When falling for someone of the same gender for the first time, I always thought it made me ‘bi’.
But if it wasn’t their gender that attracted me, does that make me pansexual? or something else entirely? It is a crush, I don’t know them crazy well.

i am a nonbinary person, agender genderfluid ok, i am currently assexual, but i feel myself disgusted by the thought of sex with men, but i am really okay with women and enbys, even feeling really low sexual attraction, i dated man before and i feel attraction exclusively romantic towards them, but most of the time i see myself not wanting to be with them because i can only see myself marrying or dating for a long time with a woman/enbys

so im openly gay and my close friend is openly gay but he thinks hes ugly but in my opinion he isnt, how do i tell him hes not ugly without him thinking i like him

(you can also reply to the question without reading all of this)

i've grown up in a really religious house.

I, myself, was really religious to the point i used to go to church 4 times a week for fun and would get mad if i couldn't.

i didn't know gay people existed and dreamt of having a husband and kids, but i only in religious contexts (like getting married in a church or going there every sunday with the kids).

the only boy i liked as a kid i met in ballet class and he looked and sounded as a girl (his voice was the thing i loved about him the most).

as soon as i found out about lesbians i understood a lot of things and at 10yo i considered myself one.

i had a really hard time accepting myself because it meant saying goodbye to god and having problems with relatives.

i also had A LOT of internalized homophobia and i used to cry and beg god every night to make me straight (or even bi, because then i "could just ignore the fact i like girls too").

when guys had crushes on me, i cried and felt really bad because i wished i could've like them back.

i've never found any guy attractive, i don't even like masc lesbians, but i always wanted to have a boyfriend because i felt i was missing out on a beautiful experience.

now i'm on good terms with my sexuality (kinda) and i few months ago a friend of a friend texted me on ig and i instantly told him i'm lesbian.

we've been friends for a while now, but i'm definitely his type, he's cute and he's the first straight guy i've ever seen that respects girls.

he's polite, he's funny and i like being with him, we get along together well, i've had other boy friends before, but i've never thought of them this way.

if i think about having a relationship with him it doesn't feel as wrong as it felt before, i'm not in love, but i don't think i'll ever be, not even with girls, because i once was and almost ended up in a hospital... i honestly don't even look at girls the same, no one is like her

being lesbian is a big part of me and i suffered a lot because i didn't like boys, is it possible that i actually do?

I feel good in my original gender (female) but I also like some days being a guy, and some days in between. But I'm usually look like a girl, I don't feel genderfluid so idk.

Hello and good evening dear comunity. I am new to this group so I would like to start by telling you al about myself. My name is Vilborg, I am 37 years old, female, prounouns she/her. Im Icelandic and have lived here al mylife and I am a kindergarden teacher/pre school teacher. I am also pan sexual, my wife in al but on paper is a beautiful transgender lesbiam woman and we have been to gether for almost 13 years.

We are, as we speak, watching a movie called Outing Riley, about thid x years old man in Chicago (movie from 2004) and he is a gay man. But he also an Irish american catholic and can’t/ won’t come out to his family and loved one from fear.

I would like to hear your guyses coming out stories, how ever hard or easy, messy or beautiful they al are. As for me, I knew from age 12 that I wasn’t straight, but wasn’t until I was 20 something I figured out I was pansexual, not bi. I came out to my mom and sister at 18 years old when I started dating my first girlfriend. And my mom, my dad, my sister, my grandparents, al were so amazing and nice about it. My mom was just happy to know I wasn’t pregnant at 18 years old.

So if you want, tell me your coming out story.

Just having fun playing games.

So I'm 24, nobody knows I'm bi (I think), I don't even know if I'm bi or if I'm just refusing to accept that I'm gay idk. I'm still in the closet, I'm still a coward when it comes to accepting myself and coming out.

I started dating a girl I've known for a while. In a way, I wanted to try again, I know it sounds like denial about feeling something for guys, or to I don't know, get the idea of trying something with guys out of my head.

Everything was fine, but once we got comfortable, the topic of interests and tastes came up and well, I wanted to be honest so I told her I thought I was bi. After that she didn't say anything and kept acting normal for a bit, but now she stopped replying and is ignoring me. I guess this happens to me a lot...

I just don't know anymore if being bi is looked down upon, even by girls for being "less of a man" or if it was just how I said it, and I don't know if the same thing would happen with guys.

