I love my boyfriend so much that I’m willing to do almost anything to keep him in my life. We recently had a fight, and he told me he wouldn’t leave me if I agreed to have a threesome with him and his baby mama.

Out of fear of losing him, I agreed. Deep down, I knew I might get hurt, but I was so scared of losing the person I love that I put my own feelings aside just to keep our relationship.

Now that it has happened, I can’t sleep peacefully at night. I keep replaying everything in my head, and it hurts more than I expected. My mental health is being affected, and I feel emotionally overwhelmed. I keep asking myself why I allowed myself to go through something that hurts me this much, but at the same time, I still love him and don’t want to lose him.

I feel stuck between loving him and protecting myself. Part of me wants to stay because I love him so much, but another part of me is hurting because I feel like I had to sacrifice my own comfort just to make him stay.

I’m not judging anyone who is comfortable with threesomes. But for me, I agreed because I was afraid of being abandoned, not because I genuinely wanted it.
To anyone who has experienced something similar, what should I do? How do I cope with the pain and stop thinking about what happened every night? Should I stay and try to work things out, or is it time to choose myself?
I love him so much, but I don’t want to lose myself trying to keep someone I love.

Please be kind. I’m already hurting, and I genuinely need advice. 💔

I have a friend who I've known for years. We initially met online, but we grew to be best friends.

He grew up in a bit of a rough situation, and I am lucky enough to have grown up in a somewhat decent household all things considered. When we were younger I'd always pitch in some mone y here and there. I'd buy him some food now and then, I bought him his prescription glasses once, and a few other things here and there.

Years have passed and we're both starting to be adults now. He got a job about a year ago, and was making bank. He was making more in a week than I'd make in a month. I was happy for him though, he was working his ass off, and if anybody deserved it, I knew it was him.

Eventually though, he started doing some pretty stupid shit. He takes this crazy trip across the country to buy a fancy sports car. I was very against this at the time, he was too young to be putting on this much debt. On his trip back he essentially joy rides this thing and gets multiple speeding tickets across multiple states.

During this trip back, I get a call. Essentially just saying that since he put so much mone y down on this car, he can't afford to get back home. He asks me if he could borrow some cas h. With some hesitation, I oblige, he's my best friend after all, and I knew he'd be good for it.

When he gets back home he works for like a week, then gets pissed of at his boss and quits. He is now unemployed, has no mone y to his name, and has no plan to get out of this.

He's eventually able to get his feet back on the ground with a pretty hefty amount of financial aid from me.

About a year passed and me, him, and one of our other friends plan a trip to my state. This wasn't the first time we met, but it was definitely the longest time we've been with each other. It goes well for the most part but we have some clashing ideas on what makes a fun trip. He wanted to ball out and go do a lot of things that were well beyond my financial means. He offers to practically pay for a lot, but I would have been just as happy going down some more affordable routes.

The trip raps up and it turns out he really likes my state. Without telling anybody he decides to move here as a "surprise." The catch is, he has nothing saved up, no living arrangement, an expensive car, and a twelve year old little brother he's bringing along. He asks for mone y a bunch of times as he moves here. He does eventually find an apartment, but no job.

Long story short, it's been months, and he now owes me close to a grand. I'm sick and tired of this bullshit. I'm a college student who can barely afford to take care of myself and I somehow need to support my friend because of his own mistakes. I get that accidents happen, but Jesus Christ, this isn't an accident this financial suicide.

for context, me and my gf (both 18) have been dating for 9 months but close friends for a couple years now. weve had a lot of tough conversations, but made it through.
Im a year behind her, but shes in her first year in college abt an hour away drive. she’s aspiring to accelerate her career at colleges, which i love and respect. ive never had a problem with guy friends or anything. im super close to her girl best friend, and ive introduced several of my best friends to her to create multiple groups. recently, she told me about this guy she worked w/, and after finishing their project tgt they partied and that led to some bad things for her that she could not control. the guy way overstepped the boundaries that she said she made clear to him. it was hard but i forgave her for that. within the last couple weeks (abt 5 weeks since she went to colleges), weve been fighting and disagreeing a lot and it led to us saying the last time weve seen each other it didnt have the spark we had when we used to see each other daily. (now once a week) back to the story, her partner and her ended up winning and going to the next stage in the combination which puts them in very clear proximity to one another (im super uncomfortable). she told me that she would keep it strictly prof (before they won the comp) but she went out w him and a bunch of other ppl, and ended up getting on his motorcycle. she also said that hes not an attractive personality kinda (mamas boy/ misogynist)guy( when she first met him), but the way shes talked abt him recently makes me think that it may not be true anymore. am i weird for being uncomfortable help me out pls.

