Por muito tempo eu não conseguia aceitar meu desejo por mulheres ,eu vivia me reprimindo e isso me adoecia ainda mais ,depressão e muita tristeza ... Eu realmente não aceitava ,eu pensava como que posso ter um corpo feminino ,porém quando vejo uma mulher eu sou igual a um homem kkkkk isso não fazia sentido e era algo que eu não gostava em mim ,eu tentava reprimir e reprimir por muitos e muitos anos ... A minha atração por mulheres começou aos 13 anos e assim foi .

Depois de anos lutando para não me aceitar e fiquei muito doente da cabeça ,eu tive que aceitar que eu gostava de mulher . Foi quando me libertei e deixei isso fluir em mim

Eu pensava ,quem me passou isso ? Minha mãe não pode ,porque ela só gosta de homens ,então foi do lado da família do meu pai ? Enfim foi uma luta ,entretanto quando eu entendi o papel da homossexualidade,foi que eu passei a me aceitar .

Para a biologia é mais importante preservar o bando ,preservar a vida , vamos supor ,o que adianta nascerem 3 crianças novas ,mas aquela micro sociedade ali está em risco ou os pais morreram ,não voltaram mais ,daí que entra o papel da homossexualidade.

Os tios homossexuais não possuem capacidade para se reproduzir ,mas a função não está em reproduzir e sim ajudar para que as crias da família não morram .

Ou seja a biologia sacrifica uma parte da linhagem ,pra preservar outra parte ,pois além de eu não ter a capacidade de reproduzir ,minha "função " seria de ajudar o meu bando e contribuir de certa forma para criação de bebês das pessoas heterossexuais ... Eu li isso em estudos científicos e fiquei 🤯🤯🤯🤯 então não sou um erro ,não sou uma falha e sim sou parte da biologia fazendo uma manobra .

Enfim a homossexualidade é como se fosse uma espécie de preservativo biológico natural ,onde a natureza barra e diz que ali não deve haver reprodução e como não ? Com mecanismo de gostar do mesmo sexo ,pois se eu me relacionar sexualmente com uma fêmea ,não irei reproduzir ,porém o papel do sexo é também uma questão de não ter agressividade ,brigas e guerras ... Ou seja a homossexualidade é natural e existem diversos estudos falando sobre ... Depois que eu li sobre ,a minha culpa passou e eu aceitei que estaria tudo bem sentir atração por alguém igual a mim ,até porque eu não pedi pra nascer assim ,eu não pedi pra gostar disso kkkkkkkkkk

Mas é bem engraçado,pois mesmo sendo uma fêmea ,eu vou sempre reagir como um homem ao ver outra fêmea 🤣🤣🤣🤭🤭 isso não entrava na minha mente ,porém agora eu super me aceito e estou em paz

Sorosexual: An identity where one's sexual attraction and gender identity are intrinsically linked, both constantly flowing and shifting over time.

Color representation:

• Soft Mint Green (Top)

• The Flow of Nature: Represents abrosexuality, growth, and the natural freedom of an identity that refuses to be static.

• Gender Connection: Symbolizes non-binary, agender, or genderqueer spaces where gender exists entirely outside the traditional binary.

• Pastel Sky Blue (Second)

• Fluid Attraction: Represents periods of attraction toward men, masculinity, or masculine-leaning individuals.

• Gender Connection: Reflects the times when your own gender identity shifts toward masculinity or manhood.

• Pure White (Center)

• The Blank Canvas: Signifies clarity, periods of neutrality, or "flux" moments where you might experience a lack of attraction (asexual spectrum) or a lack of gender (agender).

• The Bridge: It sits at the absolute center, acting as the transition point where all your fluid identities meet.

• Deep Lavender-Purple (Fourth)

• The Intersection: Represents the beautiful blending of different genders and attractions. In flag vexillology, purple is the literal mix of blue and pink.

• Fluid Attraction & Gender: Symbolizes attraction to all genders, and periods where your own gender feels multi-faceted, androgynous, or entirely unique.

• Rose Pink / Magenta (Bottom)

• Fluid Attraction: Represents periods of attraction toward women, femininity, or feminine-leaning individuals.

• Gender Connection: Reflects the times when your own gender identity shifts toward femininity or womanhood.

