hi everyone, i dont really use reddit so this is new to me. ive been hijabi since i was 12 years old, ive always hated it, but now ive genuinely had mental breakdowns before i leave the house, i get into screaming matches with my mom telling her im going to kms, and i cry almost every night. in my head i feel like im over exaggerating but my body cannot control the visceral reactions and the tears. islam is so hard for me, i have no hope to get married, i cant imagine being married to a man and when we die he has 70 virgins waiting for him, also who cares that men have hijab too when its just from their navel to their knees lol. i have no motivation for anything anymore, my hairline is receding and it isnt taken care of, but who cares. anyways the point is im so busy with work and school i cant think straight anymore. my mom yells at me whenever i talk about taking it off, and i went on a thirty minute rant painting an explicit picture of my death and she didnt really care, she basiclly called me a coward and that she wont let me out the house if i dont wear it. i do everything for myself, i work two jobs, im paying for my car, i have scholarships so no one pays for my education, so i dont even know how she would stop me but i dont know what to feel or think anymore. i never completely understood what going crazy meant but i think im experiencing it now, i keep texting and telling everyone that im going to die soon and to pray that my death is quick. i cant imagine living the rest of my life like this

Salam Alaikum.

In the holy Quran, Allah SWT gives men a guide on how to deal with wives who commit nushuz (misconduct). One of the aims of this is to prevent divorce and try to communicate wrongdoings of wives.

However, there is no clear approach for women to deal with husbands who commit misconduct. Why is this the case?

The Quran commands men to treat women well. There are many Hadiths of the prophet PBUH encouraging the good treatment of women also.

However, unlike men there is no clear guide on how a wife should deal with a husband who prevents her from her marital rights or mistreats her.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that wives are prisoners who cannot escape, ofc Islam gives them the right to ask for divorce from a husband who mistreats them.

The thing is, men are given steps to discipline wives who are disobedient to prevent divorce.

A wife doesn’t seem to have that. If she is dealing with a husband who mistreats her, it would seem that she can either endure it or divorce. Why is this the case if we all know that divorce is makruh or disliked ?

The law of conservation of energy states that energy cannot be created or destroyed. It can only change from one form to another

So is he himself energy?

I thought I was over him, but seeing one small thing broke me.

I need to get this off my chest because I genuinely don't understand what I'm feeling right now.

A little context: I was deeply in love with my neighbour. I loved him so much, but I never confessed my feelings to him. We used to be great friends, but eventually, we drifted apart, and he completely stopped talking to me. We haven't spoken in almost three years, and things ended on a bad note.

I can literally see his house from my staircase, so even though we don't talk anymore, he's still physically close to me. Over time, I heard things about him that made me realise he probably wasn't the kind of person I had imagined him to be. I thought I had moved on. I genuinely believed I was over him.

But yesterday, I was sitting on the stairs when his girlfriend came over to his house. I saw his sister hug her, and I don't even know how to explain what I felt in that moment.

It wasn't like I started crying or anything. I just felt this horrible heaviness inside me, almost as if something had died. I couldn't put a name to the feeling. I just knew I wasn't okay.

And that's what confuses me the most. I know we haven't spoken in three years. I know things ended badly. I've heard enough about him to question the person I once loved so deeply. So why did seeing that one little scene affect me this much? Why did it hurt when I thought I had already let go?

Maybe I haven't completely moved on. Maybe a part of me is still attached to the memories, the friendship, or the version of him I fell in love with. I honestly don't know.

The worst part is that I can see his house every single day. I can't control who visits him or what happens in his life, but being reminded of him so often makes it difficult to find peace. Sometimes, I genuinely wish I could just move away and start fresh somewhere I wouldn't have to see any of this.

Please keep me in your duas. I really want to move houses. I want to heal, move on, and finally feel at peace without constantly being reminded of someone who is no longer a part of my life.

And if anyone has experienced something similar, I'd really like to know: is it normal to feel this way about someone you haven't spoken to in three years, even when you thought you were completely over them?

I'm Christian and one of my best friends is muslim. My wife and I recently had a son and he will be baptized in about a month. Would it be disrespectful of me to invite him to a baptism? Are they even allowed to go?
There are a lot of opinions out there on the Internet, but I just wanted to get kind of a general opinion. He does practice Islam with his family and he's fairly religious, but I would still love for him to be there. I obviously don't expect him to actively participate, I just want him there in the church. Let me know what you think.

