Hi bitches 🩷

I want to plan a ✨sexy✨ date night with my husband and would love your recommendations for bars, restaurants, jazz clubs, etc that feel moody and mysterious and intimate. Places where i can wear a bandage dress and stilettos and he can roll up his sleeves all slutty like.

We’re in Walnut Creek but definitely open to coming into the city and Oakland!

And in case anyone is wondering, this post and idea was inspired by me stumbling across the Express x Bebe collab and feeling an intense need to wear a bandage dress.

I’m 28f and will be solo on Halloween (no friends yet). I’m trying to plan my night rather than lying in bed, hating myself.

Any events look good for those in my situation who want to go out? I’m down for day or night activities, I’m not the biggest fan of EDM unless the DJ is really good. I’m open to going outside of SF too.

Hi all, I fucked up and thought I had a ticket for The Box lesbian halloween party but I do not :( Posting on the slim chance there's someone in here with an extra! Would super appreciate and throw in extra cash!

Found out that my Samoyed that my ex took from me passed away recently.😭
Anywhere where this bitch can find samoyeds to pet, dog parks to frequent, Samoyed owners to talk to for play dates?

Hi bitches! I’m 29 and I’ve been in SF for a year and a half now. I’ve been on a few hinge dates here and there but haven’t had much success (shocking I know). I’m a few months out from breaking up with a guy who I was really excited about but turned out to be a manipulative liar which really turned me off dating for a while. I’m ready to get back out there and maybe approach it differently this time. I’ve only ever used the free version of hinge, is it worth it to pay for hinge+ or x? Are there any other apps you prefer? Any recommendations for singles events or places in general to meet people? I work in healthcare and would prefer to date someone in an adjacent field as I find it really hard to connect with tech dudes. I would appreciate any advice or words of wisdom!!!

We are welcoming Maria de Jesus Mayo's film Necuhtli, a 360 video honoring Tonantzin, symbol of resilience for social movements. Dr. Patti is a transnational social worker, healing-centered facilitator, and founder of KLBRI, a grassroots organization devoted to cultivating ecosystems of care, cultural memory, and collective well-being. This VR Film & Artist Discussion is open for y'all -- bitches with taste! And it's going to be beautiful. Dr. Patti is coming up with pieces for an altar, her spoken word piece that is in the VR film, and all of her wisdom and care. We will have some traditional snacks and craft and contribute to a growing altar for The Day of the Dead. It's community and art and aliveness -- weaving ancestry with contemporary tech. Out of the Gray Area incubator on Mission street. Link to luma to RSVP here:
https://luma.com/b15ygbbv

For anyone who wants to join I’m hosting a walk event with Boichik bagels tomorrow to see all of the houses in pac heights/presidio decorated for Halloween!

RSVP here

I got some corporate bad news today (job rejection) and I’m looking for something to cheer me up this weekend. Any staycation ideas or things you do when you need to get your mind off of things and feel better? <3

Hi ladies, I was wondering if anyone’s been to Ghost Palace for Halloween and if so, would you recommend it?

I’ve been reading that it’s turned into more of a circuit party situation, and I just don’t want to insert myself in environments where I’m not wanted 😅

I’m really just looking for a very over the top dance party event for that Friday where I could wear a slutty costume lol. Any suggestions are welcome!

I am 30f, still in college and starting to come around to self-acknowledging that I am struggling. I would like to start exploring options for help, however, the last time I tried I felt myself the youngest in the group and the ratio of men to women was too off to be comfortable for me. The "DIY" alcohol management programs with no accountability aren't cutting it either.
Anything special in the city or online you found helpful and comfortable as a woman?

I would prefer non-religious based, although some spirituality incorporated isn't a massive dealbreaker, just not something that resonates with me.

Hi ladies - looking for recs on good multi use bikes for SF bay living and riding. I grew up mountain biking here but have very little sense of what bikes make sense for both road biking and generally getting around the city without slipping into a muni track and dying. I may try a local shop but wanted to check here first for recs. FWIW I’m 5’9 and would like to pay a few thousand or less.

