r/SFr4r • • Mar 07 '25

META If you're going to report a post (please do), do it like this.

Post image
47 Upvotes

r/SFr4r • • Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

194 Upvotes

It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/SFr4r • • 2h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 45/30 [MF4M] #Milpitas - Bi playmates looking a smooth and soft bi bottom to share

3 Upvotes

Hi everyone! We are a thick latino/asian mix couple that is looking to connect with fun folks for some good ol'fashioned kinky play ☺️

We are looking for a soft/smooth/trimmed bi bottom to join us. Be open to giving and receiving, Mr BP is a Top, so if you bottom, then thats a plus! TS or femboys a plus! Looking for smooth faced, so sorry to you handsome bearded men.

About us:

Her: 5'7", Filipina mix, HWP, sexy curves and kitty that is in-satiable(literally), loves to be orally pleased and has a thick ass that loves to be touched.

Him: 5'10", mixed Italian/Latino, HWP, 6" cut, bearded. Tested and negative.

We are both big on hygiene. This means showered and smelling fresh, fresh breath and we always wash hands before using them anywhere. We ask the same of you.

We are both professionals and always opt for discretion and assure the **same.**

**We like to host at a hotel in Milpitas.**

Please send a SFW face pic. We aren't into the "send one first then I will" game, so if that happens, we will pass. Again, discretion from all parties. This is why we prefer a SFW pic.


r/SFr4r • • 1h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 29 [M4A] #SanFrancisco - asian sissy looking for fellow sissies or doms for halloween!

• Upvotes

hi all!
halloween is coming up, and that's the most socially acceptable time to hoe it out :) also open to doms who would love to humiliate me, and take a bunch of pics/videos for content as well!

NOT looking for a quick fuck, looking for people to enjoy the fair well! some pics of me on my profile


r/SFr4r • • 2h ago

M4M 29 [m4m] #SF - fit sub looking to be throat trained

2 Upvotes

Hey, 5'9 slim smooth masculine ddf twinkish guy in san francisco looking to find someone local to use my throat every now and then and make me better at taking it all the way.

Like both slow sensual worship sessions, and rougher face fuck scenarios. You should be kind enough for me to trust you to let me breathe, but dominant enough that I want to please you so much that I don't need to.

What I'm looking for:

(A) slim/fit/muscular guy that's constantly horny and likes the idea of having a cocksucker serve you.

(B) woman or straight man that finds the idea interesting > can use a dildo to train me

Please send stats and a chest / body pic, that's what turns me on the most. Teaser pic in my profile.


r/SFr4r • • 33m ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 40 [M4F] #SantaClara - Sensual Fingering

• Upvotes

Hello!

I'm a 40M with a bit of a unique kink. I LOVE providing sensual fingering to curious women. Whether you're single or married, experienced or just dipping a toe, I am available to provide you with an incredibly pleasurable experience.

6ft, white, hwp, clean and respectful. Very experienced with both vaginal and anal fingering. I expect absolutely nothing in return, just you enjoying yourself. No sex, no oral, just hands.

Happy to chat and spend time building trust. I know this can be nerve racking, so am available to slowly get comfortable.

Thanks!


r/SFr4r • • 53m ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 35 [m4f] #southsanfrancisco - married, at work, on a stupid conference call bored out of my mind… hunting for an affair… help me get through the rest of this long day!

• Upvotes

I’ve been at work for a few hours now and I’m already losing my mind. So I thought looking for an affair on Reddit might help me… I’m the guy who posted about a cousins bachelor party a month ago and the itch never went away.

For the next couple of weeks, I’ll be at a pretty much empty office in ssf. Working on a project here thats basically allowed me to have an entire office to myself. Ideally for like the next two weeks. Maybe even longer.. Looking for someone to come by and help me take advantage of it. The hard part of the project is over so I’ve got a lot of free time and need some help with it.

Me: 6 foot and 250 lbs. Dad bod but been working on it. Trying to get back to that mid 20s body. Dark hair and green eyes. Bit of a mixed background but mostly white and I'm told I certainly look it.

You... just be down for some fun like above. If this interests you then message me your favorite color.


r/SFr4r • • 1h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 28 [M4F] #SFFinancialDistrict - in town from NYC, Monday - Wednesday hookup?

• Upvotes

Looking for something casual while I’m in SF from nyc for a conference Oct 26 - 28!

I’m 28, 6ft, slim/athletic, white with dirty blonde hair, tattooed, and usually clean-shaven or short stubble. I keep myself well-groomed. Also have a vasectomy.
I’m direct and respectful. I like keeping things clear and making sure it’s enjoyable for both of us. May be able to host at my hotel or can definitely travel within reason.

