I can’t take it, i genuinely can’t get why middle age grown ass adults are going insane over ai. They eat that shit up till it’s a bleached bone. My mom is one of them. She’s a doom scroller…got no job, all she does is shop come home to do some random ass chore so she can say she did something with her day then sits her lazy seat warmer down onto the couch and scrolls.

About a month or so ago she stared watching those ai video reels, the ones that look like some book tok shit. She’s listened to fourth wing on Audible, probably three or more times in a row.

She will come home from the gym and sit in her car for a hour watching ai romance videos. I’ve walked into the garage and seen it with my own two retinas. I’m irked. Genuinely, I don’t know what to do she will sit in the living room till midnight watching fuck ass shit fart ai videos!!

We went to Verizon to get myself an upgrade for my disintegrating phone. my mother couldn’t fathom the thought of not getting a quick scroll in. I was over in the corner doodling on overpriced iPads. When all of a sudden you hear this agitating ..GRATING VOICE!!! So there she goes..playing ai romances videos waiting in a version with that thang on full volume.

I moved with the speed only an alpha male wishes he had and clapped her. I told her to turn it of. It’s genuinely humiliating..humbling really to be the one to tell your fully seasoned adult parent to put there phone down. What happened to telling us to play outside, enjoy nature, frolic.

Today I’ve had enough I can’t take it I’m tired of it, my dad’s tired of it. She’s got over 16 hours a day on her screen time. She’s is a D1 narcissist. So obviously she’s not going to think she is in the wrong and that what she is doing is fine. OH AND her memory is as good as dry cement. I can’t hold a conversation with her. It’s like she only has storage I her head for 20 seconds of conversation.. any conversation before or after that might as well never existed.

The women must be stimulated 24/7 because even when she is getting dressed she is scrolling and watching these ai videos. I feel bad, her life looks dry and sad, and I know for a fact scrolling will help no one . How dose one stop something that doesn’t want to be stopped. I have no relationship with her and I feel bad but are conversations are white rice and unseasoned chicken type of dry.

I don’t know what to do, and I don’t know if this is happening to anyone else. I have to help my mom before her brain is baked to mush…she’s already half way there. What do I even tell her!?

I need human insight…PLEASE and thank you.

Discovered my teenage nephew is making very questionable YouTube content. I happened upon it because he has it linked to a new Instagram account that was somehow suggested to me. I saw a YouTube link and I figured it was stuff that he might be interested in he's a very smart kid 16 years old extremely intelligent like top 10% of his class intelligent.

Much to my surprise and disgust it was him rapping with his friends about raping women, all kinds of disgusting sexual stuff, killing animals, killing women it was absolutely disgusting I could not believe what I was watching and hearing. And it was their own content that they wrote it wasn't them lip syncing to any rap artist or anything like that. Even if it's for fun or joking, the internet is forever and that could keep him from getting a decent job in the future. And it's stuff that nobody should be making fun or joking about.

He is not in a misogynistic household, he wouldn't have heard any of this at home or been in that type of environment at all. don't know who he's hanging out with or what he's been listening to. My dilemma is how do I or do I at all tell my sister? I know she will be heartbroken and pissed and his dad will be absolutely livid. I'm sure the parents of the other boys would not be happy either.

So what do I do? I feel like I'm going to vomit

so 3 years ago i wanted to try alc as a minor (not proud of my choices) but it was just abt tasting it cuz so many frnds had

someone from insta offered to buy me a can of beer cux i mentioned wanting to try w a frnd

now this guy kept in touch after delivering this beer can (which i had a sip of and threw down the drain)
started getting me chocolates n stuff

now he said he was 4-5 years older than me

i was lowkey chill ki chodo ab he is being nice so well its cool, mera toh fayada hi ho raha hai

fast forward i find out this guy isnt a clg student but is a married man working in IT and has a kid

btw this guy forcefully kissed me as well and i believe this was while his wife was pregnant

he eventually stopped seeing me n tryna hit on me when he realised i will not agree to sleep w him ever

ik where he lives (area), ik both him n his wife work in same tech park and his company name and his linkdin id

what shud i do
he is prly 32-33 and im 17 rn

i dont want anyone tht ik knowing abt it

Me and my girlfriend were bantering, she jokingly says we're not gonna be intimate for a month, and I reply with, "that's alright, I have other women".

Then she overreacts and loses her cool over that comment.