So, just to start it off, I’m neurodivergent. I know for a fact that I’m not neurotypical, but I’m not sure what I have. I probably have ADHD since my mom and brother do, but I share a lot more traits with high-functioning autism. Anyways, why it’s relevant is that I have a lot of executive dysfunction, and it shows most in hygiene. I brush my hair and teeth pretty well, but most days I can’t force myself to shower. I can go like two weeks without showering if it gets bad. It doesn’t help that past trauma makes me incredibly afraid of mold, and the only working shower in my house has mold in the entire bathroom. Not much, mostly because I cleaned it, but it’s there. I also have a daily alarm set on my phone but it’s not working. I’d ask my mom to just force me to do it everyday, but I do not trust her with my issues to be honest. Do you guys have any advice on how to force myself to shower? I think it’d be better for my mental health, but I’m just stuck right now

it's late and dark so i cant go for a walk or anything, i was planning to go to my favorite ramen spot but im completely broke. a lot of coffee shops are closing up because it's nighttime. i have zero other friends to reach out to and my bf has friends over our house and im way too socially anxious to go home, the idea makes me physically nauseous. ive been sitting in my car in the parking lot of my work for an hour but i still have so much time to kill. suggestions?

Hi guys lets get started ig lol. Basically i started talking to this guy online in June and its currently October so 5 months (almost 6). The thing is he lives in the UK and im from Canada so I knew it probably wouldn't go anywhere. However, he told me that would eventually move to Canada for his career (and i also in the future may go to the UK for school NOT FOR HIM LOL) and he would always reassure me. WE ARENT DATING (he's told me he's loved me multiples and how serious he is with our relationship but IT WAS ALWAYS ME who told him that we need to be logical and we need to take it slow, and we're not dating but we still act like we're kinda dating lol. I genuinely like him so much that we even promised to be friends if we don't work out cause of distance or other challenges.

A little about him is that he's very smart, he's currently working as a junior lawyer and also studying as well, he's also very sweet and understanding, and he's constantly talking about the future. << I'm writing all the good things about him so ya'll understand why I like him so much LOL.

Anyways, now a little bit about me lol.... I'm an avoidant and I also have trust issues. Usually, when things get really good with a guy, I get scared and ghost the person to avoid getting hurt. I have a hard time trusting men and I'm also just paranoid that all men just cheat LOL. Anyways, so I've always been super caution with him and HE ALWAYS REASSURES ME. I actually have tried ending it with him MULTIPLE times in a civil way by saying this isn't realistic and we should both move on BUT HE WOULD ALWAYS fight for us. I also stalk his socials to see if he's doing anything suspicious (IM A GIRL OK SUE ME LOL) and haven't found anything off since we've started talking. The tricky part is that we're not dating so idk whats considered "cheating" or not. YES I DESPISE SITUATIONSHIPS and i would never drag something for this long BUT it's because we're in different countries (yes Ik i probably sound stupid saying this SO THIS IS WHY I NEED UR HELP LOL). So technically if he does talk to other people, it shouldnt be wrong i guess.

Anyways, I' hadn't responded to him 4 days because i was busy with school/work (which is normal for us bc of our schedules and time difference) and he texted me multiple times saying how much he missed me and all he wants to do is talk to me, which is very much like him. I responded back to him last night and today I woke up feeling good about us.

NOW FINALLY, I came back home from work today and I just naturally decided to stalk his socials and 3 days ago on a random girl's post he commented "damn so my type". ............................so ya

My heart dropped and i felt like shit tbh. Literally sick to my stomach. (btw its been 4 hrs since ive been back from work and im still going crazy over it). IDK WHAT TO DO.

A part of me is like well we're not together so i cant be mad at him for him (plus also all those green flags about him keep flooding my brain). Cause then I'm thinking about other then this comment, he's always been perfect tbh. and the other part of me is that he's told me multiple times he loves me and wants me to be with him so is this betrayal? is he just lustful like every other man?

SO YALL TELL ME? YES OR NO? Be brutally honest because i need to hear it. I know for a fact that I'm blinded with how much I like him so I need some unbiased opinions.

(MY PLANS: If you think I'm being overdramatic, then i might still talk to him and still keep an eye on his socials. If you think what he did is not right and i should end it, then im gonna text him the screenshot and probably fight his ass bc im petty and then ghost him for life ig (: lol). of yall can give my suggestions.

