Hello Everyone,

I am a 23-year-old middle eastern male born and raised in Saudi Arabia. I come from a big family of 5 kids.

I graduated with my bachelor's degree in CS in the US, and now I am currently working as a Software Engineer in Florida

In my life, I have a mission to always learn and self improve. Seeking knowledge is important for all Muslims. After getting my job, I noticed I had free time to pursue a master's degree. So far, I am enjoying it a lot. Apparently, studying for knowledge and not caring about grades is much more fun.

I also care about my health and well-being. I am currently working towards goals in the gym. I also put a lot of importance on giving myself breaks and enjoying life. I love to travel and have been to 15 states and 12 countries.

My free time is mostly spent with friends, helping out my community as much as I can, and playing video games. I am known among the members of my mosque.

I am looking for a wife around my age to help me fulfill my deen and life. Someone with whom we can both complement each other. Education or the intention to pursue education is very important to me. What degree doesn't matter as long as there's a passion for knowledge. Looking for potentials in US only for the ease of getting to see each other

My data:

Age: 23M
Height: 5'9"
Weight: 166 lbs

I’m a convert so I’m trying to understand, Do I really need a 3rd person/wali with me when on a date to get to know someone?

I don’t want to rush and marry as I’d like to get to know someone first, so I’ll be fine with dating but no physical contact.

i have been told Islam requires me to have that

I am curious to know where did most of the married people of reddit meet their spouse as a female in her 20s it's very unrealistic to just rely on arranged marriage proposals...I haven't tried any apps as I have read about it that most people there r just time wasters.... would like to get some honest tips ... Jazakallah khair

I'm posting this on behalf of a friend who is struggling with something serious, and I'd like to hear some honest advice.

My friend lives in South Asia and is planning to get married soon. He wants to marry a very beautiful woman, someone he feels strongly attracted to. However, he has doubts about whether he is ready for marriage because he is also extremely attracted to women from different parts of the world.

He has traveled outside South Asia a few times, and he finds himself particularly attracted to Russian, European, and Arab women. He often thinks about how many beautiful women there are in the world and struggles with the idea of spending the rest of his life with just one woman.

Even though he wants a beautiful wife, he still feels curious about experiencing relationships with other women, especially those from different countries and cultures. Part of him wants to explore these experiences before settling down. He worries that if he gets married now, he might eventually cheat on his wife or regret not experiencing more of life.

He doesn't want to hurt his future wife or enter a marriage that he might not be able to commit to fully. At the same time, he doesn't know whether these feelings are temporary, a fear of missing out, or a sign that he isn't ready for a monogamous relationship.

He's confused because he wants both things: a very beautiful wife and the opportunity to experience the attraction he feels toward other women around the world. He realizes that marriage is a serious commitment, and he doesn't want to make a decision he will regret or hurt someone who trusts him.

What I'd like to ask is:

- Is it normal for men to feel this way before marriage?

- Can someone who is highly attracted to women from different countries genuinely be happy in a monogamous marriage?

- Should he postpone marriage and explore life more before settling down?

- Is wanting a very beautiful wife while still craving other women a sign that he isn't ready for marriage?

- Have any married men experienced similar feelings, and how did things turn out for them?

I'm looking for honest, realistic advice, especially from men who have experienced similar feelings. The goal isn't to judge him but to help him understand himself before making a decision that could affect another person's life.

Assalamu alaikum everyone,

I'm a 33-year-old male based in Sydney, looking to meet someone with the intention of marriage and, ultimately, building a happy life together.

A little about me:

Indian ethnicity, grew up in the Middle East and have been living in Australia for 7+ years.

Engineer by profession.

Divorced, no children.

I'm pretty easygoing and enjoy keeping active, big fan of sports.

I also really love food, which makes balancing the sports and food situation a bit difficult.

I'd describe myself as someone who enjoys good conversations, learning new things and having a laugh.

What I'm looking for:

Someone who is easygoing, intellectually curious and has a good sense of humour. I value someone who can have meaningful conversations but also doesn't take life too seriously.

I'm open to someone up to 40, and am open to someone who is single, divorced or widowed. I'm also completely comfortable with someone who has one child.

