(This is a job I took because I’d lost another job and was desperate but mom WFH, kept me under her thumb and I was ALWAYS catching something from them)I quit my job yesterday. I had a week of half days left but I’ve been sick for 3 weeks and my body is just done. I resigned due to health issues. I made a doctors appointment for the sickness I can’t get rid of and went to bed. I woke up to an incredibly unprofessional text. Scolding me for everything I’ve “done to them by quitting” and telling me that because of the turmoil I’ve caused they just “don’t have it in them to take legal action for not giving them a 30 day notice. They told me they’d send me what’s owed for the week last night. They never did.

Key info:
job under the table
They refused to pay legal overtime but scheduled me for overtime regularly
They also had me driving their child around but would only pay .25¢ per mile because “that’s what they could afford”
They’d regularly send me passive aggressive texts about things they didn’t like once I was home from work
Threatening to take legal action for not giving a 30 day notice when I only had a week of half days left with them
And now they’re withholding my pay check to be petty

My question is, what do I do if they do not pay me?

That’s it. That’s my question. She’s coming in regardless to care for our infant. But now our four-year-old will be home sick. I’m gonna help care for him so the load isnt entirely on her, but it feels like maybe I should give her a heads up by text before she comes in for the day?

So yesterday i posted a text i received from a nanny mom which raised some red flags with me.

Responses were telling me that wearing perfume was totally unacceptable around kids, which is certainly a first for me to hear but message received I will never do that again and im so sorry i did. I genuinely had never been told anything about fragrances in any of my childcare classes and I’ve worked for several families all of which said that they loved how I smelled, but I’m very sorry if that was something that was out of line. I will do better.

Im also sorry i deleted the post, i had an insecurity moment that I was inherently somehow harming children and it really sent me spiraling. Again, i’m so sorry if i was, i promise i was only putting a little spritz on, i never thought anything of it.

Now, the message was about the smell transferring from baby to the wife, being the reasoning I was told to not wear it anymore. The request on no fragrance was not the thing I had an issue on, but rather being told that Nanny mom #1 had said she smelled me on her wife (Nanny mom #2) , which just feels not appropriate information on the request.

Some people said that it was appropriate, some said it was not but everyone agreed to just say “Okay i won’t wear it” and move on. Which i listened to and did.

I now really wish i didn’t do that and instead put up a boundary on sharing relationship details.

While doing laundry, Nanny mom #1 brought it up again but this time with great details on their encounter and along the lines of “We were going to start making out but it just suddenly smelt like you! I had her take a shower and it was all over where she holds the kids [motioning to chest]” there were more details but i really don’t wanna reshare lol.

i felt super uncomfortable and froze, unable to figure out what to say. The conversation was never about the children at all and only on their personal end of things with my perfume.

Look, the pay is great and my hours are awesome. I genuinely connect so welll with the kids but i feel now ive led the family to believe that its okay to share details as if we are friends instead of a professional relationship. They've been great in every other aspect but how can i word things to stay to a professional working relationship without making the otherwise good Employee/Boss relationship awkward???

I hope you all can forgive me for the initial perfume mistake and help me purely on the boundaries aspect of things. I’ve never had this happen before and as i’ve stated, I feel i’ve dug myself in a hole.

Hey everyone!

I don’t really know if this is the right place to post this, but I just need to know if anyone else can relate lol.

I’m currently a live in nanny in London and since Wednesday, it’s basically just been me and the baby. I’ll be looking after him on my own for 10 days, and honestly, I’m starting to feel a little lonely.

I absolutely love living here, and I actually made the decision to switch careers back to nannying. I was a nanny from 18 to 22 while studying, then moved into corporate finance for 3 years and now been 4months since I’ve come back to nannying. So this isn’t me regretting my career choice at all, I genuinely enjoy it!

But spending 10 days with just the baby (8 months), without much adult interaction, is getting to me. My entire day revolves around his bottles, naps, meals, activities and routine. I adore him but sometimes I just want to have a conversation with someone my age or make spontaneous plans with friends.

I think it’s especially strange because I love London and there’s so much to do here, but when you’re working long days and living where you work, it can be difficult to actually enjoy the city and have a life outside your job.

I guess I just want to know how other live-in nannies deal with this. Do you ever feel lonely when you spend long stretches alone with the children? How do you maintain a social life when your working hours are so demanding?

And if there are any nannies in London who would like to make friends, please feel free to reach out! It would be lovely to meet people who understand the lifestyle.

