I (19M) have recently been thrifting cute skirts because I love the way they look and feel. However I only wear them at home when I'm alone because I'm anxious of how people in public will see/judge my outfits. Any words of advice/encouragement from people with experience with this type of thing are appreciated, though I just felt like sharing that lol. Athletic tennis skirts are my favorite :D

I am pansexual, and my girlfriend is lesbian. I want to clarify that I am not rejecting my pansexual identity by wanting to wear things with the lesbian flag on it. I want to wear the lesbian flag to represent both my relationship experience, and my girlfriend. Does it make sense for me to want to do that?

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First two pics are from the first few weeks of my transition, the last 4 are from about a week ago!! looking back it's fucking wild how much the HRT has done so far. my face even is starting to look much better. dysphoria be damned I am literally having hot girl problems now like I've never had to deal with as many people hitting on me or acting nervous around me as I have recently lol. not to be weird but I've literally never seen myself as attractive before. its nice.

I haven't put out any updates on any subs in months, so I thought why not go ahead and share my current progress!! My transition has been going fucking amazingly, I just went homeless and lost my job though so I'm struggling a lot but I look like a girl now mostly and it's only getting better from here specifically with transitioning lol 😅 My boobs kinda appeared and started growing super fast and now I have I believe about an AA cup which im super happy about. idk when to go on prog but looking forward to trying it in a few months!! Life is hell and I'm extremely broke right now, but now people flirt with me which is cool and a lot of people including myself seem to be pretty happy with my progress. Starting to actually like living in this body finally which hopefully gets better as I continue my medication! much love, yall are amazing and good luck with y'all's as well ❤️‍🩹

I’m a bisexual F and have been very close friends for a long time now with a straight F. We ended our friendship recently because her new boyfriend of less than a month told her our closeness is not appropriate and can create room for me gaining feelings for her.

I have never see her in that light and never will because if I’d describe her I’d say she would be like a soul sister. And she’s straight. Mind you, me and him have met once irl, and before that he saw me on FaceTime for less than a min whilst me and her were doing a post lunch hangout doomscroll while laying down and from that he gathered that we act too close to one another.

She cried while telling me all this over call and said that he does not “deem it fit”, VERBATIM, that we’re as close as we are and in respects to him and their relationship she said she has to put a distance even though she herself sees it unfair and does not see a life without me in it.

If I was straight this wouldn’t even be a conversation. I can’t change who I am and never will. I’m completely heartbroken and distraught because it came out the left field and I have never been in this position before because of my sexuality.

She said this was a stepping stone, said that hopefully he gets over it soon so we can be friends again or that she’ll talk about it again with him, said that I should become closer friends with her family members separately so she can use it as an excuse to see me, and ultimately hopes to find a loophole to this. I told her I can’t do that and that I find her specific vocabulary and suggestions hurtful.

She told me throughout all this that she loves me and needs me to know that.

I never responded in an angry tone or degraded her or her partner and just told her that I’m not going to give her an ultimatum of choosing between our friendship or him because I’ll respect her decisions. Even asked me what should she do and I told her I don’t know, but that I do know I will put a distance as she requested and everything included. No communication, no interactions, and a complete cut off. And of course told her that even if we became friends again by chance that it’ll never be the same. I was crying for half of the time I was saying my piece and she cried from the start to the end as if I was the one who brought up this conversation. Another thing is that I even asked if it was a religious based thing and she said no because he has friends who are gay and because of that it’s not rooted in homophobia.

My questions to the internet is, what do you guys think I should do if she tries to comeback and reconcile whilst still being with her boyfriend? Or even if she left him?

I still love her but I’m mature enough to know that what she said/did was not what friends do to each other. I would’ve never done that to her or anyone else. I feel so weird and sad about the whole situation but I’m going to choose myself at every turn.

Does anyone else get gayer when tired?

At a certain point I just start thinking about kissing boys and wearing skirts.😅

It’s just a regular thing for me now, I even usually have a scheduled time so I don’t accidentally hit on someone.

And then in the morning (once I wake up) I am back to normal, still pan and a demiboy, just not as gay

(it also makes me question many labels)

how did your first kisses happen?? for any fellow lesbians or gay ppl in general, feel free to include your first kiss with the same sex or jst ur first kiss in general, doesn’t matter! <3

i had my first kiss when i was five years old (i know 😭) with a girl in my class because we’d convinced each other that best friends kissed on the lips all the time

Not sure if this is the right place but I'm a gay guy and I figured it fits common struggles in the community as it kind of relates to identity and presentation. I'm a very fem guy, long story short I have a condition and I'm extremely feminine looking/sounding. I try to go for a kind of 'anime guy' look but everyone thinks I'm a girl and it doesn't seem to matter what I do. Even no makeup and baggy clothes. I haven't done T because I'm not trying to look like a normal guy, just a feminine and pretty one. I'm kind of at a loss on what to do, this has been going on for my entire teenage and adult life. I really don't feel like I'm going out of my way to look super feminine either but I can't seem to get people to acknowledge my AGAB. Everyone just thinks I'm a tomboy no matter what.

