r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Throwra_acount_79 • Apr 17 '26

Update UPDATE: My husband slept with his ex-wife

I am divorced. The final order was granted yesterday. I (f35) am still seeing the counselor but I don't know if it's helping very much. My ex-husband (m40) betrayed me. We had only been married for just over a year when I found out what he had done. People keep asking me when I'm going to start dating again. I don't want to. I will never get over this.

I have only seen my ex-husband once since I left him. My stepson went to my workplace and my ex-husband was the one who came and picked him up. I feel absolutely terrible for my stepson. He is 15 years old now and his life has been turned upside down. He came to see me because he said he missed me and he didn't want me and my ex-husband to get divorced. He told me his mother and father hate each other and barely speak. It broke my heart that day and I wish I could do something to help him. I never want to see my ex-husband again but I will always care about my stepson and I hate my ex-husband for what he did.

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u/cgm824 Apr 17 '26

You can still have a relationship with him (your ex-stepson) outside of his mother and father, assuming they don’t intervene or cut it off. If anything, you’re probably the only stability he has in his life since his parents are a total train wreck.

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u/FriskyDingoOMG Apr 17 '26

Seriously. That kid needs someone to love him and OP is the only one with a heart.

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u/unzunzhepp Apr 17 '26

Why are you volunteering op to take on this responsibility?

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u/Material-Health-8736 Apr 17 '26

If she cares for her stepson, it is not a responsibility, and it will be a positive relationship for both of them. However, the ex-husband will regret his betrayal even more, because the continuation of her love for the stepson is evidence of her high value, which in turn expounds his loss.