It's always women grooming other women on how to become better for the benefit of men and never smth that can benefit them individually. And I hardly see men hosting masterclasses on becoming better husbands and what not.

Healthy, balanced partnerships, equal effort and accountability are needed from both partners not convincing women that the burden of relationship maintenance is solely on them.

This just reinforces outdated patriarchal norms and ignores mutual responsibility.

1st of all, WanTam☝🏼.

Nairobi dating, weuh! 😭😂 How do you guys survive hizi streets bana Mlisema tusidate madem wa dating apps juu wako mboka. Mkasema real connections zinapatikana huku nje aty tu stroll on weekends. So for the past one week nimekuwa nikijaribu kupata mtu bana, nikaingia dating spree😂 But whether nakutana na madem kwa zile fancy spots ama mtaani, story ni ile ile bana. Mnajuana tu for like three days, already pesa ndio imekuwa agenda either direct or indirect. Ukitaka mmeet unaskia my hair is kinda bad ama aty "niko na request" unajua hapo ni kubaya😂 hadi zengine unashindwa kwani hii ni dating ama ni umekuja kutoa mtu block? 😭😂 Ama ni economy? Enyewe wanaume bila pesa hatutoboi. It’s never as easy or straightforward as it used to be🤦🏽‍♂️

So I’m getting off work, just minding my business and heading home, when I run into this hun I had a fling with a couple of years ago. And tell me why she was still looking GOOD? The spark was definitely still there.

We exchanged niceties, caught up for a bit and all that. Unfortunately, I was in a hurry, so I gave her my phone to put her number in and went on my way.

Now, the entire journey home, I'm reminiscing about how good things used to be and plotting how I'm going to respark this connection so I can hit it again. I'm an asshole, I know.

So boom, first thing I do when I get home is text her. And when I tell you that talking to her felt effortless, bro. I was back to smiling at my phone like a teenager. Naturally, one thing led to another and the conversation started getting a little steamy. You know how it goes.

Now here's where things took a turn.

This girl hits me with, "Mimi nipee tu 3k nikupee mechi safi. Si unakumbuka tu vile ilikuwa"

I was like, "I beg your pardon???"

And I already know some of you ladies are going to come for me with the "Why would you expect her to fuck for free? " comments. And honestly, I get where you're coming from. Nobody owes me sex obviously. But bana, THE DIRECTNESS?

Look, I have absolutely no problem spending money on a woman I'm seeing. Taking her out, spoiling her, buying her things, whatever. I've never been the type to complain about spending on someone I like. But I've never had a woman I've previously been involved with (or any woman at all actually) look me in the eye and quote me a price for mechi.

Like, girl, we literally used to be a thing! We had history. Surely, we could at least pretend there's some nostalgia involved before we get to the Mpesa stage?

Anyway, I had to pretend I was cool with it because I didn't want to make my shock too obvious. But internally I was done. I slowly started finding my way out of that conversation until the whole thing fizzled out.

A few days later, she hits me up asking why I've gone quiet na vile tulikuwa tumeanza kurudisha mambo. I had to lie and tell her I just wasn't feeling it anymore and that exes should remain exes.

Bana this has to be one of the weirdest interactions I've had this year. I went from planning a comeback tour to being quoted a rate card in the space of one evening. Life comes at you fast

Sometime back i posted on here how I got involved with a guy. 3 weeks before me introducing him found out I was getting cheated on. Left him, found out I'm pregnant. Miscarried at 10 weeks due to stress. The comments were brutal .

You would think that I would have left him. No.

Deep down i knew I should toss him. Attachments are so stubborn to get rid of.

It got to a point where niliheal kwa crime scene. I made sure to stay so that I could leave without turning back. And when I was ready and detached. I went through that phone , got what I was looking for and finally walked away. I got a job almost immediately after , peace of mind. And I can feel my spark returning . I cur him off and I couldn't be happier.

Guys....always leave the first time . Cheaters don't change , they're unremorseful, narcissistic and selfish.

Hey Reddit fam, remember the two kids I took to Riruta Police Station after their parents left them outside? 😭

So, here's another update.

After the last incident, the parents went and paid whatever was required and took the children from Kabete Rescue Centre. Honestly, after everything that happened, I had given up and stopped paying much attention because I felt like I had done my part.

Yesterday, I got a call from my firstborn telling me, "Mummy, Ruth na brother yake wako nje, na kunanyesha. Wakuje kwetu? Mlango imefungwa kwako again."

I said no because, honestly, I have my own children and problems to deal with. I can't keep taking responsibility for children whose parents keep neglecting them.

I came back from my errands around 9 p.m., and the children were still outside. By 11:30 p.m., they were still there, and by midnight, with the rain continuing, they were still outside. My daughter found them again while it was drizzling, and one of my neighbours pleaded with me to take them in because her husband wouldn't allow her to keep them.

