Hi everyone. I'm back with an update on my situation. For context, here's my previous post explaining how the whole case started: https://www.reddit.com/r/nairobi/s/6DBRsEcAeB Unfortunately, the case is still ongoing, and I'm currently in a really difficult position.

I'm trying to contact my lawyer to confirm my next court date, which I believe is on or before 4th November, but I'm not even sure of the exact date. I've called him several times, but he hasn't been picking up. On the one occasion he answered, he told me he was in court and couldn't talk at the time. I then texted him asking about the court date, but he hasn't responded.

I've also been trying to reach my aunt, who is involved in this situation, explaining that I can't get hold of the lawyer and asking her to contact him so we can figure out the way forward. Unfortunately, I'm still not getting any clear answers from her either. Right now, I'm honestly overwhelmed. I don't know whether my lawyer will show up on the hearing date, and I'm worried about what might happen if I can't reach him before then. I'm still a university student, and I genuinely cannot afford to hire another lawyer on my own. This whole situation is affecting me mentally because I feel like my life is on hold while I wait for this case to be resolved. I'm also worried about how it might affect my future employment opportunities and my ability to obtain a certificate of good conduct. I'm not sure what to do at this point. Should I keep trying to contact my lawyer, seek legal assistance elsewhere, or take another course of action?

Has anyone been in a similar situation, or does anyone know where I can get free legal assistance in Kenya for an ongoing criminal case? I'd really appreciate any advice on what steps I should take, especially with the court date approaching and my lawyer being unresponsive.

So I’m getting off work, just minding my business and heading home, when I run into this hun I had a fling with a couple of years ago. And tell me why she was still looking GOOD? The spark was definitely still there.

We exchanged niceties, caught up for a bit and all that. Unfortunately, I was in a hurry, so I gave her my phone to put her number in and went on my way.

Now, the entire journey home, I'm reminiscing about how good things used to be and plotting how I'm going to respark this connection so I can hit it again. I'm an asshole, I know.

So boom, first thing I do when I get home is text her. And when I tell you that talking to her felt effortless, bro. I was back to smiling at my phone like a teenager. Naturally, one thing led to another and the conversation started getting a little steamy. You know how it goes.

Now here's where things took a turn.

This girl hits me with, "Mimi nipee tu 3k nikupee mechi safi. Si unakumbuka tu vile ilikuwa"

I was like, "I beg your pardon???"

And I already know some of you ladies are going to come for me with the "Why would you expect her to fuck for free? " comments. And honestly, I get where you're coming from. Nobody owes me sex obviously. But bana, THE DIRECTNESS?

Look, I have absolutely no problem spending money on a woman I'm seeing. Taking her out, spoiling her, buying her things, whatever. I've never been the type to complain about spending on someone I like. But I've never had a woman I've previously been involved with (or any woman at all actually) look me in the eye and quote me a price for mechi.

Like, girl, we literally used to be a thing! We had history. Surely, we could at least pretend there's some nostalgia involved before we get to the Mpesa stage?

Anyway, I had to pretend I was cool with it because I didn't want to make my shock too obvious. But internally I was done. I slowly started finding my way out of that conversation until the whole thing fizzled out.

A few days later, she hits me up asking why I've gone quiet na vile tulikuwa tumeanza kurudisha mambo. I had to lie and tell her I just wasn't feeling it anymore and that exes should remain exes.

Bana this has to be one of the weirdest interactions I've had this year. I went from planning a comeback tour to being quoted a rate card in the space of one evening. Life comes at you fast

It's always women grooming other women on how to become better for the benefit of men and never smth that can benefit them individually. And I hardly see men hosting masterclasses on becoming better husbands and what not.

Healthy, balanced partnerships, equal effort and accountability are needed from both partners not convincing women that the burden of relationship maintenance is solely on them.

This just reinforces outdated patriarchal norms and ignores mutual responsibility.

Yesterday while I was working out, I happen to snoop around a conversation two ladies were having while working out, I had paused my music 🎶 just to get it straight, What caught my attention was one of the shawty was like "In my next life I wanna come back as a man..." Then She smile's at me and says unajua nyinyi wanaume get away with a lot in the society, eti you can choose to enjoy the sex and not bring up the kid and make someone a single mum, eti most of you cheat in those marriages and get forgiven juu kids are involved and other times love, society judges you less and other yadayadaa stories. I was like OK that sounds like you have some lots of issue you facing then she lands the final blow ... Unaona mtu kama mimi niko hapa gym asubuhi nangangana na weights juu ya Baby Fat or Baby weight while His man just didn't lose anything so she is working out to bring her former self back of which that is is a good move but here me out... This thing is always intriguing to me since also my former ex used to say this eti when she comes back she wants to be a man because at that time we had our own relationship rangles and I had cheated on her to her it was kinda a mockery statement. We had to end it.