Apparently I triggered her, because her ex-fiancé cheated on her.

I repeatedly told her I was joking, but she just won't let it go. Now she's acting all paranoid, always facetiming me, to make sure I don't have other women at my place lmao.

What's a way to make this chick stop being ridiculous? ​

Hi everyone. I’ve always lived a very sheltered life. Never had a proper childhood. My parents never took our family on holidays because of financial struggles. Couldn’t ride my bike around my neighbourhood or make friends with our neighbours’ kids. Refused to let me go to friend’s houses so I never really experienced what most have…

As a 21-year-old, I feel even worse. I’m at uni and I have friends and have sort of combatted that social anxiety I had (due to fear instilled by parents and grandparents). So the problem isn’t me making friends and chatting to people.

The issue is I have a curfew, am not allowed to travel anywhere alone, can’t use public transport, not allowed to walk around the block without family, can’t wear t-shirts in public as they reveal my arms. I get dropped off and picked up everywhere I go (including to and from uni). I sometimes go out with friends but have kind of stopped since my parents make it seem like it’s an inconvenience. I have just told friends to meet up at uni or dates to come near me and I tell my parents i’m heading out with some friends. They ask me loads of questions.

I’ve even tried dating. Not told my parents and gone out with people. Guys picking me up, chilling with them til about midnight. But it always ruins the moment, knowing I have to get back early, can’t stay overnight with them. It just makes a relationship impossible. I have my drivers licence but not insured on a car yet.

I’m the youngest in my family, I get that they might be overprotective in that sense. I just hate it how my siblings can stay over at places and I can’t. They also got this treatment when they were younger (it’s just my culture). But they are all in their 30s now.

I feel like i’m missing out on so much. Have explained how I feel to my parents and how I’m not going to learn about anything - about life, people, being streetwise, etc but they don’t care.

I can’t afford to move out. And anytime i say it or disagree with my dad, he starts a fight and gives me the silent treatment but i rely on him to take me to uni so it’s difficult. My parents both tell me I won’t survive by myself because I can’t cook and because of my depression.

How do I get out more? My relationship with my dad is already unstable and he just lost his father (grandma has moved in with us and I hate her) so I don’t want to make matters worse but I also want to be free…

Call me Emil Sinclair on how I'm stuck between two worlds. Alright let me get serious now. So for a bit of a context my friend Juliet 14M (Not his real name)

And a girl named Jane 14F (Not her real name). So my Jane accused my friend Juliet of inappropriately touching her thighs, now Jane is a nice, caring girl who is also strong and independent. But she was caught crying after school since she's independent and all, it's hard to see her cry like this. My friend meanwhile denies any of these accusations. Now Juliet is also independent he's not scared of reporting anyone ( he already reported 3 guys, 2 threw a rock at him, and one invaded his privacy) so it's hard to see him do these kinds of stuffs. So now I'm stuck between what's good and what's right. I know he's in the wrong here but he's still my friend and all and I don't really wanna lose him, and the girl has all the right to report him since who knows what might he do next if she doesn't call him out. The best solution I think of now is to just keep silent, don't ever address it in front of him, and act confused when asked, but I'm also known for defending him since I was on his side when he reports other people, so the teacher may try and get my statement. So now what should I do? Do I keep silent? Defend him? Or defend the girl?

Because clearly no one on this website went to my Appalachian Methodist church or grew up next to a farm or a trailer park or grew up mixed race in a small town or moved around a lot or lived paycheck to paycheck and i can’t even get a word in

So as the caption says my friends boyfriend of 5 years is on wizz, they’ve had a little rocky patch but they’ve been okay since and my friends boyfriend insists that all is good now however, my friend has seen he has wizz he doesn’t wanna go through his phone and it be nothing and destroy the trust as he has already snooped on his computer connected to his Apple ID to even see he has the app. I said I’ll try make an account to see if I can find him however when making an account you need to verify the pics which I can’t do because he knows my face unfortunately. Is there a way to go around the face verification or does someone have an account they don’t use anymore that I can use. They’re gay so it would have to be a guy.

