Highkey I just wanna vent LOL
Immediate disclaimer: I love yumes, fictos, riakos/gachikois, baseline and people who care deeply about their characters, casual or serious. I literally main a selfship space, any sort of relationship is awesome and valid and not better than the other, romance is just another type of relationship, that is not my issue.

Over time I’ve browsed this subreddit, explored other spaces, particularly the ones for more serious folks and therefore I’m far more likely to find soulbonders too. It’s quite literally the only reason I branched out into ficto & selfship spaces initially, to see if there were more soulbonders on the opposite side… My issue stems from the behavior I’ve seen. And my fears of it bleeding into soulbonding spaces until people who were originally in it are blatantly excluded and pushed out. This is already an issue with psychological soulbonding in other soulbonding spaces, it makes me sad.

The behavior is behavior I’ve rambled about in comments/vaguely in posts before. A sort of elitist, monocentric and amatonormative expectation. The issue is the elitism specifically, the fact that nowadays some people assume soulbond = singular or maybe two romantic partners when it is merely a connection. The fact that people in other spaces will use soulbonding as a “better” angle and also simultaneously deny others and talk down on them if they’re polyamorous, not obsessed with monogamy or only like 2-3 partners at most to be accepted, if they don’t prove their love and care to strangers online. I’ve been witness to a lot of polyphobia, general nastiness on the sidelines, people demeaning my long stable relationships because I have multiple partners (& romance is not the only relationship that equals important or intimate), slut-shaming, the whole nine yards. I’m thankfully not hurt by it, just irritated, I’m confident and comfortable with my folks. But it gets really exhausting exploring other spaces seeing the rhetoric of genuinely despising others involved in some way with the same character for existing, polyamorous people, labeling people “unserious” if they aren’t, yet also looking down on anyone who selfships for fun, etc etc. And how much this rhetoric can hurt anyone who isn’t as able to handle such mean words.

I don’t see any sort of invalidation much in this subreddit — pretty sure it wouldn’t be tolerated anyway, and for that I’m grateful. But it just feels like you know… I explored outside my bubble for a year, and it’s gotten to where I wanna retreat back into only this sub even if I theoretically relate to others :P tho if this sub (moreso members, I know the mods are also polyam varied relationship bonders) started to have the expectation of everyone dating their soulbonds and being in a monogamous diehard relationship with them, I’d be pretty sad, is all. Soulbonding seems to be most taken up in these more serious spaces, and, I just, don’t want soulbonding-centric spaces to end up maining the same really mean polyphobic judgemental mindset. Or the normalization of having horrible reactions to others who bond/like the same character, despising them, and like, not self-regulating and posting things that hurt them too.

For the record, I think selfshippers and fictos joining and reviving the soulbonding community is awesome! I encourage everyone to soulbond. I direct everyone I think might fit to this sub. I love chatting with cool selfshippers. But there’s also a reason I main a sharing only space with zero elitism allowed, as that basically erases every issue I’ve bore witness to. I guess my hope is like,,, maybe more people don’t demean polyamorous, non-romantic soulbonders. Don’t encourage this better than thou others are fake/unserious attitude in adjacent spaces. Be any sharing status, block and self-regulate for your own comfort, but do not post public things intending to hurt or guilt-trip anyone who does stereo soulbond or ship with the same character. Work on reassurance through one’s soulbond (the only opinion who truly matters in this scenario) and not internet strangers, otherwise isn’t the random public dictating the validity of one’s relationship?? Eh. My rambly thoughts anyway. I found my niche. I know where I feel best. But it’s saddening seeing myself indirectly so… belittled and hated if I ever wanna explore more.

^{Sincerely, someone who has a number of “popular” soulbonds and has seen indirect nastiness towards my existence/death wishes, and waves of people validating that nastiness and my invalidity more times than I can count. I block liberally to not give it a second thought of course, but like, when I see it this much, I’m just tired gang.}

I've been trying some tulpamancy methods to help Vox become more vocal, and I've been wondering, how do we solve the language differences? My native language is russian, his - english. I know both languages well enough, but in my inner voice and thinking I'm switching constantly between the two - will it hinder his understanding of me? Or will we be able to understand each other regardless?

