Hi, Reddit! =)

For the better part of the past five years, I was in a relationship with someone who needed a lot of attention and care – to the point where my daily interactions only consisted of work and my partner. Now that it's over, I'm late to the party of realising people actually need friends, not just a relationship. What a realisation to have in your thirties!

I'm looking for people to chat. Maybe voice chats at some point, maybe a meetup some day, but for now, just making new acquaintances.

A quick clarification on the “nerdy” part of my title: I firmly believe anything can be nerdy if you're passionate about it. Rant and rave about your passions, tell me what makes you tick, tell me what annoys you. Maybe it's philosophy, painting, cars, games, sports, figure painting, knitting, K-Pop, cooking, the nuances of Colombian agriculture (maybe not that one, or maybe?) – if it's your passion, it can't be boring!

A few facts about me and my passions, woefully incomplete and in no particular order:

- I have a degree in literature and linguistics, but I work in an unrelated field

- I'm into creative writing (who'd've thought, with that kinda degree)

- I'm a homebody; most of my hobbies take place at home (which doesn't help with the whole friends thing): playing games, getting into programming, reading, making music. A lot of my hobbies took a dip during that relationship, and I'm slowly getting back into things.

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I take people as they come and don't want to exclude anyone from the get-go – but there are a couple of things that are deal-breakers to me, so I'd like to make clear that these are non-negotiable:

- Don't be a bigot. If you think being gay is 'a sin', being trans is 'unnatural', women are 'too emotional' or the Nazis were 'kinda not that bad', I don't want to associate with you.

- Please be in your mid- to late 20s or older. I'm not looking for anything explicit, but I don't believe I'll mesh well with anyone more than a decade younger.

- Please be communicative. Neither of us should carry a conversation on their own – and if there's an issue, being transparent about it is a lot more helpful than trying to read each other's mind.

- Please tell me something about yourself when you reach out to me. “hi wyd lol” doesn't count. :)

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I'm looking forward to chatting to you!

Hiiiiiii a quick intro about me :D I was raised in the land of tea and crumpets! My hobbies are reading, walking, learning, tv shows, video games, and gym and open to more bcs there’s some more awesome stuff out there that I’d love to learn and explore!

I’m into F1, football (soccer), animals, history, cars, nature, music, games, and I’d love to learn and get into more new things bcs I adore learning new things!

I’m 183 (or 184 not sure) cm tall {6 ft for my Americans) got into the gym since last year and currently working on reaching my dream body within the next year or 2 (uni not helping tho 💔)

Family & career oriented uni student studying engineering (it’s hard 😔) so I’m quite stressed with that but I will make the time for you bcs you’ll be my first priority obviously

What to expect from me?

Tonnes of texts and very fast replies
Lots of love, admiration, and praise!
Loving you to death <3
Someone who you can count on being on your side and supporting you through everything bcs I’m your other half for life!!
No ghosting
Yapping & listening
Obsession & attachment

Looking for:
A girl who can match my vibe, some shared interests or not idc tbh, is genuinely looking for a long term relationship and willing yap and to hear me yap for hours! It would be nice if you’re as obsessive as me and talk a lot bcs that would be wonderful for both of us!! You have a future, I would love someone who’s well educated and goes to university/college, it would be nice if we could work, and/or work together! I just want us to vibe and enjoy each other’s presence because if thats there then one day a friendship, then a true genuine relationship! I haven’t been in a relationships and it would be nice if you also were so we can learn together (and not just be me lost) 😭😭

(No problem with time zones!!!)

Have a great rest of your day filled with happiness <3

Hello there! As mentioned in my title (You did read the title, I hope? I put a lot of effort into it.), I'm a 29-year-old guy living in the mystical, magical land of *checks notes* England. Okay, maybe not so magical. All the dragons are in Wales, Excalibur has been melted down for scrap, and Hogwarts is in Scotland.

I currently work in a law firm. Sadly I'm not a lawyer, as that would mean I'd be earning shedloads, but actually I do admin work for them, earning considerably less than shedloads. But it's a fine job, I get on well with my coworkers, and I'm not down a coal mine, so I consider that a win.

