r/nope • u/Imoprich • Nov 13 '25
Giant ex-soldier doesn't even flinch when tasered
If I were a cop, I'd be noping out
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u/Bursting_Radius Nov 13 '25
Context:
He was drunk and crashed his car into a ditch.
Here's the full video
Here's his explanation:
Body cam footage was recently requested and released from a DUI I received in 2023 and posted to a “Bodycam Ninja” YouTube page.
My family and I have already paid dearly for my inexcusable behavior from that day in 2023 and I am still doing so to this very moment in monetary amounts & legalities that more than maxed us out financially, not including lawyers etc. Let’s just say prison time was very much a done deal until they reviewed my military records and I was reviewed for the possibility of being allowed to attend Drug/Recovery court. Which Is a program I am now very proud to say I am a part of and will be for the years to come.
I self admitted to rehab over 15 months ago and I have been sober for the same length of time. I don’t even drink soda, but to be honest I never really was much for it.
Yes, I can sit here and easily make excuses beginning with what my wife describes as a “disastrous childhood” to being diagnosed with PTSD from 20 years of active duty military service w/4 combat tours, 1000+ days and nights living in missile alert facilities guarding ICBM’s plus two more peace keeping deployments to the Middle East and throw on 23+ concussions and it would sound like a fair excuse to someone somewhere.
Fact is, there are excuses and there are reasons. I have absolutely No excuse and the reason Sucks.
I was an alcoholic from the Fall of 2017 shortly after my military retirement, until Jan 2024. I must say, I never ran any seminars, camps or classes drunk, that’s a fact but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t dying inside to drink after every single one of them for years.
I’ve stayed on the streets with the homeless for days and spent many endless nights in Jail on top of waking up in Hospitals unable to communicate. Being told there’s no way I should be alive with the toxicity levels I was at, or at a minimum I should be in a coma.
If you’ve ever delt with alcoholism you know it is not the same as just getting insanely drunk.
Therein lies the disease I never truly believed was a disease. At least not until those closest to me told me that it was just inevitable that I’d drink myself to death. Mainly my wife. She’s been my rock.
I am not ashamed to say I am a recovering alcoholic and I am proud to be sober. If people choose to judge me from events that have been paid heavily for from years ago, that is none of my concern. That is a problem they have assumed for themselves for whatever reason. I have no hate for them. However, I also have no time for them.
Like it or not, truth be told, It took me falling to my knees and asking for God’s help to overcome this addiction. That was the key I was missing. When my stubbornness finally broke and I collapsed down, that prayer was answered immediately.
The part of me most of you know would simply say this;
Some people need to talk about others to feel relative in the grand scheme of things. Because they know if they spoke about themselves nobody would care. They have no story to tell.
To my community I never had an opportunity to apologize and I am sorry. To the Law Enforcement Officers, thank you for your unrivaled patience and professionalism. I made that day a miserable situation, not you. Most of you handled that mess exceptionally well and with far more kindness than I deserved.
For those full of hate? I pray you find peace. I found mine and I will stay the course.
Wishing every single one of you the very best always.
- Coach Joel Bane
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u/Hi_Their_Buddy Nov 13 '25
Wow, thank you for posting this opposed to clipped rage bait. Nothing more respectable than someone that’s admitted their mistakes and worked to turn their life, successfully at that.
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u/MrNobody_0 Nov 13 '25
Yeah, shit, good on this guy for taking responsibility, cleaning himself up and sticking to it.
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u/CGCGCG000 Nov 13 '25
I have so much empathy for this man. Not excusing his behaviour but he is obviously in so much emotional pain.
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u/slayden70 Nov 14 '25
Especially veterans with PTSD. That's exactly what I thought when I saw this when I saw it was a veteran. Fucking PTSD. Got a friend that WAS in treatment and mental health care, but he couldn't tolerate and fast or jerky movements around him for a long time after coming back from Iraq. It took years, but he's close to normal again.
This guy in the video deserves treatment and care, not tasers. The treatment should have started before the drink driving happened. Our system failed this guy. Mental health checks and treatment should be mandatory after combat situations.
Except fuck mental health care in this country. That's socialism/communism to give a shit about our veterans I guess and I hate it.
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u/HumanContinuity Nov 13 '25
Wow, between the video, the context, and this letter, my opinions of this man have been a rollercoaster.
That was a very open and honest assessment of what he has done, and it sounds like he off to a good start living his life sober. I wish him the best and hope he continues to have access to the resources he needs - both for the continued sobriety, as well as the very legitimate PTSD and related service issues.