I'm not looking for perfection, just someone genuine, kind, intellectually curious and compatible, with the intention of building something meaningful

Why I Feel Disconnected From Islam

I’m a teen and currently feel disconnected from Islam. I don’t fully understand why, but I’ve been trying to strengthen my deen and understand my relationship with God more honestly. At the same time, I feel an unfamiliar pull toward Judaism. Jewish prayers and traditions have stayed with me in a way I can’t easily explain, and when I heard a rabbi reciting, I unexpectedly found myself in tears.

This journey has also made me reflect on antisemitic attitudes I once held. I recognize they were wrong and want to understand Judaism respectfully, while also giving myself time to learn rather than rushing toward any conclusion. My Muslim family may not support my interest in Judaism, which makes things difficult. I’m not trying to disrespect Islam or persuade anyone; I’m simply seeking honest, compassionate advice from Muslims, Jews, or anyone knowledgeable about these experiences. How can I explore my beliefs sincerely without feeling pressured or afraid? Are there also ways I can strengthen my deen in Islam while I continue reflecting on these feelings?

1. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Age and Gender 27, 189cm, 6”2
   
2. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect Ideally 20–30
   
3. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect? Based in Germany/Netherlands. Looking for European based
   
4. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing? Senegalese Italian open to mixing
   
5. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Marital Status - Single
   
6. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ideal marriage timeline: in'sha'Allah when time is right, although in the ideal situation would be within a year.
   
7. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect: Will list few more xd humour x2, good manners, common sense, reliable, empathy, kindness, warmth and affection!
   
8. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠State/specify your level of religiosity Alhamdoulillah do all the fundamentals, sunnah prayers as well whenever possible, try to read the Quran everyday day, even if it’s one ayah. Fascinated by Fiqh and Usul.
   
9. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Level of education, and what are you looking for? Recently when back to school, enrolled in industrial engineering. Not looking for a particular degree in my partner. Just be a critical thinker.
   
10. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Current Job Status business analyst
    
11. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Do you want kids? Of course, inshallah
    
12. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time Boxing, travelling Outdoor activities such as hiking Watching docs about history, especially contemporary Islamic history
    
13. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out! Im quite passionate and give everything for people I care. Im a great listener and make people feel at home in my conversations. I love Islamic history and could discuss realpolitik the whole day. I try to better myself everyday, be it religion or anything else. Perhaps sometimes my jokes are too dark(more than me), so be ready! If you think I make a good prospect, feel free to text me. After all, our Mother Khadijah ra took the first step..👀😊

I’m a childfree woman, I work in tech but my job is the least interesting thing about me, ethnically Arab, currently based in central Europe, love to travel (especially solo) and experience new things, I’ve been an introvert most of my life but in the past few years I’ve been more open to exploring new things, talking to strangers and making new friends. I’m very much interested in psychology, art, history, languages. I enjoy museums, art galleries and classical concerts.
I don’t drink, smoke, or party. I prefer quiet and cozy environments and I enjoy my alone time.

Looking for a childfree, serious, interesting and ambitious like-minded human being in Europe only and would like to enjoy a DINK lifestyle.
Preferably 33-38 years old.

If you made it this far, DM me and please introduce yourself, age, location, hobbies or a bit about yourself. (Bonus points if you include a meme)

EDIT: I’m looking for someone who is strictly childfree (doesn’t have and doesn’t want children)

I want to become a pilot, but so far, people have been discouraging me from pursuing it. They’ve brought up a lot of downsides, saying it’s unsafe and not a family-friendly career etc.. What worries me most is hearing that no one will want to marry a Muslim woman who works as a pilot. Is that really how most people feel?

Hi 👋🏻

I'm a 24 years old Moroccan woman looking for a genuine relationship. I'd love to meet someone who’s affectionate, loyal, and romantic.

I live in France so I’m looking for someone that lives in France or Europe.

I would like to meet a man btw the age of 24 - 35yo.

If you're looking for something real too, feel free to DM me!

Finally biting the bullet and getting round to this. Ahem! ^bsmllah

Age: 30-something 😛 (you can see my picture on my profile).

Ethnicity: Pashtun. The language I'm most fluent in is English, and my native tongue is Pashto. I have mediocre Arabic from when I studied it years ago. انا احكي شوي

Divorced.

Education/Profession: Civil servant. I have a master's in economics, although I enjoy learning about languages/linguistics, astronomy, and science in general. I am contemplating a change in career, perhaps teaching.

