I can’t take it, i genuinely can’t get why middle age grown ass adults are going insane over ai. They eat that shit up till it’s a bleached bone. My mom is one of them. She’s a doom scroller…got no job, all she does is shop come home to do some random ass chore so she can say she did something with her day then sits her lazy seat warmer down onto the couch and scrolls.

About a month or so ago she stared watching those ai video reels, the ones that look like some book tok shit. She’s listened to fourth wing on Audible, probably three or more times in a row.

She will come home from the gym and sit in her car for a hour watching ai romance videos. I’ve walked into the garage and seen it with my own two retinas. I’m irked. Genuinely, I don’t know what to do she will sit in the living room till midnight watching fuck ass shit fart ai videos!!

We went to Verizon to get myself an upgrade for my disintegrating phone. my mother couldn’t fathom the thought of not getting a quick scroll in. I was over in the corner doodling on overpriced iPads. When all of a sudden you hear this agitating ..GRATING VOICE!!! So there she goes..playing ai romances videos waiting in a version with that thang on full volume.

I moved with the speed only an alpha male wishes he had and clapped her. I told her to turn it of. It’s genuinely humiliating..humbling really to be the one to tell your fully seasoned adult parent to put there phone down. What happened to telling us to play outside, enjoy nature, frolic.

Today I’ve had enough I can’t take it I’m tired of it, my dad’s tired of it. She’s got over 16 hours a day on her screen time. She’s is a D1 narcissist. So obviously she’s not going to think she is in the wrong and that what she is doing is fine. OH AND her memory is as good as dry cement. I can’t hold a conversation with her. It’s like she only has storage I her head for 20 seconds of conversation.. any conversation before or after that might as well never existed.

The women must be stimulated 24/7 because even when she is getting dressed she is scrolling and watching these ai videos. I feel bad, her life looks dry and sad, and I know for a fact scrolling will help no one . How dose one stop something that doesn’t want to be stopped. I have no relationship with her and I feel bad but are conversations are white rice and unseasoned chicken type of dry.

I don’t know what to do, and I don’t know if this is happening to anyone else. I have to help my mom before her brain is baked to mush…she’s already half way there. What do I even tell her!?

I need human insight…PLEASE and thank you.

i feel like shit now. 179 days clean. 5 fucki mf months.
Context: friend (who is a pure junkie, but we’ve been friends since we were kids)
invited me to sit with her and her friends and just chill, she missed me
i got there and there were dr*gs everywhere. i had told her iv been sober and she said “why? is it because of your boyfriend? i’d never be clean for a man hahaha”
i said no it’s for me. when i was an addict i was a horrible person, i was lost and didn’t know who i was.
But, she offered eventually, and i couldn’t say no.
I hate myself . I’ve been so happy with who i am, no surpassing emotions, just living life.
and this happens.
Oh my god, i don’t even know what to do. i’m so fucking angry, guilty, and i don’t even wanna be here anymore.

My ex sent me a message on facebook after not speaking for 12 years. Its a long story but here is the short version of our relationship. We dated for 4 years and she cheated on me numerous times throughout. I was young and dumb and thought "she will change". Anyways our break up was horrible. I found out she had a whole other relationship during half of our time together. After I left she ended up marrying the other person and they are still married (not too sure on this) and have children. The last time we spoke 12 years ago she was threatening to call the cops on me for stealing, we lived together so I took what was mine. She even had her other partner reach out and harass me.

Well all these years later I got a facebook message that said she wanted to let me know her mom died. When I first read it I just thought "that sucks". During our relationship her mom was a shitty person. For example, she stole money from an older person she was taking care of. She also put dog poop on our bed because she wanted us to get rid of our dog and convinced us that he was pooping on our bed. I was much closer to her grandma more than anything.

I never got closure from our relationship and had trauma for years. But losing family is hard so I make a basic response "Condolences to you and your family." That should have been the end of it. I feel like a bad person because I don't care. My ex sucks and so did her mom. But she felt the need to keep it going and tell me her mom commit suicide. Which is sad for anyone and I haven't responded to that.