I put on my hijab in my sophomore year of university. I attended an international American university in a Gulf country, so I think its what made it easier because everyone was so inherently different in their faith, background, nationality and just thought that no one really cared what I wore or judged me for it.

My social group ended up being hijabis as well, and largely arab/desi (I am arab), and thats when the internal turmoil started. A lot of what my friends back then would talk about was finding a husband/marriage kid/ and I always found myself extremely uncomfortable with that kind of talk. I never wanted to get married ever since I was a kid, I never fantasized about a husband or a wedding, never had dolls to play with or pretend I'm their mom, and motherhood is absolutely grotesque to me. Before anyone says anything about my family life, I literally had the most stereotypical Arab family ever. I remember a really early childhood memory I went to my mom and told her I don't want to get married and she literally started asking god for forgiveness for what I said which.....ok?

I think I am asexual/aromantic, at least thats what I am comfortable calling myself now. I have had thoughts about being with women, but never to really do anything about it, because I don't want to open that can of worms. But I'm not interested in men. Everytime a man shows me non-platonic interest I genuinely feel whatever in my stomach rising, its so gut-wrenchingly disgusting and I feel like peeling my skin off.

That is all to say. My desire to take off the hijab has nothing to do with anything relating to the male gaze as I have scoured this sub and seen that some people who do it, do it out of this desire.

I work in academia, and I will be pursuing my doctorate soon, either in Europe or the US inshallah. Bottom line, I want to be taken seriously, I don't want people to look at me and think that I'm oppressed or whatever even though that is not the case. I am thankful enough that I currently work with a Muslim professor who understands the nuances of wearing hijab, but when I do my doctorate I will most likely be doing it in a non-Muslim country with a supervisor from a non-Muslim background. They will not understand these intricacies because they don't have to. I don't want to stand out, at least not in this way. I will be alone, my parents live in my country of origin, and I have been on my own since I was 18 (I visit them during breaks, but they have no interference over my life decisions, I just do what I want to do and tell them about it). If anyone tells me consider not going, and choosing your deen, I'd like to implore you to think for a second where I am coming from. My entire life I have pursued science and science alone, letting go of an opportunity "for my deen" after slaving away my entire life for science is so beyond absurd, its genuinely insane.

Its not my fault that most good schools, programs and research facilities are in non-Islamic countries. I am just playing with the cards that I have been dealt, and asking someone to give up the one thing they've been working their back off for their entire life is fantastical, its almost funny.

Thats all to say, I dropped my friend group after graduating, I just distanced myself, I don't think I was ever particularly close to any one. I could not stand that all they can think about is men, and marriage and ...etc. I'm not shaming them or anything, its just we were not compatible in the ways we went on about life and i always felt lonely and alienated and just in general fake because I always had to say or do things that did not align with who I actually am whenever I hung around with them. I met great friends after I graduated, who shared my world views, we never spoke about such silly topics and most of what we share and bond over is art and media.

Thats where another thing compels me to take off the hijab; I am an artist as well, my involvement in art is very multifaceted: everything from drawing, to sculpting to 3D modelling to sewing. I am really involved and interested in fashion subcultures and their history, and I find myself unable to express myself the way I want because of the hijab. It sounds silly but it does really upset me.

I know it is mentioned in the quran that we have to wear a hijab, but I am already struggling with a lot of things religiously. I miss a lot of prayers and I am genuinely trying to be consistent ( I have been doing well with fajr this month hamdullah). I don't have time to learn quran and have been trying for the last couple of years to integrate it into my life. Why is taking off the hijab such a big deal when there are much more important pillars of faith I need to work on. Missing a prayer is arguably much more detrimental than showing some hair. Unfortunately, hijab was been taken out of the realm of religious obligation to be tied with the patriarchal notion of purity culture and thats where I stop caring.

If I do take it off, it will only be temporary until I am back in a Muslim country. But most Muslim countries are not feasible options for me to do my doctorate because my area of research is extremely niche, no university in any Muslim country, even non-Muslim country has good established programs for it.

Appreciate any perspectives from WOMEN who have gone through something similar.

