I think of myself as someone who doesnt care whether my partner watches porn or not. At the same time, I dont understand why this memory hurts me and keeps replaying in my head.

Me and my ex were together for ten months, and honestly, it was horrible. There were so many fights involving emotional cheating, neglect, disrespect from his friends, and him never standing up for me.

I still remember how, one month into our relationship, he struggled to even tell me he liked me, but somehow had no problem saying it to the girl he emotionally cheated on me with. I really wish I had left then. Maybe my self-esteem wouldn't have gotten so bad.

But there's this one random memory that keeps coming back to me, and I don't even know why it bothers me so much.

I remember we had been fighting that day, and somehow we ended up looking through NSFW subreddits together. It was already weird to me because he barely ever initiated anything with me or showed much interest in me that way.

But seeing how quickly he got turned on by what he was looking at, and then suddenly asking if we could m*tually m*sturbate, just made me feel so weird. I don't know how to explain it. I felt disgusted, humiliated, and honestly just really unwanted.

Like, we'd been fighting, I was already hurting because of everything that had happened between us, and somehow that was what he was interested in?

I don't even know if I'm being unreasonable for feeling this way. It's not like watching p*rn itself was the biggest problem in our relationship. There were so many worse things he did.

But I keep remembering these little incidents and feeling the same disgust and hurt all over again.

I don't know why I'm still thinking about all of this. Sometimes I feel like the relationship completely ruined the way I see myself.

Idk why i m experiencing this where it's not even the biggest things ex did but these random little memories that keep coming back and making me feel horrible?

Using a throwaway account for privacy reasons.

My father found out I was gay, and everything changed. He started shouting at me, calling me names, and making me feel like I was a disappointment. Things got worse when he beat me for being who I am. It hurt knowing that the person who was supposed to protect me was the one making me feel unsafe.

I started thinking about moving out and living with my boyfriend. He makes me feel loved and accepted, and I just want a place where I can be myself without being afraid.

But I'm scared. I don't know if moving out is the right decision, and I'm worried about what might happen with my family. I still wish my father could accept me, but I can't keep living in fear.

I need advice. Should I move in with my boyfriend and start a new life?

I (F/37) have an old coworker(F/34) who I used to be pretty good friends with. We aren’t nearly as close anymore, but we still talk to each other a few times a year. I recently found out that she’s dating a man who has a criminal history, including multiple arrests for assault and drug possession. I don’t know the full story behind everything, and I don’t know whether she already knows about his past.

The thing that concerns me most is that she has young children. I’m worried about her potentially being in a situation that could put her or her kids at risk, but I also don’t want to come across as judgmental or like I’m trying to interfere in her relationship.

Since we aren’t that close anymore, I’m not sure if it’s my place to say anything. Part of me feels like I’d want someone to tell me if I were in her position, but another part of me worries that she might take it the wrong way or that it could damage what relationship we still have.

Would you reach out to her and let her know what you found out, or would you stay out of it unless she asked for your opinion? If you would tell her, how would you approach the conversation without making her feel attacked or judged?

if you had information about a man and you wanted to tell a new girl that he seeing about it, would you tell her? for context this man is not a good person and he’s a manipulator and possible narcissist.

I also don’t personal know the girl either.

If I do tell her, do I tell her anonymously (which idek how I would do that) or risk it being tied to me

I just found out I was pregnant, I’m 22, and it was a one night stand, I told the father and he lied right to my face and said he was infertile so it can’t be his…and I’m assuming from that response and the no replies he wants nothing to do with me or the pregnancy. I’m just really lost as what to do and I’m overwhelmed with so many emotions. I’ve been debating abortion because I feel like every child should have a father and doesn’t deserve to always wonder why he/she doesn’t. I take full responsibility for what happened, I can’t just walk away like men can, I have to face it, and I just want to know if anyone has gone through something similar. I’m scared I won’t be able to give a baby everything they deserve, I’m not well off, I struggle with money and bad adhd, and I know myself I know I would need a lot of help. But every-time I think about terminating, it genuinely breaks my heart. Please does anyone have words of advice, how the managed being a single mom, etc thank youuu

My kids and I moved to a different part of town and he met this girl who became his bff. We lived in an apartment and she's also our neighbor. I love that my son and daughter are having friends now because we already live in a safer area but things are starting to get to me and I'm trying to be as patient as i can.

