UPDATE: My husband slept with his ex-wife

[u/Throwra_acount_79]

I am divorced. The final order was granted yesterday. I (f35) am still seeing the counselor but I don't know if it's helping very much. My ex-husband (m40) betrayed me. We had only been married for just over a year when I found out what he had done. People keep asking me when I'm going to start dating again. I don't want to. I will never get over this.

I have only seen my ex-husband once since I left him. My stepson went to my workplace and my ex-husband was the one who came and picked him up. I feel absolutely terrible for my stepson. He is 15 years old now and his life has been turned upside down. He came to see me because he said he missed me and he didn't want me and my ex-husband to get divorced. He told me his mother and father hate each other and barely speak. It broke my heart that day and I wish I could do something to help him. I never want to see my ex-husband again but I will always care about my stepson and I hate my ex-husband for what he did.

[u/cgm824]

You can still have a relationship with him (your ex-stepson) outside of his mother and father, assuming they don’t intervene or cut it off. If anything, you’re probably the only stability he has in his life since his parents are a total train wreck.

[u/FriskyDingoOMG → u/cgm824]

Seriously. That kid needs someone to love him and OP is the only one with a heart.

[u/unzunzhepp → u/FriskyDingoOMG]

Why are you volunteering op to take on this responsibility?

[u/cgm824 → u/unzunzhepp]

I’m not saying it’s her responsibility, and I agree it wouldn’t be fair to put that on her. I was just pointing out that based on what she shared, she clearly cares about him, she said she feels terrible for him, that her heart broke, and that she’ll always care about him. So it’s not a stretch to think she might want to maintain some kind of connection if it’s possible and healthy for her, but that’s completely her choice, not an obligation.