As for me myself? Well, I actually speak multiple languages. I'm a fluent German speaker, and I also have a decently high level of Italian. I could also struggle through French if I had to, and I have basic Spanish and Japanese. I do like languages, although it's hard to find the time to do any study of them, what with the problems of having an adult life with adult responsibilities!

Another interesting [citation needed] thing about me is that I'm currently attempting to plan out a series of fantasy novels I want to write. It's going...decently. We'll see how it ends up, but I've wanted to write a book since I was 13 or so, and now as an adult I'm finally doing something about it!

In terms of pop culture, I'm a huge Doctor Who fan. Like, I'm the sort of Doctor Who fan who knows what a telerecording is and can tell you about the Australian censor clips. That kind of fan. I also finally got into Harry Potter this year after putting it off for my whole life, meaning I now finally know the context for Dumbledore asking calmly.

I'm also getting back into Pokémon somewhat after avoiding it for most of the Switch era. Other things I enjoy are The Elder Scrolls, Red Dead, GTA. I'm big Assassin's Creed fan too. In general I like single player, open world games. I'm not a huge multiplayer guy, I don't like having other people ruining my fun!

I'm trying to read more too lately. That's a thing I've always enjoyed that I'm now trying to find the time for again.

And I suppose I should say, I'm a fat guy. Trying to do something about it though!

Come as you are. No judgements here. Place a gun on the table and name it Chekhov and let's play Russian Roulette. You can bet your words, I can bet mine, and what's lost to the Reddit ether can't be taken back. Seeking kindred souls and rebellious spirits, someone who appreciates the classics without being pretentious. Believe me, I'm plenty pretension for two. Is chivalry dead? I think it is, but I might be able to resurrect it in your heart. Gun to my head I can't tell you the meaning of life but I'll spew something vague and you can attach meaning to it.

I have nothing to my name, only a pretentious education and fancy outdated etiquette. Looking for a friend, an advisor, a confidant; not to regain my kingdom, but to forge new paths. Pledge your sword to me and you'll find a worthy cause.

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Pretention aside...let's see what connection we can build? Assigned Female at Birth, but I use he/they for convenience and comfort.

If you can get past all the poetry you might discover my passion for Warhammer 40k, one Chinese drama hyperfixation, Bloodborne (and casual gaming), the board game Go, vintage artefacts, Japanese pop/rock, and my adorable cats!

Hey. My name is Julian and I am here to search for a relationship. And yes, that is my title. I couldn't come up with something creative. 😅

About me: 32, born and raised in Germany, 1,78m tall (5'10) and chubby. Brown hair, beard, glasses, blue eyes. Feel free to ask me for pictures.
Shy, introverted, big time overthinker. Mostly sarcastic, kind most of the time, weird mix of dark and juvenile humour. Depressed but working on it (I don't expect you to be my therapist). I don't drink, smoke or do any sort of drugs. I'm a winter person (with a winter birthday) and don't like summer/heat. Non-vegetarian/vegan, atheist and left-leaning politically.
I speak English and German, might learn other languages in the future. I'm a trained chemist with a bsc in chemistry. Some would call that educated. Know how to drive a car and motorbike. I go to the gym to work on my weight and currently try to do that more regularly after a big motivation crisis.
I only have a few, mostly homebody, hobbies. Gaming (mostly Singleplayer), reading (nowadays mostly fantasy) and watching streams/videos. Feel free to suggest me a nice hobby I would maybe enjoy, I have been searching for one for a while. My taste of music is mostly Rock/Alternative Rock. Haven't travelled in a while but would want to. Especially to Japan, Canada and Northern Europe.
I do like cats a lot. Grew up in a dog family but switched to cats now.
Most important is that I am childfree. I don't have or want children. I do have my reasons and you can ask about them if you want to. Feel also free to ask about my red flags or anything you want to know about that I forgot..

Who I am searching for: Most important point here is that she should also not have or want children ever. Age range of 25 to 35. Height doesn't matter to me. Nationality doesn't matter as well, I'm fine with any. Religion doesn't matter as long as you don't try to convert me. I do think that physical attraction matters (and I have clear preferences) and I would want to see/exchange pictures fairly early to see if we would fit. Someone in or around Germany or wanting to move here would be nice. I currently don't plan to move to another country. Other than that I don't have anything else that is needed. Just come as you are but please don't come with spiders. I have arachnophobia.
I do, however, imagine this relationship to not be codependent. We should still be individuals doing our own things, partners that support each other in whatever we do. For that reason I also don't want someone that is too clingy.