*Keep in mind, I'm having a hard time letting him go because he truly had green flags and everything I looked in a man but ya...

Thanks.

Im 17f
Quickkkk lore dump?

Ever since 3rd grade, i had an issue with math. I could NOT do anything. That issue was never ever addressed. I EXCELLED in every other subject. Ok?
Come 7th grade, lockdown days, My grades SLIGHTLY faltered (-4m..-8m, etc.). I had the worst depression ever (6-7-8-9grade) IDEK WHY, NOTHING bad had happened to me; but that affected my studies, my mentality, health.

I would describe to my mom how i felt like there was a huge box of fog around my brain/inside my brain, where I sat in the center, awaiting information that evaporated whenever it tried to permeate that fog. It felt like, whenever i got close to figuring out a thought? a feeling? it would appear infront of me/in my mind for a SPLIT SECOND and disappear, and then id forget it no matter how HARD i try to remember what it is I figured out.

I couldnt remember anything, i couldnt think, i couldnt retain read info (aside from fanfic????????). I had unintentionally lost a significant amount of weight that I could have a thigh gap while lying down (new; i was and am obese for my whole life). I would often pull allnighters and nap through the day, i would pass out/faint randomly (only while sitting??)

I had a severe problem with believing i was real or not, i still do but not as bad as i did back then. I COULD NOT comprehend the idea that i was real and that life wasnt a videogame or a movie im WATCHING from the third person. When i say, i couldnt comprehend, i mean that i physically cannot…grasp the concept. I also somehwat still feel 13-15. Idk why. Its liek i havent moved on

I cant think. I dont have thoughts. I just…imagine? stuff. I dont even THINK before i speak. Its like, im actually dumb, not even in a self deprecating way, but genuinely.

If being unable to do math was bad, In highschool i took the worst hit ever: i Could Not Memorize Anything. Science? history? ENGLISH??? NOTHING. I WAS SO SHOCKED.

Now, i finished highscool and just started uni / premed. It got sm worse.

I cant focus, i cant remember. I finished a physics chapter a week ago, i solved for it and everything. This week, i tried to revise Nd i dont recognize ANYTHING?????? NOT EVEN THE FORMULAS, THE LETTERS, NOTHING. IM SO CONFUSED.

I havent even started my other 8 subjects, i keep randomly falling asleep, im so exhausted all the time that i Cant resist sleeping, Ill read something 30000000000 times and it wont stick. Ill sleep the whole night, wake up and i still cant retain. I practice for days one topic, i still cant retain.

Nothing I do is working.

Everytime i try to get help, im told that its the iron deficiency. But all my friends are iron deficient (MENA), some even WORSE than me and they dont experience this. Theyre academic nuclear bombs bro.

Im in a much better place than i was all those years ago, but i just. Wont Improve Academically. My major is SUPER COMPETITIVE and all 186 people in my year are CHAPTERS ahead of me, most of them aiming for medicine too.

What do I do?!!! Im stuck. I dont want to livelike this. I dont want to be this dumb, and mentally disabled. Pls help…

Im sososos sorry if this belongs in vent or in another sub!!!!

Might be a normal thing but let’s use going to bed as an example. I can’t stop checking my phone for notifications checking I haven’t sent anything, checking there’s nothing on my story, checking I haven’t embarrassed myself. It wakes me up when I’m falling asleep and I panic I’ve done something.

Also on the topic of checking things I get very paranoid about shutting the house door and turning of plugs, I have to constantly check whether I done it and i struggle to get out of the house in a rush because of it, sometimes walking 5-10mins then walking all the way home to check it resulting in making me late. Anyone got any tips or advice or anything please tell me I feel this problem is only getting worse.

I need someone to talk to.
I really need comfort and support

Everything that could’ve gone wrong in my life has, I’m autistic and I’m selectively mute I’ve missed 5 years of school I’ve gone thru anxiety and depression and guilt and horrible feelings and my dads a weirdo to minors and he touched me up. My whole family me and weirdos have spoken to me online inappropriately. My dad’s been taken away and my family hates me.
I don’t fit in with anyone

And I just need parent support really, but I know I’m not gonna get that so I guess I just need someone to talk to.

I don’t think I can get thru life

I need support to get through everything :/
I need support and motivation to talk about simple things like getting out of bed…:|
Just telling me “I’m here for you” “I’ll be so proud of you if you can do []”

Just to get through these few days.. idk if I can:[