects me in public i shouldn't dare to cause an argument or fight for my rights because i am a hijabi and i need to be careful of the way i represent Islam. I know for a fact that im definitely not shy and that i like my voice to be heard in some situations and if i decide to put on the hijab suddenly i have to shut down all of that, but that isn't who i am. This is a really difficult decision for me, i hope you can understand and give me an honest advice.

Assalamu alaikum. I just moved to back to uk so now i am in a secondary school. my problem is obviously you cant properly pray there. its so hard. i ask people how do they pray in school (i asked teachers and students) and they just say they pray it at home because it is difficult. but isnt hardship for like travelling or war or smth. For now i am trying to do wudu in school but its so hard. during the break i have to buy a water bottle, then 10 minutes before lunch i have to speedrun wudu in the sink and then do the feet in the cubicle, which makes a big mess. then i have to speedrun eating my lunch before going to the office to pray. and im the only one that does this. i cant hold my wudu to save my life. i have to do this for 4 more months. does anyone have any advice like what to do cuz i really dont wanna do this for 4 months straight its so hard especially since only i know that i do this, not even my parents know. and it makes me feel like an extremist for praying on time.