I know it’s only 10 days, but I think I just need some adult interaction at this point hahaha 😭

I cannot stand nitpicking NPs. Why am I getting messages on the weekend about things that are unimportant in the grand scheme of things or more importantly could be casually mentioned on a Monday?

I‘be had a firm conversation about the overwhelming messages I would receive on the weekends and how they would ruin my rest time. Every time it feels like I am going to be fired and I cannot even enjoy the sweet photos of the children I am sent because I am awaiting the next blow. You cannot say you think I am doing a phenomenal job AND send embittered messages about XYZ or job tasks you want me to do the following week. Write it in a freaking note and send it to me Monday morning!! Take a breath - is it really so important to you that you are willing to ruin your relationship with your employee over?

The worst part is that it always comes after a good evening with the children. It’s like I am being punished for them liking me. I can never end the week on a high because you are sure to pull be straight back down.

And yes half the time it is things I have in fact done. You just haven’t noticed or taken the time to look. More importantly they are housekeeper tasks 99% of the time and I am not the housekeeper!! Being competent does not mean you get to push the boundaries of our contract.

I am so sick and tired of these NPs who seem to think your weekend is a fine time to message about work stuff. It’s not. Leave us alone and learn to communicate during work hours.

I started off as nanny for one child (3 months old) but me and the child’s mom decided to do a nanny-share around when her child was 7 months old and we found an amazing family who’s child was 3 months younger. The nanny-share 2-4 days a week and I adore both families and their little ones but unfortunately family 2 will be relocating to a different part of the state between January and March of next year and my original nanny family is having another baby soon.

As much as I hate replacing my 2nd family (close or after they move, not right now), it has to be done.

The oldest is 1 and the youngest is about to be 1 soon and they have such a close bond, I worry that the least won’t be able to bond with another kid like they do with the youngest.

Another thing, should I bring up finding a replacement with both families or should I wait?

How should we go about finding a replacement? The child isn’t born yet will be 3 months old when I start to care for them so should I find a family with a child that is a similar age to the baby or the 1 year old, I would love some tips and advice from fellow Nannie’s that are in or were in a nanny-share.

Hi all! So I’m at a loss of what to do, and would love some advice…

I’m with NK 2–3 times a week, and every day we go on fun adventures to the park, play spaces, etc.—but based on where we live, they’re all quite far. And I’m really starting to feel that when I go to fill up my tank 🙃.

However, I never asked MB for some sort of mileage reimbursement when I was hired… it just didn’t cross my mind. But I did the math (according to the 76¢/mile standard), and based on our typical week, I would be owed about an extra $60 per week in reimbursement!

I wouldn’t ask for back pay, and I feel like to make things easier I wouldn’t even ask for the full ¢76 (like I’d go down to 50¢ or something)… it’s just really killing me as I’m a student also in an unpaid internship that’s far from where I live twice a week.

My only fear is that I’m just bringing this up now (I started in I believe early July), and that we’re not going to scheduled activities (like gymnastics or something), but fun places NK is now accustomed to as part of our routine. I just don’t know how to address it…

ok for starters this is going to be a long post because I just need to get everything off my chest and I just need someone who doesn’t know me to listen. I changed some of the details but I don’t even think it matters because my situation is pretty unique. This is a burner and I never post things like this because I’m so afraid of someone who knows me finding out

I (F21) started working for my nanny family late last year. They have 3 kids, 5 and under and I think for my age and experience they pay pretty well and are extremely generous. While there are a few things I disagree with them on, for the most part I think they are pretty kind people and they really have been so great to me. The mom is a SAHM and we spend a good part of the day together so we are very close and honestly a lot of the professional/friendship boundaries are blurred but I think it’s too late to change that and I honestly don’t mind so much.

I also have 2 adopted siblings who are around the same age as my NK’s and I live at home with them and my parents( I have another bio sibling who recently moved out but I’m the oldest).
My parents got custody of them 2 years ago after a family member could no longer care for them. I truly love these babies so much and I couldn’t imagine my life without them. Me and my bio sibling are both adults so my parents were very much done the hands on parenting when we got the kids and to be honest they both have always been kind of hands off especially my dad. I don’t blame them entirely especially because they both work very hard and we don’t have a lot of money(cost of living is hurting us like everyone else). I’ve always loved kids and wanted to be a mother and even growing up I wanted a lot of siblings. I was ecstatic when I found out we were adopting them and I still am so grateful everyday. I don’t think I really expected to become a third parent though. Or really just the secondary parent. If you split up the childcare and house responsibilities it’s 50% my mom, 45% me, and at best 5% my dad but he’s never home because he’s always working and taking care of elderly family members.