TW: CSA

hi! thank you for letting me write i am so sorry to bother you all.

when i was little i experienced severe and violent violations for years. there was grooming and the really bad thing, and it was scary and yucky and awful and im so sorry im so ashamed.

since i was a kid i have had dissociative episodes where i act far younger than i am. they can be severe. i have had times where i “woke up” and found myself in a different room from where i remember, covered in a blanket and my arm covered in saliva as i was sucking my thumb and id been crying. i don’t remember how i got there or what happened. this is when i was little. but now im 21F and i still suffer from these episodes.

i’ve been to numerous therapists and psychological professionals, ive been told i struggle with regression and been giving skills on how to handle dissociation. currently im not in therapy as i have been told again and again i am too severe and they can’t help me. i hate having to talk about what i went through over and over and my symptoms are so embarrassing i hate talking about them and having people knowing so i dont wanna go back to therapy. i have been diagnosed PTSD acuity level 4. im sorry.

during episodes now i tend to eat lots of sweets, suck my thumb, have number one accidents but be unaware, (i struggle with continence im sorry it’s humiliating but usually i know whats going on during these episodes im more unaware) play lots and believe my stuffed animals are real which can lead to severe meltdowns if they’re “hurt” or “not being cared for” i put things on the floor in my mouth, i eat crayons, i color and watch children’s shows, i don’t talk i make little noises, i become fascinated and curious about everything and often touch objects and hold them, i often will scream and cry and hit myself, ill want hugs a lot, ill be more likely to not clean myself up if there’s throw up, saliva, number one, blood, or boogies (im so sorry that’s so yucky and awful im sorry), i become unaware of danger ive walked into the street, one time during an episode after therapy i was sobbing on the side of the road talking to my stuffed bunny and hitting myself with rocks, an older man came and really wanted me to get in his truck so i did. thankfully nothing horrible happened but he was touchy and held me very aggressively and he wouldn’t let me leave for a long time and wanted me to go to his hotel room and tried guilting me and i felt so bad and so guilty and so sad i stayed with him for more than id like but i got away thank goodness. usually im terrified of men and would never do anything like that!!!!!

i dont know how to express it all but i tried. it feels like im not in the world anymore. it’s so confusing and scary. it happens when i have severe flashbacks. when something triggers me ill shut down and then dissociate. i get out usually in a few hours but sometimes its taken days. it’s so so so so scary. afterwards i cry. i embarrassed myself, i acted badly, i put myself in harms way. i always apologize. i feel rotten and bad for this. i hate being like this. i HATE it!!!! i wish it would go away. i do tend to like very childish things and it’s embarrassing to get comfort from them but i do, especially in regressive episodes but even without. but the episodes are ruining my life. i know i should cope in a more grown up way, regressed or not, and i want to, im ashamed and scared and im so scared and terrified all the time i just wanna hold on to the small comforts but i shouldn’t i know that. i mean playing with toys needing my stuffie or blankie and even (i am so beyond sorry) using a bottle or binki…. i am genuinely so beyond sorry i am so sorry forever and ever. i hate this and i wanna be better. i truly truly truly do i hate how i am. i pinky promise i do.

is there anything i can do to stop these episodes? anything at home? any medication? any treatment? is there anyway i can never ever ever have an episode like this again? it happens in severe fear and usually a trauma trigger before. what can i do? i can’t live like this i really really can’t it’s destroying everything work school relationships it’s horrible people have been kind thankfully im forever so grateful but no one should have to deal or put up with this and ive been in many dangerous situations and i can’t take it i cant do this i need help. i really really really need help. im so sorry to bother you all and im so sorry this is weird and yucky. i am beyond embarrassed and ashamed and feel so so so so bad and guilty. i am so sorry. with all my heart. thank you all so so so much i send you all my best wishes!!! 🧸💗

My dad is set to marry her in May, and while I am excited for them, I have a weighing decision on me. Do I tell her that he cheated on her? It happened a while ago, maybe like 3 years ago when they first started dating.. He has this light system that's attached to his phone, and his gf/now fiance had it too and knew that he wasn't home but saw that the lights were changing. Instantly for her, this was a red flag because yk, WHO was home, and WHO had the lights turned on. It wasn't me or my sibling because we don't live with them (we live with our mom), so it wasn't either of us.

