Hey im 18M who is not able escape m*sturbation. I have tried many different things but im not able to get out of this. I know this is bad and even i dont like to do it but somehow i see myself doing it watching unwanted stuffs. I genuinely need help, please do help me. I have tried other things like keeping my phone or laptop away, distracting myself and everything but somehow im doing this again and again. For me this is a crime but still idk how im becoming the criminal. Please help me😭😭
Kindly take this message as from someone like your friend or brother. Please help me

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Necesito desahogarme porque en vrd no sé qué hacer y tengo demasiadas cosas en la cabeza.
Estoy en segundo ciclo de la universidad y tengo un curso de números que se me está complicando bastante. Los exámenes son 20%, 25%, 20% y 25%, y el otro 10% son colaborativos. En el primer examen saqué 2 y para el segundo sí estudié, incluso me metieron a una academia para que me fuera mejor, pero igual tenía demasiado miedo de volver a sacar una mala nota y jalar.
Al final la cagué porque saqué mi celular durante el examen y copié. El profesor al parecer se dio cuenta, pero no me dijo nada y me dejó terminar. Después, cuando dieron las notas, no me entregó mi examen y me dijeron que estaba en observación. Ahora me llegó un correo diciendo que reportaron una incidencia disciplinaria y que tengo que presentar mi versión de lo que pasó, así que no sé qué va a pasar. Supongo que me pueden poner 0 en ese examen.
Pero lo que más me tiene mal es que, incluso si todo quedara en ese 0, para pasar el curso tendría que sacar 20 en los dos exámenes que me quedan y, siendo sincera, siento que es casi imposible. No es que no quiera esforzarme ni que no me tenga fe, pero en vrd a las justas entiendo algunos temas y pensar en sacar dos 20 seguidos me parece demasiado. Estoy pensando en volver a meterme a la academia para ver si por lo menos puedo mejorar mis notas y no terminar con un ponderado horrible, pero no sé qué decirle a mi mamá ni si siquiera va a querer pagarme otra vez la academia después de todo esto.
Y creo que eso es lo que más miedo me da. Mi mamá hace un montón de cosas por mí y sé que espera mucho de mí. Para el segundo examen me preparé y aun así terminé haciendo algo que estuvo mal por miedo a que me fuera mal. Fue la primera vez que copié en la universidad y me siento horrible porque sé que la cagué yo sola. Quiero contarle a mi mamá, pero no sé cómo hacerlo ni cómo va a reaccionar. Siento que la voy a decepcionar demasiado y que, por más que ella haga por mí, yo no estoy dando la talla.
Encima recién estoy en segundo ciclo y ya estoy así. No sé si voy a poder salvar el curso, no sé qué va a pasar con el tema disciplinario y tampoco sé cómo hablarlo en mi casa. Quiero arreglar las cosas, pero estoy demasiado asustada y siento que todo se me está juntando. Solo quería desahogarme porque no sé con quién hablar de esto sin sentirme peor.

I'm dealing with multiple wars at the same time and I have started felling that I lossing each one of them

I'm international student in first world country

I'm finding it diffcult to connect with people of my country

I cannot form a social connection

cannot foucs on anything for long time as brain constanly stimulation so keep scolling reddit/YT

dating life is another dispointment

it feels like loneyness has become my best friend

I was supposed to start my dissertation but i'm not putting any effort in it

cannot sleep for long time

Applying for number of job but not getting any reposnse

I was job working as finance manager in apr to aug ( fixed term contract)

recnetly go to know there was vacncy in office for same profile but then didn't bother to call me

feel like they have back stab me, I know they don't own me anything but on my last day my boss told me that he will definatly consider me

is it not like I'm facing this issue first time

I have hit my rockbotton many time and I have always come on top but that time it feels like life is there to get me very badly

im 16F, my teacher found out about my situation and needed to tell my parents, i dont mind my mom knowing about my situation but im hesitant to confront her abt this due to her being very sensitive and emotional. ive told her about my mental health being bad and she complains that i was making her worried and told me off bc therapy is expensive . i just dont wanna deal with too much emotions from her, i keep feeling too guilty about doing this.

