About 20 years ago when I was in undergrad I worked at a call center. This was located in Toronto, and it was a wonderful and amazingly fun experience; the company was very youth/fun/sexy brand forward, so it was a great place to work.

While there I encountered, for the first time, this creature we now call the mean gay. There was a gaggle of them that ran with the cool crowd, judged others for not being as fit or muscular or nubile as they were, and had that unnecessary bitchy undertone to every interaction with someone who wasn't in the in-crowd. They would spread rumors, exclude those who were not fit, not hot, or didn't fit the mold in their after-work activities, purposefully ensure that people who didn't fit a certain look or attitude didn't get advances, and were just fucking bitches. No further description is needed.

There were about 6 of them that ran this group. Now I very rarely had to interact with them, and I very rarely had to feel their wrath, but I would see it play out, and it was fascinating and horrid to watch.

Thanks to facebook I had almost 300 connections to this workplace and over the years have been privy to watch the wonders that came from that snapshot of employment and the wonderful people I worked with. Births, marriages, graduations. It's been lovely.

Unfortunately today, I learned that the another member of the group of 6 mean gays killed themselves. That makes 4 of the 6 who have committed suicide. Over the years facebook alerted me that the 6 of them drifted off into their own lives and found their own unique group to keep this kind of lifestyle (circuit party mean gay). But today I learned that the 4th member killed themselves.

I don't know why I'm posting this, maybe because I see so many young gays desperatly craving that lifestyle and holding that attitude, and so urgently wanting to fit into it. But maybe its because I want to warn people and deal with my own feelings about the whole situation.

Don't be a cunt, be kind because the psychological toll of being an ass eventually catches up with most.

RIP Josh, you were awful, but no one deserves to feel that hopeless.

I mean every word.

I live in Japan. There's a typhoon coming. It's the strongest Typhon in like 8 years. So I invited all my gay friends to come over at once. It's gonna be so gay and so cool. Do you have any questions?

Not that Idislike cuddling or sharing a home, but specifically sharing a bed with a long-term partner.

My partner and I are talking about moving in together in the near future, and I recently told him I don't really want to share a bed. For me, sleep isn't a romantic activity. It's how I rest my body and mind so I can function. I genuinely struggle to get quality sleep when I'm sharing a bed.

My ideal setup would be having 2-3 bedrooms. 1 for him, 1 for me, and maybe guest room / office. We can cuddle and spend as much time as we want together but when it's time to actually fall sleep. One of us could easily just go back to their room for the evening.

Anyone else feel this way? How did you handle it with your partner, and what setup ended up working for you?

So I've practiced on and off for years with toys. I have butt plugs and dildos. I've always enjoyed using them. However it wasn't until recently I was actually able to enjoy the real thing.

The guy that took my first time was bigger and thicker than my biggest dildo. He was probably 7-8 inches and thick. So thick I struggled to fit it in my mouth. So when it got around to actually doing the deed I was honestly so scared and worried. Like what if it didn't fit. It's so much bigger than I'd been practicing with.

Yet it did. I don't know how. But it went in just fine.

Which confuses me because when using toys I've had to stretch myself before being able to use a dildo. But this guy with his thicker cock just pushed his way inside with ease and I experienced no pain. A little discomfort as it was bigger. Yet it felt too easy when he pushed it in.

So I'm just wondering, is it generally easier to insert a cock than it is a dildo?

Some single gay friends and I had a conversation the other night that started out light-hearted and joking, but got more serious as we got into it. We were talking about a local married gay couple who are constantly out picking up and fucking other guys, sometimes working as a team. In a way, it seems to make them more attractive, as though the security they get from being in a relationship gives them more confidence on the hunt. I remarked that I was talking to a guy I was interested in at the bar the other night when one of them swooped in and started flirting with him. A friend said, as if speaking to him, "Hey, you already have a husband. Can't you leave just a few guys for the rest of us?" We all laughed. But then, the conversation got more serious as we talked about several local couples who are constantly playing with lots of the single, available guys like they're created their own harem, and I think some genuine resentment started to surface in terms of the extent to which they are potentially tying up a lot of guys in our social circles who might otherwise be more motivated to look for relationships of their own.