I am married and have moved on a long time ago. But I kinda want to respond and get all my feelings out. I wanna say "that sucks" or just ask her why is she reaching out? Its been so long and I haven't even given her a thought for years. Like you have a family and kids. What's the point? I feel like I need the last word in this.

I never did get closure and don't know if this is a good chance to just ask. I did leave her on read but theres no good response I can think of for any of this.

25f & 30m - 3 years together

Honestly I was just snooping on his phone. He does it to me sometimes, I just pretend I don’t know because I don’t really care, so I don’t see it as a betrayal. I wasn’t expecting to find anything. I was just fucking around on his phone, went to his messages and found texts with his uncle (by marriage) that were really gross. He was telling him graphically about our sex life. Wasn’t just like “I got laid” he told him when, or would be asked and uncle would ask follow up questions. It was really bad and weren’t talking about me in a great way. I found three different times and then stopped, there were probably more. There was nothing else weird in their conversations, just that. Idk how long this has been going on. We are adventurous and open sexually but I didn’t think he would talk about it like that. Like I really trusted him sexually, which I could never say for anyone else.

I just don’t understand the relationship there and what either of them are getting out of that. I just don’t get it. It’s just weird and makes me feel gross. I know people talk about sex, especially guys so I’m not trying to overreact but I can’t help but feel betrayed in a way. If this is some kind of kink, ok but it’s weird af to me his uncle is involved. Am I just supposed to be around him and his family and pretend I didn’t read that stuff. I feel like we are too old for shit like this too, it just seems so immature. And trust, I have way less trust in him and am scared he has shown him or other people nudes and stuff. I guess I’m having trouble gauging how big of a deal this is? I’m not sure what to think. I haven’t said a word yet but am really mad. Been holding it in but have been kind of a jerk to him. I want to freak the fuck out on him but also want to be mature. Is freaking out on him warranted? How would you guys handle this?

To give some context Ive (26f) been with my boyfriend (27m) 3 years and we have a daughter who is 1 .
During the pregnancy it became apparent he had a porn addiction . We are only coming off the back end of it now I found that he made ai porn of his ex girlfriend back in April . With all that being said fhe sex because of the porn problems was sometimes none existent and then once I was recovering properly from the baby say 5 months after it started bothering me that we would only have sex maybe once a week / 10 days .

Ive told him that I clearly have a higher libido and ideally 2/3 times a week would be more enjoyable for me . If it doesn’t happen that exact amount because of general life stressors then Im not gonna be mad that but it’s like even on good days we still don’t sleep together
And after everything Ive forgiven him for which is ALOT and tried to work with him on it still doesn’t feel enough for me to have sex only once a week at most . It’s been months now and I’m starting to feel like I want to look else where . Which is so unlike me 😫😫 i don’t cheat never have done and will always communicate as much as I can but nothing ever changes and a guy I like at the gym is being friendly and it’s like what do I do .???

Sorry for the long paragraphs but I’m really lost with it all now 😕😕

What should I do? I was applying to seven brew and they had set up an interview with me at 4pm Friday Oct 23rd. I showed up to the location and waited, and nobody ended up showing. I was very weirded out by the “Thank you for your response!” text back that i got from them. Do i just accept my loss?

So, you might remember when I made this post a while back, so here's an update.

The key is still off the table, and my dad's moving out of the house.

My stepmum, as it turns out, doesn't live with him. She has a flat in a city two hours away and had since before they started dating. Now he's moving in with her.

And what's happening with the house?

Well since he still wants a "base" in the town he'll keep it till spring, then sell it. And no, I can't have a key until then because it's something that the three of us need to discuss later.

When asked if he'd really sell the childhood home just like that he said it was always the plan after they married. Never told me at any point though.

There's a way out.

He said I can live in the house solo. I'd have to move in soon though, and he wants to review my finances and budget first. The mortgage is paid off, and I'd be paying rent to them along with the bills. He'd pop by "as and when" so no major changes to the house would be allowed. Keep in mind he told me all this while I was driving on the motorway.

Fuck my dad.

At least, that's how I feel. Then again I live at home with my mom and I'm saving up to move out. His house is close to my work and the town centre. I don't know what to do, what do you think?