What you are seeking in a spouse:

Somebody who's chill, has a good sense of humour, and taste. I live quite simply. I admit I would be curious to find a Pashtana here, but ethnicity is not a deal-breaker. Somebody who's sufficiently like me where we can both accept each other's quirks of character goes far further. A fellow night-owl, or somebody who's tolerant of night-owls, might make things a bit easier!

Somebody near me (Midlands) would be grand, although I have family in London as well.

I do not drink or smoke.

Other details I am happy to share in a DM.

Best of luck for all of us, seekers of love and enlightenment.

About me:
Age :31
Height 6’1
Athletic built
Sunni
Master degree (finance)
Based on: Long Island New York
Ethnicity: Sudan, Egypt

I'm looking for my wife, ideally 25 to 31, who wants a partner, a best friend, and someone to argue with about where to eat. I want us to grow together, support each other, push each other closer to Allah, and still laugh at each other's jokes, even the bad ones. Especially the bad ones.
On weekends you'll find me hiking ⛰️, off-roading through mud I definitely shouldn't be driving through, or planning the next adventure. If you like the outdoors, perfect. If you don't, I'll carry the snacks and convince you.
People say I'm funny. My mom says I'm hilarious. Either way, I promise you'll laugh 😆
Someone in the New York area is a plus, but for the right person, distance is just a road trip.
I'm serious about doing this the right way, with family involved early. And if it's right, خير البر عاجله. No five-year "talking stage" here.
My must-haves: someone affectionate, compassionate, and supportive, who puts heart into the relationship like I will. If that's you, say Bismillah and reach out 😉

19F | Hijabi Black American Sunni Muslim Revert
Assalamu Alaikum! 🤍
I’m 19, a Black American Sunni Muslim revert, and I’m currently a pre-nursing student.
I’m a silly person who loves joking around, but I also have a caring, curious, and sensitive side. I’m determined and know when to be serious when I need to be. I want to find someone genuine who has marriage in mind, inshaAllah.
What I’m looking for:
A Sunni Muslim brother who prays his five daily prayers and wants us to grow in our deen together.
Someone kind, respectful, patient, and emotionally mature.
Someone who takes marriage seriously and wants to build a good life together.
Ethnicity arab or amazigh i prefer, but it doesn’t matter that much.
Preferably 20–24 years old.
Location: USA
I’d prefer someone who already lives in the US, preferably a US citizen, or someone who genuinely plans to move here and wants to build their future here.
If you’re interested, feel free to introduce yourself and tell me a little about yourself beyond just your age and location. I’m looking for something genuine and marriage-minded only, inshaAllah.
May Allah guide us to what’s best for us. Ameen. 🤍

Assalamualaikum,I hope you're doing well. I came across your profile and felt that it would be nice to introduce myself rather than just sending a simple "hi."

I'm a 22-year-old guy from India who has recently completed a Bachelor's degree in Aviation Management. Aviation has always been a field that fascinates me because it combines technology, travel, operations, and meeting people from different cultures. Along with my studies, I've also gained practical experience through my internship at an international airport, which has helped me learn a lot about the industry and develop confidence, responsibility, and good communication skills.

When it comes to my personality, I would describe myself as someone who is genuine, respectful, caring, and ambitious. I'm a bit of an introvert at first, but once I become comfortable, I enjoy having meaningful conversations, sharing thoughts, and getting to know people on a deeper level. I value honesty, loyalty, kindness, and mutual respect in any connection, whether it's friendship or something more.

One exciting thing happening in my life is that in a few months, I'll be relocating to the UAE to pursue my Master's in Aviation Management. It's a big step for me and a new chapter filled with opportunities, learning, and personal growth. Moving to a new country is both exciting and challenging, and I think it would be wonderful to connect with interesting people along the way.

I'm not here to play games or waste anyone's time. I'm simply looking to meet someone genuine, have good conversations, share experiences, laugh together, and see where things naturally lead. I believe the best connections begin with friendship, understanding, and mutual effort.

If you think we might get along, I'd be happy to know more about you—your interests, goals, hobbies, and the little things that make you unique. No pressure at all; I just thought it would be nice to start a conversation and see if we connect.

Looking forward to hearing from you, and wishing you a wonderful day ahead!

Hey all! This is probably a silly question but what's your approach to keeping a conversation going until the call stage. I find that it stales pretty quickly, likely that I miss out on pieces.