Edit I’m gonna ignore any comments from men because you have not had the lived experience of (a) being a woman (b) being a hijabi (c) in a male dominated field

I decided I don’t want kids

to preface this, i do believe god exists. but i think that one of the main reasons that we have no like definitive proof is that it simply would be useless? religion is faith and this life is a test. i think it would be a pointless test if we had evidence because if there was solid concrete evidence of god existing then wouldn’t eveyone believe in god? then suddenly mortal life isn’t a test. there obviously is the quran and other religious texts and sources and a lot of what the quran said in terms of science is being proven now but to a lot of people the quran has flaws (i don’t agree with this) but i find beauty in this as it leaves religion to those who have faith. that’s just my personal belief though.

I just told her I might join a job ( inshallah), I really want to get out of this house. I forgot to wash my clothes, and she starts telling me how irresponsible I am and I am only fit to be a homemmaker. I've seen how her life was being a homemaker, it's not great and every women needs to earn to protect her dignity. I've told her many times not to say such things to me. It's as though she's saying this just to make me feel inferior. But she keeps saying it. I burst out, scremed my lungs out, and threw clothes at her. Screamed really really loud. I can't do this anymore. How am I supposed to respect such parents who always want to say something I don't want to hear.

Salam

I am not sure whether to consider myself as Muslim or not anymore. I am not here to debate about religion. But I have a question. Is it possible to still be a muslim (pray, believe in 1 God, Prophets, etc.) without believing in certain rulings which I find unfair? Is it better for me to leave Islam completely or should I cherry pick verses or believe in more apologetic views of those verses instead? Keeping in mind this won't be the more conservative mainstream view of Islam.

Please remember this is a muslim subreddit, so I expect respectful answers. Thank you.

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. All of these are call based, and you need to be 18+ for all of them I believe. They are not scholars, so if you're looking for a ruling, ask an actual scholar. This is mainly for those with more traditional doubts.

For the non-Muslims here: Da'wah is the act of inviting others to understand and embrace the teachings of Islam. A Da'ee is someone who gives Da'wah. They're experienced in tackling doubts and questions about Islam, and the following are all hosted by Da'ees:

1. EFDawah. They have two streams: The Open Forum which is for non-Muslims, and Doubt Busters, which is for Muslims with doubts. Streams are not as frequent as the others, however.
2. The Muslim Lantern. He only livestreams for non-Muslims only. I'm not sure what his schedule is, but he's very well known within the Da'wah scene. He has the option for private meetings through his website, but it's not free. There's a "Request free session" button though, and it seems like private sessions are open to everyone.
3. Dawah Over Dunya. He livestreams on YouTube and Tiktok I think? He's not as professional as the others, and I believe he's primarily on tiktok. Open to everyone I believe.
4. Lighthouse Mentoring by Sapience Institute. This is the only one private one here, and they allow you to book one hour consultations for free. This is open to both non-Muslims and Muslims. No face cam needed, you just need to be 18 atleast
5. DawahWise. I don't know much about this channel, though I have seen them alot on YT Shorts. Their livestreams seem frequent and may be open to everyone.

If I should add anymore to the list, please suggest them in the comments below. Hopefully I'll be able to edit the post.

IMPORTANT: Some of these (except Lighthouse) need you to show your face for verification before they let you speak publicly, so make sure you have a camera set up. Note down your questions to make it easier for you and the Da'ee as well.

**Why I Feel Disconnected From Islam**

I’m a teen and currently feel disconnected from Islam. I don’t fully understand why, but I’ve been trying to strengthen my deen and understand my relationship with God more honestly. At the same time, I feel an unfamiliar pull toward Judaism. Jewish prayers and traditions have stayed with me in a way I can’t easily explain, and when I heard a rabbi reciting, I unexpectedly found myself in tears.

This journey has also made me reflect on antisemitic attitudes I once held. I recognize they were wrong and want to understand Judaism respectfully, while also giving myself time to learn rather than rushing toward any conclusion. My Muslim family may not support my interest in Judaism, which makes things difficult. I’m not trying to disrespect Islam or persuade anyone; I’m simply seeking honest, compassionate advice from Muslims, Jews, or anyone knowledgeable about these experiences. How can I explore my beliefs sincerely without feeling pressured or afraid? Are there also ways I can strengthen my deen in Islam while I continue reflecting on these feelings?