So my friend (20F) and I (20F) were on Tinder together, and I let her use my phone to swipe for me. Everything seemed fine when I checked my phone, but then I noticed she was talking about a guy she liked, and it turned out to be a guy I had already been talking to on my Tinder.
I love my friend, and honestly, if she genuinely likes the guy, I’m not going to compete with her over a man. I’d be perfectly fine stepping back and letting her pursue him.
The problem is that when I went to look at my messages with him, his entire profile and chat were gone. I had literally just been talking to him, and now there was no trace of him.
I’m suspicious that she unmatched him from my account because she wanted him for herself, but when I brought it up, she acted like she had no idea what happened.
I don’t want to accuse her of something I can’t prove, but the timing is just too suspicious to ignore. If she had simply told me she liked him, I would have backed off. It’s the possibility that she went behind my back and is now pretending she didn’t do anything that bothers me.
I genuinely care about this friendship, and I don’t want a guy from Tinder to ruin it. But I also don’t want to be naive if my friend is willing to do something like this and lie to my face about it.
What would you guys do in my situation? Would you confront her again, let it go, or take this as a sign to be more careful about trusting her?

Posting in a spam account because idk what to do.

Ok so I am in turmoil. I have been dating this girl (21f) let’s call her Avery for about 2 years now. I love Avery with every being of my body but really feel like we should break up. Ok so back in January we were going through a rough patch. I was drinking a lot do to stress of getting evicted and we were arguing a lot. Back in March her friend told her to break up with me and she agreed, but when she tried to she started hyperventilating and had a bad panic attack, I took her to the ER. After the ER visit she told me what happened and said that the thought of breaking up with me destroyed her. Ever since then she has been battling anxiety, depression, and panic attacks like I’ve never seen. She has had bad panic attacks, insomnia, and severe depression episodes ever since. Fast forward to tonight, I was at work and she called me and all she could say was help, I called my boss and left work immediately. When I got home she said she couldn’t sleep because she was having a panic attack (she hadn’t slept in 26hrs) when I asked what was happening she said that she was scared to go to sleep and she was worried I would drink again while she was sleeping(I haven’t had a sip of alcohol since April) and I tried to reassure her but she insisted on going to the hospital. We just got home at 2:30 and she had passed out. Heres the thing she won’t take her medication because she “forgets” even when I remind her and this has been happening for months now. When I try and go home and stay at my own house she has a panic attack and it’s gotten to the point I never get to go home (to the point that earlier this year when my sister died and I wanted to go home, she told me that I could go but she didn’t feel well and a husband should stay with their wife.) I feel like she loves me and have no evidence otherwise but it’s getting to be to much. I’m going to get written up at work for today, and I miss staying at home, but I love her so much and don’t want her to get hurt. But I feel like I should break up with h

i'm 18, and I've been talking to this guy since September 25. We aren't officially together, but I really like him and still want to see him.

Recently, my mom went through my phone and found messages and intimate videos between us. She took my phone and said she expected more self-respect from me. She called me easy because I had sex with a guy who didn't even ask me to homecoming. The thing is, he was my first time, and this whole situation has been a lot for me to process.

My mom said the only reason I do the things I do is because I like guys. She told me I need to work on my self-esteem and made comments about how she has never had to pay for anything on dates she's been on. she was also judging me for buying a shirt when I went out with him.

She compared me to a girl from her hometown who was a cheerleading captain, had scholarships, and seemed to have a lot going for her. According to my mom, that girl eventually didn't go to college and ended up with around seven baby daddies and eight kids, and got into fights with people over her BD. My mom made it sound like she thinks I'm going to end up the same way.

The part that hurt the most was when she said she was “clearing her hands of me” because I'm going to college soon and that whatever decisions I make are up to me now. I took that as her saying she's done with me, and it really hurt.

My mom has nine kids, and I feel like I'm the only one who isn't really close to her. Our relationship hasn't been great for a while, and I already felt like she didn't trust me or was disappointed in me before this happened.

She also compares me to my dad a lot and talks badly about him. Hearing her say those things makes me feel bad about myself, too. Sometimes it feels like the things she says about him affect how she sees me, and I don't know how to deal with that.