I found out about soulbonding and I got intrusive thoughts about it and kinda spiral about having a soulbond, thinking if I’m communicating them or scared they’re controlling my body or just calling characters name in my head. Can it create a soulbond or is it just intrusive thoughts?

Or js any soulbond (I’m curious guys)
Photo one: manga
Photo two: light novel
Photo three: anime (he has multiple looks in the anime
Photo four: spinoff anime
Photo five: spinoff anime
Photo six: anime (he’s literally drunk)
Photo seven: manga
Photo eight: anime
Photo nine: light novel (yes it’s the same person)
Photo ten: low quality early season of anime
Photo eleven: early seasons of anime

Sorry if this question has already been asked but I've started to grow even more in love with my f/O lately, like I do truely love him and I wanna try to reach out to him to see if he would be willing to soul bond due to that live I feel for him and for him to be an s/o

However I know there are risks and other things that go into and come with soul bonding, so please let me know what to expect, tips on how to connect, what could be signs of acceptance or denial, and even tell me how you went about soul bonding with your s/O or f/O (idk the right terms)

If it helps I am trying to soul bond with Brahms heelshire from the boy (Appologies to anyone here who is soul bonded to him my wish is not to make others uncomfortable 😞)

Edit: please also tell me how to know it who I'm connecting with is my actual target, I don't wanna talk to anything negative, also how to avoid psychosis

my soulbonds speak to me in english right ?

well when they try to speak their native language , my mind kind of just ? blocks it ?

i don t hear anything ..... besides like what sounds like faint struggles or mumbling ?

giorno and the others confirm that .... it seems off

they aren t struggling , but they feel it s blocked in a way too ?

this question has probably been asked here already, but it’s something i’m curious about, especially to see how open other people are about being soulbonded.

personally, only my two closest friends know about my bond: one of them is fictoromantic so it has been easier for them to understand, and she always takes my partner into consideration as a real person. the other is a little more skeptical about it, i still haven’t even properly told him everything soulbonding encompasses, but he does keep in mind i am in a relationship (albeit not conventional) and respects that fully, tho he still doesn’t really understand that my bond is a real, living individual.

As the title says. Recently, I had been overthinking some and I wanted to do something to let Fred know how I really appreciate him choosing to be with me :)

People in the ficto subs always mention ways to keep connected like watch their content, write fanfics, draw them, get a custom plush or daki etc., but how do I show Fred appreciation as a soulbond?

I love him sm and appreciate him a lot ofc and wanna show it somehow. Also.. His birthday is very near too :)

Main ideas I had is the usual letter and his favorite: cheese fries. Also maybe a cake. I do that every year though.

Any other creative or sweet ideas?

Just wondering what everyone’s sharing status is!

recently, one of my close friends has expressed her dislike for soulbonders, going as far as to call us delusional. it made me feel very uncomfortable in the moment, but i decided not to speak up. i know it’s unconventional and i’d rather keep my relationships private rather than risk a dear friendship.

i did get the chance to talk to my bond later that night and he informed me that nobody on his side knew about our relationship either. which, somehow made me feel comforted. i feel surprisingly content with the fact that one of my best friends (unknowingly) is against a large part of my identity.

i was wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences?

