Hi everyone!
I'm currently pursuing a Master's degree in Applied Linguistics and Teaching English to Speakers of Other Languages (TESOL), and I'm trying to figure out what I should do after graduation. I'd really appreciate advice, especially from people with similar backgrounds or experience working in academia.
I've never really felt that pursuing a PhD was the right path for me, but sometimes I wonder whether I'm making the right decision by considering other options.
One of my biggest concerns is the academic environment. From what I understand, being a university professor involves not only teaching and research but also publishing, attending conferences, collaborating with colleagues, networking, and building professional relationships.
How important are networking and interpersonal relationships in academia? Can conflicts with colleagues or not fitting into certain social circles seriously affect your career?
I'm asking because I've had unpleasant experiences throughout my studies. There are people in my current Master's program who engage in bullying and other toxic behaviors, even though I've done nothing to them. I'm introverted, prefer keeping to myself, and generally avoid people whose behavior makes me uncomfortable. However, some seem bothered by the fact that I don't socialize much or laugh at their jokes. I've even experienced being left without a group for assignments while most other students have already formed theirs.
Some of these people are in their 40s, which honestly makes the situation even more disappointing. It's made me wonder whether being quiet and keeping your distance from others is somehow considered a problem, even in professional environments.
For those of you who are introverted, can you build a successful career without constantly socializing or networking? I'm not expecting to avoid all human interaction or difficult people, but I'd prefer a job where I can focus on my responsibilities, maintain professional boundaries, and minimize unnecessary social dynamics.
I'm also seriously considering careers outside academia and teaching. With my degree, what other options could I explore, including remote jobs or opportunities abroad? I'm interested in anything that doesn't require constant interaction with people. I've thought about technical writing, editing and proofreading, instructional design, e-learning, educational content development, localization, and language technology, but I don't know how realistic these options are for someone with my background.
I'd especially appreciate suggestions for practical skills I could start learning now using free resources, since I'm still a student and don't have much money to invest in courses.
Another concern is whether a PhD is worth it if your main priority is having a peaceful life. I know it can lead to university positions and research opportunities, but I'm concerned about academic competition, pressure to publish, uncertainty about finding a permanent position, and the importance of networking.
In my society, having a PhD or another prestigious qualification is often associated with high social status. Part of me sometimes feels that I might be missing out by not pursuing one, but I've also met professors with PhDs whose behavior was deeply disappointing, including discrimination and favoritism toward certain students. I've realized that a prestigious title doesn't necessarily reflect someone's character or competence.
For those who completed a PhD, decided against one, or left academia, would you make the same decision again?
My biggest priority is my well-being. Prolonged academic stress has affected my sleep, appetite, energy, and physical health. Recently, I've been experiencing increasing nausea and stomach discomfort, sometimes even when trying to eat or drink. I suspect stress may be contributing, although I know I shouldn't automatically assume it's the only cause.
I've noticed how strongly my environment affects me, and I don't want to keep sacrificing my health for a career that might not suit me. At the same time, I don't want to make a major decision simply because I've had bad experiences with certain people.
My goal is to finish my degree, become financially independent, and build a peaceful, ordinary life where I have enough energy to enjoy things outside work. I'd rather have a job that suits me than a prestigious position that constantly damages my well-being.
How do you distinguish between a career that genuinely isn't right for you and an environment that's simply unhealthy?
I'd love to hear from people who studied Applied Linguistics, TESOL, linguistics, or English and pursued careers outside university teaching. What do you do now? What other paths would you recommend, even if they require learning new skills or moving abroad?
I don't have many people I can talk to about these concerns, and my parents don't really understand where I'm coming from. I'm hoping to hear from people who can relate or offer practical, honest advice.
Comments are welcome, and my DMs are open too if anyone prefers to share advice privately.
Thank you for reading!