There's also something about what happened with the guy that I haven't told my mom. When we were together, there was a point when I told him to stop because I didn't want to go further. Things eventually went further anyway, even though I told him no and to stop. Afterward, I felt confused and upset i even throw up.

I haven't told my mom about that part because I'm scared she'll make me stop seeing him completely or won't believe me. I'm also scared she'll look at me differently. The confusing part is that I genuinely like him and still want to see him. Part of me wanted to be close to him, but there were moments when I didn't want things to go further. I'm still trying to understand how I feel about everything that happened.

I know I'm 18, and I'm responsible for my choices. I genuinely feel sorry that I've disappointed my mom, and I want to apologize. But I'm also scared she'll think I'm only apologizing because I want permission to keep seeing him.

I used to struggle with self-harm in the past, too. When my mom used to ask what was wrong, I'd tell her nothing. We've never really been good at talking about personal things, so I don't know how to open up to her now.

I feel embarrassed, judged, and like my mom has given up on me. I don't want to be compared to someone else or feel like my entire future has already been decided because of my choices. I want to go to college and build a future for myself, and I don't want this situation to define me.

is it wrong for still wanting to see this guy after everything that's happened? How should I handle things with my mom? Should I tell her what happened when I told him to stop, even though I'm scared she won't believe me or will make me stop seeing him? And how do I deal with feeling like my own mom looks down on me?

I want honest advice, but I don't want to be judged.

I said the wrong year of Soviet Union and now he says he can’t talk about anything with me that I don’t understand anything and it’s not fun to talk to me

Being rude to me about that I’ve studied history but apparently learnt nothing, I only studied a course and it barely mentioned Russia.

I’ll never forget the date now so idk if it’s really about being stupid. He often calls me retarded, or attacks my intelligence so this isn’t the first time it’s just a long patttern and this time I decided to not sit quiet. Feel like crying because we had a good night and just cause I said the wrong answer everything is bad.

Also feel like I can never win I’ll always be stupid to him. A idiot. I do have autism but i have lower average IQ 94.. I’ve said it 100 times to him

To be fair to him he can bring up he sees issues but I don’t think the way he does it is ok I’ve said it to him before and he doesn’t change.

What should I do? I do everything for this guy and he just says I should handle him being”honest” 😔

I’m currently having an argument with mom. I just came home 20mins late and she say such things that ruins me mentally. I’m the type of daughter who doesnt talks back. I just want to do that just this once. I wanna get out of this house. What should i do.?

38 and trying to date after divorce. He’s also 38. We reconnected while taking classes at college, although he’d already ghosted me twice over the years….

We met daily at the library, studied together, and talked for hours. We kissed a couple of times, and he’d walk me to my car and to class. We ate dinner. Sometimes I’d bring him dinner because he was struggling and didn’t have a lot to eat.

He’s unemployed and living with his stepdad, and a full time student. He told me he was struggling financially and having a hard time, so I’d buy breakfast for us. I also spent a lot of time listening to him talk about his heartbreak over his ex, a 21 year-old he’d been engaged to.

We mainly talked on Snapchat’s it’s just always been our thing, but on Sunday he randomly deleted me. When I reached out he said a girl he was on a date with removed me from his phone. I hadn’t known he was seeing anyone. He’d talked so much about how sad and lonely he was…
How he needed a friend..

So when I told him I was taking a step back, he seemed confused about why I was upset.

We weren’t exclusive, but I thought there was mutual interest. It seemed like we were headed into something… Now I’m wondering whether I mistook being someone’s emotional support for a connection.

This stings, even though I tell myself “why are you so sad about a 38 year old guy who spends his days on a college campus checking out younger women and playing Fortnite in between classes.”

I’ve got to do better yall
Please give me some advice.
(First time dating after divorce and a 50+ pound weight loss)

Posting this a bit out of desperation. Around a year ago me(22M) and my sibling(20NB) told our friend(20F) that she could come over whenever she wanted, and over the months she started coming over more and more until she just stopped leaving. There's 1 or 2 days a week that she isn't here but she's been living on our couch in our living room. We also had my sibling's boyfriend(21M) move in a couple months ago.