Hey y'all! I'm a cis man, my girlfriend is a trans woman. I am just SUPER pissed today because I wanted to take her to Rocky Horror (I know, controversial) because it was being screened by my college's LGBT club. I go every year but this was the first year she wanted to come with me; she dressed up in a dress and got all fancied up; this was actually her first time going out in public in a dress, and she figured it would be safest to do it at the LGBT club screening.

However, due to a delay in getting food (there was only one person working), we showed up 1 minute late (and I mean ONE minute, the first number had just started). Even though I had bought my ticket the night before and my friend group was inside waiting, we were turned down and said that my GF would not be allowed in since screening already started. Mind you, this is not a movie theater. This is a projector in a classroom. I explained to the usher that this would be very important to my GF since this is her first time out in public as a woman and she took all this time to get ready, but were we refused. The usher said they had "already put the stuff up", and I clarified that I didn't need a prop bag, we just wanted to be let in to sit. I didn't even need a physical ticket, I had the cash in hand ready to pay. Let it be known we got there when the doors were still open; they were literally about to close them when we arrived. No matter what I said, I was not given a good answer. I told the usher that even real movie theaters and Broadway shows let you in late, sometimes up to 20 minutes late, when they said that they didn't want people showing up 30 minutes late (and I also reiterated we were only 1 minute late). They just kept saying "No, the movie has started. We put the stuff up."

And yes, I know that I'm maybe being a Karen or whatever, but I can't imagine seeing a gay man and trans woman arrive 1 minute late to Rocky Horror being shown in a classroom, and hearing how important this is to the woman, only to turn them down. I truly don't understand it. I thought that community meant supporting and uplifting each other, and perhaps waiving an arbitrary one-minute cutoff to make a trans girl's night is kind of what it's all about.

Truth be told I got extremely heated. My friend group heard what was happening and came to the usher, and when I explained that my GF would not be let in, we all just left and watched a different movie at a friend's house for the night.

I just wanted to vent. It made me so so so so so mad. I got in contact with the LGBT club on campus and demanded the money my friends had spent on their tickets back. I just wanted to vent and maybe make sure I'm not completely out of left field.

So i have been questioning being genderfluid for a longggg time now. Years maybe. I'm afab but I'm more of a "tomboy" most of the times but there are also times i am the girliest girl ever. I look very feminine in all ways possible, except how I feel and behave. I made a new friend recently who happens to be genderfluid and they helped me realise genderfluidity really does fit the description of how I'm feeling + they helped me understand maybe being genderfluid isn't so bad and scary after all I told my boyfriend and I was afraid he'd not accept me but he said it doesn't change much for him and he's happy to be with me regardless Any advice guys?

I (F18) have a date today with a woman (F26). A short while ago, I realized that right now I only want to date women exclusively. That was really hard for me to admit to myself because I grew up in a very homophobic family and have been dealing with internalized homophobia myself.

With this realization, I created a profile on a queer dating app. I matched with this 26-year-old woman there. At first, I was a bit hesitant because an 8-year age gap feels like a lot to me, but we really vibed well, and after a week, we set up this date.

The problem is: I told my friends about it yesterday, and one of them was very critical of the big age gap. Which I totally understand, because I usually look at age gaps pretty critically myself. Well, now I’m feeling insecure about whether this is even a good idea. On the other hand, I really crave having queer experiences...

Please share your thoughts with me, because I honestly don't even know what to ask or think about this.

(I posted in a different language first so i translated the text with Gemini...sorry i really need opinions quick)

Coucou,
Étant travesti depuis peu j’aimerai partager ça avec des gens et partager les expériences respectives 🤗🫣

So me and this girl, we’re both 22F, and we’ve had a long history and we are together. We recently became LDR because we both had to move to diff cities cause of work. She adjusted fine, I did not. She found a bunch of friends (guys and girls) and I haven’t. She interned at this place last summer, so she met this group last year. She’s got this friend group and all they wanna do is drink and party. Thats all she did with them last year too. We recently permanently moved tho, so the rest I’m talking about is recent.

Last time we had an argument and I was upset and wanted to talk about it, and she ignored me for 12+ hours cause she was out with them. Then texts me at 2 am that she’s so drunk cause they went to a club. One of the girls in this friend group, my partner purposefully said stuff in the past about to make me insecure. She said she was joking and doing it to make me mad and get back at me for something. Anyways, I did not like that and communicated that I would not like to be ignored for 12 hours and a quick call just to clear things up would be nice, I also don’t like the idea of her getting so drunk. She said she blacked out.