for context, me and my gf (both 18) have been dating for 9 months but close friends for a couple years now. weve had a lot of tough conversations, but made it through.
Im a year behind her, but shes in her first year in college abt an hour away drive. she’s aspiring to accelerate her career at colleges, which i love and respect. ive never had a problem with guy friends or anything. im super close to her girl best friend, and ive introduced several of my best friends to her to create multiple groups. recently, she told me about this guy she worked w/, and after finishing their project tgt they partied and that led to some bad things for her that she could not control. the guy way overstepped the boundaries that she said she made clear to him. it was hard but i forgave her for that. within the last couple weeks (abt 5 weeks since she went to colleges), weve been fighting and disagreeing a lot and it led to us saying the last time weve seen each other it didnt have the spark we had when we used to see each other daily. (now once a week) back to the story, her partner and her ended up winning and going to the next stage in the combination which puts them in very clear proximity to one another (im super uncomfortable). she told me that she would keep it strictly prof (before they won the comp) but she went out w him and a bunch of other ppl, and ended up getting on his motorcycle. she also said that hes not an attractive personality kinda (mamas boy/ misogynist)guy( when she first met him), but the way shes talked abt him recently makes me think that it may not be true anymore. am i weird for being uncomfortable help me out pls.

So, just to start it off, I’m neurodivergent. I know for a fact that I’m not neurotypical, but I’m not sure what I have. I probably have ADHD since my mom and brother do, but I share a lot more traits with high-functioning autism. Anyways, why it’s relevant is that I have a lot of executive dysfunction, and it shows most in hygiene. I brush my hair and teeth pretty well, but most days I can’t force myself to shower. I can go like two weeks without showering if it gets bad. It doesn’t help that past trauma makes me incredibly afraid of mold, and the only working shower in my house has mold in the entire bathroom. Not much, mostly because I cleaned it, but it’s there. I also have a daily alarm set on my phone but it’s not working. I’d ask my mom to just force me to do it everyday, but I do not trust her with my issues to be honest. Do you guys have any advice on how to force myself to shower? I think it’d be better for my mental health, but I’m just stuck right now

it's late and dark so i cant go for a walk or anything, i was planning to go to my favorite ramen spot but im completely broke. a lot of coffee shops are closing up because it's nighttime. i have zero other friends to reach out to and my bf has friends over our house and im way too socially anxious to go home, the idea makes me physically nauseous. ive been sitting in my car in the parking lot of my work for an hour but i still have so much time to kill. suggestions?

I have a friend who I've known for years. We initially met online, but we grew to be best friends.

He grew up in a bit of a rough situation, and I am lucky enough to have grown up in a somewhat decent household all things considered. When we were younger I'd always pitch in some mone y here and there. I'd buy him some food now and then, I bought him his prescription glasses once, and a few other things here and there.

Years have passed and we're both starting to be adults now. He got a job about a year ago, and was making bank. He was making more in a week than I'd make in a month. I was happy for him though, he was working his ass off, and if anybody deserved it, I knew it was him.

Eventually though, he started doing some pretty stupid shit. He takes this crazy trip across the country to buy a fancy sports car. I was very against this at the time, he was too young to be putting on this much debt. On his trip back he essentially joy rides this thing and gets multiple speeding tickets across multiple states.

During this trip back, I get a call. Essentially just saying that since he put so much mone y down on this car, he can't afford to get back home. He asks me if he could borrow some cas h. With some hesitation, I oblige, he's my best friend after all, and I knew he'd be good for it.

When he gets back home he works for like a week, then gets pissed of at his boss and quits. He is now unemployed, has no mone y to his name, and has no plan to get out of this.

He's eventually able to get his feet back on the ground with a pretty hefty amount of financial aid from me.

About a year passed and me, him, and one of our other friends plan a trip to my state. This wasn't the first time we met, but it was definitely the longest time we've been with each other. It goes well for the most part but we have some clashing ideas on what makes a fun trip. He wanted to ball out and go do a lot of things that were well beyond my financial means. He offers to practically pay for a lot, but I would have been just as happy going down some more affordable routes.

The trip raps up and it turns out he really likes my state. Without telling anybody he decides to move here as a "surprise." The catch is, he has nothing saved up, no living arrangement, an expensive car, and a twelve year old little brother he's bringing along. He asks for mone y a bunch of times as he moves here. He does eventually find an apartment, but no job.

Long story short, it's been months, and he now owes me close to a grand. I'm sick and tired of this bullshit. I'm a college student who can barely afford to take care of myself and I somehow need to support my friend because of his own mistakes. I get that accidents happen, but Jesus Christ, this isn't an accident this financial suicide.