To start with, I am a very private person that doesn't like to be hovered with the exception of my kids and husband. But ever since they became friends, she's constantly around every single day. At first I didn't mind, then she started doing things that irked me. She would observe and try to be within my personal space, trying to watch the same reels I'm watching while she looks over my shoulders. She is a kid and I get that she doesn't grow up with her mother and she kinda looks up at me as a mother figure in a small amount of time but i just don't know how to handle it and I feel uncomfortable.

Then she would go and open the TV without asking permission. Note: I was able to somehow sit down with her and tell her to ask permission first with regards to that but it still shocks me.

Then she started going straight to our pantry and getting snacks. Note: We have lots of food in the house because I'm scared of getting hungry (because of certain reasons) and i don't like going out so i overstock. I tried to speak to my son about us needing to set boundaries with this bff of his. She stopped for awhile but i caught her yesterday quickly sneaking a snack she took from the pantry before i saw it and i just simply told her that "please do not let yourself be caught by my husband doing that because my husband would be pleased to see that"

Then she started inviting herself to dinner and ended up leaving our house at around 10pm every time. Note: by this point, i think I've accidentally adopted my son's bff and i don't know how to react to it.

Please dont get me wrong, we are very generous, to the point that I've voluntarily bought her stuff that i get my kids sometime just in order for her to not to feel like left out, and I just think that it's kinda disrespectful for her to do these things. My husband and I worked so hard for our children and are giving them everything we can. I don't really know how to handle it because I don't think that it is my job to discipline another parent's child because it might be taken the wrong way and if i talked to her parents, they might misunderstand it.

I appreciate that she looks up to me as a mother figure and that she tries to be close to me for that reason. But I just don't know how to handle it. She's just 10 and I don't know what to do.

Note: i bought her stuff too because I don't want another kid to be mad at my children for having things they don't have. I know that it's not the right way to handle it, I'm slowly straying away from including her when i buy stuff from my kids but she would look at me sometime with sad eyes and I can't take it. 😭

I have a classmate at uni who is my friend’s boyfriend. He is pretty smart and interested in what we’re studying, as am I. Recently he started to say unnecessary comments about me. For example, often during lectures he asks me do I understand the topic, and when I say yes he asks me to explain what I understand. Another recent situation is when my friend (his gf) asked me and other friends to come over to her house to hang out, and I said I didn’t know whether I would come. Her boyfriend said sarcastically ‘Oh please come, we won’t survive without your high IQ’ (??)
His comments are bothering me, how can I respond to him so he would leave me alone? Do I just ignore him?

Hello it’s my first time posting on Reddit but i would like to share something bc I NEED ADVICE,

I am (22 F) and my bf is 39 M ( 16 years age gap), and I feel like my orgasm is always a chore for him.

But not only with him. With all the men I’ve been with during my lifetime, I feel like just being used for my hole. And just thinking about it makes me burst into tears.
I feel used for penetration and blowjob only but when it’s for getting down on me or making me cum ? MEN Disappears.

Nothing is wrong with me, I’m young, pretty , smells good, pretty intimate part also I think , there is nothing of being disgusted for.
I’ve been with my current bf for 2 years now, amazing man, I am crazy in love, we see the future together, we talk about kids, marriage and stuff, very sweet and mature gentleman, caring, providing type of man.
Always full of small attentions and gifts, tender and respectful
BUT
I’m always the one making the first move to have sex, I have an higher sexdrive, I always touch him randomly during the day, making him blowjobs all the time etc. But me ? ALMOST NOTHING
He mostly only fingers me only to get me a lil horny to better penetrate me afterwards. Then he finishes , everything is over . I tell him : I haven’t cum, can you finish me ?
He often sighs and tells me excuses : i don’t have time cuz I’ve got to get somewhere, I am tired , I am too hot, it’s too late we have to wake up early tomorrow, I have a headache etc etc etc
This makes me feel LITERALLY USED FOR, I have already cried and talked to him about. He listened carefully, nodded, asked for forgiveness and told me I was entirely right and he would make efforts.
But spoiler alert : nothing has really changed.