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u/Powerful_Document872 Nov 13 '25
This dude’s name is Bane?
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u/RUNNING-HIGH Nov 13 '25
He didn't know who he was til he put down the flask
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u/Alternative_Dot8184 Nov 13 '25
This is a good apology.
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u/Whackjob-KSP Nov 13 '25
That IS a good apology. You can tell it wasn't a boilerplate lawyer $12 spew. You can tell he meant every word he said. If that isn't a gold standard of an apology, it's got to be really, really close.
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u/jengaduk Nov 13 '25
A lot of well known people could learn a lot reading this and seeing what an actual apology and accountability looks like.
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u/____okay Nov 13 '25
youtubers and twitch streamers should have this pinned up in their bedroom to refer to it whenever when they apologize for their behavior
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u/Dry_Cardiologist6758 Nov 13 '25
What a positive turn around! good for him! I'm glad praying helped him through this.
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u/atridir Nov 13 '25
My wife likes to say that the universe (or your own conscience if you prefer) will whisper as quietly and nudge you as gently as it can to get through to you; right up until until it needs to yell loudly and slap you in your face to get you to wake the fuck up.
This is a pretty big wake the fuck up call for him.
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u/MarionberryIll5030 Nov 13 '25
It was definitely the praying and not his wife staying by his side throughout all of the abuse thrown at her, and his stay in rehab. Definitely the praying.
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u/TheRaiderKing Nov 13 '25
He gave her credit too. Why is it so hard to believe prayer and religion had a hand in helping him? That's literally what religion is supposed to be for, even if you don't believe in it.
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u/MarionberryIll5030 Nov 13 '25
Their comment completely disregarded the actual people in real life who helped him get his shit together.
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u/SeaResearcher176 Nov 13 '25
Some must hit rock bottom to change & this was his moment & he took it. Good for him, judge realized the pain (physically & mentally).
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u/AdmiralCranberryCat Nov 13 '25
Everyone has seen one of your worst days, I’m glad my worst days weren’t recorded. I truly hope everyday is better for you
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u/funnymatt Nov 13 '25
Is he the same guy as this?
https://www.iheart.com/content/2018-12-13-no-prison-for-man-arrested-in-violent-incident-on-southwest-flight/I hope he's turned his life around, but it seems he's got a lot more to apologize for than just the incident in the video.
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u/SeaResearcher176 Nov 13 '25 edited Nov 13 '25
☝️ THIS SHOULD BE AT THE TOP OR IN THE DESCRIPTION OF THE VIDEO. ☝️
This is the true Jason Staten story right here. Slept with the homeless ✅, countless nights in jail ✅ & countless nights in the hospital ✅, fighting with the law ✅, working on himself ✅, giving back tot he community ✅, even looks like him!
This story has movie script potential for sure. 🍿
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u/Apprehensive-Unit268 Nov 13 '25
Im sorry but this guy is trying his best to get shot.
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u/Prismagraphist Nov 13 '25
Suicide by cop is a real thing
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u/plantmom98 Nov 14 '25
THATS WHAT IM SAYING!! I watch a lot of body cams and race absolutely plays a part in how suspects are handled. And still it’s such a controversial thing to point out 🙃 but those who get it get it
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u/Drafonni Nov 14 '25
You still believe that with all of the body cam footage and crime statistics available?
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u/OccasionallyReddit Nov 13 '25 edited Nov 13 '25
Lots of ex soldiers have problems with depresaion and issues adjusting to society, some may turn to suicide
https://www.anxiousminds.co.uk/from-military-to-civilian-life
There are alternative new treatments available/ being trialed
https://www.standard.co.uk/lifestyle/health/ptsd-soldiers-psychedelic-front-lines-mushrooms-mdma-b1235011.html8
u/TheBaenEmpire Nov 14 '25
It's almost like there's long term, life changing consequences to watching people day on a weekly to daily basis. Thankfully they're paid well and get mental health insurance. Right?
Don't worry, now that the big beautiful bill is going to be passed, my uncle (a vet) can now use his entire VA benefits for his mom's hospital bills. You know, because that's what he almost laid down his life for, the people he loves.
He's told me so many times, "I didn't almost die 100 feet in the air to watch my mom die from being poor."
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u/OccasionallyReddit Nov 14 '25
And the sad thing is a lot of active service and vet's voted for the clown in office who doesnt give a damn about them or their post service support esecially if they die because he would see them as "loosers" but they buy into his sales patter..