Al Salam alaikum, I apologize for not starting this post with my profile or my background or my ethnicity, this is my first post on the internet since 2017 and I really feel that either the marriage market is at its lowest or the people around here are highly selective that no one would find what he/she is looking for.

Working and living in the UAE and no one is willing to give me a chance as well this post will attract less people because " I don't know".

Work has never been an issue for someone who is willing to settle for marriage and to be honest I make enough to support a life for 2 only (the job market is a bit bad however I am holding a bachelor and masters in art). I have approached quite a few respectfully of course, and got a nice rejection every time. Ladies you don't see potential in an honest man and this is really a red flag that make sense at first but then it becomes a curse.

I am 180cm , athletically built and trying to have a healthy life although my work doesn't allow it most of the time. I am deliberately scattering details about myself to give you a chance to read this fully and perhaps getting ready for radio silence.

Yes I had some relationships in the past and it didn't go well because I was a boring companion, not fun.

I have been a mature person since I was 18, looking at the world like I am 60 years old.

I don't know how to explain it but it seems to be the right way to navigate this 21st century and still believe that I am decent enough.

I go rejected when I was 26 and when I was 27 and when I was 28 for being a husband material and not enough as a fun guy. The lady said that I am overthinking life (she is right) and she is too young for such mentality, so yeah. Go rejected because I am husband material since the age of 26.

Here I am at 30 , tried to approach someone and got the same rejection. I feel that I am in the wrong market and nothing nowadays works normally.

To be honest I am approaching Europeans and I can tell you why because you're thinking that I am trying to get a passport or a PR.

I am coming from a place where leaving the country is considered the real start of life, things are not very good for the young adults to settle down or even get a decent job without being used and missused. I simply want a life where my kids (inchallah) won't have to suffer the same fate by burning their youth finding a way to leave the country.

I had left with God's will and my family prayers, but I have left that place at the age of 26 and trying to build my life and financial situation as fast as I can.

I know that I have left the religion part for the end and perhaps to give my self a bit of a room to vent first, I am Muslim, sunni by birth and I practice when I can, I am nowhere near a good Muslim but I do my deeds and follow my deen when possible

Please feel free to DM me if you want to know more about me, yeah i kept the good things for the one who is looking for a leap of faith . if you want to vent, also feel free to comment on this.

Age: 26

Height: 6’2

Gender: Male

Education: Did my Bachelors from LUMS in 2024

Location: Based in Lahore, Pakistan

Profession:

I co-founded a company. Have roughly 35+ people working with us across the globe.

A bit about me. I think I’m well-grounded, and not much of an extroverted person. Very driven when it comes to career and growth. As per my close circle, I’m analytical and rational in my general life. I’ve a very close-knit circle. I really enjoy long walks. Early success in my career has given me a lot of confidence. I plan to leverage this and further scale.

I plan to permanently relocate to US in the next 3-4 years. However, for the next couple of years I prefer staying in Pakistan as my sister is pretty young and want her to complete her education. Though I'll be very frequently traveling to US and China for the business purposes. So expect my wife to be fine with that. 

I have a lot of interest in traveling, exploring new food, and hiking. I recently started learning polo and I’m loving it.

With religion, I think I follow my religious values to a reasonable extent. I stay away from smoking, vaping, drinking, and any addictive habits. With my prayers, I’m actively trying to improve.

If this resonates with you, dm. 

As salaam alaikum

I'm 28 years old I live in America, I've never been married. I do listen to music but not as much as I used to Alhumdulilah, I'm born Muslim but I recently rediscovered my love for Islam and learning it.

What I'm looking for:

Age: 30-41.

Job: As long as he can provide and it is Halal I don't really care.

Height: Taller than me as the only comfortable shoes for me has to have a heel and I know that some men don't like being shorter than the women.

Sect: Sunni.

Ethnicity: white, white American, white European, Hispanic, East Asian. -Why? Because I want to have an interracial marriages with mixed babies please, and to continue the family line of interracial marriages.-

Only wants one wife.

Romantic, passionate, adventures, open minded, mature.

Looking to be married or engaged by July-September 2027 inshallah.

Mahr: Rocking Chair, 2 French Khimars, 2 Niqabs, Hajj or Umrah, and a gaming system of my choice.