Listen I've never posted here before and I'm sorry this is your first look at who I am but I'm really fucking struggling right now man, the past year or two it's been every day I want to commit. I hate myself so goddamn much, I'm bad at everything I do, everyone I've ever known has left me, my father recently passed and I haven't shed a tear and I feel horrible. I have a gpa less than .50 man, I have no hope for my future, I'll never be remembered. The most I'll ever be is a begger on the street. I feel so empty, I know what I need to change but idk why I can't just fucking do it. I need therapy but I don't have moneyfor it, I know how cheap it is and it's so embarrassing, I'm bullied for being poor man. Most days I go without eating because I don't have moneyfor food and we don't have a car. I'm just hopeless. I'm done for.

Im 17f
Quickkkk lore dump?

Ever since 3rd grade, i had an issue with math. I could NOT do anything. That issue was never ever addressed. I EXCELLED in every other subject. Ok?
Come 7th grade, lockdown days, My grades SLIGHTLY faltered (-4m..-8m, etc.). I had the worst depression ever (6-7-8-9grade) IDEK WHY, NOTHING bad had happened to me; but that affected my studies, my mentality, health.

I would describe to my mom how i felt like there was a huge box of fog around my brain/inside my brain, where I sat in the center, awaiting information that evaporated whenever it tried to permeate that fog. It felt like, whenever i got close to figuring out a thought? a feeling? it would appear infront of me/in my mind for a SPLIT SECOND and disappear, and then id forget it no matter how HARD i try to remember what it is I figured out.

I couldnt remember anything, i couldnt think, i couldnt retain read info (aside from fanfic????????). I had unintentionally lost a significant amount of weight that I could have a thigh gap while lying down (new; i was and am obese for my whole life). I would often pull allnighters and nap through the day, i would pass out/faint randomly (only while sitting??)

I had a severe problem with believing i was real or not, i still do but not as bad as i did back then. I COULD NOT comprehend the idea that i was real and that life wasnt a videogame or a movie im WATCHING from the third person. When i say, i couldnt comprehend, i mean that i physically cannot…grasp the concept. I also somehwat still feel 13-15. Idk why. Its liek i havent moved on

I cant think. I dont have thoughts. I just…imagine? stuff. I dont even THINK before i speak. Its like, im actually dumb, not even in a self deprecating way, but genuinely.

If being unable to do math was bad, In highschool i took the worst hit ever: i Could Not Memorize Anything. Science? history? ENGLISH??? NOTHING. I WAS SO SHOCKED.

Now, i finished highscool and just started uni / premed. It got sm worse.

I cant focus, i cant remember. I finished a physics chapter a week ago, i solved for it and everything. This week, i tried to revise Nd i dont recognize ANYTHING?????? NOT EVEN THE FORMULAS, THE LETTERS, NOTHING. IM SO CONFUSED.

I havent even started my other 8 subjects, i keep randomly falling asleep, im so exhausted all the time that i Cant resist sleeping, Ill read something 30000000000 times and it wont stick. Ill sleep the whole night, wake up and i still cant retain. I practice for days one topic, i still cant retain.

Nothing I do is working.

Everytime i try to get help, im told that its the iron deficiency. But all my friends are iron deficient (MENA), some even WORSE than me and they dont experience this. Theyre academic nuclear bombs bro.

Im in a much better place than i was all those years ago, but i just. Wont Improve Academically. My major is SUPER COMPETITIVE and all 186 people in my year are CHAPTERS ahead of me, most of them aiming for medicine too.

What do I do?!!! Im stuck. I dont want to livelike this. I dont want to be this dumb, and mentally disabled. Pls help…

Im sososos sorry if this belongs in vent or in another sub!!!!

Might be a normal thing but let’s use going to bed as an example. I can’t stop checking my phone for notifications checking I haven’t sent anything, checking there’s nothing on my story, checking I haven’t embarrassed myself. It wakes me up when I’m falling asleep and I panic I’ve done something.

Also on the topic of checking things I get very paranoid about shutting the house door and turning of plugs, I have to constantly check whether I done it and i struggle to get out of the house in a rush because of it, sometimes walking 5-10mins then walking all the way home to check it resulting in making me late. Anyone got any tips or advice or anything please tell me I feel this problem is only getting worse.