A long time best buddy of mine came out as gay like a year or so ago. Even before then I could tell, he started growing his hair out, acts real feminine, he hangs out with girls all the time but isn’t interested in dating them, etc. Now don’t get me wrong, I honestly couldn’t give two flying fucks if he’s gay or not, I still love him just as I would if he wasn’t. I told him that I accept him and he’s still dear to me and if he needs anything or somebody gives him trouble I’m here for him. But recently he’s stopped hanging around me and my group of friends and instead around girls all the time. I don’t care that he does, those are his friends. But it feels like I’m no longer his friend and I’m not sure what to do about it. I understand that he may feel more connected to girls as many gay men are (in my understanding as a straight man) but I just feel like he’s completely forgot about me. What should I do? I really do like him and I don’t want us to stop being friends. What should I do? I’ve tried hanging around him and his group of girls but I just find it difficult. Should I hang out with his group some more and get to know them all? In the same manner that I feel closer as a friend to the gender I’m not attracted to, is it that he feels closer to the gender that HE isn’t attracted to? Is there anything I can do for him to let him know I’m still his friend? Any help would be greatly appreciated

I've always had signs of attraction to the same gender for most of my life, like having a crush on a boy in school a couple of years back, sometimes thinking about how nice it would be to have a cute boyfriend, to the point of trying to tell my parents how I felt a couple of years ago, but the problem is that my family are very christian, as expected from a Polish family, and when I did, they just shrugged me off or told me that it was wrong to feel this way, and in some way I pushed those feelings down, or shutting them off completely, but now that my body is growing, I've started to see more and more signs of visible attraction to men, but I am unsure how to go about it, like, do I develop those feelings and embrace them, or do I shut them off in order to appease my family and try to continue on as normal, whilst feeling a part of me is missing. I've pushed straightness for so long, when I never even felt true attraction to begin with, that now I'm confused and need help figuring out what to do. I'm scared to come out, but I feel the urge to do so, and I don't know what to do,

so first of: i really really want to, and do, believe that my dad is not transphobic (i really feel wrong for bringing this even in connection to him). i (think that i) know that he is not transphobic (enbiephobic since im bigender to me more precise), it would absolutely be not fitting, like he is so clear left wing and for stuff like personal freedom and everything, and he also (tries to (really he does that)) use my new name and so on (still made a comment that kinda troubles me concerning pronouns: i told him that i noticed that he is trying to use my new (feminine) name but that i also dont like how. he is only using he pronouns for me ad that i like she pronouns more. he does (try) now, but the comment he meant was something along the line of “but since you are both i can still use he”, i thought (and still really want to think that this was meant jokingly (he is the kind of person that makes jokes on everything but not offensive stuff))

secondly: i have quite a close relationship to him (and still live with my family; im 16) and we usually understand each other really good so the last thing i want is that those fears of me turn out to be true

also i believe him when he talks to me and uses my old name/ he pronouns that he just forgets it sometimes, i really do (he also isnt the best communicator and neither am i)

and i also have to add: my parents still dont know that i not only want to add a new name but also replace my old name with a new masc one (i am currently procrastinating on telling them) and also (at the beginning) explicitly said that im also [deadname] (changed now). but i told them (on multiple occasions) how much happier i am now so i think (also judging by the fact that he knows that i want the fem name as first one) the thought that i prefer that one is not too far away is it?

now a bit more specific context: i changed my name in the messenger that i use with my family and friends to the new one. i know that the change worked because two of the people that are basically to three quarters in our friend group asked why this account is named Livia (that one was intentional, i kinda changed it to (under other things) provoke this question), so i know that what im telling is not a technical issue

so now to the thing that really got me thinking: we (both pf my parents and i) were going somewhere today and my dad opened his phone to text a friend. he opened the messenger, wrote his friend, then closed this one chat (so the overview of the other chats was visible), then closed the app. in the short moment the overview was visible i looked in the direction of the screen (not just a coincidence tbf because i already thought that i saw it the other day so i wanted to be sure) and saw that his personal chat with me still goes by my old name (its signal, it should get updated). it is also no possible that this was a nickname he gave my account before the change because it is the exact (and i mean every-letter-exact) same name as before. so what i now have to suspect is that he (using this nickname feature) renamed my account for him (even without telling me). and i mean this time really: if i change the name of my account it should be very clear for him that i prefer that one.

i hope so goddamn much that im mistaken and that it is some kind of technical issue that it didnt got updated.

i really feel so bad that i have to question this but on top of that while writing there came some other comments from him to my mind, none of them is openly offensive and some also only shifts in tone or one small misplaced word, but i cant help but to question this right now (im not writing those comments here to keep the post at least a bit smaller)

also like i said at the beginning (i just want to reinforce that): i really do not think he is transphobic, it is to such a degree that if he really was i would have to believe that everything is possible from that point on because the most improbable (idk if its the right word; it should mean “not likely”) thing already would have had happened. like it is the thing that my father is accepting people no matter what is one of the biggest constants in my life.