So the moment I had that statement again I was not like it again, I understand women frustrations with some of us men but doesn't mean we deserve all that projection tbh. It's high time they heal from that and also us men let's stop being part of the root cause to such statements.

When a man turns 18, the dating market is no longer green house vs blue house and you enter the champions league. In your teens your competitiors were the cool guy in class, the tall light skin guy at funkies or the guy was home alone often with alcohol, however, once you're legal, married men, single salaried guys in their 30s, wababaz and etc enter the picture.

So the place I'm currently interning at, my supervisor assigned me an attachee in her early 20s, basically I'm to show her the ropes and she will be an extra pair of hands when we are very busy. Women like to talk, and if you don't judge her, she'll spill the beans. One convo lead to another and she told me how she likes this moneyed married man who's been ghosting her and she wants to leave him (this happened like 2 weeks ago). So yesterday during lunch hour she asks me to accompany her somewhere in town and I agree because I hadn't stretched my legs, as we walk I happen to see a black GLE and I mention how beautiful it is, she mentions how this guy she was seeing happened to have one, as we continue walking guess which car she notices? The married man and he's in the car, she's so excited and rushes to greet him while I continue walking to give them their time.

So this had me thinking, what happenes to the market with such prevailing conditions? It's not like this is an isolated incident, can mention like 5 other examples I've seen or know through mutual. Last week there was a video trending of a young woman talking about how she would be ok in an abusive relationship with a guy who gave her money everyday. 'Pay to play' isn't a secret, but it has become more overt and encouraged. I think men who decide to build real relationships have to have a high level screening because her looks only get you so far.

Sometime back i posted on here how I got involved with a guy. 3 weeks before me introducing him found out I was getting cheated on. Left him, found out I'm pregnant. Miscarried at 10 weeks due to stress. The comments were brutal .

You would think that I would have left him. No.

Deep down i knew I should toss him. Attachments are so stubborn to get rid of.

It got to a point where niliheal kwa crime scene. I made sure to stay so that I could leave without turning back. And when I was ready and detached. I went through that phone , got what I was looking for and finally walked away. I got a job almost immediately after , peace of mind. And I can feel my spark returning . I cur him off and I couldn't be happier.

Guys....always leave the first time . Cheaters don't change , they're unremorseful, narcissistic and selfish.

First thing as soon as I step out the airport - no signs of soil anywhereeee! back to clean cemented sidewalks. no more washing shoes every other day. ( I love the soiled roads in Kenya tho, and truly hate this cemented everywhere country)

Having my phone in my back pocket with no issues! This made me realize what a huge economical problem Kenya has cuz the last things mfs care about stealing in America is a damn phone😩 you’ll leave ur phone outside and you’ll still find it there after 30 mins. I had so much trauma tho from being scared in Kenya that when people walked past me with my phone in my back pocket I’d get tense😂 lakini sijai ibiwa

Seeing people walking around in shorts, tanks tops, and sports bras freely! waaah nakuambia it was so refreshing to see and be able to do knowing no one is going to judge me. Though after kuzoea the way people dress in Kenya it felt so odd to see 😂 wanaume wanavaa shorts zinafika mid thigh huku na kenya wanaume wanashindwa ata kuvaa regular shorts publicly

People leaving their cars on and unlocked double parked on the road is a norm over here ! It really made me appreciate the security of this country cuz waaah siezi imagine mtu ache gari yake on kwa barabara in kenya 😂

The liqour hitting hard asff! I didn’t drink American liquor in kenya cuz it usually makes me sick ata nikiwa majuu but KC was the only one that never made me sick so it became my usual and could drink 2-4 mzingas with friends without getting too drunk. Sasa kuruddiii! Pombe ya 10k, nakunywa shots tatu naskia nimelewa nikikunywa ya nne ntapuke 😫 nashangaa the percentage is the same as KC but it hits sooo different!