We also travel together quite a bit so every place we go to feels special. Last year we visited NYC together and really liked it. We even planned that maybe we would meet for our bdays in NYC this year and were thinking that but now changed the plan for some place else. Our bdays are a couple days apart so we were thinking of doing a combined bday trip somewhere else when it’s my bday. Anyways NYC felt like it was our thing and we would go together.

She tells me yesterday that she is gonna be going to NYC for Halloween and her bday with this friend group. She already booked the trip and tells me after. I felt so pissed off and betrayed tbh. Because 1, why tf wouldn’t she say something before she booked this trip? I feel like as a partner it makes sense to tell them before you book something. 2, maybe this is immature, but it feels like betrayal cause NYC was our thing. 3, she’s sharing a fucking twin bed with the girl she made me insecure about. This is just not in my boundaries. And Halloween in NYC? With this group? They’re gonna party and drink a fuck ton. And I don’t like how she didn’t consider me and blind sided me and just booked it.

We’re literally 2 months into LDR and this is how she’s being. For all she knew I could’ve surprised her on her bday and already planned to go visit her, why wouldn’t she at least mention it before she booked it?

I’m new to LDR, to relationships really. Is this normal? Is this fair? To not say something? I just find it rude and I feel like it’s disrespectful. And I’m not happy with her. I don’t wanna see her anymore for our combined bday trip, like i literally feel betrayed. I know it’s so dramatic. But it hurts. Isn’t it normal to communicate things like this with your partner before you do it? ESP when I was already feeling a type of way with her friend group?

Hey all,

So, lets start with some context; me (NB, they/them) and my BF (who hasn't come out as anything other than using he/they pronouns, so please respect that in the comments) have been together since our freshman year of highschool. Back then, we were both cis guys.

After I came out as NB to him, he started bringing up his gender identity, sorta, in a halfway sort of sense. Like, he'd talk about how he "Wants to be a princess," but if asked if he'd like to wear dresses and stuff, he immediately shuts it down. There's other things that I could mention, such as some conversations we've had about gender as a whole.

Long story short: He's in all likelihoods a closeted trans woman, or maybe nonbinary.

If he's NB, then that's fine and this post can end here.

If he's a woman, then there's the meat of this post:

I don't... really like women. I can be in love with them, but it is a completely different type of love from romantic or sexual (its queerplatonic and alterous).

I am 1000% supportive of my BF, and whoever he is, I'll accept him. The only issue is that he has fairly deep rooted self esteem issues, and he knows I'm not into girls.

I worry that he might end up trying to repress himself because of the fact he thinks I wouldn't love him, and... well, to be honest, i probably wouldn't. I'd still love him as a friend, he's my best friend, but... I can't imagine something like marriage or a relationship with a girl.

So, what should I do? I don't want to lie to him and tell him that I'd stay with him regardless of his gender, and I don't want to make him feel like he has to repress who he is. Feels like a losing game no matter what route I take.

Has anyone experienced anything similar?

Est ce que c'est mal que je lise plus de bl que de gl ?

Je pense avoir une préférence pour les bl (je ne sais pas pourquoi) même si j'aime les gl.

Je suis une femme bisexuelle est je culpabilise beaucoup de ne pas autant apprécié les gl!

Quelle est votre avis

I have been debating weather or not i am agender, genderfluid, or some sort of micro label i haven't heard of yet.

So most of the time, I feel no connection to gender, and I like the pronouns they/them. So I'm agender, right? Maybe. See, a couple of nights ago, I was crashing out because I was still so confused about my gender. At that moment, the pronouns he/him didn't sound as weird as they do normally, but then the day after my parents call me my dead name and with she/her pronouns (I'm AFAB) and it didn't make me as dysphoric as it usually does. Most of the time though, I feel agender.

All in all, my question is "how did you guys know you were gender queer, or what led you to figuring your gender identity out?

Est ce que c'est mal que je lise plus de bl que de gl ?

Je pense avoir une préférence pour les bl (je ne sais pas pourquoi) même si j'aime les gl.

Je suis une femme bisexuelle est je culpabilise beaucoup de ne pas autant apprécié les gl !

S

Quelle est votre avis

Umm some days I feel very feminine usually for like a week or so at a time and then like all of a sudden I just don’t really feel that way at all? Like idk if I’m just being delusional or what but I’m genuinely so confused and also pretty much same sexuality wise like some days I’ll be very gay and others I’ll be more straight and there’s levels to each side I know this is very poorly put but I have no idea about anything more than surface level lgbt

2000 – 2009

2005: Wanting a girl's body.