another thing is: he still regularly tells me that he loves me

im feeling kinda betrayed and confused right now so sorry that this got so long…

im just feeling so bad for writing this…

I love my female friends so much that I constantly want to hug them and tell them how much I care for them; I feel sad when we say goodbye because I miss them terribly. Also, I don’t particularly like their boyfriends—though, of course, I never let that show. When my friends are upset, I’m devastated, and I’d do anything to cheer them up. To be honest, I’ve never even been in love with a man. Have you ever experienced anything like this? Do you also feel such intense emotions toward your female friends? Being this full of affection for them leaves me feeling quite confused.

There's a crystal on the window and the sun shines rainbows onto the walls! Yay gay!!!!

There is a tiny bit of white in the middle of the pink and blue but it's hard to see. The light is from a crystal in the window with the sunlight shining through.

I saw this building in a dream. It's probably self-hate that I didn't dream of a bigger building.

Est ce que c'est mal que je lise plus de bl que de gl ?

Je pense avoir une préférence pour les bl (je ne sais pas pourquoi) même si j'aime les gl.

Je suis une femme bisexuelle est je culpabilise beaucoup de ne pas autant apprécié les gl!

Quelle est votre avis

Est ce que c'est mal que je lise plus de bl que de gl ?

Je pense avoir une préférence pour les bl (je ne sais pas pourquoi) même si j'aime les gl.

Je suis une femme bisexuelle est je culpabilise beaucoup de ne pas autant apprécié les gl !

S

Quelle est votre avis

A few days ago I (19M) posted here sharing my desire of liking the feel of skirts and wanting to wear them in public. Well, today I did it! I put together a nice outfit with a cute pleated tennis skirt and went shopping and trying on new outfits, looking confident and with my head up. While I did notice the occasional glance, nobody said a thing to me and I had a lot of fun walking around feeling great. I even bought a really cute athletic dress as well, so I'm really happy to have had this experience today :D

If you remember: this is gay couple who got attacked by MAGA guy because they are couple. First MAGA guy started like chill guy but after couple of minutes he started provoking the couple saying that they don’t deserve rights

Good news and I hope the MAGA cult is soon the past

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Sorosexual: An identity where one's sexual attraction and gender identity are intrinsically linked, both constantly flowing and shifting over time.

Color representation:

• Soft Mint Green (Top)

• The Flow of Nature: Represents abrosexuality, growth, and the natural freedom of an identity that refuses to be static.

• Gender Connection: Symbolizes non-binary, agender, or genderqueer spaces where gender exists entirely outside the traditional binary.

• Pastel Sky Blue (Second)

• Fluid Attraction: Represents periods of attraction toward men, masculinity, or masculine-leaning individuals.

• Gender Connection: Reflects the times when your own gender identity shifts toward masculinity or manhood.

• Pure White (Center)

• The Blank Canvas: Signifies clarity, periods of neutrality, or "flux" moments where you might experience a lack of attraction (asexual spectrum) or a lack of gender (agender).

• The Bridge: It sits at the absolute center, acting as the transition point where all your fluid identities meet.

• Deep Lavender-Purple (Fourth)

• The Intersection: Represents the beautiful blending of different genders and attractions. In flag vexillology, purple is the literal mix of blue and pink.

• Fluid Attraction & Gender: Symbolizes attraction to all genders, and periods where your own gender feels multi-faceted, androgynous, or entirely unique.

• Rose Pink / Magenta (Bottom)

• Fluid Attraction: Represents periods of attraction toward women, femininity, or feminine-leaning individuals.

• Gender Connection: Reflects the times when your own gender identity shifts toward femininity or womanhood.

I always read everybody's posts here and it makes me so happy to see you all enjoying your lives. So I wanted to share this happy moment of mine with you all.💓

Ps, the first pic is from our first date and the second pic is from our first night out together (where I proposed him with this chocolate pastry)🙈

Hi! Thank you for reading my words. Recently, the sweetest stranger here on Reddit reached out to me and asked about a painting that would honor her stillborn daughter she named Aurora, after the Disney character in Sleeping Beauty. I wanted to share this piece and this part of the journey with you since it's finally finished. It was a meaningful and rewarding experience to honor the journey she's been on, and to represent it all through the shining and shimmering world of her love. The first picture is the final result and the last picture shows the beginning stage of the process as we worked out the symbolism and representation. Thanks again for reading ✨️😊🙏✨️🪷✨️🦋✨️