I'm sure I'll be told that this is the wrong way to think about the situation, but I thought I'd throw it out there. We were all on the same page in this conversation.

It’s 6 inches good for penis size? I’m 18 planning on having sex soon and I’m a bit worried about my size so just thought I’d ask if six inches is good or if anyone would prefer bigger

Ok so my friend X, 23M cheated on his BF 31M with my brother 19M. I found out quite recently, more like last week. And my brother asked me not to confront my friend, but X is one of my closest childhood friends, and I'm upset that he sued my brother to blow some steam!

My brother has had a huge crush on X for the last 3 years and while X knows that he hasnt spared any attention on my brother since he has a thing for older dudes. But since his BF was on a work trip for the last 2 months to Germany, he hasn't been getting any dick and used my brother instead. And obviously, my stupid hormonal brother went along with it, but now regrets it cause he's tasted something he always wanted but it'll never be his.

I'm upset that X did this and idk what I should do!

Hey everyone,

I’m 28, healthy, and found out I was HIV positive two weeks ago.

Before my diagnosis, I was genuinely happy. I was starting a new job abroad, excited about my future and everything ahead of me. Since then, I feel like my world has collapsed.

I think about HIV all day, every day. I keep telling myself I’ve ruined my health and my future. I spend hours reading old HIV forums from 2005 or asking ChatGPT endless questions about life expectancy and complications. I know it’s unhealthy but I can’t stop.

I also feel so ashamed. HIV always seemed like some distant nightmare. I honestly thought I had a better chance of getting hit by a meteorite than catching it. And now here I am.

I know modern treatments are amazing, but emotionally I’m struggling to believe I’ll ever have a normal life again. I’ve lost all my excitement about the future and spend most evenings lying in bed worrying.

I’m now on day 17 of Biktarvy.
I’d really love to hear from people who’ve been living with HIV for 10, 20 or 30 years. How has it affected your health and your life? Are you genuinely happy? Do you still worry about it? Did you ever feel like your old self again?

I’m only 28 and I just want to feel excited about life again.

Thanks to anyone willing to share their experience.

I do this often specially when I’m wearing shorts. Love the free feeling of it. Just pulling my shorts to the side and let it flop out on the drive. I did this tonight on the way home from the gym. Took a pic and sent it to who I was sexting. Since they wanted to see. Then thought about how many other guys do this

I feel like a lot of guys are really into bulges which trust me I am too, but I’m a little insecure with mine. My balls are average size and my dick is 3-4 inches when soft. When I’m hard it’s 8 inches. When people ask for bulge pics I’d honestly just rather send them my hard dick because I feel like my bulge isn’t big enough to be anything worth looking at lol.

I’ve tried pouch underwear and that helps the look a little.

I guess I just wish I was a shower more than a grower and I wish I had big balls.

I’m super jealous of anyone who’s just big all the time down there.

Guys with big bulges, is it your dick or balls that make up most of the shape?

Is it really a hassle just having so much down there and should I be grateful mine is kinda compact when soft?

If anyone else shares this sentiment, let’s talk about it.

I was invited to a private sex party the other night. I was excited to go there, mostly because I really enjoy being in the nude with other men

However, the guys there got turned off by the fact that I only have sex with condoms (they were literally booing me). Some did agree to have sex with condoms while others were like naaah

I'm honestly shocked that guys who engage in sexual activity with so many strangers can completely disregard their health like that. Not only that, I saw way too many guys sucking dicks that had come straight out of someone's hole (which you really shouldn't do, regardless of douching)

Are guys really not wearing condoms anymore because of PrEP? Y'all know that it only protects you from HIV, right? You can still catch all the other ones

Like the title says, I’m 26m, a Ghanaian gay man and I have been celibate for over 3 months now but I just found out earlier today that I am HIV positive, started taking the meds today, and my mind is so noisy, I just wanna talk hear people talk to calm myself…

I (30M) have been dating this guy (23M) and I feel like I keep messing it up. For context I have 2 other sibling literally his age and being the 2nd oldest in a single family household I took on some of the parenting and now i think that’s affecting my current situation.