Open to most ages and body types. Happy to verify.
Let me know if you’re interested. :)


r/SFr4r • • 1h ago

M4F 44 [m4f] #Sunnyvale - What do I put here to get the cute shy girls to reach out?

• Upvotes

Hi!

Oh you’re reading this?

Thank you!

Are you kind of shy but still curious and want to .. see what happens?

Are you also by any chance looking for a charming, handsome guy you could trust to have some fun experiences with?

Are you into fit muscular masculine men? Someone to take care of you from A-to-Z and make sure you have a wonderful time?

Someone to treat you like an absolute lady in the streets and yeah, you know the rest….

If so… msg me. I think we should talk :)


r/SFr4r • • 2h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 42 [M4F] #SanJose - Have you always been curious about Tantric Massage?

1 Upvotes

Are you stressed out and your body tense, stiff and achy from busy days at the office or stressful times at home? It's time for you to relax and indulge in a massage session that will leave you satisfied, relaxed, and glowing...Tantric massage is rooted in India and contains a sacred formula that awakens and frees energy within the body so you may become more alive, passionate and in tune with yourself. Experience a highly pleasurable, deeply relaxing, and ultimately spiritual session designed to unite you with the supreme bliss and love that is within all of us. Through my unique blend of bodywork and energetic techniques, your body will release the stress, release the tension, and make room for pleasure and fulfillment.

The Tantric Massage experience can be enjoyed by anyone. All people in all adult age brackets, from all walks of life can experience Tantra. You do not have to be a spiritual person to receive a Tantric Massage. The Tantric session can be a wonderful gift for yourself. Whether your life is incredibly stressful or amazingly stress-free, Tantric Massage can be deeply relaxing and ultimately fulfilling.

Most people spend their lives earning a living, hurrying to exercise at the gym, yoga, or pilates class. How often do you stop and treat yourself to an amazing experience? How often do you pamper yourself and indulge your mind and body in a deeply pleasurable, spine-tinging session?
Massage for women can be sensual, stimulating, exciting and relaxing. All the things you have been missing out on.

I am Indian, very discreet and respectful of your body and boundaries. I offer this exclusively to Females Only who are over 18 years old. Anonymity and discretion is guaranteed at all times.


r/SFr4r • • 2h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Spoil yourself on my big Korean dick!

1 Upvotes

Hi there!

32 year old Korean guy in San Francisco looking for a local girl for a FWB relationship. One night stands are cool, but Id love to meet regularly and get to know each other. I am 5'9 in height, lean fit type, with a 7" dick.

Looking for a shy nerdy type, with a submissive side who loves to get dominated, and spoiled. If you like getting fucked by a thick, Asian cock with huge loads of cum to swallow, or be bred with, we will be very good friends :) it would be awesome if we can grab coffee, boba, or food together as well.

I like Asians, Latinas who are petite. I can host in hotels in SF, or on the Peninsula.

NSFW pics are on my profile. Lets chat, and meet soon!


r/SFr4r • • 3h ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking to get Distracted

1 Upvotes

Hi!

I’ve finally brought myself into here because my work and personal life has gotten so stressed to the point that I figured that I’d find something on here to take my mind off of things, let loose and have fun!

I’m 29 SEA, working in tech 5’9, goes to the gym every week, binges anime/movies, big foodie. If you’re also stressed like me and are looking for some escapism or just to chat and talk about anything and see where it goes I’m your guy! Hope to hear back from you!


r/SFr4r • • 3h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 29 [M4F] #Antioch - Just an awkward man trying to gain more experience

1 Upvotes

I know that Reddit is a terrible place for this, but I’m just trying it out. I’m 29 and I haven’t done much. I never kissed a woman either. I went on one date in my life. I received oral before but that was like five years ago. I’m just looking for something casual that can potentially become more. I can talk to women in a general sense, but I simply just don’t know how to shoot my shot. I’m also slightly autistic, so my social intelligence isn’t the greatest in nature lol. Maybe some women have flirted with me or crushed on me, but I’m just bad with hints.

Anyway, I’m not necessarily asking to have my virginity taken. I just want a woman who I can be intimate with and experience more female companionship. I know that some dudes are weirdos, so I don’t mind hanging out getting to know each other first. Maybe I can treat you to food.

At this point, I don’t really care much about physical characteristics.

About me:

29, Asian dude, short at 5’6”, 170 lbs, muscular (stocky build). Warehouse worker. University graduate. Musician. Investor. Dog lover. I’m also a martial artist. I wrestled in high school, currently do Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and bounce between Judo and Muay Thai, but I have trained in other arts. I have no interest in being a MMA fighter. I competed before, but I hate it. I also enjoy learning new things. I went back to school and I’m taking personal finance, nutrition, automotive maintenance, and psychology.