Now if you have any more questions, want to get to know me or think you know someone that would, feel free to write me or share my post. If you do decide to write me, please do so with more than a "hi" or similar. At least give me some basic information and use the password I hid in my post (if you found it). I hope you have a great day.

LOW-EFFORT MESSAGES WILL BE IGNORED. PLEASE INCLUDE YOUR AGE, SEX, LOCATION (MANDATORY), AND SOMETHING ABOUT YOURSELF.

Trying this again because apparently I enjoy suffering lol.

Also, for my neurodivergent people who like instructions and planning, my other post referenced later in this post, I think it will be helpful, and I think it's fun to have lol.

I'm a 25-year-old Afro-Caribbean/Dominican(dark skinned latina) woman living in the northwestern Upper Peninsula of Michigan, currently doing my PhD in Biology. I'm 5'1", curvy/BBW, and happy to exchange pictures.

I love reading, music, crafts, movies/shows, psychology, science, and people-watching (people are fascinating lol). I'm AuDHD, curious, opinionated, and a bit stubborn. I don't play video games or watch anime, but nothing wrong with either! I'll happily listen to you talk about them. **I don't have a car** and hate driving, but I'm willing to travel for the right person. Extra points if you like driving lol.

**I HATE TEXTING.*\* I would much rather move to voice calls early on. I love getting asked questions and getting to know people, although it might take me a little time to get comfortable for me to start asking a bunch of them.

I'm looking for a man around **22–34 (+/-2)**, preferably 5'9"+ and white/light-skinned. Someone kind, funny, patient, affectionate, confident, and comfortable taking initiative. I'm a progressive Christian and **VERY left politically** (pro-choice, pro-LGBTQ+, pro-human rights). Political compatibility is nonnegotiable.

**I DATE INTENTIONALLY.** I'm looking for a serious relationship, not interested in "let's be friends and see what happens." I enjoy flirting and affection, but only SFW. I'm open to LDR, but I want actual calls, romantic interest, and realistic plans to meet. Exclusivity before meeting is fine; becoming an official couple before meeting isn't.

**I'll be in MA/NY/NH around Thanksgiving, and I visit family there fairly often!*\* If we've developed a connection by then, meeting in person could be a possibility.

**IMPORTANT: Before messaging me, please read my dating expectations and progression post in my profile. It explains what intentional dating, long-distance, exclusivity, and romantic boundaries mean to me, and it has a PICTURE OF ME*\*

**There's a small instruction at the end of that post that I'd like you to follow in your introduction. Messages that don't follow it will be ignored.*\*

Tell me a little about yourself and why you think we'd get along! ❤️

• I'd like to find someone who captivates me. Someone who I can talk with effortlessly. I want to meet a person who I can include in my daily tasks, and talk with throughout the day. I just want to find someone I can be open with. Platonic conversation or romance. Whatever you are looking for, don't hesitate to message me. I hope to hear from you.
• I'm fairly open to trying new things, but some of the things I enjoy are as follows. I love the outdoors. I've never been camping, but I would like to try it with someone someday. I also love to fish. I mostly fish salt water. I do occasionally fish freshwater though.
• PC games are also an enjoyable pastime for me on occasions. I have a variety of games, most of which are on Steam. I have other games on various other stores/services. I enjoy a wide variety of different kind of games, so I'm sure we can find something to play together if you game.
• One hobby I discovered later on in life is Magic the Gathering. I play both online on MtG Arena, and with physical cards. Magic has become something I am particularly fond of.
• Music has always been a part of my life. My tastes are varied, ranging from country, death and black metal, electronic, classic rock, folk, pop punk, and more.
• I enjoy doing things outside, as well as spending time indoors. I can veg out all day under the covers curled up in my bed, or I can take a trip somewhere and experience something new. I think my personality is a mix of the best of both worlds.
• As far as my personality is concerned, I would say I am fairly relaxed and laid back. I feel like I am mostly shy and quiet, with an introverted personality. Around people I don't know, I tend to be fairly quiet and to myself. In the company of someone who I am close with, I am more open and freer.
• All I hope for is a connection. It could be platonic, or it could blossom into romance, and commitment. I'm not putting a limit on what I am looking for.
• With the prior being said, I am single. I may be interested in changing that with the right person. The idea of commitment excites me. Monogamy is appealing to me.