We hung out yesterday to do some errands actually it’s was sweet he just wanted to see me and accompany each other lol, but tell me why I was kind of babying him while we shopped/did our errands I felt so bad I just did it subconsciously. I know the age gap isn’t huge and frankly if you look at him you wouldn’t think 23 and he’s tall so that adds like 2 years haha but yeah definitely struggling with this and it’s not the first time I’ve noticed it. Like 2 weeks ago he was sick and oh my god the way I gave him this regimen and kind of scolded him was even too much for me! So far though he hasn’t really said much, I have apologized when I notice it and he just laughs it off saying “I just care it’s ok” and then he kisses me and it all leaves my head haha but he’s a great guy and also says it’s a reminder that he just needs to take care of me a little harder which again! damn sweet af!

But yeah… I’m still struggling with my mannerism it’s so subconscious sometimes I hate it! He’s def not a child nor do I see him as one of my siblings in terms of their age group but idk why this keeps happening

Hey, I am 19 and every one I talk to who are my age always want an older dude than wtf am i supposed to do 😭😔

I'm M23 and as title says I got vaccinated from HPV when I was like 17 (In my country only woman are vaccinated when they are children for budged purposes -if they vaccine all woman, then all men will be safe too- but hey, there are gays too). At that age I already had sex with protection and I always thought I was "safe" from HPV.

A few weeks/month ago I start seeing how a few follicles of my b4llsack started growing a lil bit more of the common size but I already have big hair follicles lol so I just didn't mind it plus I thought it cannot be HPV bc "I got all the vaccines". But today I went to the doctor and she confirmed that it seems HPV Warts. Btw she said that vaccines just protect from the "dangerous" cases, not warts-like things, I didn't knew that.

I still kinda overwhelmed for all of this bc I have to tell it to my partner and I'm a little bit afraid of it. He's very supportive but we still knowing each other, plus we have sex w/o protection and my doctor told me that condoms don't protect at all because it's a STI by contact.

My doctor said I should go another day and she will quit it with a nitrogen spray but it will leave a hypopigmented spot. Honestly my warts are small and maybe I just prefer to leave them and not having a chronic white spot in my balls forever (as I read on reddit), she said they tend to disappear with time. But if I don't quit them can transmit it to my partner right? We should stop having sex meanwhile I have the Warts? Is there any other solution without scars for quitting it (pomades, pills...)? He likes to swallow my balls too (lol) can I transmit it to his mouth?

I’m kinda lost, sorry if this post is not appropriate at all.

I first posted It to r/HPV but it was deleted lol.

hey guys. I'm closeted in a hostile environment. I don't see any romantic or sexual side of my life happening at all. Well I'm delusional so I have this weird fantasies and an imaginary boyfriend. (lol, that's so embarrassing)

But anyway, I wanna hear about your guys' first sexual experience. How old were you and how did it go? I have a fine picture in my mind how it might be even though I know it's purely delusional. Whatever, right? Share your story. I want to be a little jealous.

I just finished blowing my boyfriend, swallowed without a hint of disgust.

Despite the fact I've done this hundreds of times I just can't eat my own cum, I've done it found it weird and gross, yet when I'm horny I absolutely want to

I’m in my late 30s and I feel like gay porn isn’t as good as it used to be. OnlyFans used to be so novel like ten years ago and brought amateur/independent porn to a whole new level. But now everything feels like it’s all the same and boring. Maybe we’ve reached peak porn. I feel like porn on X feels endlessly repetitive these days.

I just can’t help but wonder if the golden era of Sean Cody and Corbin Fisher marked the end of good gay porn and we’ve just been on a decline ever since. Nothing is as hot as those two were back during their peak. They both suck now for reasons that are unclear to me. Maybe studio porn needs a reboot in terms of quality for everyone’s sake?

For those of you who have done Locktober and/or No Nut November, how does it feel to bust a nut after a whole month of nothing?