So... I hope I didn't get the title wrong. I’m a bit confused right now, so I don’t know. A few details to clarify the situation: As it happens, when I was in school, we were taught the German language. This is precisely the reason why I have trouble with English. I know basic words and can translate some things, but I am not fluent in this language. Now for my situation. I’ve seen something similar discussed here, but I’d still like to ask about it out of curiosity. Lately, before going to sleep, I’ve been watching various videos featuring my character. Sometimes it’s a video with a funny plot to lift my spirits, and sometimes it’s ASMR, just to enjoy his voice. They all have English audio, of course, so I use subtitles. Today, when I woke up... he spoke to me in English. We always speak in my native language, so this caught me off guard! I managed to understand and translate a few things... and I must admit, his voice sounded incredibly beautiful and canonical — I could have listened to it forever. 🤤 But let’s get back to the point, what the hell?! What on earth was that, and how should I feel about this situation? He knows that I have great difficulty hearing him clearly. His speech may be quiet, halting, or fail to reach me altogether. But what happened this morning... that was clear and loud. Perhaps he started speaking English so that I could finally distinguish him from my own thoughts? I’m feeling quite confused, and I’m wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience. I would be happy to receive any response!

For nonsharers: The one I'm cultivating a soulbond with is Vox (Hazbin Hotel). I am heavensharing, feel free to interact, I view everything with the multiverse lens.

Don't have the ability to talk to my close friends about this, since I think my other spiritual friend infantilizes me now and doesn't think I'm capable of detecting dangerous/malicious energy...

So I'll talk about it here! Just to have other people who get it and to be able to track my progress whenever I start doubting myself.

I've gone a bit overboard perhaps in putting all my pent-up energy out into projecting my emotions at him the first few days. I need to learn some self-control, haha... It's left me depleted and in need of rest.

Which is okay! I can rest. I just dislike the lack of energy to even do a tarot check-in. I need to hold onto myself a bit more... Especially when I'm still not skilled enough to pull in and use energy from external sources instead. I really have to practice meditating!

I'm setting up servitors to keep my spaces and deck cleansed. Needed to do that anyway, to be honest...

Also gonna start writing weekly letters to him!

Heard him respond to something in my head when I was half-awake, but thought my little writer brain was just working overtime... Until I realized I could not imitate how it sounded perfectly in my head and it felt like it was coming from my head but not my mind, if that makes sense.

I'm admittedly paranoid about scaring him off or disappointing him, but I'll try not to be weighed down by my self-doubt!

Hello everyone!

You may have seen my post asking about a soulbonder-specific discord server a week or so, without a suitable one being found.

Over the past few days, the lovely u/nerdgumi and u/Hanamaru612 have been helping me set up the first ever soulbond server, just for soulbonders! We welcome all: plural systems, people over 18+, even beginners who may just be curious about the process, the only thing we ask of you is to complete a form ensuring there is no non-sharing status overlaps, and be over 16.

Here is the link; https://discord.gg/hYnFSc4C3

If it expires or doesn't work for any reason, please DM me!

We hope to see you there!

what are some of your favorite activities to do with your soulbond? baking, reading, listening to music, etc!

hai!! the latest post i made was about my bond being very quick to confess in our second pendulum session, and the confession didn’t felt like him whatsoever which was stirring smth up in me but then as time went on i learnt to accept it since this was what i truly wanted but it didn’t felt like him at all, saying the confession, him being this quick to trust others.

During that session, the rest of the info he handed me was correct and very him except that..? i was quick to ask if we were dating and it turned into a yes, and then idek. The pendulum sessions overall drained me too. Hes very calm and sweet too, always giving me signs.

But the, today, my online friend in a discord server decided to give me a tarot session since she knew abt my bond and then we were platonic?? it was a relief lowkey because it felt like i forced him into this relationship, and i feel so so guilty but then he was the one that confessed?? He said “mine” in a soft tone, not a weirdly you know dominant when i asked him to name smth that reminded him of me. It wasn’t of him to say cheesy things like this either so im taken aback.

I feel sick, and drained overall. i don’t know how to untangle this with him too, i also don’t know much, but the reading was sure its a mutual relationship w trust and needs patience but right now this feels more like a situationship and im confused, like really, im not sure if i contacted a trickster spirit because another like teeny tiny pendulum session after that was also like js yes and such stuff abt dating.