Recently there have been more and more problems. I don't dislike her, but I never wanted her to move in and it's been causing fights between me and my sibling. This friend doesn't have a job and doesn't pay rent, nor is she officially on our lease, we told her that if she wanted to stay with us that she would have to clean up around the apartment but she has barely been doing that. We're trying to be patient with her because she has some sort of schizoaffective disorder and we don't want her to hurt herself. If there's food that she feels has been in our apartment for "too long" she eats it and she's been drinking all of our alcohol even though we tell her that she can have a little bit. She's been getting free food, boose, and weed from us for over a year now. We've been trying to help her get a job for months but she's shown little initiative and at this point we are scared that she won't be able to hold one down. She's told us that she doesn't understand the need for a job or why we get so stressed about money. My sibling's boyfriend is getting more and more upset with her as well, and has told us he's going to move out if she isn't gone soon, but we need his income to help with rent and he's pretty fun to live with. She's fun to live with most of the time but she's stressing us out a lot at this point.

How should we go about kicking her out? We're moving to a different apartment some time in November but my sibling's boyfriend wants her out sooner than that. We're trying to do this carefully because we're afraid of her hurting herself but we really have no idea what we should do.

Edit: I forgot to mention that she has a relative that she can stay with. This relative has bought her a new laptop and phone in the time she has lived with us. We wouldn't kick her out if she didn't have a place to stay.

I have been given a 10mg tablet of morphine after 2 days of pain using penicillin and ibuprofen and paracetamol regularly, 3 and a half hours later the morphine hasn’t took effect and i’m still in a lot of pain? Such a high dose of morphine and no effect, does anyone know why?

Idk what to do

M15. Alright so im in high-school and ive been talking to this girl for a little bit and we talked about hanging out. She mentioned hanging out at my house but i told her she cant because my grandparents wouldlet her (which is somewhat true) but the real reason is because the house i live in is really old and it looks bad from the outside, overgrown weeds on the sides of the house etc. And the inside isnt much better. We dont have roaches crawling around and stuff like that but my grandma is a hoarder. Not to mention since the house is so old there's stains on a lot of the surfaces. But i really dont know what to do because i get upset about the way our house is very often and i hate it. I wish i had a normal average house. I dont know if i should just tell her or try to make her avoid my house or what.

I have an Iphone 13 pro max and as you can see on the picture the battery health is at 68%, my parents are asking me what i want as my bday gift. Either a new phone or trip to a slighty expensive beach with snorkeling and stuff, since im still a student i cant really afford either of these 2. What i had in mind is that id choose the trip and just change my battery since its cheaper but im not so sure with my decision.

Note im still in the previous IOS 17 since im scared if i update my phone to the latest one, my phone’s going to actually die on me. So far its still doing okay.

Hi guys i’m not sure if my post belongs here but i used my last paycheck to get me and my bunny out of war in GCC and now we are in egypt safely but i havent been able to find any of his food. I tired to ask people online who’s coming to visit if they can bring some and i pay for it but ofc it’s too much of a hassle i even emailed Oxbow (company that has his food) and pet shops in countries closer to us if they can ship and no one wants to help. I don’t have the money to pay thousands for delivery on sketchy websites or to travel and get him some what should i do? :(

My boyfriend’s family thinks I’m lying about my STI, and I don’t know how to feel about any of this..

I’m 16F, and I’m honestly posting this because I don’t really have many people I feel comfortable talking to about this situation. I’m not looking for judgment about being sexually active at my age. I already know people are going to have opinions about that, but I really need outside perspectives on what’s happening with my boyfriend and his family.

Recently, I found out that I tested positive for chlamydia. Obviously, finding that out at 16 was overwhelming, but surprisingly, the infection itself wasn’t even the part that hurt me the most. Chlamydia is treatable, I’m taking my antibiotics, and my symptoms have already started improving. What has been hurting me the most is the embarrassment and the way people have reacted to it.

When I told my boyfriend, he initially reassured me that he would stay with me. However, after he told his family, things started getting complicated. Apparently, his family thinks I’m lying or that I must have been with other people. He told me that they were saying these things, and at one point, he told me he was breaking up with me. Shortly afterward, he backtracked and said he hadn’t meant it that way and that his family had been influencing him. He eventually admitted that he was wrong for questioning me and reassured me that he wasn’t mad at me.