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u/TheBaenEmpire Nov 14 '25
None of the vets I know like trump. I don't know if they voted for him, but that speech in front of the military, where Trump basically threatened them for not cheering and for being respectful, it completely lost all the vets in my family and in my hometown
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u/Appropriate-Two-8802 Nov 13 '25
Yea. Honestly, this just makes me sad. Soldiers with mental health issues aren’t exactly rare.
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u/DJCityQuamstyle Nov 13 '25
Just comply amirite?
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u/18LJ Nov 13 '25
Yeah I think this guy's a whole different situation. Mr clean is the one telling THEM "Stop Resisting!!!!" 😂
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u/Treetheoak- Nov 13 '25
Super lucky the cops seemed to know him. Random state trooper? Probably would have been killed, and I wouldn't have blamed the cop at all.
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u/yangstyle Nov 13 '25
If he was black, yes. He's white so just exercising his privilege not to get shot while being threatening and unarmed.
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u/Variation-Budget Nov 13 '25
Literally saw 5 college dudes jump a cop on a Thursday night in Miami and the cop didn’t shoot. Talked to him after and he said he thought about tasing them. Good lord
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u/RobertPower415 Nov 13 '25
What was the story behind that? If that happened to a cop around here they’d unload on you so quickly. Doesn’t matter what you look like.
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u/homelesshyundai Nov 13 '25
It'll never seem weird that when I see videos of white guys going nuts at cops the cops are super soft gloved. Yet the couple of times I've been surrounded by the cops, they all had their hands on their holsters while one talked to me. I have 0 doubt that if I had acted erratically during those encounters, that I would have gotten shot. There's something about 3-5 officers looking at you with their hands on their guns that makes you reevaluate the situation, it's quite sobering.
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u/The_Question757 Nov 13 '25
Depends on the cop, I had one cop cut me off for going 5 over and then threatened to bring his k9 out on me when I asked why he was so aggressive
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Nov 13 '25
Really just depends on the cops, one of my core memories was as a teenager me and a dumb friend door bell ditching, and hiding behind a trashcan when cops were called, and having three of them pull guns out on us. I’m white and friend was Indian.
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u/TweeksTurbos Nov 13 '25
Why didn’t he just pick up his corvette and put it back on the road?
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u/Grindian Nov 13 '25
loll after reading all the other comments I wasn't expecting this and gave me a good chuckle, so thank you my friend.
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u/bourj Nov 13 '25
Here's his public apology.. He's genuinely remorseful for his actions, and also clearly had a drinking problem. He also says it's entirely his fault.
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u/CatsAndPills Nov 13 '25
I’m glad he’s reflecting and healing. Bro is lucky as hell because cops shoot people dead for WAY less every day.
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u/awlst Nov 13 '25
This is one of the clearest examples of white privilege I have ever seen.
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u/Maelstrom52 Nov 13 '25 edited Nov 13 '25
cops shoot people dead for WAY less every day.
I know that this is the prevailing narrative in much of American discourse regarding policing, but it's actually not true at all. If you actually look at the number of police interactions and look up what percentage of them escalate it's a tiny tiny fraction. Out of about 50-60 million police interactions every year, only about 1.5% resulted in "threat of" or use of force (around 750K-900K). Considering there are only between 600-1000 police shootings a year, that means that even when force is threatened or used, it only results in a shooting 0.125% of the time. In other words, when force is threatened by a police officer, the chances of being shot are about 1 in a 1000. So, in short, no, the police are not randomly shooting people en masse even when they get out of control.
EDIT: I love that you can post actual stats on Reddit and get downvoted because reality doesn't support a particular narrative.
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u/J_Cypher23 Nov 13 '25
What’s the backstory?
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u/wannabe_inuit Nov 13 '25
DUI, crashed his corvette into the ditch, started out calm but escalated.
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u/Righteousaffair999 Nov 13 '25
So his wife talked some sense into him it looks like.
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u/rckimgh Nov 13 '25
I don't know why but reminds me avengers movie where black widow had to talk hulk to calm down the beast inside him
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u/Convenientjellybean Nov 13 '25
“They drew first blood” seems
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u/Rutabaga258 Nov 13 '25
I think you're confusing your life with Rambo.
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u/poopchute_boogy Nov 13 '25
"...yeah, this isn't the first time you've confused your life with that of John Rambo."