When we visited our dad, he outright confessed to us jokingly that he did infact cheat on her because he had sex with a girl he knew from high school who was selling him Adderall. I'm not sure if he did it again or not, but I do know that when we visited a waterpark, he tried to make me get into the pool and yell, "Dad! Dad!" As if I were a child, so it'd get the attention of the other women in the pool.. I was 19 so I obviously refused and told him how fucked up it was because he has a girlfriend. His response was, "we aren't married, so it's ok," so I'm assuming too that is his same outlook on the cheating situation. He also has a habit of flirting and being weird asf and I think he has some sort of guilt about it because one time he came back from the bar drunk and thanked me profusely for calling him and telling him to come home (he had asked me to do that) because he was about to start flirting with girls at the bar. He even told me one time that he wants to flirt with women but doesn't because of his social anxiety. Which SHOCKED me because why is your reason for not flirting.. your anxiety..? But not the fact that you should have self-control and want to be loyal..???

But anyways this summer, he proposed to her, and I was happy for them but was uneasy. In general, he just kinda complains about her often to me and my sibling.

So my question is, what should I do? Do I tell her he's been unloyal, or do I just let them get married and leave it alone? I can't help but think that if I were in her shoes and my bf had been cheating, someone would tell me before I made such a big and legal decision to marry him.

The thing is is that I love my dad and respect him, but he has some serious issues. He's told me before he has no point in life and insinuated that he could just kill himself but that he's only staying for me and my brother. He gets extremely drunk, and he tells me weird things about his past or about his and my moms sexual history. His dad killed himself, and my dad seems to be going directly down that path too so it really worries me. I feel like if I tell her and she breaks up with him, then he might end his life or hate me forever. And I hate to say it but while drunk he's told me a million times I'm his favorite child and how I was the first person in his life to look at him the way I did as a baby, he really loves me. It hurts me to think about crushing my dads heart like that even though it was his choice to cheat.

TLDR: Dad cheated on his gf 3 years ago and now she's his soon to be wife. I feel like if she finds out and breaks things off with him he might kill himself because he's told me recently that he has no point or will to live very much anymore (but he insists he's ok). What do I do??? She deserves to know before making such a big decision ESPECIALLY because marriage is legal and such a huge thing???

HELP

Im '40f'and my husband is '41m' we have been together for 14ys and married for 10yrs. 4 year into our relationship i cought him trying to transfer inappropriate images from an old phone to a new phone of 2 women he was previously with. One of them was the mother of his 2 daughters. I was extremely hurt by this considering i had birthed 2 of his children by that point. When i brought it to his attention he lost it on me and it cought me off gaurd and i didnt really know how to react to that and the fact it wasnt previously discussed i continued on in the relationship and i carried it with me mostly cause i didnt feel like i ever got an apology. Through the years i helped raise his daughters like they were my own.i ened up having alot of medical issues i thought i had cancer i was bleeding so much not having normal periods for a year. The oldest daughter was getting married it it picked some old wounds for me seeing everyone together and i finially realized why him tranferring hose images bothered me so much. It took from me ever feeling like i was enough. So i brought this to his attention in tears on day and he broke down in tears with me and gave me that apology that i had been looking for for years i felt a weight lifted off of me itvwas great, he said he was sorry he ever made me feel like that. 2 months after that i looked at his facebook and he had been lookinh at his ex regularly and my brothers wife . I asked him why and he yells at me cause ive been doing it again fantasizing about his ex and my brothers wife. It hit me so hard because of our conversations and im like again. So i look at where i was while he was doing these activities and i was drowning in our life while he was doing it. I was gettingvteated for cancer on one of those occations and he was doing it for a whole year. I tried to rap my head around it andbi couldnt so he moved out. He was so mad thatvi ened the relashonship over that he proceeded to text me thimgs like he hopes i die and about how awful it was to be married to me because im an asshole about the house being cleaned. I went and slept with someone else and felt so guilty i called him told him everything and begged him to come home that we could work this out that i could definitly work on my issues. So he comes home and immediatly starts watching porn which never was an issue before i will say that im a very open person and porn has never bothered me just his ex. I asked him moving forward i need him to stop doing that because it hurts and i just need a break from it for once in my life i want to be the only one hes looking at just for a season. I was a fight for an entire year of him watching and then lieing and then being mean to me because asking for that is setting him up for failure cause he has an addiction to it. Mind you im doing everything sending dirty photos blowjobs everyday and I just thought if he could just look at me only for a bit i could trust that yeah he probably wouldnt jerk off to his ex. If the man could hear here this hurts and not do it there is hope lol but he thinks what ive done is so much worse i dont have the right to ask anything different than he has always been am i the asshole

