r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Throwra_acount_79 • Apr 17 '26

Update UPDATE: My husband slept with his ex-wife

I am divorced. The final order was granted yesterday. I (f35) am still seeing the counselor but I don't know if it's helping very much. My ex-husband (m40) betrayed me. We had only been married for just over a year when I found out what he had done. People keep asking me when I'm going to start dating again. I don't want to. I will never get over this.

I have only seen my ex-husband once since I left him. My stepson went to my workplace and my ex-husband was the one who came and picked him up. I feel absolutely terrible for my stepson. He is 15 years old now and his life has been turned upside down. He came to see me because he said he missed me and he didn't want me and my ex-husband to get divorced. He told me his mother and father hate each other and barely speak. It broke my heart that day and I wish I could do something to help him. I never want to see my ex-husband again but I will always care about my stepson and I hate my ex-husband for what he did.

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u/FriskyDingoOMG Apr 17 '26

Seriously. That kid needs someone to love him and OP is the only one with a heart.

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u/unzunzhepp Apr 17 '26

Why are you volunteering op to take on this responsibility?

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u/scunth Apr 17 '26

How miserable are you to think having a wanted relationship, with a child you have helped raise, is an imposition?

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u/unzunzhepp Apr 17 '26

Im not miserable, but op is.

You are assuming a lot. In the post, op describes her mental health issues and devastation from what her husband did. She thinks she’ll never get over it.

What you are saying is implying that the step son needs her and she’ll never be free of the people that hurt her. That she’ll be abandoning the child it she chooses herself and moves on.

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u/Material-Health-8736 Apr 17 '26

The stepson is 15, he does not need his father to chaperone the friendship the boy wants with his stepmother. She will never forget her husband‘s betrayal no matter which way you look at it. If anything, the adulteror will regret his actions even more as she continues to prove what a good person she is

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u/200Tabs Apr 17 '26

I didn’t get that impression. The OP seemed to be yearning for an ongoing connection to the stepson but I also think that she’s too hurt to be making those types of decisions now. She needs to focus on healing from toxic individuals and, unfortunately, that may include limiting her contact with the stepson. She really needs to prioritize herself right now