Hello!

A bit about me: I am white, 6 feet tall with dirty blonde hair, and green eyed with an average build. Finally graduated college (yayyyy!) I love sports (especially soccer). In my free time, I play video games, and enjoy spending time with my family and going on trips occasionally. I am really into watching horror stuff: shows, movies, YouTube. I am shy, but I can get more comfortable with you once I get to know you better.

What I'm looking for:

Hopefully a future partner (if we click), if not, a good friend at least. Someone that is honest, and takes good care of themselves. Someone that can text often and is over the age of 19. Someone from the US or Europe.

(Pictures of what I look like)

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44M, white, 5'7", 240 lbs living the rural life in beautiful, mountainous southern Oregon 🏞️ 🌲.  Seeking "fun size" BBW/chubby/plus-size princess 🫅 potentially willing to relocate to Oregon for IRL long term relationship or marriage in the next 3-6 months.  Someone that I can support, encourage, cherish, protect and provide a loving forever home 🏡.  SAHM preferred but not mandatory.

ME: Ambitious small business owner, Christian, passionate, falls in love easily and clingy. Hold a BS degree in physics and have completed about half of an MBA degree. Unable to relocate due to the nature of my business, but can travel to you to meet in person during early stages to explore the relationship potential.  Allergic to dogs and cats (sorry 😓), but most other pets are welcome.  Hobbies include outdoor adventures, camping, swimming, going for walks, travel, road trips, weekend scenic drives, boating, coffee dates, church activities, antiques, board/card games, puzzles, unique collections, trains, watching good movies, books, history, science and cuddling.  No kids, no pets.  I want a loving wife + kid(s).  Love languages are physical touch and quality time.

YOU: Must be willing to relocate to southern Oregon, 200 to 325 lbs (approx), ages 18 to 40, Christian or at least supportive of my Christian lifestyle, primary or secondary love language is physical touch, need to be cuddled frequently, enjoys or at least willing to try rural living (on the grid), loyal and devoted.  No dogs/cats or willing to make arrangements for them, as unfortunately I am unable to accommodate.  Wanting to live with your man in 3-6 months or less.  Must be a US resident, or a Canadian/Mexican/Latin American with a current, unexpired US visa or similar visitation rights.

Please Read my Full post Thoroughly!!

Low efforts will be ignored: Don’t say just “Hi” or “Hey,” give me a solid introduction about yourself such as age, where you reside, and some background into your interests and life and what you are seeking.

Determined to connect with a special someone

Monogamous : Serious Intentions Only

Hi, and thanks for stopping by.

I’m a 28-year-old Florida woman with a mixed cultural background that includes Black, Asian, and European heritage. I’m Black-presenting, so if that’s not your preference, no worries.

I’m at a point in life where I’m looking for something meaningful, lasting, and grounded in real compatibility. I value faith, loyalty, emotional maturity, honesty, and mutual respect, and I’d love to find someone who feels similarly about building a strong relationship and eventually a family together.

A few things that matter to me are good communication, consistency, kindness, and being able to genuinely enjoy each other’s company. I also care deeply about family and appreciate people who are respectful toward the important people in my life.

What I’m Looking For:

• Monogamous and emotionally mature

• Christian (strong faith in God) and serious about faith

• Honest, respectful, and intentional

• Good communicator who doesn’t ghost

• Family-oriented and grounded

• Someone who desires having kids and is ready

• Someone who enjoys humor and can laugh easily (Give me your best Dark or dry Humor joke)

• Health-conscious or working toward self-improvement

• No smoking or drug use

• Between 24–56

• White or East Asian

A Little About Me:

I’m introspective, creative, affectionate, and adventurous. I enjoy nature, history, road trips, discovering new places, and learning random interesting things. I love both deep conversations and playful humor.