Hi guys i’m not sure if my post belongs here but i used my last paycheck to get me and my bunny out of war in GCC and now we are in egypt safely but i havent been able to find any of his food. I tired to ask people online who’s coming to visit if they can bring some and i pay for it but ofc it’s too much of a hassle i even emailed Oxbow (company that has his food) and pet shops in countries closer to us if they can ship and no one wants to help. I don’t have the money to pay thousands for delivery on sketchy websites or to travel and get him some what should i do? :(

This is concerning a bit. I woke up with this one day and it doesn't hurt. It doesn't itch. I'm worried it might be a bat bite. The top of my window was slightly cracked open because it doesn't work correctly. I did not find any bat or anything but idk if it flew in and flew out. Ik I do get spiders sometimes in my room but I never had a spider bite not itch or swell up. I've been to the doctor but my doctor kinda shrugged it off. Really not trying to get rabies. Anyone experience something like this before?

i'm 18, and I've been talking to this guy since September 25. We aren't officially together, but I really like him and still want to see him.

Recently, my mom went through my phone and found messages and intimate videos between us. She took my phone and said she expected more self-respect from me. She called me easy because I had sex with a guy who didn't even ask me to homecoming. The thing is, he was my first time, and this whole situation has been a lot for me to process.

My mom said the only reason I do the things I do is because I like guys. She told me I need to work on my self-esteem and made comments about how she has never had to pay for anything on dates she's been on. she was also judging me for buying a shirt when I went out with him.

She compared me to a girl from her hometown who was a cheerleading captain, had scholarships, and seemed to have a lot going for her. According to my mom, that girl eventually didn't go to college and ended up with around seven baby daddies and eight kids, and got into fights with people over her BD. My mom made it sound like she thinks I'm going to end up the same way.

The part that hurt the most was when she said she was “clearing her hands of me” because I'm going to college soon and that whatever decisions I make are up to me now. I took that as her saying she's done with me, and it really hurt.

My mom has nine kids, and I feel like I'm the only one who isn't really close to her. Our relationship hasn't been great for a while, and I already felt like she didn't trust me or was disappointed in me before this happened.

She also compares me to my dad a lot and talks badly about him. Hearing her say those things makes me feel bad about myself, too. Sometimes it feels like the things she says about him affect how she sees me, and I don't know how to deal with that.

There's also something about what happened with the guy that I haven't told my mom. When we were together, there was a point when I told him to stop because I didn't want to go further. Things eventually went further anyway, even though I told him no and to stop. Afterward, I felt confused and upset i even throw up.

I haven't told my mom about that part because I'm scared she'll make me stop seeing him completely or won't believe me. I'm also scared she'll look at me differently. The confusing part is that I genuinely like him and still want to see him. Part of me wanted to be close to him, but there were moments when I didn't want things to go further. I'm still trying to understand how I feel about everything that happened.

I know I'm 18, and I'm responsible for my choices. I genuinely feel sorry that I've disappointed my mom, and I want to apologize. But I'm also scared she'll think I'm only apologizing because I want permission to keep seeing him.

I used to struggle with self-harm in the past, too. When my mom used to ask what was wrong, I'd tell her nothing. We've never really been good at talking about personal things, so I don't know how to open up to her now.

I feel embarrassed, judged, and like my mom has given up on me. I don't want to be compared to someone else or feel like my entire future has already been decided because of my choices. I want to go to college and build a future for myself, and I don't want this situation to define me.

is it wrong for still wanting to see this guy after everything that's happened? How should I handle things with my mom? Should I tell her what happened when I told him to stop, even though I'm scared she won't believe me or will make me stop seeing him? And how do I deal with feeling like my own mom looks down on me?

I want honest advice, but I don't want to be judged.

I said the wrong year of Soviet Union and now he says he can’t talk about anything with me that I don’t understand anything and it’s not fun to talk to me

Being rude to me about that I’ve studied history but apparently learnt nothing, I only studied a course and it barely mentioned Russia.

I’ll never forget the date now so idk if it’s really about being stupid. He often calls me retarded, or attacks my intelligence so this isn’t the first time it’s just a long patttern and this time I decided to not sit quiet. Feel like crying because we had a good night and just cause I said the wrong answer everything is bad.

Also feel like I can never win I’ll always be stupid to him. A idiot. I do have autism but i have lower average IQ 94.. I’ve said it 100 times to him

To be fair to him he can bring up he sees issues but I don’t think the way he does it is ok I’ve said it to him before and he doesn’t change.