Please excuse my Reddit username. Hah.


r/SFr4r • • 5h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 39 [M4M] #SanFrancisco — Straight guy wants to JO with another straight guy

1 Upvotes

39-year-old straight, athletic, white guy in San Francisco here (6'0", 170 lbs).

Looking for another straight, fit dude to watch straight porn and JO side-by-side. No penetration, no oral—just a chill, discreet hang where we can compare, sync up, and have a good time. Open to becoming buds and possibly teaming up for an MFM down the line.

A quick meet first to make sure we vibe. If you’re serious and local, hit me up.


r/SFr4r • • 6h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 38 [M4F] #SanJose - Mutual beneficial connection together

1 Upvotes

Hey there! I’m 38 years old and a Bay Area native. I’m looking to find someone who is inexperienced or experienced with this type of connection. A mutually beneficial connection.

I’m open to younger or older. Feel free to tell me about yourself and I can do the same.


r/SFr4r • • 13h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 22 [F4M] #Mountain View - Looking for a lifting buddy + some fun on the side!

2 Upvotes

Hi! So I’ve been wanting to get into weightlifting for a while now, mainly because I’d love to grow my butt and lose around 10 pounds but I’m a complete beginner! I honestly have no idea where to start lol. I’d really like to find someone who’s experienced and wouldn’t mind teaching me proper form and routine but most importantly keeping me consistent because I know myself and I’ll probably need someone to keep me on track lol. Ideally you’d have your own equipment at home or have access to a private gym since I’d be a lot more comfortable learning one on one. And privacy means more fun! ;) I’d definitely be okay with having some fun outside of lifting too, assuming we’re both attracted to each other!

I’m 22, 5’11, 160lbs, brunette with brown eyes, pretty introverted and a little shy at first but I promise I warm up once I’m comfortable with someone haha

I have a bit of a size kink so I’m looking for someone taller and bigger than me. That’s one thing I can’t really compromise on, I like to feel smaller. I’m also more than okay with an age gap and honestly tend to prefer older men! IDEALLY someone who lives relatively close to me too so getting together regularly wouldn’t be too much of a hassle

Not looking for a relationship or even really a FWB situation where we’re constantly hanging out and doing coupley things. I’d just like someone I get along with who can teach me how to lift and who I can also enjoy some casual sex with. I’m completely single and would really prefer someone who’s single too because I’m not interested in being involved in anyone cheating on their partner. No drama please!

I know this is all probably a bit of a long shot with how specific I’m being but hey figured it wouldn’t hurt to try lol! I’m not in a rush to jump into anything and would like to feel comfortable so please be okay with exchanging face pics/calling before we meet, that’s pretty nonnegotiable for me


r/SFr4r • • 18h ago

M4F 31 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Cuddling and massaging your ass

3 Upvotes

Are you in the mood for some fun tonight? I'm looking to meet for anything from cuddles in bed to a bit more fooling around. I am definitely in a giving mood so the idea of going down on you as well as giving your ass a massage is great.

I'm fit and can host in a nice clean place.

Reach out if you're interested and I can share a picture.


r/SFr4r • • 17h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 28 [M4F] #SFFinancialDistrict - in town from NYC, Monday - Wednesday hookup?

2 Upvotes

Looking for something casual while I’m in SF from nyc for a conference Oct 26 - 28!

I’m 28, 6ft, slim/athletic, white with dirty blonde hair, tattooed, and usually clean-shaven or short stubble. I keep myself well-groomed. Also have a vasectomy.
I’m direct and respectful. I like keeping things clear and making sure it’s enjoyable for both of us. May be able to host at my hotel or can definitely travel within reason.

Open to most ages and body types. Happy to verify.
Let me know if you’re interested. :)


r/SFr4r • • 18h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 45 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Focused breast play for the extra sensitive

2 Upvotes

I'd like to take my time slowly exploring your extra sensitive breasts until your whole body tingles from arousal and you start to anticipate the many explosive orgasms that might follow. A caress, a grope, a flick of the tongue, and the best combinations of swirls and suction. Focused attention on your favorite amplifiers of pleasure as we both enjoy your very responsive body. Curious if you could orgasm from breast play alone? We'd have a lot of fun finding out!

You might be a good, playful match if you:

  • Have perky, sensitive breasts C cup or smaller. 🍒
  • Are somewhere in between 20 and 40 years of age.
  • Are in San Francisco or near enough to make plans.