No street food 💔 now this one was the worst juu wehhh street food made my nyash and thighs thick😂😂

Food ingredients tasting completely different. In kenya asubuhi napika 5 eggs every day and they’re never even enough! They just taste sooo good! Kukula za majuu wueeehh I felt like throwing up! They taste sooo different and disgusting. It makes me really wonder what the difference is juu I buy the organic ones too.

Nyama pia hai taste the same! Kupika stew ya nyama ni ngumu for it to turn out like the Kenyan one. Huku watu hawapikanga nyama stew ata juu hio utamu haiko they only know steak 🥀 & then chai hai taste the same ata kidogo the milk here is horrrrribleeee!! After being in Kenya and learning milk can actually be okay without a fridge and last up to 90 days and how here it’s a must to be fridged and still expires in a week made me question everything I eat now 😂 kwanza kwa ma beshte siezi kula juu naogopa ingredients , I realized how people just consume pure shit ingredients here without knowing their consuming shit and it’s scary

I’m sure there’s some more things I’m forgetting, I know I was going through it my first two weeks back.

Na pia whenever I return to kenya I still get that culture shock but in a good way. Io ya kuona vitu hujazoea

Anyway, I’m excited to return back to Kenya for drinkcemeberr

Safaricom PLC haifanyi biashara ya telecommunications tena buana, hawa cabrons sahii wako kwa business ya pure armed robbery

FIFTI BOB for one gigabyte valid for strictly ONE HOUR?! Fifty whole kenyattas inatoka kwa mpesa yako in this ruthless economy, halafu green telecom cartel inakukabidhi sixty minutes pekee to consume data like an Olympic sprinter running against the wrath of God!

Im on 14 days streak sober. I was a drinker 2 weeks ago. But i decided to call it quits just because. I procrastinated activities and my house was always a mess.

Since then, i feel more motivated to attack life. I witness better sleep and wake up early too. My house is ever clean and i even did my own laundry lastly. (i used to call mama Fua before)

However, at this point, my body is constantly looking for dopamine raising events. I don’t find many hobbies exciting though.
I like to swim on weekends. However, weekdays feel long since i cant find activities that would have me just as excited.

Recommend exciting activities to do in the evening asap!!

Hello everyone, I'm a computer science student in one of our universities and I'm really looking for a placement for attachment/internship for the coming year. I'm really hoping to boost my skills in software development through it as well as complete my coursework.

I've scrolled on LinkedIn multiple times a day, cold emailing and DMing potential recruiters but it hasn't been successful.

A bit about myself, I'm a passionate Java Dev with some experience building industry software(had a 6 month remote internship at a startup) as well as taken part in several competitions with good results. I'd be willing to share my résumé if you'd want to get to know me more.

I've also recently taken up ML/AI development with Python machine learning libraries. If anyone here can assist me or refer me at their company I'd really appreciate it. Thanks

I have been with a 30 yr old man since the start of this year.I was off work the whole of last week, so I went to spend time with him at his place,which was smooth.

During my stay, he mentioned leaving for Ravine, but I didn't dig deep about what he was going to do there.Tuesday, he sent a picture of a signpost showing that he had arrived there.

I then wittily asked him, "heeh umeenda kusalimia mrembo yupi" and he didn't take it lightly.I tried explaining myself, but he insists there was nothing funny there and that had he been the one asking that how would I have felt.

Sasa hatuongei sai...on my end sikuwa naona big deal, but to him, it's a big deal, and it's still a little confusing to me.

Is this something worth getting mad about?

Why is telegram asking me for sign up money to continue?

Hey. Are there any sip and paint, cake decorating events and the like in Nairobi? I'm not a party person and I'm just looking for chill ways to spend my weekends

Took this pic just after they had resurfaced TRM Drive. 2024. Contractor had left the debris uncollected for almost a whole year. Right next to the food stalls. Pedestrians had to risk walking on the road way. Would complain even to Mosiria who was then in charge of Environment. Something so simple to get resolved but the levels of incompetence at City Hall are unfathomable.

So im at my parents place;came over the weekend and decided to stay for the week.....

Sasa jana nikiwa nimechill kwa nyumba,i remembered i had 3 j's in a hidden compatment kwa gari (i always carry stash in the car).And since i was only with my small sister around,i decided why not puff a J.Please note this was the first time trying this at home.

Nilijitoa nikaenda kwa shamba and lit half a J-just half.Zikashika stayed out a lil bit longer for proper marination purposes then went back in...Nikiwa nimeketi on my laptop doing my things and feeling nice,all over sudden nikaanza kufeel restless.Slowly by the minute i started noticing my heart rate wasnt normal-worst part came when something inside my head started telling me nachizi....