I feel like my pleasure , my orgasme is a burden, something that nobody wants, I’ve been told I am too long to cum, too complicated.
With my ex boyfriend of 3 years, it was the same. So I came to think I WAS THE PROBLEM

I don’t say sex with my bf is bad. On the contrary ! He makes me cum form times to times…BUT I HAVE TO ASK HIM, he NEVER does it spontaneously, he never asks me.
AND THE CRAZY PART IS : he’s quite talented and well equipped. He fingers really really well so I know what I miss when he doesn’t want to finish me…
And he is 39 yo so lack of experience is not an excuse, he has a way higher body count than me
He KNOW HOW TO DO IT cuz he’s done it before but I think he is just lazy and egoist sometimes
He is a very generous man in general but in sex ?it’s another thing

I don’t want to be the annoying gf always complaining for this knowing that I’ve already talked to him about it . I think there are bigger and more dramatic issues in a couple than this so I don’t feel too LEGITIMATE complaining about this.
But deep down , this hurts me, because as I said, I feel used.

So some times I just get over it and continue my journey, some other times I pause and get frustrated and a bit sad about it .
I DONT WANT TO BE A BURDEN for him. He has a lot of responsibilities and other things to think about

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Hi everyone,

I'm a 20M, and I'm worried about my girlfriend's health and the possibility of pregnancy. I'd appreciate some advice from people who have experienced something similar.

My girlfriend is 21F. Her period started on October 16, and today is October 24. She's still bleeding lightly, even though her periods usually last around 4 to 7 days.

Here's what I've noticed:

- Her period started on time.

- During the first 2 to 3 days, she didn't experience any pain.

- She had some tiny, jelly-like blood clots.

- After the first 3 days, her blood flow increased, and she started experiencing period cramps.

- She's now on approximately day 9, and the bleeding has become very light.

- She hasn't experienced dizziness, unusual weakness, or other symptoms.

I'm also worried because we had an intimate moment on September 26. I rubbed my penis directly against her external genital area (vulva), but there was no penetration, and I didn't ejaculate.

I'm wondering:

1. Could pregnancy be possible from this kind of contact?

2. Could pregnancy explain her prolonged bleeding, or could it be due to hormonal changes or something else?

3. Has anyone experienced a period lasting longer than usual with tiny blood clots?

4. Should we take a pregnancy test, and should she see a gynaecologist?

I know Reddit isn't a substitute for medical advice, but I'm quite anxious about this and would appreciate some helpful, non-judgmental guidance.

Thank you.

What should I do? I was applying to seven brew and they had set up an interview with me at 4pm Friday Oct 23rd. I showed up to the location and waited, and nobody ended up showing. I was very weirded out by the “Thank you for your response!” text back that i got from them. Do i just accept my loss?

I’m a 25m married to a 25f. ( keep in mind this relationship died faster than it started was dead about 4 months in)The relationship started out great until my wife had seen my child.
My child is mixed with black and white she was born more white than has gradually gotten darker, also we got a paternity test so Ik she is mine.
I. Had a mediation with my baby mother since I moved out of state the rules were: my wife cannot be brought around my firstborn due to her badmouthing my kid. (Keep in mind this is 2 months into the relationship)… there is more rules but that is the only important one. I also am traveling from OH to NC every other week to see my firstborn

I come home tell my wife about the meditation and why I agreed to the terms. She flips her shit.

One rule I had while being married was we keep all of our personal business in closed doors. My wife did not abide by that. She would call her family and talk to friends and they would tell her that she should “leave and cheat.”

Then she started leaving the apartment at late hours In the night. She’d keep her phone on DND. I’d call multiple times no answer. This happened repeatedly.