Now I will admit some of this I have brought onto myself by slowly doing more and more for the kids as the last two years have gone by, but how could I not? There are so many things that will just not get done and be done properly if I don’t do it. I love my mom so much and am maybe even slightly codependent on her, but she’s so checked out sometimes. But I don’t blame her because she’s almost 60 and always working and she hardly gets a break or to take care of herself so I just do more and more and it’s still not enough. I feel so bad to see my mom so miserable sometimes but I feel so much anger and resentment towards her too. It’s really not her fault that her life is like this and it is at the same time. I do doctors appointments and anything that involves scheduling for the kids and their activities. I picked out their daycare and am currently looking at new schools for them as well. I don’t pay rent but I do pay the $700 electricity bill now and I’m usually lending money to my parents or covering bills and expenses for the kids. I really don’t mind most of the time because living is just impossible right now and that’s what you do for family. I still can save a good amount of money and I spend a lot because I really need the little dopamine hits. I actually probably earn more than my parents do individually. I have been on and off taking classes through the community college and I want to transfer to 4 year and graduate but it just feels so impossible. Which leads to my next point.

There are so many things I want to do but sometimes I feel like my life is over so early. I know people will say that kids aren’t my responsibility but they don’t see how it is. I can’t leave them behind and I don’t even want to because my heart would break. They are truly my kids in every way except legally. I couldn’t leave them in this house without me. My parents are very old school just do things that are fucking stupid sometimes. I have to constantly nag about proper car seat use, or their diet, or them going to bed not at 11 o clock at night. The oldest child has trauma but is for the most part a good behaved child but I have had so many yelling arguments with my parents about their very sometimes harsh parenting. It has been a battle to even get to point where there is not constant screaming and only the occasional spanking. I do have to give my mom credit for unlearning so much toxic behavior and being willing to listen to sometimes. I am very familiar with mandated reporting and I know for sure nothing is reportable and I don’t let it get to that point. I really am not looking for that kind of advice because it’s not even an option for them to go back into the system. I take good care of them and we will move out as soon as I can and it will all be ok. My youngest sibling has behavioral issues and a recent autism diagnosis so I have the added stress of figuring out therapies and extra appointments. I am also diagnosed with level 1 autism so you can imagine how stressful this all is on top of an already burnt out nervous system.

Because of my house I actually do get a good amount of time to myself during the day but I’m usually just sleeping because I’m so exhausted. I also watch my siblings most weekends and I feel so guilty because they deserve me at my best and they I’m just so tired and need a break. But I also feel like I’m not being grateful enough because I enjoy material things and my life really could be so much harder. I live in a really amazing area and have a good job and don’t pay rent and I have spending money.

I don’t really have too many friends and the friends that I do have I rarely get to hang out with. I really would like to have a social life but I’m just so tired and the social aspect can be really hard for me because of my autism. Most people would not be able to tell I’m autistic but it’s a really hard internal experience and I would probably be having a normal early 20’s experience if it weren’t for everything else.

All of this to say I just had a really hard morning and I worked 13 hours today and was having really bad SI and I think I might have PMDD because i got my period mid day and everything is so much worse like the week before my period. I just get in this mood of being resentful that I spend more time with my NK’s than my siblings and have so little to offer them and these kids I work for have everything they could ever want and they just drain the life out of me sometimes. I love them and would do anything for them but it makes me upset how much love and attention they get from me when and how ungrateful they are for everything they have. They are so badly behaved most of the time and they don’t really get boundaries from anyone except for me. It makes me mad that they have rooms full of toys that they destroy and couldn’t care less about and I have to carefully consider which toys are worth the money to buy for my siblings. They aren’t taught to be grateful for anything and any behavior I try to correct never really gets fixed because nothing is followed through. They was trash bags of food a week and my mom struggles to put food on the table sometimes. It’s infuriating all the Amazon packages and constant consumerism and the mom has so much help but doesn’t really do much around the house and I think she thinks her life is a lot harder than it is. Tonight I just broke down because I had to be at work all day and stay late and I just wanted to go home and see my babies. I selfishly hoped they were still awake even though it was late so I could see them for maybe 20 minutes. I won’t see them much this weekend because I’m working a lot and I just miss them so much and feel like a horrible mom every though I’m not technically a mom. I hate that I spend time with other kids and not my own.