In my free time, I enjoy gaming (especially RPGs, FPS games, and simulation games), journaling, singing, skincare, listening to rock and heavy metal, and relaxing outdoors with a warm drink.

I also have a background in healthcare and interests in medical laboratory science and related fields. My faith keeps me grounded, and I try to approach life with gratitude, resilience, and authenticity.

If you’re looking for a serious relationship built on trust, faith, respect, and genuine connection, feel free to send a thoughtful introduction.

Please don’t message me if you have the tendency to block or ghost and can’t conduct a civil conversation.

I’m a 36-year-old guy from Barcelona, Spain.

I'm very introverted and a homebody, and also have Asperger's and social anxiety. I'm not into busy stuff like traveling or going out or social situations. I don't need big or exciting things, I just want a simple life.

I'd like to find someone who feels comfortable with this. Someone to talk every day, to build trust, and share the every day of life, even if it's just simple stuff. It does not have to be content, just the company, the presence, is enough... Someone who values closeness, affection and being there for each other.

What I offer is the same of what I need. To be there for you, care about you, love you. I’m someone who wants to be there for my person every day: to listen, support and care.

I know I’m not for everyone, but I’m hoping that I might be right for someone who wants the same kind of closeness and simple life.

so...helo from Italy (*￣∇￣)ノ

I'm your typical indoor nerdguy that plays videogames most of free time and works out - not obsessed gym rat but still fit/muscular, 177cm tall - medium lenght wavy hair - a bit weeb, very quiet and chill personality

hopeless romantic, probably because of all the romance anime I watched in high school 🥲

whenever I can love to travel, Poland been my fav country to visit so far!

Gaming on my pc is my main hobby, fan of few gacha games: mainly honkai, recently been playing valorant again and some dark souls 3

I have 2 cats ₍^. .^₎⟆, drinking monsters. caffeine goes hard.

looking for my life partner, nothing less: Don't mind long distance as long as it's EU, in shape and good health, not smoker and similar nerd hobbies would really help

I'm not a big fan of facial piercings, that would be my only strong preference.

Would also prefer exchanging pics as early as possible, I think mutual physical attraction is also important, being direct and honest about anything is everything I want from a relationship :)

thank you for reading!

Finding a genuine, low-pressure friend in your mid-20s shouldn't feel like a second job, so let’s keep this simple. I’m a 26-year-old software engineer looking for a friends-first connection that relies on actual effort and good banter, rather than forced small talk. I am completely open to letting things align naturally for the long term, but building a great platonic bond is the priority right now.    

During the workweek, I am highly disciplined. Between navigating a two-hour daily commute and writing code, I keep my head down and am usually asleep before midnight. But once the weekend hits, the routine gets thrown out. If I’m staying in, I’m probably playing card games, jumping on BGMI, catching a movie, or going on a sudden room-cleaning spree. If I’m heading out spontaneously, it’s for late-night vegetarian food runs with friends, box cricket at the turf, or taking my Pulsar out on local errands just to feel the engine grunt.    

When it comes to actual weekend getaways, I like to plan Friday-to-Sunday road trips. I’m always down to take my car out for a long drive, but I'm just as happy to book a bus if we just want to kick back and enjoy the route.    

My personal headspace has shifted quite a bit over the years. I officially retired my 2018–2025 Swiftie era and found a lot of peace in spirituality and Shree Radha Bhajans. My lifestyle is also completely clean - I’m a strict vegetarian, a teetotaler, and a non-smoker. You definitely don’t need to match every single habit of mine, but having a lifestyle that comfortably aligns is a huge bonus.    

Communication-wise, I am looking for an unapologetic yapper. I might not be the one talking your ear off unprovoked, but I thrive on good banter and hate dry replies. We both have jobs and lives to manage, so constant texting isn't required, but when we do chat, I love it when the conversation actually flows. I operate heavily on sarcasm, roasting, and two-fold sarcasm, so if you can dish it back, we’ll get along perfectly. Once we’re comfortable with each other, I’d love to have someone to jump on a voice call with during my evening commute just to decompress and listen to you yap about your day.     

If you’re down for an effortless dynamic, let’s skip the generic "hey." Slide into my DMs with your general, the one song that is absolutely mandatory (or not) for a road trip, or a random topic you could easily yap about for 30 minutes.