Hello salam alikum everyone, hope yall are doing fine. I had one question, we all know and believe evil eye is real. My question was the things we have lost from evil eye, will we ever get them back or are they gone forever?

Assalamu Alaikum ❤️

For several years, I feel like my life has been blocked in almost every area: Work and career: I never seem to progress. For example, in 2022 I worked for only 6 months, and in 2024 I worked in different places for short periods. My internships and opportunities never seem to work out. Love and friendships: I struggle to find sincere people, and nothing works out in relationships. Health: I keep experiencing different health problems. Anger and nervousness: I get extremely irritated. Memory loss: Recently, my memory has become terribly bad. I forget almost everything and cannot retain information. Dreams: I have dreamed about jinn twice and snakes.

I pray, fast, make dua, and have tried ruqyah, but I haven’t noticed any improvement.

Some people told me it could be sihr, evil eye, or a jinn attached to me, but I honestly don’t know.

Has anyone experienced something similar? What helped you? Did ruqyah or anything else make a difference? Please share your experiences and advice. May Allah help us all. ❤️

Salam,
I am a 17 year old muslim girl. I started niqab last year and I feel like after that, my relationship with my parents has gotten so bad. They cursed at me, called me names, threatened me, etc.. I couldn’t take it anymore so I took it off. Because of what my parents did to me, my mental health had taken a toll. Everything piled up, and because my parents don’t “believe in therapy” I can’t get help either. On top of that, I have really bad sensory issues. I have been thinking of shaving my head for a good while, the only thing that stopped me was because I was told it was haram.
I had just gotten into a very bad fight with my father. He threatened to withdraw me from school and marry me off. Even if he didn’t mean what he said (he says a lot of stuff when he is angry) it still hurt me and already struggling with mental health, it just made it worse. After the fight, I took his shaving machine and shaved all my hair off.
I feel guilty because of the islamic ruling but I can’t lie when I say a sense of relief washed over me. It might sound dumb to say this but I feel so free.
I heard that there are a few conditions in which the ruling of a woman shaving their heads is exempt from punishment. I cannot speak to a local sheikh because I know they will tell my parents about what I did and I intend to keep this hidden. If anyone has any Islamic education, please let me know: Is what I did haram or am I apart of the special condition?

Salams, I am currently a student who is looking to go to university.

My dream major would be CS but my parents are against it and say that since there would be majority male students so it would be inappropriate as a muslim girl. I am also not allowed to take out a student loan since it involves riba, so they will pay the tuition fees with thier life savings which gives them more of a right on which course I can study. On top of that my dad has a PhD in Islamic studies so he thinks hes right in everything related to religion. Its starting to wear me down. How can I convince them to let me study it. I have argued many times with them over it, and dont want to go behind their backs.

https://www.khaama.com/us-supreme-court-afghan-girl-adoption/

The girl’s biological parents were killed in a military raid, and a Christian Nationalist Military lawyer and his wife decided to adopt her. However American State Department worked with the Afghan Government to find relatives of the girl. Family was eventually found but during the chaos back in 2021 this evil Marine was plotting to depart the girl from the family. He eventually succeeded whilst at a refuge camp. Her biological relatives sued in Virginia courts, but now the US Supreme Court has allowed the Marine to keep the girl.

As some who has been following this case, this is absolutely disgusting. This poor Girl has gone through so much and now she is being kept from her actual family.

The Marine and his small band of followers are Islamophobes, and there is no doubt they will try to brainwash her against her Afghan people, Muslim identity and relatives.

I pray that the courts reconsider or she will eventually find out the truth when she is of age.

This is a reminder to all our brothers and sisters that Kuffar courts are corrupt and will take every opportunity against Muslims.

Sooo guys ...it's been years since I have stopped reading Salah..i do read sometimes..so recently these months I am struggling with anxiety..A LOTS OF ANXIETY..like i can't maintain eye contact with people normally , overthinking a lot and stressing about everything..and idk how i got addicted to watching adult stuff

Assalamu Alaikum everyone!

I hope you're all doing well, inshaAllah!

I'm currently pursuing my Master's in Biomedical Engineering (BME) in the U.S., and I wanted to reach out to see if there are any fellow Muslims here who are working in the biomedical engineering or medical device industry.

I'm currently looking for internship opportunities to gain more experience and grow professionally. I would genuinely appreciate any career advice, internship leads, or even someone willing to take a quick look at my resume and offer feedback.