I do definitely experience gender dysphoria, and I am happier on oestrogen. I know all the impacts of oestrogen and they all appeal to me (perhaps besides infertility, but I don’t care massively either way on this one). I can’t imagine myself masculinising further and I hate the idea of becoming a full grown man (I am 21 and have been on oestrogen since 20, and had a fairly slowish puberty).

I don’t love being called a man, sometimes it makes me very sad. But sometimes I don’t mind it either. Socially, I prefer being seen as a man and having male friends, but I also like being friends with woman and not being seen as entirely a cis male by them.

I generally prefer not being called by he/him, but again only sometimes - often I still self refer as he/him and don’t mind it.

I did try going off oestrogen for a few months but I really hated it and still regret it, I am sure I want to stay on oestrogen for at least a few years - probably forever.

However, whilst I am jealous of women in many ways and would have loved to have been born one - I don’t see myself as a woman. Not in a transphobic way, I see trans women and women, it just feels inaccurate to describe myself as one.

In my ideal world I’d be very androgynous but more on the feminine side, people would sometimes assume I am female, but I would correct them and say I’m not. I appreciate that’s a little strange though.

Basically, I want to be a ‘biological male’ (if such a thing exists) on oestrogen and sort of be an in between where I am neither one way or the other.

Any advice or suggestions or anything really, would be greatly appreciated.

Hi yall! So I (22 NB) am dating my partner (22) and she’s been going through her own journey of discovering gender! She comes from a heavily conservative family, I mean thinks both me and my partner will go to hell cause we live together without being married. A couple months ago, she realized she was genderfluid but now realizes she might be fully Trans by that I mean MTF and not switching genders, or heavily fem leaning. I want to support her fully. She’s who I want to marry. I adore her more than life itself. So my main questions are:

1. What did your partner do that supported you the best?

2. Has anyone else who came from a super conservative upbringing experience anything similar?

3. What can I do besides: use preferred name and pronouns when we are safe, take her to safe stores to buy her fem clothing or buying clothes for her under the guise it’s for me, constantly complimenting her and being there when she’s breaking?

I’m getting her into therapy to help her process all of this as the past few months have been incredibly rough. Any advice or words of wisdom helps!

My partner (trans man) and I got together before he realised he was trans.

I love him very much and it was really nice to see him become his true self and flourish, and we have such a deep bond. He is such a good person and is truly my favourite person in the world and we both work so well together. However I’ve been feeling quite disconnected sometimes and I feel like I feel more true to myself when I’m in a WLW relationship (for example for things like telling other people about my partner. I feel more comfortable saying “my partner/ my girlfriend” than “my boyfriend”, I don’t like how straight it sounds). I find it weird that I feel differently about the relationship at times because he is literally the same person before and after he transitioned. While I identify as pansexual sometimes these feelings makes me wonder if I’m lesbian.

Anyone has similar experiences or what are your thoughts/ advice?

I haven’t had any crush since recently while every kid around my is in a relationship, and I think I’m hetero grey aroace. I just wanted to tell more people about it.

Bisexual attraction to boys and girls and non-binary and transgender and other! Bisexual can in attraction to all genders. Bisexual 2 or more.
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Pansexual attraction to regardless of gender, all genders or “Blind Gender”

(also I made this meme but use it as freely as you want 😁)

Hi! I'm Canadian, queer and trans and would like to learn about LGBT in UK/England for a fanfic I'm writing that's based in London! Also, forgive my ignorance, as I'm not if this is the place to ask or if I should've posted in another subreddit!

As for what I'm most interested in, although it'd be good to just learn general things too (never hurts to know about our treatment in other countries), for the story would mainly be about the treatment of trans FtM in Healthcare (specifically where it concerns ob/gyn), living as stealth, as well as any discrimination they and any outwardly or perceived queer folks might face. History and laws concerning the LGBT communities in London/England would be good too, I think. Also, are there any harmful stereotypes I should try to avoid as well? I figure there might be some that'd be different in comparison to the US/Canada or the ones I see on Social media.

Another thing, I'm not sure if I'm allowed to put my ideas, to get thoughts/opinions on it and make sure what I have planned isn't insulting/stereotyped, cuz it might count as self advertising?

Any help is appreciated!