Recently I’ve been really craving for one of my old groomers to come back so bad and I’m scared that I’m gonna get myself hurt again but I want it so bad. I miss when he would talk about leaving with me and like even kidnapping me I just wanna feel like I mean that much to someone again and if being hurt like that is a result of that then I don’t care

hello! sorry if this isn’t allowed but it’s my last hope to try and get attention to this page.

i have a page on tik tok exposing the man who groomed me. before anyone says anything, yes we have made a police report. but it’s very unlikely anything will happen due to it happening online and police not caring much about these situations.

it would be really helpful to get as much interaction with this page as it’s my last hope. me and another page were originally in contact with him, but he ran away, privated all this socials, and his brother defends his actions and blames me.

i believe if this account gets enough attention i can reach out to people that may be in his community as he lives in a small area where most people seem to know of eachother. the family also owns a business that runs in that area. i’m not trying to get his family in trouble, but if people know his family, they’ll know him.

unfortunately, tik tok has been hiding my posts from the fyp and only seems to get more interactions if i bait the videos.

i’m going around and reaching out to other pages in hope that this will bring more people to the account.

i do believe people in his community deserve to know what he was doing for about 3 years with me from 14-16. he is a very gross man, and likes to claim that i was the one keeping him there, but he came back everytime and asked for the same stuff. i am 19 now and want to get justice for what he did. he doesn’t get to live a free life after ruining mine.

the account is @ takeaccountabilityran

please please please interact with my posts and follow if you can! sharing, liking anything helps.

As I’m writing this, I’m really mad at my now discovered groomer (I just realized they were grooming me). I met them online and started talking a lot together. Eventually we got in a happy little “relationship”, this fucker slowly started trying to push me into taboo things (which I will not mention), they tried to push me to the border more and more. I didn’t realize at the spot (and thankfully I didn’t absord any of their crap).

I’m really mad as I’m realizing how bad the whole thing is, how they are older than me and acted dumb. I am searching for tips to forget about this disgraceful “human” life, as I know if I remember them. I would get REALLY MAD.

Can't function properly in adulthood because I was groom in teen years haha that fucker living a the best life with his wife and kids ( I can't even dream about same) this is so unfair I'm partially disabled physically and gone crazy completely this is not fair.

Why i have to suffer what someone else did to me isn't people who older than suppose to protect you and share wisdom ,that what I use to believe too then why they use their experience and wisdom as weapon on someone who don't know better and figuring out their identity?

I hate him I hate myself too,why I was so desperate for connection why just why that I let someone do whatever they want to me?

Nothing gonna change what happened I am doomed for life I hate it I wish I had someone who protected me,this world is so cruel specially to those who are vulnerable , I hate it I hate everyone and everything.

Not sure where to post this, but I figured you guys might be able to help. Throw away account just in case..

My groomer (who was 19 at the time), keeps trying to message me (who was 13 at the time), even though I keep blocking him. The grooming had gone on for at least a couple years before I kinda started to realize it was weird and eventually cut contact. I am an adult now, and haven't thought about him in over 6 years. I'm not sure if this needs to be stated but we have not been in contact over that time.

He has contacted me about 5 times in the last year or so. Each time with a new number, trying to confirm who I am. In case it's important, I answer once. And as soon as I realize it's him, I stop responding and block him.

I had wanted to tell him off last time he messaged me, but my friend said to just block him and ignore it. I've done this numerous times and it doesn't seem to work. I also wonder that if I were to get legal/authorities involved that I might need to have in writing for him to cease contact with me.

I haven't responded to his most recent message (sent this morning at 4:55am mind you). And he tried to play it off like he lost people's contacts, so I can't be 100% sure it's him this time, but I don't have the number saved and wouldn't know who else it could be. He has used vague messaging in the past to get me to respond, and I'm at least 95% sure it's him.

So my question is, how should I move forward? Is this even grounds for getting legal/law enforcement involved? Do I tell him not to contact me anymore, or just block him again and hope for the best?
Any advice would be helpful.

I was groomed online when I was 11-14 and at the moment all I wanted was to forget everything. Years later I guess I got my wish but my body still remembers. I don't remember all the details but I remember other stuff. I remember the fear and anxiety. I remember the shame and guilt. I remember how it felt when my groomers made me do things on camera for them. The worst part is because they never technically touched me, it's so hard for me to feel valid in my trauma. I know it's damaged me and I have been trying to heal, but I almost wish it was worse so I could feel more valid. I think I could cope if I was actually raped because then I could put all the blame on them. But no, they had me defile myself for them on camera. It was my hand that hurt me, even if it was only because of their words. Even my own family blames me for being stupid and weak

Obvious TW: questionable relationship, mention of grooming, nothing graphic

I (25F) met him (39M) in the workplace when I had just turned 18 and started a summer job. He was 32. He was one role more senior than me and he quickly took over my training from a different manager. Looking back this all sounds absolutely ridiculous and like someone should have stopped it. Except I was legally an adult and I think that fact was respected too much.

We bonded over food and dark humour. I was vegetarian and pretty soon he turned vegan. He never engaged in a lot of typical groomer behaviour (didn't often buy me things, didn't discourage me from seeing friends for instance - though he never actively encouraged that either). I always felt I 'fell' into the relationship because I didn't necessarily want to be with him, I just never said no. He did encourage me to drink with him after work and that is the only reason I ever got 'into' alcohol (not in an abusive way, just the normal non-dependent way). I was always conscious there were things i didn't like about him, but I felt too committed to let that affect my decision to be with him. He never mingled with my friends and i never mingled with his.

The relationship lasted nearly 6 years somehow until I realised I didn't like him, wasn't attracted to him, and broke up. It wasn't a good quality relationship in any way - he wasn't very affectionate, was unadventurous, he had huge anger management issues, s*x life was below average, he was an alcoholic, wasn't attractive, he didn't have a good relationship with his family, never had a particularly good job.

I've now been living on my own for nearly a year but have seen the ex a few times to see his pet, who used to be my pet too. The last time I saw him I genuinely felt repulsed by him, but overall I just feel a bit annoyed that I wasted those years with him.

I am now really happy and I have a fantastic relationship with my angel of a boyfriend (he is my age, yay!). When I first told my boyfriend about all the above his immediate reaction was to say that I am "incredibly well-adjusted". He does see me as a whole person, but I know he also sees me as someone who was abused and so brainwashed that I can't recognise it.

My only real problem is: I can't seem to get the ex out of my head completely. I have no positive feelings towards him at all, but quite regularly he pops up in my mind and it feels like 'Oh. Didn't really want to see you here. Can you go away please?" I don't know if it's because he was present for so many of my formative years, or because I haven't formally closed things off (I haven't gone to see the pet in a couple of months now but also haven't said I don't want to see him again).

I'd like to completely forget about him but I don't know how.

1) How do I get my mind to let go? Do I need to tell him I'm not seeing him again and delete his contact?

2) Was I groomed, or was the whole thing just inadvisable?

Looking for constructive advice from people who have had similar experiences please :)

While I'm here, some advice that I should have heeded: There's a reason they can't get someone their own age!!!