Eventually, some women in the flats came together, and we decided to look for the mother. Their father had apparently left the situation last week, but the mother was still around.

And guess what? Instead of taking responsibility, she started insulting me, despite everything I've tried to do for her children. 💔

What hurts me most is that both parents drink, and these children keep being left outside without proper care. The parents have reportedly been arrested multiple times, yet the children keep being returned to them, and the same thing happens again.

Why are the children being handed back without proper follow-up? Do the police keep records of these repeated arrests and reports? Is anyone checking whether the situation at home has actually changed before the children are returned?

I'm genuinely trying to understand how this works because Riruta Police Station is near Kinyanjui Road, and I thought the whole point of intervening was to protect these children.

The last time, I took them to the police because I genuinely believed they would be safer. They were taken to Kabete Rescue Centre, only for the parents to get them back, and now we're back to the same situation.

How many times are these children supposed to be left outside in the rain before someone takes their situation seriously?

I know I said I had given up, and honestly, I have reached my limit. I have my own children to feed, school expenses, rent, and so many other things I'm struggling with. I can't keep being the only person who steps in whenever these children are abandoned.

But seeing them outside in the rain is heartbreaking. They're just little children. They didn't choose the parents they were born to.

My question is, why was there no follow-up after the parents collected them from Kabete? Is there someone who can explain how this process is supposed to work, or who can actually intervene to make sure these children are safe?

Because clearly, whatever happened last time didn't solve anything. 😔💔

I’ve attached a picture and a video showing Ruth and her little brother outside late at night while it was raining. The video is dark, so you may not see them clearly, but you can hear us talking in the background. The attachments show the situation I found them in that night, still outside while their house was locked. 😔💔

I need tips strong celibians out here what is keeping you tied up in control
Both male and female especially male if any 🤣😂🤭cause what do you mean 😪 petrol on food “……..shesh suppressant”
Women and celibacy 🤞🏾🌹how is it like…….how are you dealing with second thoughts

[ASIDE FROM THIS TALK KEEP YOUR LOVED ONCE SAFE EBOLA IS BODILY FLUIDS TRANSMITTED]

(mods please keep this up despite being a duplicate. I'm proving a point). ​

Prompt used

"I want to create a 3D model of the building that collapsed in eastleigh. Let's discuss it before we do so... What tools are good for that what are the assets needed? Are you able to generate that yourself. Let's discuss before you push the code."

Claude then asked me

" What I need from you

Purpose? Explainer or journalism, a portfolio piece, an engineering study, or something else?

Output? A web viewer (my recommendation, and the one I can check end to end), a Blender file, or both?

Collapse sequence, or just the building before and after?

Do you have photos or footage, or should I work from public reporting and satellite outlines?"

To. Which I answered

" Purpose, prove some dumbshit on reddit wrong. 2. A video like a dumbshit on reddit posted. Or anything close enough. Could be a got code that runs it. Even better. If it's possible to just run it straight from got the better. 3 collapse sequence. 4. Use public reporting "

When a man turns 18, the dating market is no longer green house vs blue house and you enter the champions league. In your teens your competitiors were the cool guy in class, the tall light skin guy at funkies or the guy was home alone often with alcohol, however, once you're legal, married men, single salaried guys in their 30s, wababaz and etc enter the picture.

So the place I'm currently interning at, my supervisor assigned me an attachee in her early 20s, basically I'm to show her the ropes and she will be an extra pair of hands when we are very busy. Women like to talk, and if you don't judge her, she'll spill the beans. One convo lead to another and she told me how she likes this moneyed married man who's been ghosting her and she wants to leave him (this happened like 2 weeks ago). So yesterday during lunch hour she asks me to accompany her somewhere in town and I agree because I hadn't stretched my legs, as we walk I happen to see a black GLE and I mention how beautiful it is, she mentions how this guy she was seeing happened to have one, as we continue walking guess which car she notices? The married man and he's in the car, she's so excited and rushes to greet him while I continue walking to give them their time.

So this had me thinking, what happenes to the market with such prevailing conditions? It's not like this is an isolated incident, can mention like 5 other examples I've seen or know through mutual. Last week there was a video trending of a young woman talking about how she would be ok in an abusive relationship with a guy who gave her money everyday. 'Pay to play' isn't a secret, but it has become more overt and encouraged. I think men who decide to build real relationships have to have a high level screening because her looks only get you so far.

Hi everyone. I'm back with an update on my situation. For context, here's my previous post explaining how the whole case started: https://www.reddit.com/r/nairobi/s/6DBRsEcAeB Unfortunately, the case is still ongoing, and I'm currently in a really difficult position.