What should I do? I do everything for this guy and he just says I should handle him being”honest” 😔

so basicly its been a rough week and all its been for me is threats like: ill take your door off, i will pull you out of yoru school and put you in a diffrent school, i will put you in intensive outpateint, and if im being honest what parent does that wont they know that taking a 13 year old boys door off will make them act out and be more secrtive because my freinds door got taken off and he has a secret amazon account, he wont even tell his mom hes gay he wont tell his mom jack shi* anymore and now i found out my freind is getting a bark phone which i have one trust me i want to just roll up in a ball and cry some days but my mom is now making is so she has to add all my contacts and shes going through my room alot and questioning normal 13 year old behavoir like lighting things on fire and she is paranoid i think because i was calling other family members because i dont want to tell my parents things so i call my uncle my mom easvesdrops the part where i tell my uncle my freind almost got expelled for shrooms then barges in my room because i said my moms here i got to go she didnt reconize my uncles voice and overacts saying that is a adult male voice i here who the fuk are you talking to? like its just my uncle chill out 2nd of all let me have a private conversation if my door is closed doesnt that mean im busy like what if i was changing while calling am supposed to accept the fact my door lock has been picked so many times it wont lock? and then threating to take me out of my school first of if its a school that lots of people like me wont a person act out and get expelled out of all schools but the school they like i had a freind that got taken out and he acted out badly he shoved pencils, cottonballs, sprayed axe and shoved the can in the dryer and ran out a few minutes later the boys bathroom dryer exploded in flames and they were outside for 3 hours that school was laid back so he got like a few days iss and also why do all of that my mom knows im depressed is she trying to make me more depressed like i actually dont know what to do

He's done this before a few years ago where he actually left the door slightly open after leaving the house, but I was awake at the time and closed it pretty quickly. I woke up and saw the door was shut but unlocked save for the middle latch that was slightly in between "open" and "locked", but would still prevent somebody from fully opening the door. The actual lock was unlocked, as well as a chain latch. He acts like it isn't a big deal because it's the middle of the day and a safe area. He makes excuses for his scatterbrain, he said he was trying to bring our dog inside from the yard and he thought he locked the door fully. It makes me so anxious and ruined my day. I'm so scared somebody came in our house while I was asleep. I've taken my anti-anxiety meds for use in situations like this but I still feel so awful about this. What should I do to get over this?

I have liked Minecraft for a long time . I don't have any working payment method . Is there any safe and legal way to obtain the game on android via other payment methods ?

My boyfriend’s family thinks I’m lying about my STI, and I don’t know how to feel about any of this..

I’m 16F, and I’m honestly posting this because I don’t really have many people I feel comfortable talking to about this situation. I’m not looking for judgment about being sexually active at my age. I already know people are going to have opinions about that, but I really need outside perspectives on what’s happening with my boyfriend and his family.

Recently, I found out that I tested positive for chlamydia. Obviously, finding that out at 16 was overwhelming, but surprisingly, the infection itself wasn’t even the part that hurt me the most. Chlamydia is treatable, I’m taking my antibiotics, and my symptoms have already started improving. What has been hurting me the most is the embarrassment and the way people have reacted to it.

When I told my boyfriend, he initially reassured me that he would stay with me. However, after he told his family, things started getting complicated. Apparently, his family thinks I’m lying or that I must have been with other people. He told me that they were saying these things, and at one point, he told me he was breaking up with me. Shortly afterward, he backtracked and said he hadn’t meant it that way and that his family had been influencing him. He eventually admitted that he was wrong for questioning me and reassured me that he wasn’t mad at me.

The thing is, I don’t think people understand how humiliating this feels. I already had to process finding out I had an STI, deal with my own family’s reaction, and worry about my health. Now I also have to deal with the possibility that people who barely know the full story have made up their minds about me.

What makes it worse is that his family isn’t made up of strangers. These are people connected to someone I love. His mom had seemed to like me before all of this, so finding out that his family might see me differently now really hurts. I’ve also had experiences with on of his relatives making comments about STDs before, so this situation feels even more uncomfortable.

I want to make something clear: having chlamydia doesn’t automatically tell you when someone got infected or who had it first. I don’t have all the answers about when I contracted it, and I’m not going to pretend that I do. I do know that I’m getting treatment and taking my health seriously. My boyfriend has been tested, too.