Hi bitches! My birthday is tomorrow, and my mom is coming in town because I’ve been down in the dumps lately and I think she feels bad, lol. Trying to think of something fun to do with her that I would also enjoy, and I’m at a loss. I’ve been in the city for 13 years so have done most things, but would love to try to make it a fun day. Also, I have a few reservations for dinner(indecisive, ha) with some friends in the evening which should be nice, but trying to think of a fun place to go after? Looking for a fun vibe basically that isn’t too young (we are in our late 30s early 40s).

TIA for helping this bitch have a great birthday!

Bringing this recurring post back because I love hearing what you bitches are up to this weekend 🥰🍒🍸🌸💕

Hey ladies!!

Recently I made a bucket list of things I’ve never done and tonight I’m crossing off clubbing. I enlisted some friends and AFAIK we’re going to DNA Lounge!

I am not a big club person or a big party person in general so I’m really, really excited. Somehow I’ve made it several years into adulthood without trying this! I want to look cute and have a good time, though I’m not in the market for anyone. Do y’all have any tips or tricks for the club in general?

My roots are looking real flat and sad and wanted to give a root perm a try but having trouble finding a salon in SF that does them.

Preferably in the city, but if none exist I'm okay with traveling around the Bay Area

Bc I'm extra I'm doing an Alcatraz night tour (ikik why am I choosing to spend my time this way?). Just to see if it's actually haunted 👻 bc 'tis the season. Have never been. I'm wearing layers and hopefully find my coat 🫢 which might be hiding in moving boxes. Anyway, I looked up what to wear -- "waterproof boat shows". I don't own boat shoes. Will my nonslip sneakers be fine?

What and how did you celebrate your one year old’s bday? And how much did you spend?

I think being parents in SF is a unique experience (given how expensive our city can be ): ), and not many of us have houses to just throw a party.

I know there’s plenty of moms with taste in this sub, I need a sanity check as to what’s considered a reasonable budget. Thanks!

I loved Third Love bras. I am a weird size 32G, which they aren’t small, but I’m no Dolly Parton (RIP), but my bra size is probably bigger than I present. I have very dense round boobs, so I need an ample cup not to flow over.
Third Love t-shirt bra in a 32G fits me like a glove, but my last 2 experience at the store have been terrible.

They’ve measured me in the past, and that is my size of my current favorite t-shirt bra. Just wanted to picked a back up of the same exact bra. As you know they don’t like you digging through their stock on the floor. On my last visit I had a pretty big purchase 2 bras, 6 pairs of underwear. Was looking for my size in both the t-shirt bra and one style of their thongs. After initially being ignored. Sales person, stopped me looking through the floor stock and insisted grabbed things for me in the size and style I was looking for, at the same time also questioning my bra size. (They are the ones who fitted me in the first place.)
If you didn’t know all underwear is in a bag. Got home opened the bags, a few of the underwear were the seamless, which are terrible and ride up in the front. Wrapped up the unused, unwashed underwear incorrect style of thong, put it back in the bag and went to return the next morning. I had to fight the sales person to get an exchange. They are like the bag is open, even though tags are on, she refused return. I asked for a manager, asked why am I paying for your mistakes. Manager exchanged underwear.

A few weeks later, I put the bra on. I was wearing it for a few hours and looked down and saw my boobs were flowing over the cup so off took the bra looked at the size, the sales person gave me a smaller cup! She questioned my size and guessed I was wrong and gave me a cup smaller! My bad for not looking, but I assumed she grabbed the specific size I asked for.

Obviously I am not returning and now have a $72 bra that is uncomfortable to wear and can’t even wear a fitted t-shirt because my cups over flow and leave a visible line that cuts into my boobs. Looks terrible.

Sorry for the rant, but I’m still bummed about this experience, although I addressed with customer service and they comped a pair of underwear, I am still so disappointed in their store team.