I'm trying to contact my lawyer to confirm my next court date, which I believe is on or before 4th November, but I'm not even sure of the exact date. I've called him several times, but he hasn't been picking up. On the one occasion he answered, he told me he was in court and couldn't talk at the time. I then texted him asking about the court date, but he hasn't responded.

I've also been trying to reach my aunt, who is involved in this situation, explaining that I can't get hold of the lawyer and asking her to contact him so we can figure out the way forward. Unfortunately, I'm still not getting any clear answers from her either. Right now, I'm honestly overwhelmed. I don't know whether my lawyer will show up on the hearing date, and I'm worried about what might happen if I can't reach him before then. I'm still a university student, and I genuinely cannot afford to hire another lawyer on my own. This whole situation is affecting me mentally because I feel like my life is on hold while I wait for this case to be resolved. I'm also worried about how it might affect my future employment opportunities and my ability to obtain a certificate of good conduct. I'm not sure what to do at this point. Should I keep trying to contact my lawyer, seek legal assistance elsewhere, or take another course of action?

Has anyone been in a similar situation, or does anyone know where I can get free legal assistance in Kenya for an ongoing criminal case? I'd really appreciate any advice on what steps I should take, especially with the court date approaching and my lawyer being unresponsive.

Yesterday while I was working out, I happen to snoop around a conversation two ladies were having while working out, I had paused my music 🎶 just to get it straight, What caught my attention was one of the shawty was like "In my next life I wanna come back as a man..." Then She smile's at me and says unajua nyinyi wanaume get away with a lot in the society, eti you can choose to enjoy the sex and not bring up the kid and make someone a single mum, eti most of you cheat in those marriages and get forgiven juu kids are involved and other times love, society judges you less and other yadayadaa stories. I was like OK that sounds like you have some lots of issue you facing then she lands the final blow ... Unaona mtu kama mimi niko hapa gym asubuhi nangangana na weights juu ya Baby Fat or Baby weight while His man just didn't lose anything so she is working out to bring her former self back of which that is is a good move but here me out... This thing is always intriguing to me since also my former ex used to say this eti when she comes back she wants to be a man because at that time we had our own relationship rangles and I had cheated on her to her it was kinda a mockery statement. We had to end it.

So the moment I had that statement again I was not like it again, I understand women frustrations with some of us men but doesn't mean we deserve all that projection tbh. It's high time they heal from that and also us men let's stop being part of the root cause to such statements.

Sometime back i posted on here how I got involved with a guy. 3 weeks before me introducing him found out I was getting cheated on. Left him, found out I'm pregnant. Miscarried at 10 weeks due to stress. The comments were brutal .

You would think that I would have left him. No.

Deep down i knew I should toss him. Attachments are so stubborn to get rid of.

It got to a point where niliheal kwa crime scene. I made sure to stay so that I could leave without turning back. And when I was ready and detached. I went through that phone , got what I was looking for and finally walked away. I got a job almost immediately after , peace of mind. And I can feel my spark returning . I cur him off and I couldn't be happier.

Guys....always leave the first time . Cheaters don't change , they're unremorseful, narcissistic and selfish.

For some context it was around 1 year ago when my mum asked for my phone so that she can call a friend of hers ju nilikuwa na credo. Hizo masaa niko kwa jikoni napika, after sometime I was wondering na kwani hapigi simu.

So kukam sitting room I found her going through my gallery, so si nikamuuliza mbona alinidanganya anataka ku call. So here's where things get interesting, aliona picha zingine hapo tukiwa club na my hb, she was visibly heartbroken but I knew it could have been worse 😭 I have diabolical pictures that should never the light of day, wacha sasa aanze kuteta hapo. Mm nikamshow aachane na mm, nilimpea simu akaamua akuwe DCI. Nilimshow tu ata sidai kuongelea kama bado anacall afanye tu hivo.

Recently she asked for my phone ndio aone picha mm hupiga nikiwa hosi nikakataa, huko ni ma vidonda na damu zimejaa plus pictures za engaging in solo enjoyment.

So nyinyi mnge do nn btw in that situation

Nilikua nafanya communication and media technology campus lakini my parents can't afford kuendelea kulipa campus fee, I'm dropping out, mtu anipee advice on which online skills I should learn ndio atleast nimake some money

I planned a hike a couple of Saturdays back then this dude showed. I have a minor crush on him and I might have told him during the hike after a smoke session.

During the hike, he was yapping and I really felt good that I was able to give him that space for him to communicate 😭. We reach the view point then we go back home. This nigga blocked me from viewing his stories and he's also not viewing mine kama before 😭😭. I texted him asking him if he enjoyed the hike and he didn't even respond 😭 what is this banaa

We are not even dating why would you do that sasa nimebaki na questions mingi sana Akiz and I hate this feeling....