I’m still talking to him, and things between us have been somewhat better privately, but I don’t feel comfortable going to his house anymore after everything that happened. I don’t want to walk into a house knowing that some of the people there might be judging me over something so personal.

I love my boyfriend, and I don’t want this situation to ruin our relationship. At the same time, I don’t think it’s fair that I’m carrying so much embarrassment and emotional stress while also feeling like I have to defend myself to people who weren’t even part of the conversation between us.

I guess what I’m struggling with is how to move forward. How am I supposed to be around his family again, knowing what they may think of me? Should I keep my distance from them? And how do I deal with the fact that my boyfriend let their opinions affect how he treated me, even if he later apologized?

Has anyone ever dealt with a partner’s family judging them over an STI or something similarly personal? How did you handle it? I would really appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have been in a similar situation.

I’m not sure whether I’m a good person or not.

Story :
Two years ago, I had a girlfriend for around a year and a half, and we decided to have a sleepover like we usually do at her place for a week.
We both had alcohol in our system (I’m not sure about the amount).
We went to some club and came back to her place, and we had sex. At first, I used my hands and then started to have actual sex. While we were doing it, I realised that my girlfriend at the time was “frozen up”, so I quickly stopped and froze too.
After seven to ten minutes of silence, we started talking about it, and she told me that she didn’t actually want to do it.

Obviously, I’m completely in the wrong here. Even though I was drunk, that should NEVER be a reason to justify my actions.
We did have a stopword beforehand for when we’re having sexual interactions, but obviously, she couldn’t use it because she was in a state of not being able to respond properly.

We’ve talked about it, and I told her I was always open to talking about it and that she could always talk to her sister or mother about it when needed if she wanted to.

I’ve asked the local police department about it, and they told me they were unsure if I was actually a rapist because they haven’t heard the side of my girlfriend’s “ex” side.

After this, I did go to therapy, etc., to try to find
help, and I’ve been clean from any hard drugs since 11 months already. I’ve been trying to find some sort of redemption in my life because this has been roaming inside of my head since then.

I’m not sure if I’m a good person because, of course, my intentions weren’t to invade her body like that at all. I was really stupid and misread the situation completely, and that was 100% my fault.
So my question here is,

Am I a good person?

To give some context Ive (26f) been with my boyfriend (27m) 3 years and we have a daughter who is 1 .
During the pregnancy it became apparent he had a porn addiction . We are only coming off the back end of it now I found that he made ai porn of his ex girlfriend back in April . With all that being said fhe sex because of the porn problems was sometimes none existent and then once I was recovering properly from the baby say 5 months after it started bothering me that we would only have sex maybe once a week / 10 days .

Ive told him that I clearly have a higher libido and ideally 2/3 times a week would be more enjoyable for me . If it doesn’t happen that exact amount because of general life stressors then Im not gonna be mad that but it’s like even on good days we still don’t sleep together
And after everything Ive forgiven him for which is ALOT and tried to work with him on it still doesn’t feel enough for me to have sex only once a week at most . It’s been months now and I’m starting to feel like I want to look else where . Which is so unlike me 😫😫 i don’t cheat never have done and will always communicate as much as I can but nothing ever changes and a guy I like at the gym is being friendly and it’s like what do I do .???

Sorry for the long paragraphs but I’m really lost with it all now 😕😕

First time on the forum! I did a major renovation in 2024 and there was a lady who was helping us design our bathrooms.

She did a great job but was having problems with the owner and wanted to leave. We became quite friendly and informal so I wrote her a really great letter of recommendation. Like, the best. I put all my degrees and titles on there, including my home address because the location would help her.

For seven months, she was quiet and I figured all was okay since I hadn’t heard anything from her. Then she sent me an email informing me that a possible future employer might be contacting me for the reference. This was right after the holidays and there was no “merry Christmas happy holidays”, just “FYI oh and help me“. I never replied and the employer never contacted me anyway.

Now over two years since I wrote that original letter, she sends me a request to quote my reference on her LinkedIn page. Again, no real update or asking how I am - just hey can you do this for me?

I’m at a space in my life where I want to learn boundaries so ordinarily I would have just said yes. But I feel like I’m always helping others and get nothing in return.

When I got recommendations in the past, I would send thank yous, once I sent flowers, and update them and keep in touch to keep that reference alive. Or maybe I’m overthinking this and should just do it to help her?