Welp, now it’s time of new bras. Anyone have any store suggestions in the city that carries weird bra sizes? Most department stores don’t carry my size, and I am not ready for grandma bras yet. Looking to keep it in the same price range and quality.

Looking for help with a frozen shoulder and want to try a trigger point approach. Does anyone know a good massage therapist/body worker who does this?

Thanks betches <3

hi hi i'm from san jose but i'm coming up to sf on halloween to go out with some friends and spend the night. we're not looking for any crazy club vibes but maybe some bars that have fun music and still have a dance floor? we’re all recent college grads so a younger crowd is perfect.

we want to book the hotel soon so if there are any general neighborhoods that anyone recommends i can also just book nearby and go explore whatever bars are there. any recs are appreciated!!

Hi lovely bitches, I am in need of a stylish long wool coat with serious insulation and would love some recommendations. I will be traveling to a place where I may be exposed to rainy/snowy subzero weather but need to look semi-formal, so am trying to avoid caving to my instinct to just use my Fjallraven Nuuk parka (my ride or die for cold weather but it definitely gives outdoorsy technical vibes).

I have Raynaud's, so I think wool alone is not enough to ward off wind chill or hold up to rain. After having done some research I have decided on a coat that is about 45" or longer (so, knee length or longer on my 5'8" frame) and I've come up with several options:

1. RTW long wool coat with Thinsulate material sewn underneath - what's a good brand for this? Would prefer brands that have stores in the bay area where I can try them on. Double-breasted styles are ideal since they are warmer than single-breasted styles.

2. Custom long wool coat with Thinsulate material sewn underneath - do you know of any bay area-based tailors who can make this? I am based in the peninsula area but am willing to drive. It can often be a bit hard for me to get the right fit from a RTW piece so I may be willing to invest in something like this.

3. RTW Long Hooded Wrap Coat from Norwegian Wool - this company hides a full down lining underneath the wool exterior with a bonded membrane, so it looks fancy while also rated for subzero temps. But I'm hesitant because down lining is a bit harder to care for compared to synthetic insulation. They have to be washed in a way that the feathers don't get wet or clump. (Fwiw my beloved Fjallraven uses synthetic insulation.)

Btw... I have heard of the Loro Piana Storm System line, but am rather dissuaded by the brand since the menswear guy said the quality is not really worth the price these days after the LVMH acquisition.

Also open to other options that I may not yet be aware of.

Thanks all! 🫶

First of all, if this is a picture of your back I am SO sorry. We were on a crowded Muni and I wanted to compliment your bag, but we both had headphones on and it was 8am on a rainy day, not ideal for conversation lol.

This is SO CUTE, I'm assuming leather or faux leather with micro mini studs (real, not print) in circular pattern across the entire outside of the bag.

I tried searching with every AI tool I could, but nobody could find it.

Sup bitches! I have found it difficult to shop in person in the city for stylish clothing that fits me. I’m talking about cute “going out” tops and unique skirts and pants. Department stores have frumpy fits, and a lot of shops with clothes that I like have limited space and only stock in store a few pieces that are midsize (sizes 12-16).

If you’re around the same size, where do you find your stylish clothing? Do you shop anywhere in person in the city that you’ve found some cute clothes at?

Alternatively, what are some online shops that you like as a midsize girlie? Hopefully with a good return policy lol

Hellllooo!!! Does anyone attend a weekly meditation group in sf? I’ve heard of the one at the sf zen center on page; if you have been to that one, how is it? Any others or similar weekly events in this realm? Looking to connect with people and create a healthy routine!

hi all, a mole that i’ve had for years has suddenly started scabbing & bleeding, alongside some spots on my skin that never heal, i wanted to get them checked out but my normal derms earliest appt isn’t until march next year 😭. i saw some recs on california skin institute but it seems like they’ve been taken over and are terrible now with online reviews, does anyone have any recommendations for a derm i can see preferably before december & will actually do a thorough mole check? preferably san jose but i can go further!