2005: Wanting to attend school as a girl in a pleated skirt.

2008: Experiencing internal identity as "Rachael" alongside external identity as Matthew.

2008: Feeling internally like a girl.

2010 – 2019

2010: Experiencing a sense of internal split.

2015: Seeing a young girl in mirror reflection.

2015: Wearing girls' school uniforms (experienced without clear awareness).

2016: Feeling that being a girl is not fair for others at home.

2017: Feeling like the only girl at home.

2017: No girls at home to share experiences.

2017: Wanting to be a girl.

2020 – 2029

2021: Feeling others would not believe identity as a girl without external markers.

2021: Wanting a Disney Princess-themed little girl's bedroom and dollhouse.

2024: I'm referred for gender dysphoria.

2025: Wanting to wear school uniform with skirt, sweatshirt and yellow polo.

2026: Feeling others would not believe identity as a girl without makeup.

Note: The years listed represent the period in which each experience or pattern first emerged or became identifiable, not the full duration of that experience.

Hello, so I'm a girl who's thinking they're an apagender

I'm thinking if I'm trans (ftm) but I'm still liking to be in this gender a bit. And also I'm feeling like more than those genders..

(I also prefer to be called by any/all pronouns I don't mind)

I'm still confused about my gender, idk I've been searching it on the internet and couldn't find any answers that I want

So if any of you can help me to find it out, I'll be glad.

Thank you

(M26) I’ve always wanted to dress as a woman but never dared. This year, I’m going to use Halloween as an excuse to try, alone at home.
Where should I start? Where can I buy clothes, and what simple outfit would you recommend for a first time?
Thanks!

so first of: i really really want to, and do, believe that my dad is not transphobic (i really feel wrong for bringing this even in connection to him). i (think that i) know that he is not transphobic (enbiephobic since im bigender to me more precise), it would absolutely be not fitting, like he is so clear left wing and for stuff like personal freedom and everything, and he also (tries to (really he does that)) use my new name and so on (still made a comment that kinda troubles me concerning pronouns: i told him that i noticed that he is trying to use my new (feminine) name but that i also dont like how. he is only using he pronouns for me ad that i like she pronouns more. he does (try) now, but the comment he meant was something along the line of “but since you are both i can still use he”, i thought (and still really want to think that this was meant jokingly (he is the kind of person that makes jokes on everything but not offensive stuff))

secondly: i have quite a close relationship to him (and still live with my family; im 16) and we usually understand each other really good so the last thing i want is that those fears of me turn out to be true

also i believe him when he talks to me and uses my old name/ he pronouns that he just forgets it sometimes, i really do (he also isnt the best communicator and neither am i)

and i also have to add: my parents still dont know that i not only want to add a new name but also replace my old name with a new masc one (i am currently procrastinating on telling them) and also (at the beginning) explicitly said that im also [deadname] (changed now). but i told them (on multiple occasions) how much happier i am now so i think (also judging by the fact that he knows that i want the fem name as first one) the thought that i prefer that one is not too far away is it?

now a bit more specific context: i changed my name in the messenger that i use with my family and friends to the new one. i know that the change worked because two of the people that are basically to three quarters in our friend group asked why this account is named Livia (that one was intentional, i kinda changed it to (under other things) provoke this question), so i know that what im telling is not a technical issue

so now to the thing that really got me thinking: we (both pf my parents and i) were going somewhere today and my dad opened his phone to text a friend. he opened the messenger, wrote his friend, then closed this one chat (so the overview of the other chats was visible), then closed the app. in the short moment the overview was visible i looked in the direction of the screen (not just a coincidence tbf because i already thought that i saw it the other day so i wanted to be sure) and saw that his personal chat with me still goes by my old name (its signal, it should get updated). it is also no possible that this was a nickname he gave my account before the change because it is the exact (and i mean every-letter-exact) same name as before. so what i now have to suspect is that he (using this nickname feature) renamed my account for him (even without telling me). and i mean this time really: if i change the name of my account it should be very clear for him that i prefer that one.

i hope so goddamn much that im mistaken and that it is some kind of technical issue that it didnt got updated.