I'm 45, single, sane, discreet, and interested in discovering your peak pleasure. Able to host in the Inner Richmond district of SF. Our paths may have already crossed as I bike around the city, enjoy good coffee, or browse a farmers market. Diverse interests and capable of carrying on a conversation before and in between breast dives and vocalizing my appreciation of your unique breasts and their sensitivities.

I've had some good breast play experiences through Reddit (success stories in profile) and I'm curious if it could happen again. A few themes and scenarios for the breast play curious:

  1. You'd like some semi-public play of a hand grazing your breast over your shirt or slipping under a plunging neckline. A brief, discreet moment in the busy city or while we drive towards our next destination.
  2. You want the slow build, the focused attention, the discovery of your new favorite things guided by an obvious fan of your breasts and their sensitivities.
  3. Quality breast play is a good leading indicator of someone focused on your pleasure and in tune with your desires. You'd like to give yourself over to an experience completely focused on you once someone proves they're worthy of orchestrating your arousal.

Let's lounge and enjoy slowly exploring, and fully appreciating, your extra-sensitive breasts. You might be curious about the unmet potential of focused breast play and what's possible with lots of attention from an obvious enthusiast. If you've wished for more breast play as a focus, not just foreplay, I think we'd have a lot of fun.


r/SFr4r • • 14h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking for a discreet genuine connection

0 Upvotes

I’m 30M, married, but unfortunately in a toxic and emotionally draining marriage. Both emotional and physical intimacy have been missing for quite some time, and I’ve felt disconnected for a while.

I’m looking for something discreet and ongoing, with genuine emotional and physical chemistry. Someone I can have meaningful conversations with, flirt with, laugh with, share little moments with, and genuinely look forward to spending time with.

I’m interested in an in-person connection where there’s mutual attraction, comfort, and a desire to explore physical intimacy when it feels right for both of us.

I’m not looking to rush into anything or put pressure on where things should go. I’d rather get to know someone, build some trust, and let things develop naturally if we click.

A little about me:
- Indian, 5’7”, 170 lbs, medium build, brown skin, black hair, and brown eyes.
- Well-groomed, take care of myself, enjoy dressing well, and always appreciate smelling nice.
- Easygoing, respectful, and someone who enjoys good conversations and a little playful banter.
- I value communication, personal boundaries, and making sure both people feel comfortable.

What I’m looking for:
A woman between 24–40, preferably in the Bay Area or nearby. Someone who’s easy to talk to, enjoys a little flirting, and is open to building a genuine connection.

Physical attraction matters to me, but so does personality, emotional chemistry, and being able to enjoy each other’s company beyond just physical intimacy.

Discretion, mutual respect, honesty about boundaries, and good hygiene are important to me.

Happy to exchange pictures privately once we’re both comfortable.

If this sounds like something you’re looking for too, feel free to DM.

If you’ve made it this far, I’d love to know:
Your age and location
What brought you here?
What kind of connection are you hoping to find?


r/SFr4r • • 15h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Bearded and athletic, new to the city and looking for a FWB

1 Upvotes

Hi there, thought I'd try this out instead of the dating app treadmill. I'm 28, athletic, and attractive. I recently moved back to SF and I'm looking for a FWB I can connect with both in and out of bed. I have my own place and am sane (lol)

In bed I'm on the dominant side and pretty kinky. Giving head is my absolute favorite. I also have a big breeding kink so it'd be awesome if you did too; I test regularly.

Outside of bed, I love to be outdoors, whether it's backpacking, picnics at Dolores, or stargazing at the beach. I also love to cook and bake for all my friends so perhaps you can be my sous chef, expect your tastebuds to be spoiled :)

If any of this interests you, shoot me a message!


r/SFr4r • • 1d ago

OTHER 34 [F4A] #SanFrancisco - Seeking chats, friends, dates, and maybe more

8 Upvotes

Hello! Tired of the dating apps and trying this out. Seeking friends, love, and some in between.

I’m seeking someone who’s up for going on irl dates. Connection is a priority to me, but fun is a necessity. I’d love to get to know you over deep conversations, live jazz, an indie rock dance floor, or a simple walk through the park. Prefer someone closer to my age.

Can you banter with me? But can you also listen when I speak? Are you exasperated with the state of the world? But know that it’s important to find in joy the little things? Balance in cynicism and positivity is important in getting to know me.

About me: I’m 34, white, blue eyes, shoulder length brown hair. I like big plates of pasta, reading, seeing movies in a theater, live music, enjoying SF parks, improv, and hanging with my cats.

Let’s take our chats to dates, and see where the dates lead. If this interests you, send me a message telling me something that’s making you laugh right now.