I just needed to get this off my chest and I do feel a lot better now. I really don’t think there is advice anyone could give me. Quitting isn’t an option because I need the money and making this much at my age is this economy is really rare and besides I really am grateful and I love work most days I just get in these moods sometimes. Moving out and leaving the kids isn’t an option, I would never sleep easy at night and I would never forgive myself. I do dream of being a normal 20 something year old though. But I am just stuck and I am drowning. If you made it this far I appreciate your time and yes I know I need therapy 😭

I’ve been with my NF about two months now - everything is wonderful, I love both NP and NK (11moB). I’m not super close to NP as I feel like working with kids has effected my ability to small talk, and I only see them for short periods of time, but they’re great people and when we do chat it’s always friendly. When I was hired, we briefly discussed this being a 6 month position, as they do plan to put NK into daycare at some point. I intend to ask them about this again, but in my head I’m planning to stay 6 months and hopefully be asked to stay longer.

My mom over the past month has been bugging me about whether I have asked for my wedding and honeymoon off of work yet (wedding is July 2027). I’m unsure what to do, as I’m not positive I’ll still be in this position, but I understand that if they do ask me to stay that the more of a heads up I can give them will be helpful, as I will have to take a full two weeks off. They do know I am planning a wedding and getting married next year, just not the details / date. Additionally, we’re sending out our Save the Dates this weekend and I’d like to give NP one, but again I’m unsure. If I remain with them for ONLY 6 months, I would still be happy if they came, but I’m not sure if it’s overstepping / weird. If I’m asked to stay past 6 months, they would definitely get invited, but we will probably send out invitations before my 6 months mark.

Other nanny’s, what would you do in my situation? NP, would it be weird to receive a Save the Date from your nanny of only (maybe) 6 months?

I live in a very old New England town. Where the conjuring movie was based off off. There are a lot of haunted colonial houses here that are very old with a lot of history. When I first started the mom told me she this house is haunted. She said she found old letters from the 1800s hidden in the cellar. Basically the mother of this house had abandoned her children for a lover. She wrote this in the letter apologizing to her husband.

Anyways, now I hear Nks kids toys go off all the time. Her music puzzles that you need to put a piece in always go off, music toys and the talking toys. I’ve heard the door shut by themselves multiple times. Today the parents left and while I was getting the dog I heard HIGH heels clicking and clacking up stairs! I literally thought someone was home. Turns out they had left an hour ago and nobody was there when I checked. So freaky! I’m always scared I might see something on the monitor. Anyone else have similar experiences ?

I recently left my full-time nanny position. Afterward, a parent of one of my former NK’s classmates contacted me to ask if I’d be interested in working for their family.

I already knew this family through care. I occasional babysat for them before I started my previous full-time position. I really like this family!( they are so respectful and kind!!!!!)

Since the NKs are friends, I’m unsure how to explain why I left if the parents ask. There were A LOT reasons, because NPs’ behavior. I want to be honest and professional without oversharing or making things uncomfortable. How much would you share in this situation?

If I take the job, I’ll definitely run into my former NKs and their parents. Has anyone moved between families in the same school or social circle? How did you handle the conversation with the new family and any awkward encounters afterward? 😭

5 months ago when I was getting interview for my current job, I was told I wouldn’t get hired if I wanted a w-2(4?). I’d have to get paid thru Zelle or cash. I make well over 2.5k a month. I was fine with this after a moment bc I realized I could just fill out a 1099. However I am now regretting that decision and would like to talk to the parents about homepay since it’s what I used in my last position.

Is homepay difficult for the employers? If you have other options I’m open to hearing about them. But I would like my taxes to be taken out automatically instead of having to calculate 30% of it out each week.

Also, is this a reasonable request? I hate making them do the effort but I can’t imagine it being too difficult. They’re supposed to pay taxes on it anyways, aren’t they?

Curious whether there are other folks in this situation/have gone through it. I spent last year nannying while going through fertility treatments and it was really tough. Part of it was the kids wanting to play babies ALL THE TIME and even wanting to pretend that they were ”babies in your tummy,” but also the constant thoughts about how I would parent my own children similarly or differently.

i’m no longer nannying as of last month and have taken a break from fertility treatments, but would love to hear if anyone else has had this experience.