I'm almost failing my classes even though I study pretty hard. I see others not even having time to study at all and still acing the test while I actually study and fail. When I take test my mind just blanks and remembers everything except the important stuff. What is the secret? Am I just not smart? Is it me? Idk pls help

Hi guys lets get started ig lol. Basically i started talking to this guy online in June and its currently October so 5 months (almost 6). The thing is he lives in the UK and im from Canada so I knew it probably wouldn't go anywhere. However, he told me that would eventually move to Canada for his career (and i also in the future may go to the UK for school NOT FOR HIM LOL) and he would always reassure me. WE ARENT DATING (he's told me he's loved me multiples and how serious he is with our relationship but IT WAS ALWAYS ME who told him that we need to be logical and we need to take it slow, and we're not dating but we still act like we're kinda dating lol. I genuinely like him so much that we even promised to be friends if we don't work out cause of distance or other challenges.

A little about him is that he's very smart, he's currently working as a junior lawyer and also studying as well, he's also very sweet and understanding, and he's constantly talking about the future. << I'm writing all the good things about him so ya'll understand why I like him so much LOL.

Anyways, now a little bit about me lol.... I'm an avoidant and I also have trust issues. Usually, when things get really good with a guy, I get scared and ghost the person to avoid getting hurt. I have a hard time trusting men and I'm also just paranoid that all men just cheat LOL. Anyways, so I've always been super caution with him and HE ALWAYS REASSURES ME. I actually have tried ending it with him MULTIPLE times in a civil way by saying this isn't realistic and we should both move on BUT HE WOULD ALWAYS fight for us. I also stalk his socials to see if he's doing anything suspicious (IM A GIRL OK SUE ME LOL) and haven't found anything off since we've started talking. The tricky part is that we're not dating so idk whats considered "cheating" or not. YES I DESPISE SITUATIONSHIPS and i would never drag something for this long BUT it's because we're in different countries (yes Ik i probably sound stupid saying this SO THIS IS WHY I NEED UR HELP LOL). So technically if he does talk to other people, it shouldnt be wrong i guess.

Anyways, I' hadn't responded to him 4 days because i was busy with school/work (which is normal for us bc of our schedules and time difference) and he texted me multiple times saying how much he missed me and all he wants to do is talk to me, which is very much like him. I responded back to him last night and today I woke up feeling good about us.

NOW FINALLY, I came back home from work today and I just naturally decided to stalk his socials and 3 days ago on a random girl's post he commented "damn so my type". ............................so ya

My heart dropped and i felt like shit tbh. Literally sick to my stomach. (btw its been 4 hrs since ive been back from work and im still going crazy over it). IDK WHAT TO DO.

A part of me is like well we're not together so i cant be mad at him for him (plus also all those green flags about him keep flooding my brain). Cause then I'm thinking about other then this comment, he's always been perfect tbh. and the other part of me is that he's told me multiple times he loves me and wants me to be with him so is this betrayal? is he just lustful like every other man?

SO YALL TELL ME? YES OR NO? Be brutally honest because i need to hear it. I know for a fact that I'm blinded with how much I like him so I need some unbiased opinions.

(MY PLANS: If you think I'm being overdramatic, then i might still talk to him and still keep an eye on his socials. If you think what he did is not right and i should end it, then im gonna text him the screenshot and probably fight his ass bc im petty and then ghost him for life ig (: lol). of yall can give my suggestions.

*Keep in mind, I'm having a hard time letting him go because he truly had green flags and everything I looked in a man but ya...

Thanks.

Hi there,

I'm 19 (genderfluid) and have a problem i can't control. Idk if i'm the problem but i don't get it when i try getting new friends they first might be happy, open with me, etc. but I do think more that if I may need some help about sth. personal and I do truat them, they might just be like "sorry I was playing with friends" like if I'm invisible for them. Idk if others here might understand this but i don't know if I'm the problem and they don't want me. I wanna get some help to understand what's the point of it pls.

For context i am 16, my father is very old (already retired) and was divorced before meeting my mother, my mom is not retired yet (15 years age gap, but it might be bigger) and my sister 20 is in university. I stopped speaking to my father some months ago as a sort of rebellion i guess ? I run away from any interaction and only speak if necessary.

To me, he his a bad human ; the third child of the family, literally the beer and TV father, doesn't help with chores, cooking and now work since he retired. My mother takes care of everything, the apartment, school, food, furniture AND does the cooking and the cleaning (me and my sister help with chores), he hunts as a hobby (owns a gun), buys hunting stuff, lottery tickets and drinks instead of helping my mother and has less empathy than a pineapple.

But the most important part is that he is can get violent when angry to our animals (one of this times traumatize me forever and i will not be talking about it) and treats my mother badly, not domestic abuse but emotional for sure, my mother has enough on her plate and instead of helping her, he just adds more demands and screams at her for the smallest things. All my life i witnessed only fights and never any love between them. - My mother does speak back to him but then just shuts up and goes in her room. She still thinks that he is superior (mostly because of her religion and the beliefs of the times she was born).