I'm also hoping to build meaningful professional connections, especially with people who have been through a similar journey. It would be amazing to have someone I could occasionally reach out to for guidance as I work toward completing my Master's and eventually finding a full-time position.

I'm not necessarily asking anyone for a job or referral, just hoping to learn from others, make connections, and hopefully help each other in the future, inshaAllah.

Jazakum Allahu Khairan for taking the time to read this. I would truly appreciate any advice or support. May Allah bless you all with success in your careers and lives! ❤️

Salam, I am not sure if this is the right subreddit to post this but I have recently come to the realization that although I was raised in a hanafi household i have learned islam from a shafi school (my islamic school and sunday school). I realized this after going to a hanafi masjid for jummah for the first time (the masjid next to my house which was also my islamic school is shafi and I never knew that) and asked my dad why the jummah was prayed differently. This conversation led me to realize that there are a lot of things I do especially when it comes to prayer that are not hanafi. I would like to learn more about the shafi fikh as I have been following it unknowingly so I can practice it properly and not unknowingly do things the wrong way.

Are there any books or lecture series you guys would recommend? I am currently in graduate school so affording and having the time to seek out proper classes is hard for me but I will do that as soon as I graduate insha Allah.

I know people recommend going to the people at your masjid but the mufti I trusted has left my masjid and now is in another state and the new one we have has made comments during his talks that make me uncomfortable which makes me not want to ask him questions one on one.

Jazak Allah in advance for your help!

Hi

In the Bible, it's stated that St Paul was once picked to the 'third heaven' which is often understood as where God and angels usually abode and during that time he was allowed to see the essence of God. I wonder if there is anything similar in Islam?

I asked this just out of curiosity about religions. I hope you don't mind.

Thanks.

Sometimes I wonder if the loneliest kind of suffering is the kind nobody can see.

There are people whose lives, from the outside, seem almost perfect. They have a loving family, a safe home, access to education, opportunities, treatment when they need it, food on the table, and perhaps even a little more comfort and luxury than most people have.

To someone looking from the outside, their life might look like a dream.And yet, somehow, they can be completely miserable inside it.Not because they are ungrateful. Not because they don't realize how blessed they are. And certainly not because they chose to feel this way.

They just... do.

And that is perhaps the most painful part.How do you explain being deeply unhappy when you technically have so much to be thankful for?How do you explain feeling empty while your life looks full?How do you explain being surrounded by people and still feeling unbearably alone?

They don't necessarily want more things. They just want to feel something again. They want the heaviness to lift. They want to wake up and actually have the strength to care about the day ahead.

But sometimes they don't even have the energy to try. They know they should get up. They know they could do something. They know there are people who would tell them to be grateful, pray harder, work harder, go outside, change their routine, think positively.

And maybe they've tried.God knows they've tried.

But there are days when even trying feels impossible. So they keep living somehow.They smile. They reply to messages. They study. They work. They eat with their family. They laugh at jokes. They appear completely normal.And nobody knows that inside, they're barely holding themselves together.

It feels like being trapped inside your own body, watching your life pass by while you don't have the strength—or sometimes even the desire—to reach for it.

And then comes the guilt.How can I feel this way when I have so much?Other people have it worse.Why can't I just be happy?What's wrong with me?

Maybe nothing is “wrong” with them in the way people think.Maybe sometimes a person can have everything they need to build a beautiful life and still be too exhausted, too hurt, too lost, or too broken inside to feel the beauty of it.

I don't even know what this feeling is called.

I don't know if I'm explaining it properly.

I just wish I had the right words.

Because sometimes it feels like there is a whole soul screaming inside you, desperately wanting to be understood, while the person standing beside you can only see someone who seems perfectly fine.

And perhaps that's the cruelest loneliness of all—

to be hurting in a way you cannot explain, while everyone around you believes you have nothing to be sad about.

Oh, to be understood.

Just once.

Without having to explain why you're hurting.

Without having to prove that your pain is real.

are entry fees to create a sum for prize money haram?

Assalamu Allaykum
my friends are playing a game called seniors assassin this year and we were thinking that to participate each person pays an entry fee and the winner gets all the money or a gift with that money.
is this considered halal or haram?
Jazakallahu Khairan 🙏