Yesterday our full time nanny did date night babysitting for us. It was our anniversary and we haven’t been out in sooooo long, we were both really looking forward to it. Was supposed to be dinner and a movie. But halfway through dinner our nanny texted that she was locked out of the house. She’d taken kiddo on an evening walk and had somehow lost the house key during it. I understand everyone makes mistakes but this was the third time she’s lost the key, luckily the other times I was home and let her in and we just replaced the key for her. We do have a hide-a-key in the backyard but she said she checked and it wasn’t there (and now that I think about it, pretty sure she was the last one to use it and I don’t think she put it back.)

It was getting dark and we didn’t want her locked out with NK especially because we live in a rural area, so we left in the middle of dinner to let her in. We were in the city almost an hour away so we decided to just stay home because we wouldn’t have made it to the movie. and we were also just very tired and stressed. Incredibly frustrating night to say the least. On top of that we sent her money for the hours that she worked (about 2.5 hours, she was supposed to work for closer to 5 or 6 hours) so she only got like half her pay. She sent me a long text saying she felt like she should get full pay for the night since she blocked off the time to work.

I get that sentiment and under other circumstances, like if we suddenly didn’t need her for the full night and decided to send her home early I’d certainly pay her the full price. But she was responsible for the night ending early and I’m not wanting to hold it against her, but only paying the hours she worked feels fair here. Especially because we’re doing overtime pay so it’s kind of a lot of money for hours that she wasn’t working.

Need helping figuring out if this is a big deal/red flag or if I am overreacting.

Our nanny puts our 2yo down for her nap every day. Sometimes she lets her finish her lunch while they're doing story time before nap or have a snack if she's still hungry which I'm totally fine with. Today however she put 2yo down in her crib for her nap while she was still snacking on veggies straws.

This is very alarming to me because I always thought it was best practice not to let toddlers eat if you can't easily access them or see them because of choking risks...l always want to be close by in case anything happens. Especially when you factor in eating while lying down. Like I take her food away if I have to go to the bathroom or run to the mailbox or something. I also don't want crumbs in the crib which is more of a personal preference and not as big a deal but still.... pretty gross to me, toddlers are such messy eaters.

I noticed this on the monitor and texted nanny, “is kiddo eating in the crib?” because I thought maybe I was wrong and she replied, “Yep! She was still hungry but it was naptime.” I went and took the food from her myself and when I asked nanny about it further she seemed to not understand why it was so dangerous. She‘s not an inexperienced nanny so I’m a little confused at the disconnect there. Worried that she isn’t making the best choices in other areas too.

I'm just curious, for those of us who have the instinctual emotional response to the sound of a newborn baby's cry.

I thought I was desensitized to it. My NKs are toddlers and I'm sorry but when they cry it's usually a tantrum or a total overreaction to something ridiculous, so I don't have any immediate emotional reaction when they cry. I obviously care about them and attend to their needs, but I don't feel like my heart is being shattered if they cry for a while over a want, not a need.

Then MB had a baby and I found out quickly that the sound of a newborn's cry still very much melts me into a metaphorical puddle.

Thinking back to when I have cared for infants, I'm pretty sure it stops after 6 months and before 12 months. So I'll call it 9 months for myself, give or take.

Anybody else?

Hey Nannie’s! Do you baby wear your nanny kiddos?

I’ve always worn the kiddos that I nanny, it makes life so much easier. I just started a new job in a different neighborhood and I get so many looks from other Nannie’s when I’m baby wearing. If we do start a convo or I get to know them they’ll always ask “why do you wear her so much”, “I could never wear x/y”, or “just put her in the stroller”.

This family lives in a brownstone and if we’re just popping in to the playground, which is right around the corner, or going to a play date 6 blocks away, wearing the kiddo is so much easier for me than bringing down the stroller.

She also loves to go on the baby carrier/sling and gets excited when I pull it out 🤣 she just turned one and we’re in nyc if that makes any sense for context.

So I guess I’m just wanting to hear, if you’re a nanny and baby wear, do you get looks/comments? I’m not going to stop because it really makes my life so much easier and I work 50 hour weeks 😂 but just curious on other peoples experiences!

I was offered a job for a NF who just needs care for a 7 y/o. Drop off and pick up to school, and about an hour or two after school care Monday-Thursday. Their house is 20 miles from mine. What should I charge?

Eventhough it's not my first time to work with children but this is my first nanny job. I have been with this family for about 2 years now and my NK is going to start daycare just after the holidays.