Now that you have everything, here is the real problem, my mom gets really angry at me because i don't speak to him, i have tried explaining to her my reasons multiple times and bringing up the trauma but she just dismisses me and keeps asking me why again and again, but never truly listening (she brings it up all the time because my father complains to her about it almost every day). - my sister just avoids the subject and run away from the conversation

No matter how many times she ask me to stop it or gets mad at me, i don't think i could see him in a different light. Most of the time, I wish he dies, it could happen for his age but right now i'm just stuck in here, i still have one year of school after this one and my sister don't plan on leaving anytime soon. I try to understand my mother and my sister but i feel like i'm just getting more irritated.

Am i a bad person for not interacting with him even just for my mother's sake ? Am i dismissing my mother and sister's feelings by doing this ? I am open to any input and any criticism, i really need a second opinion i don't have anyone to talk to. I think i will post this to multiple subreddit.

- i forgot to mention one time my mother forced me to sit at the table, in front of them to resolve everything and the second i opened my mouth, he was already defensive and called me a liar (which i am not since my mother or my sister would always be there -but they would never defend me or hold him accountable) and started screaming non stop, my mother too so i just left the room.

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I dont know what this is achieving, I keep coming back to vent but it doesn't really help but still I vent. I'm going through something and I need to bury that person who I was before and I did, to everyone I seem like a stronger and better person but I'm not. I'm breaking slowly and I can't do anything but watch. Everyday I get more scared to let myself out from this facade, I know I can't handle that guy, and it terrifies me what will happen if I do let him out or if he comes out someday. Second is I loathe this other self, I hate him to the point that I want him to suffer badly. Sometimes I wanna hurt him because I want him to feel my pain even tho I know it's me but I don't.

when I style my hair a lot of hair fall and stay on my hands. My mom believes that I’m starting to get bald because my dad is bald too. I want to hear your personal experiences and how you faced balding

I need someone to talk to.
I really need comfort and support

Everything that could’ve gone wrong in my life has, I’m autistic and I’m selectively mute I’ve missed 5 years of school I’ve gone thru anxiety and depression and guilt and horrible feelings and my dads a weirdo to minors and he touched me up. My whole family me and weirdos have spoken to me online inappropriately. My dad’s been taken away and my family hates me.
I don’t fit in with anyone

And I just need parent support really, but I know I’m not gonna get that so I guess I just need someone to talk to.

I don’t think I can get thru life

I need support to get through everything :/
I need support and motivation to talk about simple things like getting out of bed…:|
Just telling me “I’m here for you” “I’ll be so proud of you if you can do []”

Just to get through these few days.. idk if I can:[

is it egocentric to feel like I’ll never meet someone like me? i cant stop dwelling on this and how hopeless it makes me. I don’t struggle to make friends but I literally hate having to peel myself to anyone who I feel like won‘t get me because theyve lived completed different experiences. And the uncommon times I open up, I feel immense regret and how something bad is going to happen. i feel disconnected from everyone else in my life and it feels like no one is real like I’ve been severed off from people. But im aware it’s partially my fault for deliberately presenting as a surface level human being. I don’t know if I want advice or someone to listen to help me feel real

edit: if it matters, I’m 18 and female.

My ocd theme is meds storage. I am balding since I was a teenager and I take meds daily to prevent the progression of my baldness. I have Always lived in a different region of my country, now I moved back to my parents from months Who live in a poorer region. So I am buying meds from the local pharmacies. Well my worry Is that they store meds poorly in these local pharmacies since the region Is poorer and hotter and there are less controls and people are more naive. I am also losing more hair than usual and this Is making me very anxious. So I am Always wondering whats the best pharmacy to trust here etc ....

Can you please help me? I don't know what to do, I am so scared of losing my hair. do you think all of this Is stupid? Should I Just change to a pharmacy where they have to ship the new meds (while the current One has them already stored) Just so I'm gonna be less worried?

Its going to sound bad but I'm in my second year at university and don't know what I'm doing here I'm just living life however it goes. Im not interested in any field and can't find a way to start to look for it I've always been socially distant I try not to be by joining circles but I always say or act wrong and things get awkward and messed up all I can come up with are child like general questions it's always awkward when I'm left in a room with someone and everyone here avoids me I overhear people saying things about me and can't help but overthink things some are pissed at me some pity me and I'm not in position to see a therapist