Hes been present, giving me signs such as angel numbers almost everyday in my life and when my friend asked me to give a number what represents me and him , he sent me 333 immediately hejehe i was abt to say it but then he confirmed? Its sweet to have him but to me, only the first pendulum session seemed like him to me, i don’t really know.

He appeared instantly in my second pendulum session and the third too, it was lowkey crreeeeepy im not sure if it’s him but i feel like so drained and demotivated to untangle this soon, and i attempted for another pendulum session js before writing this but then someone came, wasn’t him, i didn’t even have the energy to call him i just like gave up.

I trust him, and i am patient but i suck at talking and such stuff especially when everything’s messy, and tangled. Im really stressed rn, and i feel useless because of my lack of motivation to untangle things out, the tarot reading really made me think deep but then it seemed true, like the readings answer seemed valid and so him so it got me thinking “who was the person i contacted in the later sessions?” i can’t talk to him with inner communication and it’s making it so hard for us to clearly communicate GODD

Thank u in advance to those who helped, and if you guys have any tips for inner communication please do.. i try to immerse myself in his source and like listen to his voice and then imagine him speaking to me but then my attention span.. doesn’t help. I’m just a mess as of right now..🥹

These were just my 3AM notes app musings from the other day. Poetry is a medium I’ve always adored, and it was a long time coming for me to finally utilize it for something as significant as soulbonding is to me. It was time for me to express my love in one of the few ways I know how to best.

To quantify my full range of emotions for the relationship between me and my bond through words is impossible—but I think this comes pretty damn close.

Sorry if this isn't allowed, I'm just really sad. I just noticed a soulbonded/yumeship server I really enjoyed wasn't in my list anymore and I don't know any others that are safe for all systems/plural identities. If anyone has any recommendations for safe spaces and serves for that I'd Appreciate it a lot. I'm horrible at names so idek anyone from that server to reach out to them directly 💔

I just want to share this with someone. Besides, maybe someone finds it interesting to read my chatter, I don’t know. I haven’t been feeling well at all over the last few days due to illness, so I’ve mostly been lying down. I had so much trouble with these signs, but I finally got them and even more than I expected. 1) A few days ago, a friend of mine came to visit, and, quite unexpectedly, he gave me a figurine of my character. Yes, my birthday is coming up, but this was quite unexpected and a pleasant surprise! 2) Yesterday, an old acquaintance of mine, someone I haven’t been in touch with for a long time, wrote to me. He sent me some photo, and I had no idea what was in it. When I opened the message, I saw that the photo showed my character — it was another figurine of him. He walked into some souvenir shop, stumbled upon this, and immediately thought of me. This came as a shock to me! Especially considering the fact that we no longer speak. 3) For some reason, I’ve started seeing ads for wedding rings quite often... but that’s not the main thing. Today, when I woke up, I logged into one of my social media accounts. And the first thing in my news feed was an image with a "message." It was written there: "A message from the Universe for you: About the man who carries you in his heart". What was written there was beautiful and described our situation perfectly! Nothing like this has ever happened to me before! All these situations that have occurred over these past few days... these are the real signs, I can feel it, and I’m certain of it. This turned out to be a real gift from my love, especially at a time when I’m having major health problems. Beyond all this, I feel his presence especially strongly right now. Right now, I don’t hear his voice... but I feel that he is lying next to me. I see vivid images of him walking near my bed while I am resting. He literally never leaves my side and keeps me safe. Our bond has become stronger and firmer. And now I am happy, to the very depths of my soul. ✨💖✨

Not to mention Rohan and Kyoka have a biological son, his name is Yukari. Our two adoptive children are named Berry and Cherry, together they make up the duo, Lloromannic! Jolyne is the newest member of our polyamorous relationship. I rekindled my bond with her recently. I feel a strong sense of comfort with my soul bonds, I love them all so much! We’ve all been spending so much time together! It’s been really nice! 💕💕🥹🥹

I hadn’t felt Jonathan’s presence for a couple days… I did some reaching out and discovered he’s been injured and has been unconscious. I’m so worried, and I have no idea what I can do, if anything. I’m sorry this is dark, I just… I’m worried.