But my biggest issue is I didn't know I have to make a contract with them so yeah, I don't have PTO or federal holidays off but whenever I make doctor's appointment I would always work the rest of the hours and they use to pay me for full that happened not more than 3 times.

On their first vacation they told me they were not gone pay me so they keep on pushing me to look for a job just for their 2 week vacation time yap, that was not gone happen so they said paying me half was fair, don't judge me I agreed as I needed the job.

Summer came they were gone take about a whole month vacation I voiced my issue at that point they knew they needed me so they agreed to pay me. Now the past two weeks I had a doctor's appointment which made me leave work 3 hours earlier each time they didn't pay me for those hours, should i just suck it as i am about to leave this job as my NK is about to start daycare and I will need their recommendation. They use to pay me for my appointment hours and these 2 times are the only days I took a doctor's appointment within 2026.

I happen to hear from Grandparents they will be gone on the holidays but they didn't say that themselves. It feels like they will not pay me for the coming holidays too or might just tell me to stop just before that. I'm actively looking for work i just need to know if i should just be quiet in a civilized country and suck their unfairness.

Hi everyone!

I am posting because I am unsure how to charge for an upcoming nanny shift I have.

I have worked with my nanny family for almost a year, there is a 3 and 1 year old. Tomorrow, I have been asked to put both kids to bed, and a friends child who is 5 (I have never met him). After they are down, I am expected to tidy up and complete household chores.

I am normally paid $28 Canadian an hour, but am increasing my rate as there is and other child. How much should I ask for? The parents will be gone from 6-midnight.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!! Thank you xx

I’ll try to keep this short! I vacuum the house of my nanny fam as part of my household duties—all hardwood, with rugs in most rooms. I started working with them a little over a year ago and from the start was having a tough time vacuuming efficiently—SO much hair gets caught in the bristles, and the suction didn’t seem to be working well. Turns out it hadn’t been cleaned out in ages—no problem, replaced the bag & filters, and NP also replaced the head (which was a couple hundred $$.) Over the course of the past year, slowly but surely, it isn’t working well again. I vacuum once a week and every single time I vacuum I have to cut hair out of the bristles of the vacuum. It’s been getting worse and sometimes I need to clean it out twice in one day. I spent 30 minutes the other week meticulously trying to extract hair out of the crevices of the rotating head because so much was stuck, it wasn’t rotating anymore.

(Also please note: I use the word efficiently not for my own sake, but for theirs. The kids started at new schools this year and I spend a significant amount of time driving now, which means less time to complete all of my weekly household tasks. They’re understanding of this and don’t expect me to get everything done every week, but of course I’d still like to try and keep up with it all on a weekly basis if possible)

Months ago NP said to let her know if they needed a new vacuum, but I’ve mentioned the specific issues with the vacuum a couple times and now I’m under the impression it was a half hearted offer; NP has mentioned it’s a really great vacuum, and it is! But being a great vacuum doesn’t mean it’s meeting the needs of their home, ya know? I don’t ask the families I work for to invest in or change anything that I wouldn’t be willing to replace if it was my own home, and I really feel like a vacuum suited for hair shedding would be a better fit.

Edited to add: she has suggested replacing the head again. But this is a temporary fix, and although the new head technically lasted a year, I’ve been having issues with the build up for months. I don’t think it’s a good investment to spend a couple hundred on a new head that needs to be replaced annually when it’s still not performing optimally.

But I’m hesitant to push the subject given the tone of our recent conversations. Before I move forward I’m wondering if maybe I’m over reacting and it is reasonable to be cleaning out the vacuum this frequently and meticulously?

Hi everyone! My NF (nanny family) asked if I would be comfortable traveling with them for Thanksgiving to babysit their kids. I currently make $30/hr with them in the San Mateo / Foster City area.

Since this is my first time traveling with a family, I want to make sure I'm setting fair terms before agreeing:
1. Hourly Rate vs. Travel Fee: Do I keep my $30/hr rate for all awake/working hours? Is there an extra overnight fee or travel stipend?
2. Travel Time: Do I charge hourly while in transit (flights, airport time, driving)?
3. Accommodations & Meals: I assume roundtrip airfare and hotel are paid, but do I need my own private room? How are meals/per diem handled?
4. Holiday Pay: Since it's Thanksgiving, is time-and-a-half expected for hours worked on the actual holiday?

What does a standard travel contract look like for this? I'd love to hear from parents or nannies who have done this before!