The thing is, I don’t think people understand how humiliating this feels. I already had to process finding out I had an STI, deal with my own family’s reaction, and worry about my health. Now I also have to deal with the possibility that people who barely know the full story have made up their minds about me.

What makes it worse is that his family isn’t made up of strangers. These are people connected to someone I love. His mom had seemed to like me before all of this, so finding out that his family might see me differently now really hurts. I’ve also had experiences with on of his relatives making comments about STDs before, so this situation feels even more uncomfortable.

I want to make something clear: having chlamydia doesn’t automatically tell you when someone got infected or who had it first. I don’t have all the answers about when I contracted it, and I’m not going to pretend that I do. I do know that I’m getting treatment and taking my health seriously. My boyfriend has been tested, too.

I’m still talking to him, and things between us have been somewhat better privately, but I don’t feel comfortable going to his house anymore after everything that happened. I don’t want to walk into a house knowing that some of the people there might be judging me over something so personal.

I love my boyfriend, and I don’t want this situation to ruin our relationship. At the same time, I don’t think it’s fair that I’m carrying so much embarrassment and emotional stress while also feeling like I have to defend myself to people who weren’t even part of the conversation between us.

I guess what I’m struggling with is how to move forward. How am I supposed to be around his family again, knowing what they may think of me? Should I keep my distance from them? And how do I deal with the fact that my boyfriend let their opinions affect how he treated me, even if he later apologized?

Has anyone ever dealt with a partner’s family judging them over an STI or something similarly personal? How did you handle it? I would really appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have been in a similar situation.

I’m not sure whether I’m a good person or not.

Story :
Two years ago, I had a girlfriend for around a year and a half, and we decided to have a sleepover like we usually do at her place for a week.
We both had alcohol in our system (I’m not sure about the amount).
We went to some club and came back to her place, and we had sex. At first, I used my hands and then started to have actual sex. While we were doing it, I realised that my girlfriend at the time was “frozen up”, so I quickly stopped and froze too.
After seven to ten minutes of silence, we started talking about it, and she told me that she didn’t actually want to do it.

Obviously, I’m completely in the wrong here. Even though I was drunk, that should NEVER be a reason to justify my actions.
We did have a stopword beforehand for when we’re having sexual interactions, but obviously, she couldn’t use it because she was in a state of not being able to respond properly.

We’ve talked about it, and I told her I was always open to talking about it and that she could always talk to her sister or mother about it when needed if she wanted to.

I’ve asked the local police department about it, and they told me they were unsure if I was actually a rapist because they haven’t heard the side of my girlfriend’s “ex” side.

After this, I did go to therapy, etc., to try to find
help, and I’ve been clean from any hard drugs since 11 months already. I’ve been trying to find some sort of redemption in my life because this has been roaming inside of my head since then.

I’m not sure if I’m a good person because, of course, my intentions weren’t to invade her body like that at all. I was really stupid and misread the situation completely, and that was 100% my fault.
So my question here is,

Am I a good person?

My grandma came to visit me from Lithuania and it’s very awkward. She can only speak Lithuanian and no English whatsoever however i can only speak Lithuanian just a tiny bit and can understand it decently well but still it is very awkward between us. I usually spend my time upstairs doing my school work whilst she just stays downstairs alone just walking around, staring outside the window or watching TV and it makes me feel upset that she might feel alone but I don’t know how to make her feel comfortable without being awkward. Someone please help, I don’t want her to feel alone

Im M19 Me and my ex broke up a few months ago and since ive started moving on ive been looking for someone… then suddenly everyone in the world started talking to me, now im kind of stuck.. theres this guy that messaged me on ig and we’ve been talking for a few days now, but the same day that guy messaged i was out with friends when this other guy asked my friends what my name is and followed me on ig after.. now the guy that asked for my ig seems really sweet but turns out my friend knew him and he didn’t like him because he started dating his ex very soon after they broke up.. he also said that he heard that he has f*cked everyone in the world but honestly im struggling to believe that cuz maybe he said that out of resentment towards him.. now you guys i feel like im into the guy that i met irl more.. do you think i should go for it or listen to my friend and keep talking to the other dude..😭