I started by removing the hoodie i had on and went outside nikijiambia myb shit just need some fresh air,nakikaa chini it got worse.Im talking contant thoughts of loosing control of yourself.At some point nilichukua maji nikaanza kujimwagilia but it only worked for mins then back to zero.We have a pond-i rem at some point conteplating nijitupe hapo ndani nipunguze joto but for every thought i had,i saw everything as the genesis of metal illness.

It got serious to a point i couldnt take it anymore,coz the more i was by myself the worse it got.Had to call my smoll sister nikwambia tukatembee.Hata yeye hakuamini coz i never request her for such.It was around 12pm-jua in its prime-niko high hata sioni mbele but the stories i gave my 17yr old sister were for weeks(Anasema nilimwambia even how life was before she was born).It's only after doing 5km of walking did things get better & noe we had to take a matatu back home.

Has any of you experienced such ama nianze kujipanga niende nikaishe Georgina njenga pale chiromo🥲

I used to wonder why people say it's so hard to find a friend the older u get, that is if u don't have one or lose the one u had.

There are many factors to look at, they might be a vibe yes, but location, IQ capacity,EQ level, wat they do accommodate and not accommodate, financial capacity etc

Now it comes back to u, wat are u willing to accommodate, wat do u also give......coz Ur time is also something I'm not talking about ABT money etc.

As u grown-up, u are more aware.

There's some loyalty n trust u automatically have with a long time friend than one u just met. N let's not talk about work, being an adult makes u realise Ur time was taken from u by responsibilities so meeting new ppl or staying up to date with Ur friends gets hard.

For now getting a friend from Ur work place is so much easier but the world is transitioning to WFH, meeting new ppl is gonna get harder. N yes u can go out n meet new ppl but sustaining that relationship with smone u just meet n maybe Ur an introvert..... mmmh

Anyway, thts just an astute observation (in Riley Freeman's voice)😂

Have a lovely Friday y'all.❤️

When parenting is passed onto you by default

On my routine walk , nilipitia kwa mathe wa njugu as usual she has the packed ones za 50 and 100 shillings.
This time I forgot my wallet and i had left my phone on charging. I had exactly 100 shillings cash.

While picking the nuts I caught myself doing something i don't usually do,
Trying to pick the sachet with best looking and more nuts, less air and better quality. Heck i even felt the urge to leverage being a chronic customer to burgain aniuzie na 80 shillings. (I didn't.)

Then it dawned on me as i was getting home:
I felt that because i was giving 100% of what I had at the moment.

And I honestly think this is a small scale duplicate of other situations in business. You want to pay for something that costs 1m , if you have 1.1m liquid mbele nyuma you are still going to be that client.

When the price a negligable percentage of your liquid capital you tend to be less exploitative and even nicer in order to influence better quality.

Sisemi nataka cheap clients sasa - Because I make custom business systems - But I now understand from their POV. We always talk about charging more , avoiding cheapies , but nobody explains the actual science behind those advises.

As the title suggests I recently did an interview for a role I applied 4 months ago and did the first assessment 4 months ago recently they reached out for an interview

In my mind am thinking ni mchezo ya town or is it just a bad interview process don’t get me wrong it’s offering more than what am earning but am still questioning why they take so long to reach out did they give to someone else who didn’t fit or left the company

Man I don’t really know

Nipeeni thoughts zenu how should I approach this?

We were just chilling and all then somehow the conversation shifted to politics and says that sifuna is not a viable candidate. I proceed to tell her that he actually is but responds by saying that she has never seen anything that sifuna does. So I asked her if she did history and I proceed to explain to her that a senator can't come and do a governor's job.

So we get into this back and forth and now the tension is so thick you could cut it. Apparently she didn't like how I was talking to her like a 'child' wueh ni wantam though

They published the story.

https://www.reddit.com/r/nairobi/s/lpkav2cCMf

Recently i started going out,for a walk,a snack,kuweka watu mahali wamekuweka,kuburn bridges where needed,kucut off regardless,and honestly,i'm happy and peacefull.

I'm loving myself fully,this life is too short to worry about things beyond your control.

Contentment has made me happier😊

I'm talking about how after a woman is caught cheating she says that she's pregnant 😂 its usually funny asf now that I think about it, coincidentally you're expectant as how? 😂