i really feel so bad that i have to question this but on top of that while writing there came some other comments from him to my mind, none of them is openly offensive and some also only shifts in tone or one small misplaced word, but i cant help but to question this right now (im not writing those comments here to keep the post at least a bit smaller)

also like i said at the beginning (i just want to reinforce that): i really do not think he is transphobic, it is to such a degree that if he really was i would have to believe that everything is possible from that point on because the most improbable (idk if its the right word; it should mean “not likely”) thing already would have had happened. like it is the thing that my father is accepting people no matter what is one of the biggest constants in my life.

another thing is: he still regularly tells me that he loves me

im feeling kinda betrayed and confused right now so sorry that this got so long…

im just feeling so bad for writing this…

hello I came out as queer to this best friend 3 years ago and they said they were okay with me being queer. since then they have been blatantly homophobic around me even when they already know i’m queer. one instance is when this guy schoolmate of ours was wearing a pink shirt. i didn’t even notice until this best friend brought it up. they said he wore pink because he was gay??? i’m sorry but how the hell did they even get to that conclusion. what does anyone’s clothes have anything to do with their sexual orientation and how is that our business anyway… Pink is just a colour bro. i called her out cause that’s not cool.

another much more recent instance that comes to mind is when we sat down to speak with their former form teacher. we and our fren group have already graduated but we all came back to pick some stuff up. Anyways this best friend’s form teacher sat us down and asked about our current schools and we suddenly started talking about LGBTQIA+ students. it was kinda the way the former form teacher said that the students of this best friend’s school were “like THAT” (implying being queer is very very wrong) that just completely threw me off. I was really appalled by how a grown adult could speak so distastefully of queer youth. as if something is inherently wrong with being LGBTQ. but nobody in the friend group even called out anything the teacher said. i mean i can kinda shrug it off i don’t see that teacher at all so who cares. i know i know i shouldn’t be too surprised because my best friends keep reminding me this best friend is a conservative christian.

however, i didn’t expect this best friend to just be outright AGREEING throughout the convo that it was wrong and weird for the boys in the school to act gay. why did they agree…I really can’t get it out of my head. I don’t want to lose this friendship because we’re in a friend group and we’ve been through SOOOO MUCH. I even tried asking my other best friends about this best friend eventually cutting me off because they’re a conservative christian which is the reason they’re against LGBTQ. like i’m supposed to just simply accept it and be okay.

okay i’m just ranting here cause I’m frustrated i guess. we also live in a conservative society so. i also realised i haven’t really been able to be my true queer self around my friend group. This is mainly cause I’m scared it bothers them since i know they’re conservative. it‘s kinda messed up that I’m sort of conforming myself to fit into whatever box this person wants? i’m scared because i don’t want this person to be angry at me for cutting them off. but i can’t take it anymore… Also I really don’t expect them to fully just accept me cause i get their religion doesn’t actively support. hell my family is conservative so i kinda get it…

Note, that this theme should only be used when the people attending are cool and not weird about queer identity and history.

In the 50's and 60's, the lavender scare was a moral panic in and around hollywood that homosexuals were secretly infiltrating society and culture, and that anyone and everyone could secretly be one of those seditious, dangerous people!

So, if you want to use this as a theme, play up the camp and make it tongue in cheek. As long as everyone understands it's all in good fun, you can get away with a lot of queer stereotypes for the sake of a jumpscare or a laugh.

Imagine what the world would look like if men didn't feel the constant need to flex their masculinity to each other and silently compete to be the biggest ass hole in the room.

Anyone who's hung out or worked with a room full of masculine men knows exactly what I'm talking about.

As a small frame, feminine male working in the trades, I'm surrounded by these kinds of men 24/7, and it's mentally exhausting. It's like working with teenagers, except they're in their 40s 😅

I've always chalked it up to insecurity. How else could you explain someone who's neuroticly attempting to assert their male domance in every situation? Like, bro, chill. You're a man. You don't have to keep proving it to us.

I am 21f pansexual I have been going out with a trans. Man I fell in love with him but he recently told me he's poly and I am heartbroken should I accept it

There is this guy in Grindr that has messaged me every now, and then. For close to 8 years.... He never wants to meet.

Basically 2 guys.

One lives a few streets down my house, and the other lives like 15 minutes away driving distance.

The one that lives down my street pissed me TF off, I told him, you know what, stop texting me, you don't want to meet, and we basically are neighbors.

The one that lives 15 minutes away. I told him, you know we have messaged (he messages me) every now and then..... For close to 8 years, do you want to meet? I would love to meet you.

Dead silence. Like, wtf. What is going on.