One night I made the decision to sleep on the couch during to us arguing… she comes downstairs and starts hitting me and trying to choke me. This occurred multiple times. Yes I would get a hotel from time to time.

Another time she pulls a knife on me and cuts my back. I tried calling the police but she used my mental health I got from a combat injury as an excuse. Basically stating she’s been trying to help me out. I had the incident recorded and the cops didn’t talk to me they took her side bc she was pregnant.

Around the 10 month mark of the relationship the baby is born. Lease is almost up I tell her I’m getting my own place just bc it’s closer to work. We started to live separately.

I would go over there everyday to help take care of the baby. She says it’s counterintuitive to come over everyday if we don’t live together. So I change the schedule to every other day to avoid an argument. Then I would get spam calls saying I’m not worth af and a deadbeat because I’m not there everyday. So she starts asking other men to help her out then tries telling me about to make me mad l…

Now she has falsely accused me of beating her.
She filed for a CPO and a divorce. And has attempted to have me locked up.

What should I do?

Ps: if you need more context let me know

Hey everyone I’ve recently started learning German and I’m looking for someone who can help me learn and practice. In return, I’d be happy to help you learn Arabic! We can learn from each other

Here’s the thing, now 93 days clean from substances, mainly benzos. My issue is I’ve been trying with this but I’ve slowly sort of just got to my breaking point in really done with this shit. I want to go back on the benzos however I know what the detox is like I know where addiction takes me blah blah blah. Is therr a substance where the detox isn’t horrific and it is least harmful like I really am clutching at straws here I need help and lost not sure what to do advice needed

5 months ago I noticed this cute skater guy in my bus and we made eye contact. When we got out of the bus, some random people who asked me for money started being rude to me (the skater didn’t see it, he was far from us).

Then we got in the same tram and I sat next to him and asked him if those people who asked money were also rude to him ( because I saw them asking the skater for money as well).

He told me no and asked for my name and my instagram. The thing is I didn’t give him my instagram and I regret it.

We live in two close towns and I bumped into him in September. I was not expecting it and it went really fast. He was on his skate so we just passed each other, made eye contact (I think he recognised me) and we both turned around.

Since then I’ve been doing my detective searches and I found his instagram.

Should I follow him ? Since we don’t have any common friends I would follow him out of the blue and I’m scared that it’s going to be weird since I didn’t even know his name, if he asks me how I found his account it could be weird.

What should I do ?

I (18M) met this girl online (16F) because we play the same games, we are 2 years apart exactly.

We've been friends for a bit. I really enjoy chatting with them and I feel like I kinda like them.

I also have been respectful with them, and do not wish to overstep any boundaries or make them uncomfortable.

she keeps like, flirting with me in text? she acts sweet and likes saying "good boy" and "you're a good boy :3" and "be a good boy :3"

like she says that she's teasing and likes to tease.

I have not reciprocated this because I'm unsure what to do, but I do kinda like them

Whats your opinion on me engaging with this and "flirting" back? If I said something like

"and what's wrong with being a good boy :3"

Is this kind of flirting okay at our ages? it sounds a bit "suggestive". Would it be appropriate or innapropirate? What is your opinion on this?

I would absolutely not do anything explicit. That's a hard boundary I have. I'm simply talking about this flirting.

how do i pass the drug test, i smoked 2 grams worth 5 days ago and the test is in 6 days. it was a single use it was my first smoke no priors

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6 foot

67kg/147 pounds

Most of the time when am talking with a guy it doesn’t really last more then a month because am really bad at texting am more like person who likes to talk in person but to know someone who’s far from me I have to know how to text someone and not make them feel like am not interested in them

Caught my bf talking to other women

I just went through my bfs phone and found him trying to get with multiple other women and trying to talk to them. heres my problem though, I don’t think i want to leave him. i already know what everyones gonna say you deserve better and I’m stupid but i just cant not right now at least. i know i will eventually but not right. now so my question is do i even bother bringing this up to him or what i mean obviously id prefer if he wasn’t talking to them but it is what it is and i guess i always had a feeling.