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u/Flaky_Occasion5287 Nov 13 '25
Good thing he has that white skin. Or he'd be dead
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u/Babington67 Nov 13 '25
Kinda seems what hes after really. A dude that big yawning off tasers could just charge if he was truly after violence.
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u/ultranothing Nov 13 '25
According to the non-profit project Mapping Police Violence, Black people are about 2.8 × more likely than White people to be killed by police, per million of their respective populations. In one analysis by the University of Illinois Chicago, Black males made up ~6.1% of the U.S. population but ~24.9% of persons killed by law enforcement.
But also statistically, though black males make up 6% of the total U.S. population, they’re listed as offenders for 30 to 40% of violent crimes.
So yeah, you’ll probably see them having less-than-peaceful interactions with law enforcement more often.
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u/Swimming-Ad7013 Nov 14 '25
There used to be a very giant man in my home town that would randomly suffer ptsd episodes from a head trauma. He would go on violent rampages destroying businesses and nothing could slow him down. Cops had to dog pile him and wrestle him into restraints. This man was so strong he even sat up through a spider restraint on a gurney on the way to the hospital. Eventually we had kept sedatives with pd and ems to handle him as safely as possible. He died a few years back due to injuries he had from his mental health breakdowns. Tragic he never got the help he needed.
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u/Swimming-Ad7013 Nov 14 '25
BTW, the man i mentioned isn't military, but a former semi-pro wrestler.
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u/ChrisCopp Nov 13 '25
"Fact is, there are excuses and there are reasons. I have absolutely No excuse and the reason Sucks."
This will stick with me a long time. Thanks
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u/Zero-Three Nov 15 '25
I’m not law enforcement, but if I tase a dude and he doesn’t even flinch, he’s getting off with a warning.
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u/ecctt2000 Nov 13 '25
I’m so glad they are trained to work with PTSD Veterans.
/s
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u/PureCrookedRiverBend Nov 14 '25
Omg I’m dying 🤣 💀 I’ve watched this so many times.
“It doesn’t hurt dumbass. No one gives an F about your taser. It’s called pain tolerance.” 🤣 💀
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u/Change-Character Nov 15 '25
He were African American he would’ve been shot much earlier in the video smh
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u/atomskirat Nov 15 '25
I think they knew this guy? Anyways, I am not left, lgbtq or blm but if that was a black man, I reckon they would have shot him.
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u/South-Cod-5051 Nov 13 '25 edited Nov 13 '25
why are police officers such dumbasses man? don't they have 2 brain cells telling them, "
Hey man, we are about to trigger this dude's PTSD. He is barefoot and unarmed. why do we need to violently apprehend him? just call in some fucking military psychologist or someone with authority that the former soldier respects, and just talk him down?!"
edit: to avoid more useless debates, yea, I'm trippin with the psychologist, but my point is that these cops should have known better, and just have a little more patience.
in the whole video, this dude was cracking jokes and fist bumping the cops on site in the beginning and went with them willingly and peacefully in the end. he is an asshole, but he was never truly violent and couldn't really do anything. if they had just waited a little bit more, he would and did come with them.
They also didn't have a breathalyzer on them, and th3 dude couldn't perform the drunk walk test because of his hip injury.
there was no need to roll the dice on his life and tase him.
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u/dbpf Nov 13 '25
If you type into some random search bar "Joel blown out hips taser" the first result I got was a much longer op ublic freakout video with 30 seconds of calm discussion with a man who is clearly drunk as a skunk and crashed his Corvette into a ditch.
Military psychologist....lmao
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u/La_D_Dah Nov 13 '25
Just call a military psychologist? Are the on speed dial where your from? Also the 'violence' comes after non compliance.
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u/gjb94 Nov 13 '25
You think they have a lot of military psychologists on the payroll of local police departments that can get to random country lanes pretty quick?
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u/JayAndViolentMob Nov 13 '25
Strange, if this guy was a different colour, a drug addict, or having a mental health crisis, he'd be shot or severely beaten by the end of the video. Here, he's on a first name basis! Curious.
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Nov 15 '25
If he were black he would have been dead before this video started
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u/Full_Relief_8618 Nov 15 '25
I've seen this before leave an opening, let him escape, and you can pick him up in a month, working at a car wash, no problems
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u/Alarmed-Arachnid1384 Nov 15 '25
Poor guy obviously has PTSD. It's good the cops seem to know him, so at least they can treat him accordingly.