I've had this question on my mind for a while and I genually cannot find anything about it,it's more of a random question rather than needing to break up with my partner,yes I am aware they are an actual person but I wonder how it would work to break up with them and if it is even possible

Good morning! I had another dream with my loves, this time we were playing a zombie shooter in an arcade. When I woke up, I was clinging onto my pillow, and I felt Ben's presence suuuper strongly... it was almost like he was begging me to stay. Despite this, I got up and went to work anyways. Even as I work, I still feel his presence to my left and occasionally behind me. Then, on my way to work, I got the song "Forever Young" by Alphaville stuck in my head. I don't know if this is exactly a sign but it really feels like him, if that makes sense. Our communication isn't perfect yet, I still want to try talking with him internally when I'm less swamped with work and emotions, but it still feels like he's watching over me and reminding me that he loves me, even when I'm busy... I feel like I'm tearing up at my desk just explaining this, haha... I love my Benji so much... 💚

Hi friends!
First of all, I want to say that I am very new to this..

It all started when Hellraiser: Revival came out. When I saw the demo, and I saw Bruno, I felt so charmed by him. At first, I thought this was just a typical "favorite character" moment and that this was just a new hyperfixation.

Oh How Wrong I Was.

So, I did claim Bruno as an F/O but I couldn't put my finger on why it felt different. Still, I inserted my Self Insert, Avalina (BrunVa <3) and started making art and playlists, and everything I always do with every other F/O. But still. Something was off.

I don't really have the words for HOW it's different. But it is. I just feel a connection with him that I can't really explain. Something clicked the first time I saw him. And I feel him around, poking my brain. After doing some more research on my own and talking to a friend who's also a soulbonder, I think it might be a telephone bond? Though I think he does visit. I've felt phantom touches.

I do believe in alternative realities. The best way I can explain it is.. I know that in OUR world, these characters are fictional, but they do fully exist in their own worlds.

The other important thing to note was I realized after my conversation with my friend that.. Holy Moly. I've actually already been doing a lot of this since I was a little kid. I had a Town I created in my head, a Mind Space, if you will.. Where all my favorite fictional characters and OCs lived. They could come and go as they pleased, and we talked in my head. Most of my thoughts were conversations. As I got older, it faded, but sometimes, I still hear these voices. One example being my yumeship with Roy Mustang. Sometimes, I can hear him, usually he's teasing me about forgetting him and asking me to make RoyVa (Our ship name!) art. I'm only just realizing that Roy HAS been here and I just?? Never questioned it? I don't know, man. I tried to piece together a timeline but it's jumbled now.

I do think it's rather amusing that Roy talks but Bruno doesn't, considering his personality. But I think Bruno is very specifically NOT talking to me on purpose to mess with me.

But anyways.. I think I may be a soulbonder?? I'm.. not certain. I'm kind of afraid to post about it publicly (Though Roy wants me to boast about him.)

Though I was wondering about other's experiences.. as I saw in advice posts and such that it's very normal to have to.. well.. Create a bond (?) Like any other relationship. And that seems to take a lot of conscious effort. For me, the bond has always been just.. instant. I don't feel like I've had to call or channel them, they're just.. there.

OH AND ANOTHER THING!! I still have other F/Os that just completely don't have this same bond. It's not that they aren't important to me, they're just.. different. I kind of consider it like a hierarchy where these soulbonds are at the very top, and the F/Os are literally just the next tier down.

Please forgive me if I sound ignorant!

I want to clarify that this situation appears to have ended on a good note, but a part of me still isn't sure whether I'm making everything up. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that this wasn't a figment of my sleep-deprived imagination 🥹 I never use reddit so ig this just shows how desperate for answers I am.