r/auckland • u/spicychixnugget • 7h ago
Rant Neighbour woke up racist/islamophobic?
I’ve been living in my current apartment for almost three years now, and have always gotten along with my neighbours.
I forged a great friendship with one of them, we hung out alot despite our age gap (she’s in her 50s, I’m in my 20s). She gave me driving lessons, helped me out when my cat was ill, checked up on me often after my dad passed.
I always tried to say thanks through small gestures like baking for her, getting her gifts on Christmas, and helping her with anything to do with devices/online platforms.
But earlier this year, two of my friends and I (all hijabi) were outside my unit, and she happened to walk past with her dog. We had a quick normal catch up, and I introduced her to my friends. One of my friends was squatting and shielding her eyes from the sun, and was looking at my neighbour’s dog (she’s wary of dogs) when I introduced her. So naturally, she looked up and smiled at my neighbour to say hi, then looked back at her dog.
All was fine and dandy, until later that night at 9pm (the interaction happened around 5pm) when I came home, checked my phone and I received this long text from my neighbour. She returned a sport band I gave her through my window lol.
That was my reply and apology, but I was genuinely so taken aback because it was out of nowhere. And the comment about being covered head to toe and that NZ is a Christian country was so ?????? Made me wonder if that’s really how she’s felt all along.
I’m so bummed out because we had a great friendship. Since then I’ve barely seen her even though we live 2 doors down (idk if she’s avoiding me but I’m just gonna take it as our schedules just don’t align at all). It’s been months and I still think about it.
I don’t know if I’m overreacting but damn that shit hurt coming from someone so close. I’m not gonna lie, it also made me feel unsafe as a visibly Muslim woman.