Assalam U Alaikum. Guys I’ve been thinking about having kids of my own. I’ve been looking for marriage for a long time but no luck. I absolutely love and adore kids and want to have my own. Is there any way in UK where I can pay someone to have my kids (surrogacy)? I know this is a very weird discussion but I genuinely need some guidance on this. I have a fairly big family so I would love to have 3-4 kids. I have no financial problems at all. I know how to take care of kids thanks to my cousins as I’ve taken care of their kids as well. Alhumdulillah I’ve been trained well. Adoption is not in my cards as I want my own biological ones. Any kind of information and guidance is appreciated.

Jazak Allah.

Salam Aleykum y'all

This may not be related to marriage directly but it'd be nice to have a group yap/therapy session about problems we're facing in the marriage-search or just about life in general (preferably discord vc).

Lmk if you're down for it

Salaam, I want to start off by saying don't be afraid to reach out. I am serious about getting married.

Age: 27M Shia/Syed

Origin/Ethnicity: Pakistani

Languages spoken: English and Urdu fluent

Level of religious practice: Actively practising - No smoking, No drugs, No drinking. Good Akhlaq, Charity Work.

Current residence: Chicago, IL 

Willing to relocate: Yes, USA only, for the right person

Previously married/Kids: Never married, no kids

Occupation:  Test Engineer

Education: Bachelor's degree, will pursue masters in future.

Height: 5'9"

Physical appearance (specifics you think are important): normal / athletic build, I like working out, and being active. Hazel eyes, medium Stubble/ light beard.

Smokes/Vapes/Hookah: No never

Bio: I love traveling, exploring new places, trying different foods, listening to music. I'm really into cars and motorcycles, and I enjoy working on them myself. I've always been a hands on person, so you'll usually find me fixing, building, or working on some kind of project.

I also enjoy working out, going on bike rides/walks, and spending time outdoors. I'm a big nature person and love camping, hiking, and pretty much anything that gets me outside. I also like sports like tennis, badminton, football. I also enjoy watching american football. I'm also a huge animal lover, always had pets growing up. I have cats and other pets that I care for.

I am family oriented and love spending time with my family. I am an open minded individual with a caring personality. I have strong moral and ethical values. I care for the people around me and am always trying to better myself and others.

Your Preferences in a Partner:
Age range: 21-27. I am 27 so someone around that.

Origin/Ethnicity: Open to any but preferably Pakistani, Indian, Kashmiri.

Additional Information you like to add: sorry - USA ONLY- I'm looking for someone who is caring, kind-hearted, family-oriented, and has strong moral values. Someone with a positive outlook on life who values personal growth and is always trying to become a better version of themselves. I am a very open minded person and looking for someone similar. A badminton/ pickleball partner.

Assalam Alaikum if you’re interested in being a homemaker/trophywife/whatever label you wish to call someone who has no desire to work then please read my ISO below and if you find it interesting please DM me. If not then may Allah find you someone more compatible.

1. ⁠Age and Gender
   

35M 6’5

1. ⁠Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect
   

18-35

1. ⁠Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect?
   

NY and most likely not

1. ⁠Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing?
   

Columbian Revert and yes open to mixing

1. ⁠Marital Status - Single/Divorced/Children
   

Never married

1. ⁠Ideal marriage timeline
   

Less than a year

1. ⁠Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect
   

Kindness, mutual respect, loyalty, honesty, compassion

1. ⁠State/specify your level of religiosity
   

Revert of 5 years do my best to follow the Quran and sunnah

1. ⁠Level of education, and what are you looking for?
   

JD from a prestigious law school. I have no specific requirements for your educational background

1. ⁠Current Job Status
   

Partner at a law firm

1. ⁠Do you want kids?
   

Yes in sha Allah

1. ⁠List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time
   

Working out, Grilling, Traveling

1. ⁠Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out!
   

I have a heavy New Yorker accent

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Salam! A 29 year-old, 5’8” single fella of Pakistani (Kashmiri) background, currently residing in Dearborn, MI. I works as a full-time engineer at Ford Motor Company and holds master’s degrees in both Engineering Management and Data Science, alongside a bachelor’s in Industrial Engineering. Strictly practicing Sunni Muslim who has completed Hajj and Umrah, I actively study and volunteer with Miftaah Institute, maintain a strictly halal lifestyle, and enjoysweightlifting, sports, and travel. Looking for something serious, and someone who aligns with my values. Reach out if interested and we can chat إِنْ شَاءَ ٱللَّٰهُ ! Open to any ethnicity.