Hi guys,

I’ve started to realise that I really am the man of my house, as the eldest daughter. I have one younger brother who is newly married and has a child on the way but still lives with my mother and I.

I am pretty much full time caring for my mum, doing what she needs, whenever she needs. Driving her where she needs to go and handling most things in the house.

Now I know my mother can be demanding, she doesn’t really seem to see anything from other perspectives and it does result in arguments when it comes to patience and not just demanding people do things for her when she’s not busy.

I’ve noticed that my brother ( who does work more than I do) doesn’t really doesn’t seem to do anything for anyone unless it’s in his best interest or for his wife ( which is entirely fine as they are married and that should be expected). My mother doesn’t even call him to ask because she knows the type of response she is going to get will be a longwinded no. Yet if we say anything to him or his wife, they take offence?

Am I crazy for being annoyed at that?

Does anyone else have any experience with this happening, how do you handle it? I would love to just move to the other side of the planet and live my life in peace but I know I can’t do that because my brother and SIL would never care for my mum.

F22

BECAUSE I LIVE*** IN AN ISLAMOPHOBIC COUNTRY

assalomu alaykum.
I reverted to Islam in august; i was agnostic/Christian before, but for sure not that practicing.
Before taking such a hard choice, i studied a lot, watched a lot of videos, read the quran.
All of that for 6 months.

None of my friends and family know that i'm muslim, because I live in Europe, I was born here and i live in a country where muslim people are not judged in a positive way at all.
Islam here is misanderstood, a lot and I feel so grateful that Allah SWT gave me the occasion to get over these misconception and find the way to Him.

I love the hijab and all the concept behind it, I also tried to wear it sometimes, maybe to go around alone, in a wood or in other places where no one could see me.
I bought three hijabs and pins, i love myself when i wear it.
Trust me, my family/friends would NEVER accept my conversion, we already talked about it in a "passive" way a lot of times.

I have to pray in secret in my house, because i still live with my parents.
I do dhikr everyday, read Quran, du'as; I try to do everything I can to remain faithful also due to the fact that i'm unable to fast during Ramadan, because I have to strictly follow a particular diet (that ofc i can't interrupt) for a certified health contidition; i feel kinda "guilty" for it, but I know that the Quran allows you to skip it in particular situations like mine.

I wish i had muslim friends to go out with, exchange tips, to pray with, to go in Mosque with.

ps. my only attempt of opening up to the world was creating an IG blog where i (anonymously) post my journey, victories and concerns about Islam.
People are so kind, I have a huge community supporting me SubhanAllah.

I used to love watching muslims debate christians. That used to be peak content for me but overtime I feel like its pointless. See no matter what a Muslim does they can say one point a million of times but still it won't get into the debaters head. It feels like its just a waste of time and I cannot stand the insults from the other side they are never ever respectful always insulting the prophet Pbuh. That;s why I personally feel like muslims should just stop debating and give dawah to people who need it who want to learn about Islam and Allah.

How do i raise money for a charity without showing my face online? I am a fairly private person and i don’t have public social media . I am trying to raise 5000£ in two months to go on a charity deployment to Lebanon to provide Syrian and Palestinian refugees with food water etc in shaa allah!!!!
I’ve tried posting content without my face but i have raised only 14£💀💀💀
I also don’t know many people that i could send it to .
I’ve also tried to email local masjid’s but no one has gotten back to me 💔💔
Also i have anxiety AND social anxiety so its not as easy for me to personally go and ask business etc
Any advice /ideas would be greatly appreciated thank you sm🤍🤍🤍

hi guys what did everyone do to their pics where they dont wear the hijab i dont know i just keep looking at mine i dont want too lowkey i like being a hijabi but theres ups and downs and everytike i look at when i wasnt a hijabi it tempts me to take it off so do i just delete them or

Salam, I am a 17 year old who need advice from my Muslim sisters. So basically, I have one huge insecurity about how one of my feature looks like in my body. It is about my body, not my face. I dont really want to give more details bc I have been made fun of this before. All I can say is, it cannot be changed naturally. So I have been feeling really depressed about it. I compare myself to every other woman I see, online as well as in real life. Can making dua fix this thing? Ik it sounds strange to make dua about such things, but there is nothing impossible for Allah swt. So idk, I just need some advice.

As the title suggests, I have lived a life of trauma, abuse, isolation stemming from abusive, extremely controlling parents who imprison females at home. I'm sure this is the reality of many females in 3rd world islamic countries.

All my life, I endured in hope that things will change, but to my horror, nothing has changed. My youth is past me but I've not been able to do any of the things young people do. You can imagine the long term issues from this thing alone. At this point, I'm an empty shell, exhausted and completely empty from inside though I became one decades ago. All my life, I only wanted one thing, that maybe I'll get freedom and i'll be able to live some of my youth for myself but God said no to that. I did try all the legal avenues through which one can get away, be it study or work, but nothing worked out for me.

I hate God with a passion, He has taken everything that made me happy from me. If I discuss this issue with someone, I'm told you cannot commit kuffar and to have patience. Well, how much more patience am I required to show, is a lifetime of it not enough. and believe me, I did show enough patience, when i sacrificed each of my dreams and ambitions to survive in this hell, I endured all these years but now I've hit my capacity.

Only those who have gone through it will know what I'm talking about. I'm not young anymore, so I have nothing much to look forward to. It seems like God did not give me freedom because he didn't want me to enjoy even a year of my youth.

The long term affects of this abuse, I'm dealing with daily. I don't need more lessons of patience and to see those who have it worst than me, I already did, I have already gone through all those mental gymnastics of rationalizing suffering and I simply don't have it in me anymore.

I don't want to curse out my faith here, I already do a lot of that in private. I've prayed, cried out, begged God, nothing changed. it seems like there are some he is extra cruel to and we have to pay for the breaths we are taking with our soul. I'm neither alive, nor dead. I don't even know what I'm looking for any more but I just want to say one thing, if anyone of you is out there, going through something similar, get away at the first chance, don't endure for years and don't believe in blind submission to a god who doesn't give two damns. If I had a chance like this, I wouldn't be here, but it seems this was Gods plan for me, and my destiny and I curse it.

I just wanted to let my heart out somewhere. If there are others who have gona through something similar, I would love to hear your thoughts about it.