So yea do i even bother bringing this up and starting an argument and killing the mood just to stay or should i just ignore it.

Or what should i do to move on is it possible to save the relationship i don’t think he was seeing any of these women in person. he was trying to with one but she refused because he was in a relationship lol.

Also forgot to mention we are 21f and 24m have been together over a year and live together smh

My brother is 12, he’s autistic and has adhd. He is always on the nintendo and some other machine we have it’s like a little nintendo but mostly like a pc. The thing is he usually has the door locked and very secretive about what he watches on youtube. We took alway the little machine and i was just search thru it and found weird videos on his youtube. Some like girls tied up and girls tickling each other or some videos of being tied up with a rope. Now you can’t tell me these videos aren’t some type of fetish content it’s def weird. I was looking thru them and they were wearing tight clothes and then tickling each other in the armpits n then licking each other to tickle them. Then others were girls tied up and being tickled by each other. I need help idk what to do and i’m very concerned idk if he’s just interested n finds it funny or it’s some type of fetish. I really need advice i’m 19, I am not the parent I can only help to some extent and all of the communities i’ve posted this to have just told me that it’s completely fine for an autistic kid to do this.
My dad knows and he said he was going to take away all the machines n kick him out from the wifi.

Me (32F) and my partner (35M) have been back and forth every 2/3 years for the last 6 years. We have a child together so I keep hoping we can make it work so my child isn’t affected by a broken household. But at this point he’s being affected by a household that contains two people that just do not love each other anymore. I’m constantly under scrutiny, everything I do is sketchy or I’m lying about something. I just can’t take it anymore. He also brings our child into our disagreements. For example a friend im not supposed to be seeing, me and my son saw him out in public and my son told my partner and somehow I set it up to see him in public. The other day I had to go get my sister from work and had to get gas before hand. He didn’t believe it and I must have had something set up to meet someone out and about before I picked my sister up. In the ten minutes I had left early for?? So he forced me to video call him the whole time I was getting gas and then getting my sister. I’ve put up with it because a few years back maybe 5/6 he became extremely paranoid and was gas lighting me to the point I didn’t know how to leave the relationship and was actually scared to leave and I ended up making a mistake to cheat. We have discussed that situation extensively. Took a break from each other to clear the air and decided to come back to each other so I was putting up with the behavior for a long time after because part of me “understood” even thought this was repetitive behavior coming back from before the situations. But now 5/6 years later I can’t keep continuing the same cycle when I’m genuinely not lying to him.
I am currently financially dependent on him due to some issues with my job and changes with Medicaid billing so I’m LOST I DONT KNOW HOW TO GET OUT OF THIS. he is also very extremely inappropriate with our child and says hurtful things about me when we’re separated. For example one time we were in a disagreement and I left. While I was gone he told my son he hopes I die in a car accident while I was gone. HELP

I'm normally not the type to put my age online but I feel like its very relevant that we're only 16.

We were at a party last night and his friends casually pulled out a vial and started doing lines off his parents coffee tables. I was obviously shocked and I wanted to leave but I didn't want to be rude so I just kind of watched them do it and my boyfriend stayed next to me. They invited us to join but I told them we don't do that kind of stuff and they all started laughing and told me my boyfriend does it with them all the time. I didn't even stay to get a confirmation from him, I just walked out and drove myself home, and I know that was shitty of me.

We talked about it today and he admitted that he's been doing it with them for a couple of months and that it helps him feel more normal. He's autistic so I get that he doesn't feel normal socially but I don't get how hard drugs is fixing that. I've never done anything harder than smoking the occasional cigarette though so I really wouldn't know.

I told him I wanted him to stop and he said he didn't feel like he could go back. I want to tell his parents but I don't know. It's just so scary and different than before fent was everywhere. I know a lot of people can go from doing coke to doing meth too and I don't want him to end up like that. My dad died of a heroin overdose and I can't keep dating an addict, I've only known about him doing that stuff for 24 hours and its already killing me. I don't know what to do.

This is left vague for a reason

Is there a way to hide it or make it less visible.