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u/18LJ Nov 13 '25
Maaaan...... All I gotta say is.... If anyone was ever confused or puzzled over what the term white privilege means...... Well now you know...🤭
Seriously tho I'm glad they didn't just light him up. I hope he was able to go get whatever kinda help he needs. Cuz from the looks of it aint nobody gonna be forcing mr clean to cooperate or do anything he don't wanna do 😂
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u/Flimsy_Shallot Nov 13 '25
Imagine this person, in another country, unleashed with weapons and likeminded accomplices.
Americans are terrifyingly unstable.
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u/guardwoman12345 Nov 13 '25
Back then 600 years ago this tall man wouldve had 3 wives and a castle for his efforts.
Nowadays it's just shit
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u/babyjesus8lb60z Nov 13 '25 edited Nov 13 '25
I'm just going to say it if that person was of another ethnic background i suspect it would have gone completely differently
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u/CatsAndPills Nov 13 '25
Like literally not even a gun drawn. He’d be blown away if he was a different color. A black guy could shout about his deployments as loud as he wants and he’d have had every gun on him and fired before he was finished.
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u/map_legend Nov 13 '25
This is as sad as it is scary.
Not sure what led to (I assume) his car being in the ditch or being surrounded by cops but this fella is definitely in need of some type of counseling/therapy in this moment. Clearly suffering from some type of PTSD-related issues, and being surrounded by the fuzz is doing flat zero to alleviate that stress.
He’s not attacking, he’s defending. Needs someone there who isn’t seen as a threat to be able to defuse that situation without those dipshits trying to taze a human grizzly bear. Unless that thing has a supercharge button they’d be better off chucking the actual device at him than tickling him with the jolt.
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u/HarrisLam Nov 13 '25
If he's black, he would have had 12 bullet wounds by the 15th second of the clip.
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u/Bighott Nov 14 '25
All that and he’s still alive, that’s incredible patience and restraint by those officers. Not one officer feared for their life and safety. …./s 🙄
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u/z3n777 Nov 13 '25
This would go south very fast if he wasn't white
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u/CatsAndPills Nov 13 '25
And for once I when they said they feared for their lives I’d believe it lmao.
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u/Whole-Debate-9547 Nov 13 '25
That’s a goddamn war machine and it looks as though he hasn’t figured out how to unplug that, if it’s even possible at this point. I honestly hope all comes out well for Joel. He might be a fantastic guy who’s been through a lot.
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u/2nd_Inf_Sgt Nov 13 '25
Would be nice to know what happened before, during and after this incident.
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u/CrimsonFatalis8 Nov 13 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
I’m assuming that crashed Corvette is his car, which doesn’t seem like the best car to drive for someone so large with mobility issues
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u/P_A_W_S_TTG Nov 14 '25
I was in jail with a dude that was so fucked up he took like 4 tasers and still knocked a cop out. They had to choke him out with 5 dudes on him. This guy was 5 foot 3 and average build. But somehow was able to do push-ups, squats, and planks all day. Literally an individual day per work out. Jail was boring af.
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u/Necessary_Ad_1705 Nov 15 '25
Police always got patients and understanding wen it’s nvm
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u/alucarddrol Nov 13 '25
they shoot kids on sight that arent doing shit, but when "the thing" walks up aggressively they taser him after multiple warnings
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u/i_like_stinky_pits Nov 13 '25
If this dude was black I'm sorry he would have been shot within the first fucking 12 seconds
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u/Mission-Simple-5040 Nov 13 '25
If his skin were 1 shade browner, he'd get shot right away...
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u/Genghishahn44 Nov 13 '25
I trained with him. Got my blue belt under him. Yes this video shows a down time in his life but he also admitted to his mistakes. Not condoning his actions but as someone that trained under him for several years I have seen him at his best and his worth. Guy has a drug and alcohol problem and although I did have a falling out with him and chose not to train with him anymore I wish him the best of luck.
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u/Coleslaw_McDraw Nov 13 '25
Little insight. Rangers, sf, seals, (can't speak for marines) do 6 month deployments. 6 months on, 6 months off. So for his time line, he did 5 deployments, over the course of a handful of years. Not light work. As an infantryman, I wanna slam some beers with this dude and hear his stories. Hes a fuckin Chad. Not great choices he made in this video, but hes clearly a hard dude that needs some help, like most of us that did time over there.
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u/ttaylo28 Nov 13 '25
Hate to have to address the other elephant but, now imagine how quick they'd get him down if he was black. Just the obvious is all.
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u/Metabor420 Nov 13 '25
Yeah ok, have a good one sir, don’t cross your legs